BOOK REVIEW: Dear Heart, I Hate you by J. Sterling


You could meet a thousand people and they’d all mean nothing to you. But then you’d meet that one and they suddenly meant everything.

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GOODREADS: I didn’t plan on him. Or for him. Or anything that had to do with Cal Donovan from Boston. Meeting him had been a complete and utter surprise, taking me one hundred percent off guard. I met new people every single day in my line of work and none of them affected me.

This is going to be brutally honest. – I absolutely did not like the book! There was no depth. I am definitely not a fan of Insta-love and I obviously do not believe in such. Maybe that’s why I hated this. If you’re looking for a growth in character then maybe this one is for you, how two workaholics who did not believe in love suddenly fell in love.

But no. I don’t get it. There’s no build up. No twists. No major setback. It was just an on-going and continuous LDR where the plot is fairly predictable. I did not fell in love with ANY of the characters. I did not feel the love or longing from both Cal and Jules.

Nothing. No emotion.

  • When did making yourself a priority become such a horrible thing?
  • Those lips. They’ll be my ruin.
  • It was heartbreaking when you recognize that moment when pieces of your reality turned into memories.
  • I’m not even all the way in and you already feel like home.
  • Her beauty rivaled her brain. She was a double threat.
  • Who we loved wasn’t always a choice. Sometimes it was an irresistible pull, a gravitational force, something we couldn’t see or control that drew us toward one another.

I’m utterly disappointed. I saw how one of my favorite authors, Coho praised this book. And that is exactly the reason why I gave this book a chance but my oh my… I was wrong.

BOOK REVIEW: Maybe Now by Colleen Hoover


GOODREADS: What is more important? Friendship, loyalty or love?
Colleen Hoover and Griffin Peterson collaborate once again to bring fans of Maybe Someday back into the musical world of Ridge and Sydney.
And Maggie.
And Warren and Bridgette.

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This should be read after Maybe Someday and Maybe Not. I loved love love Maybe Someday although I did not particularly like Maybe Not.

Now, this book Maybe Now did not resonate to me so much. Maybe because I expected more romance (just like Maybe Someday) and other might argue that this book is very cheesy. But in my opinion, the book focuses more on the importance of loyalty, kindness, understanding and friendships.

Although it lacked romance for me, I still applaud the character of Sydney. To be honest, I don’t think I will ever have the decency and maturity to allow my boyfriend take care of his ex girlfriend – in ANY scenario. I don’t care if it seems immature, but no – I won’t allow it.

But I do liked that I get to follow through the story of Ridge and Sydney and how they overcome their history of emotional cheating and communication barrier. And just like Warren and Bridgette, we also see them in this book, following Maybe Not and how their very sexual relationship progress to something more meaningful and ending up in marriage. ❤

This book is more focused on Maggie and her story revolving on her bucket list, her sickness and her new love interest – Jake. And by the way? I love Justice! What a witty, straight forward kid. Haha.

  • People need to put themselves first sometimes. If you aren’t living your best life for yourself, you can’t be your best self for those in your life.
  • Even if the rest of our lives were predictable, I’d never get tired of you. You make routine something I look forward too.
  • But sometimes the wrong thing is the right thing.
  • I forgot how stupefying attraction can be.
  • Sometimes caring about someone means saying things you don’t want to say, but that need to be said.
  • We shouldn’t revolve our lives around their possible endings. We should revolve our lives around the experiences that lead to the endings.
  • No one is the best version of themselves all the time.
  • The Brain and Heart Theory – how they are both detrimental to each other.
  • As a father, I’ve learned to take what I can get while I an get it, because none of the phases a child goes through last forever.
  • It’s the small things people do for others that define the largest parts of them.
  • PROPOSAL: just say WHEN. — When.
  • Our Maybe Someday just became our Absolutely Forever.

BOOK REVIEW: Unwritten Letters to You by T.B Laberge


GOODREADS: Unwritten Letters to You is a collection of writings ranging from heartbreak to longing for love. Within each page comes the words that are often so hard to speak, and with each chapter you will find that blood can be turned to ink.

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WOW. JUST WOW. Everything you may have been feeling? It’s in here. I am happily married but I can also easily relate to the words of a person who has been left behind, cheated on or in the personality of someone who is searching for a person to love.

  • I’m still looking for that smile, that wink, or maybe it’ll just be a sigh that will set my world on fire. Whatever it is, I’m still looking for it.
  • I fear that I will love someone that will always be the wind to my sails, pushing me on but never staying.
  • What if? What if my love and desire for you broke through the doubts that cling to me? What if I chose to love you even in the prospect of the unknown?
  • I wanted to be a forever, but I was only a moment.
  • You were alive before they came around, so don’t let them stop you from living again. Just because they didn’t want you doesn’t mean you are unwanted. Just because they didn’t want forever with you, doesn’t mean you don’t deserve a forever. Just because love wasn’t written for you both doesn’t mean your life is written with any less love.
  • You are more than the marks left on your soul, more than the tears of a broken heart, you are a soul that is eternal.
  • You must not reduce yourself to a puddle just because the person you like is afraid to swim and you are a fierce sea to them. Because there will be someone who was born with love of the waves within their blood, and they will look at you with fear and respect.
  • Love is saying I do, even when you feel like you don’t.
  • If you are happy, then I’m happy. If you’re sad, then I’m sad. Because it’s not about whether or not I fix you. It’s about me, being here and sharing the weight of these moments with you. I fight beside you, because that is love. It’s sharing the struggles, the joys and love we have. It’s about walking this life together and I want you there for as long as possible.

