BOOK: It ends with us by Colleen Hoover


GOODREADS: Sometimes it is the one who loves you who hurts you the most.

Lily hasn’t always had it easy, but that’s never stopped her from working hard for the life she wants. So when she feels a spark with a gorgeous neurosurgeon named Ryle Kincaid, everything in Lily’s life suddenly seems almost too good to be true. As questions about her new relationship overwhelm her, so do thoughts of Atlas Corrigan — her first love and a link to the past she left behind. He was her kindred spirit, her protector. When Atlas suddenly reappears, everything Lily has built with Ryle is threatened.

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When you love a person, you believe them. You believe their promises, their lies and just about anything. You believe in the goodness of their hearts. You believe in their intentions and you believe and hope that they will change.

As the story progressed, I am in awe of lily’s character. As vulnerable as she is, it took a lot of strength to take control of her life, even if there was a child on the way.

  • I feel like everyone fakes who they really are, when deep down we’re all equal amounts of screwed up. Some of us are just better at hiding it than others.
  • NAKED TRUTHS
  • There is no such thing as bad people. We’re all just people who sometimes do bad things.
  • You’re already my favorite person but now you’re making it really unfair to all the other humans because no one will ever be able to catch up to you.
  •  I like you. Everything about you. Being inside you, being outside of you, being near you. I like it all.
  • All humans make mistakes. What determines a person’s character aren’t mistakes we make, it’s how we take those mistakes and turn them into lessons rather than excuses.
  • Life is a funny thing. We only get so many years to live it, so we have to do everything we can to make sure those years are full as they can be. We shouldn’t waster time on things that might happen someday or maybe even never.
  • Maybe love isn’t something that comes full circle. It just ebbs and flows, in and out, just like the people in our lives.
  • Just because we didn’t end up on the same wave, doesn’t mean we aren’t still a part of the same ocean.
  • In the future, if by some miracle you ever find yourself in the position to fall in love again, fall in love with me.
  • Just because someone hurts you doesn’t mean you can simply stop loving them. It’s not the person’s actions that hurt the most. It’s the love. If there was no love attached to the action, the pain would be a little easier to bear.
  • She left someone she loved so that her daughters would never think that kind of relationship is okay.

My heart simply breaks for both Lily and Ryle. :/  How can you ever willingly give up someone you love and choose yourself? I think Domestic Violence happens to a lot of relationships, not just to women. But only a few brave souls can have the courage and strength to do what lily chose.

I think it makes it even harder if you love the person. It is never easy to just leave and end things. Coho taught me that right choice will always be the hardest ones. I hope I never get the chance to ever be in the same position.

PONDER: All of us


We all have shit days every now and then. All of us. No matter how perfect we aspire to be, and no matter how many tings we promised ourselves we would do, sometimes all the things we wanted to achieve just can’t happen in one day and that is perfectly okay. – momentary happiness

 

PONDER: Be your own Hero


These are not my words. It’s something I want to share and keep here so I can read it whenever I need to be reminded.

Don’t stop being who you want to be – who you’re willing to become – just because people have a painting of who you’re mapped out to be. Focus on yourself. Challenge yourself. Become the person you know you can become. Don’t let anyone make decisions for how you’re going to be or where you’ll end up. It’s not their story you’re writing. It’s yours. Let change be your own. Let who you are be a cause for the kind of change you want in your life. You have the ability to make your own choices and the capability to lead your own life.

Be your own change. Be your own savior. And most of all, Be your own Hero.

  • -Braverhope

MOVIE: Netflix Movies


Recently, I joined the bandwagon in maximizing Netflix membership by first …. watching several Netflix originals. I’m not going to bore you with details or spoil it for you (though most them I’m sure you’ve watched already).

To all the boys I’ve loved before

4/5 since the lead star is an asian girl (credits to crazy rich asians for letting me notice this one detail). & Hell—ooo Noah! ❤

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The kissing booth

3/5 Story is a bit too simple and predictable. It’s supposed to be a 2/5 but then again, throw in some cute boy and an additional star appears. 😀 Haha. I’ve said this time and again — I want a guy bestfriend too!

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#Realityhigh

3/5 Sure, it tackles how teenage or high school life sucks for nerdy and geeky kids which, I think should be taken seriously. People or kids should be aware that their actions have certain consequences. Bullying has a negative side effect to the victim that one can carry until one is an adult. It damages your self esteem, ego, self confidence and self value.

