BOOK: Barking up the Wrong Tree by Eric Barker: Chapter 6


The Surprising science behind why everything you know about success is mostly wrong

Chapter 6: Work, Work, Work or Work Life Balance? How to find harmony between home and the office, courtesy of spiderman, Buddhist-monks, Albert Einstein, professional wrestlers and Genghis khan.

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  • Ted Williams: ‘Hundreds of kids have the natural ability to become great ballplayers but nothing but practice, practice, practice will bring out that ability.’ It wasn’t mere hours that made Williams so great, It was how he spent those hours. He was a perfectionist, constantly trying to improve.
  • Does all hard work produce success? Yes. People who wish to do so must organize their lives around a single enterprise. They must be monomaniacs, even megalomaniacs about their pursuits. They must start early, labor continuously an never give up the cause.
  • Voluminous productivity is the rule and not the exception and individuals who have made some noteworthy contributions. To be the very best, you must be a little nuts in the effort department. Hours alone are not enough. Those hours need to be hard. You need to be pushing yourself to be better.
  • Hard Work creates talent and talent plus time creates success.
  • Libri aut liberi —- Books or Children. If you’re very serious about creating things, you sacrifice family.
  • The people who survive stress the best are the ones who actually increase their social investments in the middle of the stress, which is the opposite of what most of us do. We’re more likely to have faith in the people we joke around with.
  • Don’t do more work if you can do better work.
  • Ralph Waldo Emerson: We are always getting ready to live, but never living.

Four Metrics that matter most: 

  1. Happiness – having feelings of pleasure or contentment in and about your life. (Enjoying)
  2. Achievement – achieving accomplishments that compare favorably against similar goals others have strive for. (Winning)
  3. Significance – having a positive impact on people you care about. (Counting to others)
  4. Legacy – establishing your values or accomplishments in ways that help others find future success. (Extending)

 

Most of us don’t take the time. We’re reactive, like the tribes of the steppes. And the problem with work life balance is that the old limits are no longer in place for us. We can’t rely on the world to tell us when to power down or shift gears. It’s on you now. That means you need a plan, or you’re always going to feel like you’re not doing enough. Your war is first and last with yourself.

For a WLB life, 

  • Track your time
  • Talk to your boss
  • Schedule everything
  • Control your context.
  • End the day right and on time

BOOK: THE NEXT PERSON YOU MEET IN HEAVEN by MITCH ALBOM


GOODREADS:  Fifteen years ago, in Mitch Albom’s beloved novel, The Five People You Meet in Heaven, the world fell in love with Eddie, a grizzled war veteran- turned-amusement park mechanic who died saving the life of a young girl named Annie. Eddie’s journey to heaven taught him that every life matters. Now, in this magical sequel, Mitch Albom reveals Annie’s story.  The accident that killed Eddie left an indelible mark on Annie. It took her left hand, which needed to be surgically reattached. Injured, scarred, and unable to remember why, Annie’s life is forever changed by a guilt-ravaged mother who whisks her away from the world she knew. Bullied by her peers and haunted by something she cannot recall, Annie struggles to find acceptance as she grows. When, as a young woman, she reconnects with Paulo, her childhood love, she believes she has finally  found happiness.  As the novel opens, Annie is marrying Paulo. But when her wedding night day ends in an unimaginable accident, Annie finds herself on her own heavenly journey—and an inevitable reunion with Eddie, one of the five people who will show her how her life mattered in ways she could not have fathomed.

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Yes, this is a sequel to one of my favorite books, The Five People you meet in Heaven. No, it’s not what I expected. Yes, I was disappointed. No, I don’t recommend it. Mind you, I LOVE the books of Mitch Albom — ALL of them. But this one, really. I was down to page 40 already but there’s no compelling urge to finish the story. It was just more of how did we meet and all.

Nonetheless, here are some worthy lines from the book:

  • All endings are also beginnings.
  • No story sits by itself. Our lives connect like threads on a loom, interwoven in ways we never realize.
  • When we build, we build on the shoulders of those who came before us. And when we fall apart, those who came before us help put us back together.
  • Have you ever wondered how many living things there are on earth? People. Animals. Birds. Fish. It makes you wonder how anyone could feel lonely. Yet humans do. It’s a shame.
  • We fear loneliness, but loneliness itself does not exist. It has no form. It is merely a shadow that falls over us. And just as shadows die when light changes, that sad feeling can depart once we see the truth. The end of loneliness is when someone needs you.
  • Don’t divine things happen everyday?
  • No act done for someone else is ever wasted.
  • This is the disarming power of children, their need makes you forget your own.
  • Did you ever think about getting a moment back? A moment where you can’t believe how unimportant what you were doing was, and how critical the thing you missed would be?
  • Just because you see things straight doesn’t mean you see them in time.
  • What’s time between a mother and her daughter? Never too much, never enough.
  • We embrace our scars more than our healing.
  • When you truly love someone, you’ll find a way back.

 

I’ll always love Mitch Albom. I didn’t like this current book but it’s not enough for me not to want to read his next one. 😀 Mitch, I’ll look forward to your next book. ❤