Damn, is he good with words! You can feel the passion, love, longing and sadness with every word he’s written. A must read!

EVERYDAY: Bridal Shower (Girl Squad)


On the day our Second Fitting, My Fiancee had me thinking we were going to pick up our wedding rings after having it resized. Coming from Pasig, we went all the way to Market, Market in BGC.

After which, the fiancee’s Aunt called that they need to be picked up for some dinner. We went to a condo, thinking we are going to pick up his relatives — and, Ta-duh! SURPRISE!

I’m not going to every single detail anymore. When I entered, there were food, decor and everyone who was there in the fitting, was in the party. ❤ much less, additional guests too!

We played a bunch of games.

Our Good Host Bianca prepared several games such as: Whoever finishes a Jumbo Hotdog lasts will moan aloud, the famous paper Wedding Gowns and fitting a condom in a cucumber using your mouth.

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And thank you to my friends who prepared a little some-some for me. ❤

I’m really glad we are all coming along together. ❤ Thank you so much!

 

BOOK REVIEW: Girl in Pieces by Kathleen Glasgow


GOODREADS: Charlotte Davis is in pieces. At seventeen she’s already lost more than most people lose in a lifetime. But she’s learned how to forget. The broken glass washes away the sorrow until there is nothing but calm. Every new scar hardens Charlie’s heart just a little more, yet it still hurts so much. It hurts enough to not care anymore, which is sometimes what has to happen before you can find your way back from the edge.

Honestly, it took me longer than I expected. It’s not a light read and to put it out there, this book and the story can be a trigger for those with history of self harm, depressed or any suicidal thoughts.

Spoiler Alert? At seventeen years old, Charlie wakes up in Creeley, a rehab center for women who self-harm. Her father committed suicide by drowning himself, her mother gave up on her, her best friend, a fellow cutter is brain dead, she lived on the street, got sold for sex and her only friend who she likes only wanted to be friends.

I learned that talking really helps and it goes both ways. It’s important to talk to someone. Don’t keep whatever hatred or tension or sadness pent up. Lend an ear. Offer to listen to. People around you may be struggling too. Always be kind, a little kindness goes a long way. We never really know what battles other people are fighting everyday.

This is also the reason why I feel like I need to highlight Michael, Ariel, Linus and Felix. They are such a ray of sunshine in Charlie’s recovery. It’s nice how Mikey offered to help right off the bat, after not being in touch for so long. The lives of Michael and Linus also showed hope that things do get better and people get better. Michael has been sober and is living his best life. He realized he was tired of all the nonsense. Ariel! She’s what everyone needs! A mother figure to knock some sense in all of us. Don’t you think? Linus also told Charlie that she still struggles all the time and that sometimes, she just needs to wait it out. Felix, on the other hand has been helping Charlie on keeping busy and helping her translate all her feelings into paper.

Just one bit about Riley though – I loved his gift. You know how you need not tell the person what you like because he sees you? He watches you and knows what you want, what’s important to you and all? Like how Riley gave her this art book because he saw how her eyes sparkled when she was looking at this particular book.

I’m also happy with the way things ended. It should not always be a happy love story. It’s nice that Charlie is getting her shit together and that she did not llet Riley’s on stage performance affect her progress. And Oh! I also need to discuss Blue’s significant part on Charlie’s recovery. She was consistently there for her, making her feel at home, having someone to come home to, to talk to after work, someone who actually wants to be with you and appreciates your company – and I must say, it’s such a huge impact on Charlie’s confidence and mental health.

It’s not an easy read because it was so raw and honest. The author clearly depicts how the mind of a cutter runs. It’s so sad and I felt so lonely in some parts of the book. It tackles about hope, loneliness, self-harm and belonging – which everyone can relate to. This book opens you to a whole new world of understanding.

It’s such a help. Reading this book tells you that you are not alone and it’s so good to know that other people are experiencing this too, and maybe, just sometimes – that is enough, to know that someone else is feeling those too.