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Sierra Burgess is a loser

4/5 Noah Centineo ladies & gentlemen!! ❤ But this deserves a 4/5 since the lead is all brains — and poetry-intelligence is on a different level of intelligence. ❤

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When we first met

3/5 What a twissttt! This tells me that we should not focus on what we want so much. Because sometimes, there’s something really better God has planned for you. Simple. Let it be. ❤

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Set it up

4/5 Love the story line and did I mention Charlie’s Angel Lucy Liu is back? ❤ Love herrrrr. and the You are slob (all the negative things) but I still love you point is absolutely adorbs! ❤ ❤

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Irreplaceable you

2/5 This is just plain sad. 😦 I will not be in any universe be able to do what the girlfriend was trying to do here. and I don’t even want to think about it too.

Irreplaceable You

Bright

3/5 Intriguing and very futuristic! Though I wasn’t able to finish this one because I fell asleep. I wouldn’t mind finishing this tho.

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Like Father

3/5 Love the lead actress and the story line but the movie is a bit dragging. It’s a type of movie you wouldn’t watch over and over again.

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Alex Strangelove

3/5 The coming out story of a confused kid. They should make more of this. I like the generic story behind the movie but the movie itself, the scenes  was not that interesting.

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I’ll keep you posted for more. 🙂

BOOK: THE UPSIDE OF UNREQUITED LOVE by BECKY ALBERTALLI


Third book for 2018. ❤

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Goodreads: Seventeen-year-old Molly Peskin-Suso knows all about unrequited love—she’s lived through it twenty-six times. She crushes hard and crushes often, but always in secret. Because no matter how many times her twin sister, Cassie, tells her to woman up, Molly can’t stomach the idea of rejection. So she’s careful. Fat girls always have to be careful.

Then a cute new girl enters Cassie’s orbit, and for the first time ever, Molly’s cynical twin is a lovesick mess. Meanwhile, Molly’s totally not dying of loneliness—except for the part where she is. Luckily, Cassie’s new girlfriend comes with a cute hipster-boy sidekick. Will is funny and flirtatious and just might be perfect crush material. Maybe more than crush material. And if Molly can win him over, she’ll get her first kiss and she’ll get her twin back. 

There’s only one problem: Molly’s coworker Reid. He’s an awkward Tolkien superfan with a season pass to the Ren Faire, and there’s absolutely no way Molly could fall for him. Right?

  • This tiny thread connecting me to a total stranger, it’s the kind of thing that makes the universe feel smaller.
  • I wish I were the kind of person who knows how to fill a silence.
  • But that’s the thing I’m most afraid  of. Not mattering.. Existing in a world that doesn’t care who I am.
  • My heartbeat is probably making those giant zigzags.
  • Fun exists wherever you make it.
  • Sometimes that’s just what happens. People grow apart.
  • There’s something really badass about truly, honestly not caring about what people think about you.
  • We like who we like. Who cares if someone doesn’t get it? That’s a good thing. Less competition.
  • I don’t think my heart wants to stay in my chest.
  • I am entirely made of butterflies.
  • Change is fucking hard. It’s fucking tragic. Change can go fuck itself. Because that’s the thing about change. It’s so painfully normal. It’s the most basic of all tragedies.
  • But you know, there’s an upside there. Because when you spend so much time just intensely wanting something — and then you actually get it? It’s magic. It’s butterflies and haziness and heart eyes, but underneath all that .. there’s this bass line of I can’t believe this. I can’t believe this is me. I can’t quite articulate the sweetness of that feeling. It’s finding out the door you were banging on is finally unlocked. 

BOOK THOUGHTS: THE MAGIC OF THINKING BIG


Chapter 3: Build Confidence and Destroy Fear

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  • All confidence is developed. No one is born with confidence
  • Action cures fear. Indecision, postponement fertilize fear. Hesitation only enlarges & magnifies fear. Take action promptly. Be decisive
  • Don’t build mental monsters. When you remember situations of any kind, concentrate on the good part of the experience
  • To think confidently, act confidently
  • Managed motions can change emotions
  • Think: People are alike in so many ways than they are different. So if the other person is basically like me, there’s no point in being afraid of them.

HOW TO BUILD CONFIDENCE:

  1. Deposit only positive thoughts in your memory bank. Recall your little victories and accomplishments
  2. Withdraw only positive thoughts from your memory bank.

