PONDER: All of us

We all have shit days every now and then. All of us. No matter how perfect we aspire to be, and no matter how many tings we promised ourselves we would do, sometimes all the things we wanted to achieve just can’t happen in one day and that is perfectly okay. – momentary happiness



An excerpt from the book, ”You can do it. Even if others say you can’t” by John Mason.

If you want to be successful, you must either have a chance or take one. You can’t get your head above the water if you never stick your neck out. 


As David Viscot wrote, If your life is ever going to get better you’ll have to take risks. There is simply no way you can grow without taking chances.

If you don’t risk anything, you risk even more.

Learn to face the storm. 


Almost every fairytale story book starts with Once upon a time…
After the first episode, like a magical rope it pulled me in, a heavy dust of magic sucked me right in the middle. I love how the plot reveals different myths and different characters. I love how it captures the essence of the stories we grew up with, tear it apart and replace some parts that are more complicated. I love how each disentangled part now consumes other tale’s gaps. I love how each character seems to know one character to the next.


Physically, I love love love Emma. I love how fair her skin is, I love the way her hair is curled and her red lips. I love Bram! I love Belle and Red Riding Hood and I also love the Evil Queen! She is pretty, can’t deny that. But my favorite character? Rumplestiltskin. If I can have a mind as quick as he has, If I can clever as he is, that confidence and vulnerability all at the same time. I love him for his mind, for his treacherous ways, his strategies and tricks, all of it.

Some of the life lessons in Season 1.
1. How far are you willing to go? — Rumplestiltskin
2. Power is seductive. — Rumplestiltskin
3. If true love is easy, everyone would have it.
4. People are going to tell you who you are your whole life. But you have to punch back and tell them, ”No. this is who I am.”. You want people to look at you differently, Make them.  —  Emma
5. You know how you walk into a situation where you know exactly what’ll happen but you go and do it anyway. And then when what you’re afraid of happens, you kick yourself cause you should’ve known better. But that’s just who you are. It’s like punishing yourself. — Snow White // Mary Margaret
6. Love’s the worse. I wish there’s a magical cure.
7. Being around you is too painful. — Snow White // Mary Margaret
8. My love grows for you with every beat of my heart.  —  Evil Queen
9. You can do anything as long as you dream it.  — Dreamy // Grumpy
10. Never Abandon family — Madhatter

I love how the stories that started with once upon a time and ended with a happy ending can now be scenic and turned into a reality. A reality where there isn’t always a prince charming ready to save you, how in the world there’s no seven dwarfs and there are no fairy godmothers.

BOOK REVIEW : DAMNED by Chuck Palahniuk

So I started reading this book Mid – October. And I don’t know why I only actually finished this one last week of December. It was quite interesting from the start – the way this 13 year old girl was able to paint a picture of how hell is in the eyes of Chuck.

To get you started, here are some places in Chuck’s Hell:

  1. Great Ocean of Wasted Sperm
  2. Blood
  3. Swamp of Partial Abortions
  4. Swamp of Unwanted pregnancies
  5. Sea of Insects
  6. Great Plains of Broken Glass
  7. Endless array of Cages
  8. Steaming Mountain of Dog Piles
  9. Swamp of Rancid Perspiration
  10. Meadow of Unchecked Toenail Fungus
  11. Desert of Dandruff
  12. Volcano of Surly guffaws
  13. Thicket of Amputated Limbs
  14. River of Hot Saliva

You can also read the 18 quotes I picked from the book.

  1. Dying seems like the greatness weakness
  2. Death is one big mistake none of us ever plans to make.
  3. Hell occurs to me as a tad bit obvious and self-indulgent.
  4. You’d be foolish to count on people displaying high standards of honesty
  5. Girls tend to be terrifically smart until they grow breasts
  6. Adolescence occurs as a kind of Ice Age of Dumbness
  7. Nothing was a sin, just a poor life choice.
  8. One man’s god is another man’s devil.
  9. Hell is where your own desires take you, stealing you away from God and the original plans God had for fulfilling your soul’s perfection
  10. Admiration for any female who can present herself with such apparent lack of self consciousness, seemingly in complete disregard for how she might be judged and exploited by her audience.
  11. Reproducing is a kind of booster to keep us loving life.
  12. Every audience gets the performance it expects.
  13. Its stunning how having nothing to lose will build your confidence.
  14. It’s our attachments to a fixed identity that tortures us.
  15. Seldom do we break our stride in our relentless campaign.
  16. I am free to reinvent my story, revise myself, my world at any given moment.
  17. The greatest weapon any warrior can carry into battle is absolute certainty of her eternal soul.
  18. When we neglect to fear such a brittle monstrosity, we render it powerless.