  • I’m so lonely in the world I want to peel all of my flesh off and walk, just bone and gristle.
  • I cut because I cut. It’s as simple as that. I need release. I need to hurt myself more than the world can hurt me, and then I can comfort myself. Hurting yourself makes you feel better. That somehow you can rid yourself of pain by causing yourself pain.
  • You don’t know what it feels like to every day, every fucking day, be so lonely that this black hole inside is going to swallow you down.
  • The moral of the story Charlie is this, don’t let the cereal eat you. It’s only a fucking box of cereal, but it will eat you alive if you let it.
  • You own all of yourself, Charlie. Every last bit.
  • Everything and everybody that’s busted can be fixed.
  • The world hurts enough. Why fucking chase it down?
  • Sometimes you have to let stuff go if you want to move forward, you know?
  • How can you live in fear of your very self?
  • Stuff happens. You just gotta keep on truckin.
  • Everybody you meet is like a little mirror of you.
  • Cutting is a fence you build upon your own body to keep people out but then you cry to be touched. But the fence is barbed. What then?
  • You be you, Charlie. You be you.
  • We have to choose who we want to be, not let the situation choose us.

EVERYDAY: Our Wedding (Bride’s Vows)


November 24, 2019, the most magical day of my life. ❤

Documenting this here so I can read it over and over and over again and be reminded of my commitment to my husband.

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”8 years ago, I walked into BOC looking to start my career. Instead, I met the man I was going to marry.

Bab, thank you for always braving the Saturday El Shaddai just to bring me home. Thank you for giving me your chicken skin, knowing I hate the white portion. Thank you for always giving me the last bite of our sizzling tofu.

Thank you for always supporting me & pushing me to be my best, especially when I don’t believe in myself. Thank you for trusting that I can do more. I promise I’ll always be here to support you whether you want to pursue law or try out your singing career. Thank you for never making me feel less for all my shortcomings & lastly, Thank you for enduring the boy – jojo tandem. (Everybody knows how strict my parents are).

I don’t know where life will take us but I promise that we’ll get through anything as long as we face them together. I promise not just to be your wife but to continue being your bestfriend. I promise to hear you out life a friend even in your ugliest & work it out as your wife.

I know marriage won’t always be a happy ending. There will be days we can’t bear to be with each other. I know that we will have to work on our relationship every single day, but it will be easy knowing it’s with you. I know that both of us will change but I promise to love not just the person that you are now but the person that you will become, no matter how different you may be. If I have to wake up 40 years from now and see a bald fat guy, I want it to be with you, double chin & all.

I promise not to give up on us & to do everything to make our marriage work. I promise not to run when things get hard. I promise I’ll stay even when you’re annoying as hell. I promise to love you when it’s easy & even more when it’s not. Most importantly, I promise to still hold you hand even when you wear crocs in public.

Baba, I’m not sure if you remember. But 5 years ago, I wrote a blog about you. It says,

Someday, I want to experience freaking out of wedding details. I want to argue with you what flowers should go inside the church, or what color of tux should you wear, who our ring bearer is, the color of our invitation, what our theme song is, what flavor our wedding cake will be or what band should we hire. I want to take hundreds of prenuptial pictures with you. I want to attend a wedding rehearsal and not be scared that you might flip out because I am aware of how much you love me. Someday, I want to have hundreds and thousands of butterflies in my stomach not because I’m nervous but because I am full of excitement to finally be called your wife. I want to wear a sparkling fantasy shoes because I’ve already met my prince charming. An intelligent-charming-handsome lawyer slash banker slash archaeologist prince charming. I want to feed you our cake and let you drink wine knowing that I will be doing it for the rest of our lives. Lastly, I want to walk down the aisle perfectly happy knowing that all of my dreams are waiting for me, ready to take my hand and exchange vows in front of god and in front of our families and friends. I want to walk down the aisle and say I do to the man of my dreams. 

Today, baba, I get to fulfill that dream, that blog I wrote 5 years ago. Today, I’ll be your wife. I love you baba. I can’t wait to take on life with you.

EVERYDAY: Our Wedding (Groom’s Vows)


November 24, 2019, the most magical day of my life. ❤

Documenting this here so I can read it over and over and over again.

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‘Babe, Our story is about unexpected love. We did not want each other at first. Me, thinking that you are the typical party girl who is not my type and your impression of me was that I am a grumpy nerd who hates everyone who cannot understand what is being discussed. 

I can’t remember exactly when but I started to fall for you. You have a very lovable attitude – very compassionate, caring and sympathetic. 

I fell so immensely I had to pursue you even if you were pushing me away. Parang may spell. And because of patience and perseverance, napasagot kita. I was very lucky and blessed to have you as my girlfriend. 

Sabi ko ikaw na yung gusto ko makasama habambuhay. Sabi nila, very rare yung ganun bu that’s how I saw it from the inital stages of our relationship – wife material. 

Wala tayong madramang story na nag-break tapos nagkabalikan or iniwan tapos narealize, mahal pala niya. OUR LOVE STORY IS VANILLA. But it is your favorite ice cream flavor. We were able to know each other and talk about things nang mahinahon. 

We handled our relationship with maturity kahit na minsan hilig mong mang-away. Iniitindi natin yung isa’t isa, yung feelings nang isa’t isa. Wala na akong mahihiling pa for a partner in life. Ikaw lang ang gusto ko makasama, babe. Ikaw lang yung gusto ko nandiyan sa successes & failures ko. Ikaw yung gusto ko makinig pag nagrant ako. Lagi ko sinasabi, I cannot see my future without you. 