HOW TO CONQUER FEAR OF PEOPLE:

  1. Get a balanced view of the other fellow.
    • Every person is important. You are equally important as the people around you.
  2. Develop an understanding attitude
    • Try to empathize with the person. If someone lashes out on you and make a scene, try to understand the life he has.
    • Think: Underneath, he’s probably a nice person. Most folks are.

HOW TO MAKE EVERYTHING ABOUT YOU SAY ‘I’m confident’

  1. Be a front seater
  2. Make eye contact
  3. Walk 25% faster
  4. Speak Up
  5. Smile Big

 

Chapter 4: How to Think Big

  • Everyday there are more signs of expanding opportunity
  • How big we think determines the size of our accomplishments
  • Probably the biggest human weakness is self-deprecation – selling oneself short.
  • You’re bigger than you think. So fit your thinking to your true size. Never, never never sell yourself short
  • To think big, we must use words and phrases that produce big, positive images
  • Before complaining, ask yourself, ‘Is it really important?’
  • Think big and none of the little things can hold you back

Four ways to develop the big thinker’s vocabulary

  1. Use big, positive cheerful words and phrases to describe how you feel
  2. Use bright, cheerful, favorable words and phrases to describe other people
  3. Use positive language to encourage others. Compliment people personally at every opportunity
  4. Use positive words to outline plans to others

 

See what can be, not just what is.

  • Look at things not as they are, but as they can be. Visualization adds value to everything.
  • It isn’t what one has that’s important. Rather, it’s how much one is planning to get that counts
  • The price tag the world puts on us is just about identical to the one we put on ourselves.
  • Practice adding value to thinks. Look for ideas to make things worth more.
  • Practice adding value to people. Remember, to bring out the best in a person.
  • Practice adding value to yourself.

 

Chapter 5: How to think and dream creatively

  1. Believe it can be done. When you believer something can be done, your mind find ways to do it.
  2. Don’t let tradition paralyze your mind
  3. Ask yourself, ‘How can I do better?
  4. Ask yourself, ‘How can I do more?
  5. Practice asking and listening
  6. Stretch your mind & get stimulated

 

  • When you believe, your mind find ways to do
  • Man belongs where man wants to go
  • Make it a point to soak up all the good ideas that you can
  • Be an experimental person. Break up fixed routines. Expose yourself to new things.
  • Be progressive, not regressive
  • There is an endless room for improvement
  • It isn’t so much what you know when you start that matters. It’s what you learn and put to use after you open the door that counts the most
  • Capacity is a state of mind. How much we can do depends on how much we think we can do
  • Do what you do better and do more of what you do
  • There is no limit to what we can learn by asking and listening
  • Let yourself be exposed to ideas of other intelligent people
  • Your mind will create a way, if you let it

 

 

BOOK THOUGHTS: The beginning fo everything


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look, I love her. Loved her, whatever.
And if I can make things right between us – because I just really, completely miss her
and think she misses me, too – then I’m going over there and
knocking on her damned door.

THOUGHTS: GRAB PEOPLE’S ATTENTION IN MEETINGS


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1. Tell everyone what’s the meeting all about. 

You may dropped a hint when you scheduled the meeting, but remember that you pulled them out of their desks and work to be there. Most of them are in ‘What’s in it for me?’ mindset, so tell them why they are there and what purpose do they serve or what you are asking from them and what they can contribute.

2. Encourage Positivity

Always start the meeting with a positive note. When a meeting starts with whining, complaining and arguments, yo may as well be sure that you won’t be able to get things done, or whatever the purpose of the meeting was. You may start asking what their accomplishment are for their department, may it be big or small.

3. Share a Surprising Statistic or Quote

that’ll get their attention. The numbers may be sour such as, ‘We loss a market share of 60%’. Everyone in the room will now think of that number and instantly want to do something about it. What they wish to do about it, or what suggestion, or comment they have on a particular project or a strategy.

4. Tell a story

It will lighten the mood, it won’t be too serious and everyone wants a good story. But do make sure that the story relates to the goal of the meeting. It may instill a lesson or make people laugh.

LEARN: Customer Feedback


Customer Satisfaction refers to the extent to which customers are happy with the products and services provided by a business.

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And today, I received an email that immediately hooked my lips in an upward motion and kept it there for a while.

