I came across this article on facebook and is definitely worth sharing. It’s level of reference and ‘relatability’ is high.
COMMENCEMENT ADDRESS OF SHERYL SANDBERG
- when life sucks you under, you can kick against the bottom, break the surface, and breathe again. I learned that in the face of the void — or in the face of any challenge — you can choose joy and meaning.
- The easy days ahead of you will be easy. It is the hard days — the times that challenge you to your very core — that will determine who you are. You will be defined not just by what you achieve, but by how you survive.
- Personalization – the belief that we are at fault. This is different from taking responsibility, which you should always do. This is the lesson that not everything that happens to us happens because of us.Not taking failures personally allows us to recover — and even to thrive.
- Pervasiveness – the belief that an event will affect all areas of your life. There’s no place to run or hide from the all-consuming sadness.There is more to life than your grief. The world keeps on revolving.
- Permanence – the belief that the sorrow will last forever. For months, no matter what I did, it felt like the crushing grief would always be there.
think about how much worse things could be.Finding gratitude and appreciation is key to resilience.find that gratitude — not just on the good days, but on the hard ones, when you will really need it.
I hope that you live your life — each precious day of it — with joy and meaning. I hope that you walk without pain — and that you are grateful for each step.
And when the challenges come, I hope you remember that anchored deep within you is the ability to learn and grow. You are not born with a fixed amount of resilience. Like a muscle, you can build it up, draw on it when you need it. In that process you will figure out who you really are — and you just might become the very best version of yourself.
I’m letting go of my comfort zone of 4 years. As I have discussed with my Mom, I also have to get used to the new treatment of what will be handed to me. Not to be an awful ass, but I was treated with High Respect and Awe followed me where I walked. — Now I will have to start all over again. No one will know my name, no one will know of my achievements, of my work and nobody even cares – but that’s how it will be now and I have to accept that and adapt. I will have to start with small talks (which I absolutely hate), I will have to smile and smile and smile to people (which is meh for me too) and like I said before, I have zero charm and I absolutely wouldn’t call myself a pleaser.
CHANGE IS SCARY. BUT ALLOWING FEAR TO STOP YOU FROM GROWING, EVOLVING AND PROGRESSING IS EVEN SCARIER.
I may not look like it, but I was scared to death during that time. I had hundreds of butterflies in my stomach, my hands were sweating and I was rehearsing some lines in my head while I also try to remember all their brands. Whew. With God’s Grace, I made it. 😀 Thank you. ❤
At some point, you have to make a decision. Boundaries don’t keep other people out. They fence you in. Life is messy. That’s how we’re made. So you can waste your lives drawing lines or you can live your life crossing them.
More often than not, we are too afraid to go out of our comfort zones just because we are already aware of what’s out there, because you want to lessen the possibility of life surprising you. But then, by drawing the line and avoiding what’s unknown, you haven’t seen what ther opportunities is out there for you, what other skills and learning you can learn from what’s outside, what is beyond your reach.
If you just have enough courage to take 1 step out of your fence, then maybe, just maybe, life gets so, so much better.
Moving beyond our comfort zones is how we can best learn and grow. To develop the courage to take a leap, and the skill and ability to actually pull it off.
There may be a lot of risks when taking the leap, a lot of uncertainties and a lot of doubts. But there are also a lot of possibilities waiting, untapped opportunities and new beginnings.
But in my case, it also involves monetary debt.
When will I ever get out?
The current entrepreneurial drumbeat is to do what feels good, fill your head with inspirational quotes, be happy, and everything will work out great. Focus on your strengths and ignore your weaknesses. If it sounds positive, then it must be good. If it sounds negative, then it must be bad.
Like it or not, that’s nothing but a bunch of utopian fluff.
All that glitters is not gold. Seeking instant gratification is never the path to long-term happiness and fulfillment. And in all likelihood, you’ll never achieve great things without facing tough obstacles, crashing and burning, and finally rising up from the ashes.
If you want to be successful, learn to challenge conventional wisdom and question your own beliefs. If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is. And when it comes to making important decisions, learn to look at things from different perspectives.
If you want to make it in a complex world, you have to be a multidimensional thinker.
– Steve Tobak