THIS IS IT MAHAL. Wala na yung mahabang ma-traffic na bbyahe pag maghahatif and pag-antay mo na makauwi ako bago tayo matulog. Magkasama na tayo pag-uwi kapag may party or inuman, pwede na tayo mag-travel together, magluto nang baon for each other and maglinis at mag-ayos nang sarili nating bahay. 

I will do everything to make our marriage God-driven, meaningful and strong. Please remember na mahal na mahal kita. Whenever there are tough times, let us always choose to be with each other and love each other. 

I am so happy to be with you and I am excited to spend the rest of my life with you. 

I love you

NSG. ” 

BOOK REVIEW: The Sun is also a Star by Nicola Yoon


GOODREADS: Natasha: I’m a girl who believes in science and facts. Not fate. Not destiny. Or dreams that will never come true. My family is twelve hours away from being deported to Jamaica. Falling in love with him won’t be my story.

Daniel: I’ve always been the good son, the good student, living up to my parents’ high expectations. Never the poet. Something about Natasha makes me think that fate has something much more extraordinary in store—for both of us.

The Universe: Every moment in our lives has brought us to this single moment. A million futures lie before us. Which one will come true?

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Do not mistake me for being a realist or cold hearted. I’m not. I like reading love stories and happy endings. BUT christ, SPARE ME LOVE AT FIRST SIGHTS or INSTALOVE. Who believes in those shit? You meet a stalker and you let him hold you in the hand, not even an hour after bumping into the guy? Jeez. Call it attraction instead! Now that! – that’s possible! Lust too. You don’t just decide to spend the whole day and let that person tag a long.

But that’s not love! Love is knowing the person inside and out, loving all the flaws, all the horrible things and dark secrets the other person has – something you’ll discover, observe and experience through time. It’s not answering questions all day, having conversations with a stranger and trusting your whole life with that person so quickly!

We all have moments! The feeling of endorphins rising up, the feeling of excitement in getting to know someone, the jitters of ‘new’ love. but moments? moments pass. That’s not love.

How about the character of Natasha? Now her – she’s cold-hearted and so unattached with everything, every emotion and everyone else. She doesn’t believe in anything or anyone except Science. She relies on science to explain everything that’s been happening around her.

And Daniel? Gad. Sure, he is sweet and says all the right things a guy can say at the right time. But don’t you think he’s too much? He’s too emotional and passionate and he practically associates everything with fate and heart and feelings. HAHA. probably exactly how a poet should be characterized. But I wouldn’t want to date someone like him.

And let me just mention the Atty. He actually thinks he met Hannah too late? WHO DOES THAT? If you fuckin love your wife and kids, where would you even find the time to fall in love with someone else? What does he mean by he met hannah too late? Does it mean he regrets his life with his family? WHY? WHY? Stupid men who thinks they have multiple hearts, thinking they can love several women at the same time. just, assholes. Why don’t you just spend the time nurturing your relationship with your family? Make yourself deserving of your family!

What I do liked about this book is that there are snippets of chapters where you learn about trivial things such as Why Korean – American families typically own Black Hair Care stores in New York, Dark Matter, the grandfather paradox, the theory of multiverses and Scientific experiments too.

PLUS, Daniel’s monologue when he finally told Natasha that the Atty couldn’t do anything? It’s the best!

The book also tackles the struggles and the issues of undocumented immigrants, broken dreams, cultural diversions, parent’s expectations, hope, fate and relationships between family members.

  • COPACETIC – in excellent order
  • MUTABLE – liable to change
  • ERUDITE – showing great knowledge
  • Where did all those feelings go? People spend their whole lives looking for love. But how can you trust somethings that can end as suddenly as it begins?
  • All your future histories can be destroyed in a single moment.
  • Are we really supposed to know what we want to do for the rest of our lives?
  • Sometimes the truth can hurt more than you expect.
  • She smiles so big that I know that whatever happens will be worth it.
  • Who are we if not a product of our parents and their histories?
  • It’s not up to you to help other people fit you into a box.
  • Growing up and seeing your parent’s flaws is like losing your religion.
  • You are never out of options.
  • We think we want all the time in the world with the people we love, but maybe what we need is the opposite. Just a finite amount of time, so we still think the other person is interesting.
  • Some people exist in your life to make it better. Some people exist to make it worse.
  • They have a sense that the length of a day is mutable, and you can never see the end from the beginning. They have a sense that love changes all things all the time.

Overall, story narration is ‘kay. I like reading short chapters too. I just didn’t like the wholeness of the story. I would not recommend reading this book but I’d give Nicola Yoon another chance. I’m open to reading Everything, Everything. ❤

BOOK REVIEW : Take the Lead by Betsy Myers


GOODREADS: “Why is it that some people challenge us and motivate us to rise to our best abilities, while others seem to drain our energy and spirit? What is that particular quality certain people have that causes those around them to engage fully and feel connected?”

