THOUGHTS: Buffer Time according to Linkedin’s CEO


During this quarantine, I have so much ‘me time’. But I also want to be productive so what I try to do most days, I check my emails and try to edit vlogs I can upload on youtube or write posts here or just read a book. For me, that’s me time.

But then, while I was checking my email this morning, I stumbled upon this article from INC where I have a subscription from.  The article read: . LinkedIn’s CEO Just Shared the Best Work at Home Advice You’ll Read Today. Of course, I had to click. What is the BEST Advice when WFH? right? It’s been more than a month of WFH. What could be new?

BUFFER TIME! 

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According to the CEO of Linkedin, Jeff Weiner – we all need to allot a buffer time to be able to maximize our days and not be overwhelmed with anxiety and for the benefit of our mental health. Furthermore, in his post in Linkedin, he further emphasized that Buffer Time does not only mean from work. It also means from everyone and everything else that’s been keeping us busy such as caring for babies, doing household chores, or simply paying off our bills.

Buffer Time is simply taking a breather and just relaxing. Don’t feel guilty as it will not only do you good but everyone else around you.

 A 10 minute walk, a 5 minute yoga or a meditation. Be strict with your buffer time. Schedule it and do not compromise.

BOOK REVIEW: Girl in Pieces by Kathleen Glasgow


GOODREADS: Charlotte Davis is in pieces. At seventeen she’s already lost more than most people lose in a lifetime. But she’s learned how to forget. The broken glass washes away the sorrow until there is nothing but calm. Every new scar hardens Charlie’s heart just a little more, yet it still hurts so much. It hurts enough to not care anymore, which is sometimes what has to happen before you can find your way back from the edge.

Honestly, it took me longer than I expected. It’s not a light read and to put it out there, this book and the story can be a trigger for those with history of self harm, depressed or any suicidal thoughts.

Spoiler Alert? At seventeen years old, Charlie wakes up in Creeley, a rehab center for women who self-harm. Her father committed suicide by drowning himself, her mother gave up on her, her best friend, a fellow cutter is brain dead, she lived on the street, got sold for sex and her only friend who she likes only wanted to be friends.

I learned that talking really helps and it goes both ways. It’s important to talk to someone. Don’t keep whatever hatred or tension or sadness pent up. Lend an ear. Offer to listen to. People around you may be struggling too. Always be kind, a little kindness goes a long way. We never really know what battles other people are fighting everyday.

This is also the reason why I feel like I need to highlight Michael, Ariel, Linus and Felix. They are such a ray of sunshine in Charlie’s recovery. It’s nice how Mikey offered to help right off the bat, after not being in touch for so long. The lives of Michael and Linus also showed hope that things do get better and people get better. Michael has been sober and is living his best life. He realized he was tired of all the nonsense. Ariel! She’s what everyone needs! A mother figure to knock some sense in all of us. Don’t you think? Linus also told Charlie that she still struggles all the time and that sometimes, she just needs to wait it out. Felix, on the other hand has been helping Charlie on keeping busy and helping her translate all her feelings into paper.

Just one bit about Riley though – I loved his gift. You know how you need not tell the person what you like because he sees you? He watches you and knows what you want, what’s important to you and all? Like how Riley gave her this art book because he saw how her eyes sparkled when she was looking at this particular book.

I’m also happy with the way things ended. It should not always be a happy love story. It’s nice that Charlie is getting her shit together and that she did not llet Riley’s on stage performance affect her progress. And Oh! I also need to discuss Blue’s significant part on Charlie’s recovery. She was consistently there for her, making her feel at home, having someone to come home to, to talk to after work, someone who actually wants to be with you and appreciates your company – and I must say, it’s such a huge impact on Charlie’s confidence and mental health.

It’s not an easy read because it was so raw and honest. The author clearly depicts how the mind of a cutter runs. It’s so sad and I felt so lonely in some parts of the book. It tackles about hope, loneliness, self-harm and belonging – which everyone can relate to. This book opens you to a whole new world of understanding.

It’s such a help. Reading this book tells you that you are not alone and it’s so good to know that other people are experiencing this too, and maybe, just sometimes – that is enough, to know that someone else is feeling those too.

  • I’m so lonely in the world I want to peel all of my flesh off and walk, just bone and gristle.
  • I cut because I cut. It’s as simple as that. I need release. I need to hurt myself more than the world can hurt me, and then I can comfort myself. Hurting yourself makes you feel better. That somehow you can rid yourself of pain by causing yourself pain.
  • You don’t know what it feels like to every day, every fucking day, be so lonely that this black hole inside is going to swallow you down.
  • The moral of the story Charlie is this, don’t let the cereal eat you. It’s only a fucking box of cereal, but it will eat you alive if you let it.
  • You own all of yourself, Charlie. Every last bit.
  • Everything and everybody that’s busted can be fixed.
  • The world hurts enough. Why fucking chase it down?
  • Sometimes you have to let stuff go if you want to move forward, you know?
  • How can you live in fear of your very self?
  • Stuff happens. You just gotta keep on truckin.
  • Everybody you meet is like a little mirror of you.
  • Cutting is a fence you build upon your own body to keep people out but then you cry to be touched. But the fence is barbed. What then?
  • You be you, Charlie. You be you.
  • We have to choose who we want to be, not let the situation choose us.