A parent will always be a parent. They will always teach their child. Now the following are what Maddy’s parents preaches her.

  1. ”Every new maid wants to fold your underwear a different way.” – You have to stay smart and not let yourself be pushed around.
  2. ”Every audience gets the performance it expects.” – If you’d shown more gratitude and appreciation for the precious miracle of life, then life itself would’ve been more wonderful.
  3. ”You’ve got to strike while the flatiron is still hot.” – Dress yourself and Carry yourself well all the time.
  4. ”When you’re shooting on location, be ready for rain.” – You never know what fate will throw at you.
  5. ”Two lips and a tongue can tell you anything.”’ – Get all your deals in writing.
  6. ”If you don’t know what comes next, take a good long look at what came before.” – If you allow it, your past tends to dictate your future.
  7. ”Every garden looks beautiful in May” – Everyone is somewhat attractive when she’s young.
  8. ”The secret to being a good comedian is to never stop talking until you hear someone laugh” – Persevere, Be determined.

All in all, there is no drive to read the novel again. Like what the other reviews I read, it’s a Breakfast Club Movie written in Black and White in a different set up.

THOUGHTS: Leverage

As I was scanning Investor Words for a new word that I can try to incorporate in my vocabulary, I cam across this quote i’d like to share.

”We often pay our debts not because it is only fair that we should, but to make future loans easier”. – Francois de La Rochefoucauld

Now would you look at this statement. It’s true, isn’t it? We hate to admit how we are sometimes. But tell me, if you had it your way, and if there was an out. would you rather pay your debt because it’s the right thing to do? or do you just pay your debts to avoid conflicts, court cases and other mishaps. Right?

Funny but true.

THOUGHTS: It’s actually the million little pieces.

“I have always, essentially, been waiting. Waiting to become something else, waiting to be that person I always thought I was on the verge of becoming, waiting for that life I thought I would have. In my head, I was always one step away. In high school, I was biding my time until I could become the college version of myself, the one my mind could see so clearly. In college, the post-college “adult” person was always looming in front of me, smarter, stronger, more organized. Then the married person, then the person I’d become when we have kids. For twenty years, literally, I have waited to become the thin version of myself, because that’s when life will really begin.

And through all that waiting, here I am. My life is passing, day by day, and I am waiting for it to start. I am waiting for that time, that person, that event when my life will finally begin.

I love movies about “The Big Moment” – the game or the performance or the wedding day or the record deal, the stories that split time with that key event, and everything is reframed, before it and after it, because it has changed everything. I have always wanted this movie-worthy event, something that will change everything and grab me out of this waiting game into the whirlwind in front of me. I cry and cry at these movies, because I am still waiting for my own big moment. I had visions of life as an adventure, a thing to be celebrated and experienced, but all I was doing was going to work and coming home, and that wasn’t what it looked like in the movies.

John Lennon once said, “Life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans.” For me, life is what was happening while I was busy waiting for my big moment. I was ready for it and believed that the rest of my life would fade into the background, and that my big moment would carry me through life like a lifeboat.

The Big Moment, unfortunately, is an urban myth. Some people have them, in a sense, when they win the Heisman or become the next American Idol. But even that football player or that singer is living a life made up of more than that one moment. Life is a collection of a million, billion moments, tiny little moments and choices, like a handful of luminous, glowing pearl. It takes so much time, and so much work, and those beads and moments are so small, and so much less fabulous and dramatic than the movies.

But this is what I’m finding, in glimpses and flashes: this is it. This is it, in the best possible way. That thing I’m waiting for, that adventure, that move-score-worthy experience unfolding gracefully. This is it. Normal, daily life ticking by on our streets and sidewalks, in our houses and apartments, in our beds and at our dinner tables, in our dreams and prayers and fights and secrets – this pedestrian life is the most precious thing any of use will ever experience.”

― Shauna Niequist, Cold Tangerines: Celebrating the Extraordinary Nature of Everyday Life

When you feel crappy.

Things end, People Leave and life goes on. You need the Bad things to feel the Good ones.
Things change. Stuff happens. And you know what? Life goes on. In fact, that’s what life is. So no one can say that this is the end or even an ending because it isn’t. It’s just life and you know what? I’m going to do my best to try and really live it.

Perfect You – Elizabeth Scott.