SEVEN CORE IDEAS

  • We all skin our knees. What count is how we pick ourselves up, learn from our mistakes and move forward.

  1. AUTHENTICITY
  • People who are authentic don’t feel the need to exaggerate their story to make themselves look better, or treat others poorly so they come out in top. People begin to be leaders at that moment when decide for themselves how to be.
  • Genuine leadership is what emerges when we are fully and freely ourselves.
  • People trust us when we are genuine – when we show up, not as who we think we should be, not who our parents and teachers, colleagues and bosses say we should be, but as who we really are.
  • We are each born with our own internal compass, an innate sense that tells us if the direction we’re heading feels right. The most important feedback is that which comes from ourselves. Part of living an authentic life is learning to trust that internal compass.
  • It is the duty of a leader to ensure that people are in the right seats – and on the right bus.
  • We continue discovering new things about ourselves throughout our lives and careers, and sometimes a situation that felt right for us at one point starts feeling like it’s no longer a fit. Sometimes we need to be open to a change in plans and give ourselves permission to change direction.
  • We each have the power to determine or change our roles in both our personal and professional lives.

2. CONNECTION

  • Sometimes when people are unhappy at work, it’s because they are in an environment where they don’t feel connected. They don’t feel they belong there, that their contribution matters or that they are valued as part of the team.
  • No matter how good you are at your work, if you don’t have good relationships with your colleagues, it may not have the impact or support it should.
  • Conversations are opportunities to learn more about the person, share something about yourselves and discover things we may have in common.
  • A shared sense of story brings about a shared sense of purpose, and it is from there that the force for a true movement is born.
  • We walk through so many other people’s lives and often don’t know the lasting impact we have.
  • The two keys for genuine conversation are the curiosity to ask questions about the other person and the generosity to share something about yourself.
  • Look for opportunities for people to meet informally, share personal stories and build relationships.

3. RESPECT

  • Making the effort to notice – opening your eyes and seeing the people around you, taking the time to talk with them and become conscious of what’s going on in their lives.
  • People want to feel that their voice matters. Effective leadership takes the time and care to listen and make sure people feel truly heard.
  • Respect means being willing to listen and let others have their voice, even when it might be inconvenient, difficult or painful to do so. This doesn’t mean we have to agree with another’s decision. It simply means being willing to listen & appreciate people for their unique perspective.
  • You have to listen and gain their trust before you can even have a conversation. You can disagree honorably once you have trust in the relationship.
  • Sometimes sharing an observation or a bit of feedback can be tremendously helpful.
  • The way we communicate and frame an issue and our awareness of the timing and context, can make all the difference in how we are heard and what results we get.
  • It’s not about ego and it’s not about who had the idea in the first place, it’s thinking strategically about who is the best person to get the job done.

4. CLARITY

  • Every organization must have a larger purpose and part of any leader’s success is the ability to communicate that purpose with vivid clarity so that it can be passed from person to person within the organization.
  • As important as what we did were the things we chose not to do
  • Less is more: instead of trying to do a bunch of different things everyday, do one thing at a time.
  • What makes a leader effective is the ability to help people become clear about which tasks are essential to the goal.
  • Informed people feel secure. People will pull together, if they all understand what’s going on and what’s at stake.
  • The key to developing people is to catch them doing something right.
  • It is easy to make assumptions about other people’s expectations, about what matters to them or what makes them feel appreciated. The only reliable way to gain that clarity is to ask.
  • Leadership is not about having all the answers, it is about asking the questions. The clarity comes from listening to the people in the field.

5. COLLABORATION

  • Effective leadership is about inclusion. People feel they are integral part of the larger process.
  • An effective leader then clearly communicates that decision is out to the troops, including what the decision is, why it was made, and what it means to the organization and to each individual involved.
  • A key ingredient in creating true collaboration is becoming aware of our assumptions and learning to challenge them.
  • If you aren’t willing to hear another point of view, how do you grow?

6. LEARNING

  • My curiosity fueled my life long learning.
  • The capacity to engage others – which is all about listening. Second, hard work and discipline and determination to keep at it and keep showing up.
  • Leaders learn is to get outside the bubble of their own experience or comfort zone and discover what is happening in the lives of people around them.
  • Effective leaders believe that their people have valuable perspective, insights and information.
  • Every leader should be willing to sit down with his team and ask them, what are we doing right? what are we doing wrong? what behaviors need to change?

7. COURAGE

  • Leaders are not necessarily fearless, but they are people who have learned how to confront and push through their fears.
  • Courage is about pushing through our fears.
  • We gain strength, and courage and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face. We must do that which we think we cannot.
  • It is when we push through our fear t stretch and grow that we gain confidence.
  • The greatest act of courage is to follow your heart and do the right thing even if it isn’t popular.
  • Sometimes you have to make decisions not everyone is going to be comfortable with. You have to focus on what you are trying to accomplish, with as much respect and care as you can for everyone involve. But you can’t let that stop you from what needs to be done. Leadership takes courage – but courage without being reckless.
  • Courage is a matter of speaking up and giving voice to an uncomfortable truth.
  • Often, once you summon the courage to take this step, it turns out to open up wonderful new possibilities that otherwise might have remained closed or hidden.