THOUGHTS: Birthday Q&A


I have been searching on our very friendly and reliable Pinterest on what I can write about for my birthday. And I have been clicking non-stop and there’s way too many ideas there. 😛 Haha.

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One of it was answering questions by spelling out your name. Here goes:

V E N I C E D E L A C R U Z

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V – Last time I cried

January 16, 2020. Work is a sensitive issue for me. I cried because of something my mom said. She was trying to make me feel better about ‘it’ – SG

E – My Best Friend

My Mom. She may not be the usual type of best friend whom I tell every single thing to but she has the most effect in me. She may be the only person who can make me okay (about the stated issue above). She’s my rock. She’s the person that I look up to. I know every child must think that his/her parents knows a lot about everything. But truly my Mom does. She has a way for anything and everything. ❤

N – Favorite place to shop at

I’m not sure if it’s the age of E-commerce or old age, making me lazy to shop around in actual stores or if it’s my husband who I feel is impatient with me when looking around — but honestly. I cannot remember the last time I intentionally shop in the mall. I’m rambling. My answer is Zalora. ❤ Brands: Zalora, Zalora Basics and Something Borrowed

I – Have any tattoos or piercings? 

Yes, two. Just in my ears. I would love a tatt. I don’t know how I’ll handle the pain given I have a low tolerance for it. Last year, I was pitching the idea of tatt rings to my husband, he agreed. But now, he’s lying and telling me that he did not agree. GRR. So yeah. But I still have to do some research. I’d like a symbolic one with a very deep meaning behind it.

C – Who I like and why I like them

Let me just make it fair by mentioning someone public figure. I will not be able to do justice if I tell you it’s a friend of mine since you will not have an idea of who that person is. So, at the top of my head? Colleen Hoover. I’m planning to read my Nth book of Coho. and I honestly have not read any of her books that I hated. There. ❤ I love her simply because her works are not a waste of time. ❤ and definitely deserves to be on the reread list.

E – My Best Friend

My ultimate best friend and my everything all rolled into one. You know how you have best friends who you don’t talk to everyday, you have your eating buddy, movie buddy, kalokohan buddy, singing buddy and all? He is it. He’s my everything. He’s the one I tell every single thing to, he’s the one I tell all the new jokes to, he’s the one I tag in all the memes, he’s the one I forward quotes on facebook to, he’s the one I talk to in viber, messenger, text and comment section all at once. My husband and my everything. ❤

D – Hardest thing I’ve ever been through

I’d like to say that I’m one of the lucky ones who have not experienced any traumatizing death or calamity in life. For me, it’s the everyday battle of loving one’s self entirely, being content and happy.

E – My Best Friend

This is the third spot for best friends and I wouldn’t want to single out just one person when several of them deserve a spot. I’d like to mention most of my closest and consistent best friends are from High School. You know who you are. They are all so dear to me yet different altogether. (One very brand conscious and classy who laughs so loud, One who swears way too loud and punches way too much, One who doesn’t seem to have any bad attitude and loves to say truelaloo, One who remembers every single detail and advises like a licensed Psych)

L – One of my Insecurities

Easy. It all comes down to this. – Not being good enough. I didn’t pass the interview, because I’m not good enough. I didn’t get the promotion, because I’m not good enough. He has a crush on someone else, because I’m not good enough. I didn’t win, because I’m not good enough. I wasn’t chosen, because I’m not good enough. My skills is not good enough, my experiences is not good enough. I’m not good enough. I really have to work on this.

A – Why my last relationship ended

I wouldn’t say it was toxic. For me, at least. To put it bluntly, the relationship ended because that person blames the relationship for every single bad thing that’s happening in her life. Talk about Buddhism and karma.

C – Who I like and why I like them

Again, a public figure although I’m not sure if you know her. It’s Steph Claire Smith. She has the most amazing body without being bonesy, the most angelic smile and she sounds so genuine and true in her IG Videos. ❤ (P.S. Love her wedding gown)

R – Favorite Song at the moment

Best Days by Matt White is currently on replay since I used the same song in the SDE that I was editing. ❤ I’ll share it here within the week. 🙂

U – Where I want to be right now

I always want a getaway during my birthday. Unfortunately, there’s way too many things happening in the world right now – Taal’s pending explosion, Corona Virus and the like. So if you’re sincerely asking me where I want to be right now? I want to be in one the pretty Airbnbs in Bali with the floating fruit breakfast with my hubby. ❤

Z – How are you

If I’m being honest, I’m not at my best.  I feel so defeated. It’s been another year and I feel like I have not accomplished anything in one year. But physically, I have no ailments so I’m still grateful. 😀