”Dear Janna, 

You are the most efficient staff we have ever spoken and encountered with BOC and we appreciate your assistance and identifying the urgency of our need.
You are an asset of BOC.
Again, we thank you.
We have done the transfer from Berner to Olazo BOC accnt.
Kind regards,
Edward and Tony

Sent from my iPad”

Customer feedback provides you with valuable insight into what your customers think about your product or service. This insight can help you create a product that customers want to buy and create an experience that exceeds expectations and keeps customers coming back for more.

BOOK THOUGHTS: TAKE RISKS – YOU CAN DO IT BY JOHN MASON


An excerpt from the book, ”You can do it. Even if others say you can’t” by John Mason.

If you want to be successful, you must either have a chance or take one. You can’t get your head above the water if you never stick your neck out. 

Risk

As David Viscot wrote, If your life is ever going to get better you’ll have to take risks. There is simply no way you can grow without taking chances.

If you don’t risk anything, you risk even more.

Learn to face the storm. 

BOOK THOUGHTS: BY THE RIVER PIEDRA I SAT DOWN AND WEPT


I have read this book when I was in third year high school and I wanted to include this in my blog. So here goes. This is an excerpt from what the boy said in a seminar.

You have to take risks. We will only understand the miracle of life fully when we allow the unexpected to happen. Every day, God gives us the sun — and also one moment in which we have the ability to change everything that makes us unhappy. Every day, we try to pretend that we havent perceived that moment, that it doesn’t exists – that today is the same day as yesterday and will be the same as tomorrow. But if people really pay attention to their everyday lives, they will discover that magic moment. It may arrive in the instant when we are doing something mundane, like putting our front door key in the lock, it may lie hidden in the quiet that follows the lunch hour or in the thousand and one things that all seem the same to us. But that moment exists   a moment when all the power of the stars becomes a part of us and enables us to perform miracles. 

Joy is sometimes a blessing, but it is often a conquest. Our magic moment helps us to change and sends us off in search of our dreams. Yes, we are going to suffer, we will have difficult times, and we will experience many disappointments – but all of it is transitory, it leaves no permanent mark. And one day, we will look back with pride and faith at the journey we have taken. 

Pitiful is the person who is afraid of taking risks. Perhaps this person will never be disappointed or disillusioned; perhaps she won’t suffer the way people do when they have a dream to follow. But when that person looks back  and at some point, every person looks back – she will never hear her heart saying ‘What have you done with the miracles god has planted i your days?”

Pitiful are the people who must realize this. Because when they are finally able to believe in miracles, their life’s magi moments will have already passed them by. 

BOOK THOUGHTS: SMILE – YOU CAN DO IT BY JOHN MASON


It was only a sunny smile,

But it scattered the night.

Though little it cost in giving,

It made the day worth living.

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An excerpt from the book, ”You can do it. Even if others say you can’t” by John Mason.

A sense of humor can help you overlook the unattractive, tolerate the unpleasant, cope with the unexpected, and smile through the unbearable. — Moshe Waldoks. A smile is a powerful weapon. It can break the ice in tough situations. It will help you keep a proper perspective in life.

Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.

THOUGHT: What’s the one advice you’ll tell your younger self?


So I asked 33 people of what they would have wanted to know when they were young. We all have regrets.
We all make mistakes. We all have that, ‘I should have done this, I should’ve done that.. ‘ And the list goes on.
So here it is:
1.  Listen to your parents or the elderly – Nicole
2. Study First, Landi Later and Play Safe – Pam
3. Value the importance of time – Panda 
4. Never grow up! – Baby
5. Go out, Have fun, See the world, Travel and Start building your future – Irma 
6. Travel more – Ivy 
7. Flirt while you’re young – Donna 
8. Enjoy life – Lei 
9. Study Hard! – Mark 
10. Stick up to what you like – Roumel
11. Focus on your dreams and no turning back – Rich 
12. Learn the value of money while you’re still young! Save! – Chris 
13. Do more of what makes you happy – Jeska
14. Express your love to your family and spend more time with them – Boy 
15. Save money as early as possible. Spend more time with your family – Jojo 
16. Take Risk, Be involved, Speak up and Be more present – Vincci
17. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, show up and never give up! – Pleia 
18. Never settle for mediocrity – Bianca 
19. Hope you did your best shot – Atria
20. Enjoy the ride – Edward 
21. Study Harder and Court you – JM
22. Study Harder and Enjoy College. – Yasmin 
23. Explore! Don’t stop until you find that one thing that excites you and makes you feel alive! Laugh at yourself and stumble! – Krismarie
24. Don’t be afraid and Go out of your comfort zone. – Mics 
25. You should go out and explore life. Don’t let fear, rejection, failure and future of the unknown eat you and stop you from making mistakes, being happy, living life and loving. – Katz
26. Learn all what you can. Carpe Diem. – Lauren 
27. Know your boundaries & Never setlle for anything else. – Mai 
28. Don’t let failure hold you back. – Hansel 
29. Take your studies seriously. – RJ 
30. Go out there and have fun. But don’t forget to save. – Mike 
31. Do something today that you will thank yourself later. – Lance 
32. Live life with no regrets – Benedict 
33. Growth is always outside your comfort zone and never within it. Go on adventures, be bolder, take risks. – Jean Kaye 