BOOK REVIEW : The Wives by Tarryn Fisher


GOODREADS: Thursday’s husband, Seth, has two other wives. She’s never met them, and she doesn’t know anything about them. She agreed to this unusual arrangement because she’s so crazy about him. But one day, she finds something. Something that tells a very different—and horrifying—story about the man she married.

What follows is one of the most twisted, shocking thrillers you’ll ever read.

HOLY SHIT. If you are looking for something like Gone Girl, this is it. It’s on some next level shit. I couldn’t put it down. Once I’ve decided to take a rest from reading, the end of the chapter just reels you back in.

The plot twists is mind blowing! like, HOW? I started this book with pity for Thursday for being stuck in a polygamist marriage then I moved on to annoyance of how she ever willingly said yes to this agreement and somehow understanding of how it turned her to be a stalker and quite obsessed with the other wives.

But then, here comes Seth with his charming antics and very sweet gestures only to be lured to his other personality as what Thursday believed him to be, – a man living with so much lies with a temper. Throw in a bitter ex-wife with her four inch heels, a successful job and a poise and class to match, a practiced liar and an opportunist, who finds herself in a situation to take revenge on the slut that ruined her marriage.

  • That’s how women are, right? Always wondering about each other – curiosity and spite curdling together in little emotional puddles. If you wonder too hard, you’ll get everything wrong.
  • No one tries that hard to keep their husband unless they’ve already lost him.
  • The truth is that the heart’s desire is a mere current against the tide of nurture and nature. You can spend your whole life swimming against it and eventually you’ll get tired and the current of genes and upbringing will put you under.
  • You don’t have to give up something you love just because other people disapprove.
  • That’s what love is about right? Working with what your partner came with.
  • A relationship can withstand almost any trial if the sex was good.
  • It’s amazing how once you open a door for something, there’s o going back. All you can do is brace yourself as you get sucked in.
  • We’re all just waiting for someone to stand behind us, aren’t we? Even if it’s just one person, it gives you strength.
  • I was overcame with love – pressing, pressing, pressing my feelings down to accommodate him. Isn’t that what we do as women?
  • Women are stuck in a cycle of insecurity perpetuated by the way men treat them and we are constantly fighting to prove to them our value.
  • We see each other often, but no one really knows what’s happening behind everyone’s eyes.
  • We busy ourselves trying not to be lonely, trying to find purpose in careers, and lovers and children, but any moment, those feelings we work so hard to possess could easily be taken from us.

This is all so confusing! There’s way too many plot twist and mind games! I LOVE THE BOOK. This reminds me of Verity by CHoover. ❤ ❤

EAT ANTIPOLO: Yellow Bird Cafe


Normally, we don’t celebrate heart’s day. But as years passed, I wanted to. I don’t mean bouquets and chocolates. (chocolates would be nice) HAHAHA. I mean spending time, just the two of us with my now, hubby.

And as others would fear, Valentine’s Day fell on a Friday and Pay day. It just means, Manila Traffic plus raging hormones on the street, rush hour triples the traffic. So, Jude planned for a Breakfast Date. He just told me he’ll bring me somewhere. And hell, I didn’t know that it was still on, so excuse my bare, no bath face and hair.

We arrived at this quaint cafe in Antipolo. It’s Instagram friendly, and by this I mean the place is picture perfect. It’s pretty both inside and outside. You’ll want to take a picture of every corner.

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Crunchy Okoy for Php 155

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My hubby is pretty excited about this. And now I know absolutely why. The okoy was thin and crispy. The shrimps doesn’t hurt my throat (which usually does at most places). It can be eaten as an appetizer and as a viand. (which I did). Must try!

Homemade Beef Tapa for Php 165

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All of their breakfast plates comes with garlic rice and 2 eggs. He loved this. I tasted the beef. It’s okay. I wouldn’t usually go near a tapa. I hate how dark and extremely marinated it is. But this one is okay. It wouldn’t be my go-to but I can eat it.

Bacon for Php 165

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It comes with 2 eggs too which I had requested to be scrambled. I’m a bit disappointed with their bacon. I like mine crispy but this one is far from it and it’s bit on the thick side. It’s not bad though. The rice, I like.

Hazelnut Coffe for Php 145

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Nothing special. It tasted like a regular flavored coffee. It didn’t even taste like hazelnut but it’s okay. I’ll order this again.

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Overall, I guess I’d like to come back. I’d probably order a Spam for Breakfast or Shrimp Scampi or Spicy Sardines Pasta or Beef Bulgogi and Macadamia x Hazelnut for Coffee next time. I can already imagine it. ❤

Thank you for bringing me here, babe. ❤ Next time ulit please. 🙂

As for Valentine’s, I wanted to give him something since it’s our first as Husband and Wife. ❤ and I wanted to mess with him, thus ‘WANNA SCREW?’ and ‘WANNA BANG?’ plastered outside the paper bag. I decided to give him (3) shirts.

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I also received my perfectly favorite stargazers. I will never get tired of them. Thank you so much, baba. I love you. ❤

THOUGHTS: Things I learned from my Ex


It’s 15 days before Heart’s Day and what better time to reflect on this. Don’t get me wrong. I’m still working on several of the points below but every person that you meet, every bond you’ve created, every memory that you treasure speaks volume and if you look at it hard enough, you’ll see that these experiences are bound to teach you something.

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  • There’s a life outside the relationship.

My friends used to tell me that when I first had a relationship, I forgot about them and that I was completely imprisoned by the relationship. It’s important to spend time with your partner but it’s also as important to spend time outside of your relationship, whether it is to set aside time for your hobby, spend a quiet time with your family, see your friends or whatever it is you like to do. Do it. Your partner is not your entire world. 

  • Learn to trust.

It may be difficult for someone who had an experience before, but your past is not your partner’s fault. If you love the person, trust that he will never hurt you intentionally just as you would not with him.

  • If you are truly important, he’ll wait.

Okay, this one. . . It’s a given. I was in High School. I was known for having the strictest parents alive. I had a school bus service in the morning and in the afternoon. Unlike the other students, I don’t get to socialize and go home whenever I want to. I can only socialize until a given time but I still had to ride with my bus. This certain suitor told me bluntly that the reason he stopped courting me was because I couldn’t get out of the house whenever he pleases. If he cares, if you’re important to him, he’ll spend time wherever you are, even if it’s just inside your house. 

  • Endings can mean a start something great.

It has to be. And that’s the only feasible explanation. God takes away a person because he has someone better for us. ❤ My marriage proves it. ❤ I am in a way, WAY better relationship now.

  • Appreciate the small things

You know how before it was taught to us that God appreciates the Php 10 from a beggar than a Php 1,000,000 from a Billionaire? It’s because the beggar gave everything he has. I was in a relationship before where my someone had to literally skip lunch and drink water from the cafeteria instead for a month to save Php 400 pesos to buy me a dozen Krispy Kreme donuts because she couldn’t save enough money to buy me cake? And honestly, it melted my heart. It’s really the small things that matter, the effort the other person gives. 

  • When you love someone, tell it to them. 

Life is short! If you feel it, tell it to them. If they don’t feel the same way, it’s okay. If they do, then great! Never miss a chance just because you fear rejection. 

From one of my most loved series and characters, ”If you love someone, you tell them. Even if you’re scared that it’s not the right thing. Even if you’re scared that it’ll cause problems. Even if you’re scared that it will burn your life to the ground, you say it, and you say it loud and you go from there”. – Mark Sloan

  • Never tolerate infidelity

Infidelity is breaking that sacred bond you have with your partner. A commitment is a commitment for a reason. I used to be in a semi-relationship with a guy that started when he had a girlfriend. He broke it off with her to be with me. But I realized, how will I be able to trust him to be completely faithful when I know for a fact what he’s capable of? Second Chances for infidelity is still a no for me. But it depends on your values in life.

  • Never pretend someone you’re not

This is pretty simple. If I pretend to obsess over football just because the guy I like loves football — Can I imagine myself pretending to watch football for the years to come? No. just be yourself. If you eat a LOT, eat a mouthful on your first date! Don’t starve yourself. Guys likes girls who are not as skinny as a skeleton! The relationship will lasts longer if you both feel comfortable with each other. 

  • Communication is key

I used to be one of those girls who would throw a tantrum out of nowhere. (I AM, rather) I have not been able to remedy this yet. HAHA. but most often than not, your significant others are not a mind reader. Sometimes, they have absolutely no idea what they did wrong so they will continue to do exactly that. For example, If I was scrolling my feed and I saw my husband liked his ex’s or his crush’s picture — I will  not mind him and I will intentionally be difficult. I won’t say anything. But, for him not to do that again, I will have to tell him how it made me feel so that he understands. (but this is me, still a work in progress though). Tell your someone how you feel. It’s better to express it than to hide it in the long run. 

  • Not one of my past is a mistake. 

People will come and go, whether it may be your partner or your friend. If a relationship failed, it may be that someone better will come along or that person or the relationship is meant to teach you something. Maybe your ex brought you back to your passion, maybe your ex helped you bloom, maybe your ex taught you to dance, maybe your ex opened you to a new world, etc. Maybe your past made you realize that everything has its reason and should be seen as an experience to learn from. 

THOUGHTS: Birthday Q&A


I have been searching on our very friendly and reliable Pinterest on what I can write about for my birthday. And I have been clicking non-stop and there’s way too many ideas there. 😛 Haha.