It’s nice to hear this from friends, colleagues and acquaintances. And as I? : Never be mediocre.

But hey, I don’t think one statement will ever fit all the things we learn in this roller coaster ride, eh?
We can always learn a thing or two from every person we meet.

My wish for you is in whatever stage you are in your life, whatever you are going through right now,
if you’re a high school student, a struggling new graduate, an unemployed 40 year old, a terror professor,
a heinous trader, a practicing lawyer or a retired fellow trying to make a sense in this world,
may you stumble and fall early and learn from it as soon as you can.

As for now, I’ll tuck myself to sleep and welcome tomorrow’s mistakes with open arms.

BOOK: More than her by Jay Mc Lean


The story of Logan and Amanda. It all started with one date that dragged on to a series of events. It’s a story of how one date, one night and one guy can make Amanda fall in love completely and leave behind his long time boyfriend Tyson. After leaving behind Tyson, with the purest of heart filled with hope and love for Logan, she was devastated upon not hearing from Logan the next day, or the next day, or the next week, or the next months.

Logan on their first date – Amanda didn’t want to go at first.

Logan:                   7 days to go.

Amanda:              Really, asshole? A count down?

Logan:                   6 days to go. I bet you can’t wait to see me.

Amanda:              I’m already regretting this.

Logan:                   5 days to go. OMG! What am I going to wear?

Amanda:              I thought I told you not to contact me for a week.

Logan:                   4 days to go. Seriously though, what do you want to do?

Amanda:              Not go on a date with you?

Logan:                   3 days to go. I’m getting pretty fucking excited to see you.

Amanda:              Shut up.

Logan:                   2 days to go. Just thought I’d remind you in case you had forgotten.

Amanda:              Who is this?

Logan:                   1 day to go. I’ll call you tomorrow.

Amanda:              I’ll be busy.

Logan and his way of saying the three words:

‘’I know that you’ve said those words before. I get that you’ve been in love with someone else, and that’s fine. But I haven’t. Not before you. I can’t give you much or anything at all. But when I say those words to you, it won’t be just words – it will be me giving you something that means something. And you deserve to know that, to feel that. SO please, let me be the first to say it – because I need to be able to at least give you that – and when I do – those three words will be yours, forever. And so will I’’.

You know what my favorite part of the day is? It’s those few seconds in the morning, when my mind wakes up but my body hasn’t, and I feel you in my arms. And I know that when I open my eyes, it’s you that I get to see.

Logan’s Dad:      She makes you happy, son?

Logan:                   No. She makes me whole.

Amanda:              You kiss my wrist – you do that a lot. Why?

Logan:                   I don’t know. It’s like my lips – on your pulse. I can feel your heart beating and know that you’re here. I guess sometimes I find it hard to believe that you’re real – and that you’re mine.

Logan:                   When she wasn’t around, I missed the shit out of her. When she was around, I didn’t want to leave her side, if you called me a pussy right now, I’d tell you it was valid.

Logan:                   It’s official. She has my balls and she’s not giving it them back. Ever.

THOUGHTS: It’s the attitude that makes the difference.


An excerpt from the book: Developing the leader in you by John Maxwell.

Arnold Palmer has won hundreds of trophies and awards for his great skills in golf. But the only trophy in his office is a battered cup that he got for his professional win at the Canadian Open in 1955. Beside it is the plaque that served him well throughout all those wins.

If you think you are beaten, you are.

If you think you dare not, you don’t.

If you’d like to win but think you can’t,

It’s almost certain you won’t.

Life’s battles don’t always go.

To the stronger or faster man,

But sooner or later, THE MAN WHO WINS

IS THE MAN WHO THINKS HE CAN.

We cannot continue to function in a manner that we do not truly believe about ourselves.