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One of it was answering questions by spelling out your name. Here goes:

V E N I C E D E L A C R U Z

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V – Last time I cried

January 16, 2020. Work is a sensitive issue for me. I cried because of something my mom said. She was trying to make me feel better about ‘it’ – SG

E – My Best Friend

My Mom. She may not be the usual type of best friend whom I tell every single thing to but she has the most effect in me. She may be the only person who can make me okay (about the stated issue above). She’s my rock. She’s the person that I look up to. I know every child must think that his/her parents knows a lot about everything. But truly my Mom does. She has a way for anything and everything. ❤

N – Favorite place to shop at

I’m not sure if it’s the age of E-commerce or old age, making me lazy to shop around in actual stores or if it’s my husband who I feel is impatient with me when looking around — but honestly. I cannot remember the last time I intentionally shop in the mall. I’m rambling. My answer is Zalora. ❤ Brands: Zalora, Zalora Basics and Something Borrowed

I – Have any tattoos or piercings? 

Yes, two. Just in my ears. I would love a tatt. I don’t know how I’ll handle the pain given I have a low tolerance for it. Last year, I was pitching the idea of tatt rings to my husband, he agreed. But now, he’s lying and telling me that he did not agree. GRR. So yeah. But I still have to do some research. I’d like a symbolic one with a very deep meaning behind it.

C – Who I like and why I like them

Let me just make it fair by mentioning someone public figure. I will not be able to do justice if I tell you it’s a friend of mine since you will not have an idea of who that person is. So, at the top of my head? Colleen Hoover. I’m planning to read my Nth book of Coho. and I honestly have not read any of her books that I hated. There. ❤ I love her simply because her works are not a waste of time. ❤ and definitely deserves to be on the reread list.

E – My Best Friend

My ultimate best friend and my everything all rolled into one. You know how you have best friends who you don’t talk to everyday, you have your eating buddy, movie buddy, kalokohan buddy, singing buddy and all? He is it. He’s my everything. He’s the one I tell every single thing to, he’s the one I tell all the new jokes to, he’s the one I tag in all the memes, he’s the one I forward quotes on facebook to, he’s the one I talk to in viber, messenger, text and comment section all at once. My husband and my everything. ❤

D – Hardest thing I’ve ever been through

I’d like to say that I’m one of the lucky ones who have not experienced any traumatizing death or calamity in life. For me, it’s the everyday battle of loving one’s self entirely, being content and happy.

E – My Best Friend

This is the third spot for best friends and I wouldn’t want to single out just one person when several of them deserve a spot. I’d like to mention most of my closest and consistent best friends are from High School. You know who you are. They are all so dear to me yet different altogether. (One very brand conscious and classy who laughs so loud, One who swears way too loud and punches way too much, One who doesn’t seem to have any bad attitude and loves to say truelaloo, One who remembers every single detail and advises like a licensed Psych)

L – One of my Insecurities

Easy. It all comes down to this. – Not being good enough. I didn’t pass the interview, because I’m not good enough. I didn’t get the promotion, because I’m not good enough. He has a crush on someone else, because I’m not good enough. I didn’t win, because I’m not good enough. I wasn’t chosen, because I’m not good enough. My skills is not good enough, my experiences is not good enough. I’m not good enough. I really have to work on this.

A – Why my last relationship ended

I wouldn’t say it was toxic. For me, at least. To put it bluntly, the relationship ended because that person blames the relationship for every single bad thing that’s happening in her life. Talk about Buddhism and karma.

C – Who I like and why I like them

Again, a public figure although I’m not sure if you know her. It’s Steph Claire Smith. She has the most amazing body without being bonesy, the most angelic smile and she sounds so genuine and true in her IG Videos. ❤ (P.S. Love her wedding gown)

R – Favorite Song at the moment

Best Days by Matt White is currently on replay since I used the same song in the SDE that I was editing. ❤ I’ll share it here within the week. 🙂

U – Where I want to be right now

I always want a getaway during my birthday. Unfortunately, there’s way too many things happening in the world right now – Taal’s pending explosion, Corona Virus and the like. So if you’re sincerely asking me where I want to be right now? I want to be in one the pretty Airbnbs in Bali with the floating fruit breakfast with my hubby. ❤

Z – How are you

If I’m being honest, I’m not at my best.  I feel so defeated. It’s been another year and I feel like I have not accomplished anything in one year. But physically, I have no ailments so I’m still grateful. 😀

EVERYDAY: Happy Birthday, Ma!


To the most assertive, strong-willed, terrifying person that I know, Happy Happy Birthday. ❤

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My mother, being selfless that she is spent her birthday renewing her children’s passport. Thanks for going with us, Ma!

And a delicious, tummy bloating dinner followed at Circles, Shangrila Makati.

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Thanks, Ma! We all love you! ❤

THOUGHTS: Run at your own pace


We are not required to explain everything that’s happening in our lives to other people.

failed marriage, not passing the board exam, leaving a toxic relationship, finishing school at age 25, not having savings at 30.

We live this life differently. Run at your own speed

Charity Delmo

Such a helpful reminder. ❤