BOOK: THE RETURN OF THE YOUNG PRINCE


From what I remember, the first and last time I read The Little Prince was when I was still in Highschool which was about 13 years ago. But the book is such a classic so I had no choice but to read the book that wants us to remember the young little prince that reminded us that we were all a child once and that we should always carry that child with us.

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Who will ever forget the seemingly naive and child-like purity in him? I think Roemmers tries hard to portray the simple life altering questions of the young prince before. He strives to simplify the story thru conversations with the young prince and teach him about life thru metaphors and instilling some pictures in the book. However, it still comes out as a heavy conversation for a child to understand.

Highlights of the Book: 

  • All those warnings to protect us as adults, in fact distance us so much from others that touching someone or even looking them in the eye has us uncomfortable and anxious.
  • If you’re convinced you can do it, then you most certainly can. But if you believe you can’t, that practically guarantees you won’t manage it.
  • Humans have developed a great capacity for justifying themselves. They blame their flaws on a lack of love or education or on all the suffering they’ve had to deal with.
  • The longer we delay in confronting the obstacle in our path, the bigger the difficulties grow and the smaller we become.
  • We should always be ready to abandon the comfort of our position and face our problems again and again until we’re satisfied we’e resolved them and make progress.
  • The best way to solve a problem is to think of it only as a difficulty. Then you’ll be able to approach it with a positive attitude that sharpens the mind and beats a path towards more solutions in the future.
  • Be thankful for difficulties as that will allow you to grow and to keep moving up the path to perfection.
  • Sometimes you’ll discover that when you change your point of view, the obstacle disappears because often the difficulty is in us – and it’s nothing but our rigid, short sighted way of seeing things.
  • You create the reality around you.
  • Before we improve anything on this world, there is a lot we need to improve in ourselves. There’s only one way of changing the world and that’s by changing yourself.
  • Whatever cards you’re dealt with, you should be grateful for a life that gives you the opportunity to evolve. Fate always finds a way to make us learn the things we resist the most, the things we least want to accept.
  • All of us have to go on an arduous journey into the depths of our being. And no conquest can offer us a greater reward.
  • There’s always something we can do, even if we don’t believe it ourselves.
  • How do I grow up without becoming serious? When we’re young, we go out into the world and find it’s very different from the one we got to know through our parents. — Injustice, violence, shallowness and lack of love torment us. And instead of spreading light and joy around us, our spirit starts to tremble in the face of reality’s painful but unstoppable advance. As more importance is given to having and not having, the search is aimed at something that lies outside of us which allows us to avoid having to look inside ourselves.
  • The most important thing is to be as attentive and aware as possible, with our senses awakened and our ability to love utterly intact, so that we can exist right here and now, and enjoy life and be creative, trapped in neither the past nor the future.
  • Differences are the first things that attract us and when we admire that, we make it unique. It’s the same tings that interest us and complement us are also used to separate and divide us. The important thing is that you don’t stop being yourself in order to fit with what other people want. We’re all born princes, it’s just some don’t know it and others forget. My kingdom only exists in me.
  • If you manage to communicate something truly important even if it is only to the small group around you, you can be sure that the light will forge its way through a whole horizon of shadows just as the glow of a distant star travels thousand of years of darkness to reach us.
  • Don’t betray your desires and don’t bury them inside yourself until they die of starvation. Learn to bring what’s real together with what you yearn for. In all that you do, give the best of yourself so that your spirit is returned to you, and offer the best of yourself to each person so that they an return your love. You’ll see that the world will become a magnifying mirror, reflecting back at you everything that you gave without self interest. Because the only way to surround yourself with smiles is to smile and the only way to surround yourself with love is to give it to others. 
  • Love yourself, and you’ll be able to love others. Love your dreams so that you can use them to build a world that is warm and beautiful, full of smiles and hugs. If you really believe it, and build it up bit by bit, that world will become real for you. And it will be the reward for all your worthy endeavors. It’s only people who truly love are like stars, and their light keeps shining on us after they’re gone.
  • Any change means leaving a part of ourselves behind. It’s the only way to grow and make progress. It’s painful but we know that the experience will enrich us. As we go little by little, we let go of everything dispensable and hold on only to what is essential. The truth is that without difficulties along the way, it would be impossible to make progress as human beings and discover our true nature. It is at really critical moments that the best of us comes to light.
  • To live better is to draw fully on everything that life offers, and be open to anything that might enrich us emotionally, materially or spiritually. Happiness comes from being and not having. If we were perfect, if we had everything, how will we relate to each other? The simplest and most direct path to happiness is making the people around us happy.
  • Ultimately, if you dedicate your life to finding the best in people, you’ll end uup finding the best in yourself.

 

  1. What is a problem? A problem is like a door you haven’t got a key to.
  • The first thing to do is to see if the problem really is yours, if it’s your path that it’s blocking. If the problem is really yours, then you have to find the right key and put it into the lock in the right sort of way. Some people don’t even find the key – and not for the lack of imagination but because they are unwilling to try two or three times with the keys that they have, and sometimes they don’t try at all. They want someone to hand them the key or even worse, to come and open the door for them.  What happens to people who don’t manage to open the door? There’s no point in losing our tempers, banging on the door and doing ourselves damage.  How  do I find the right key? If you keep on asking your question over and over again, you’ll always end up finding the answer. If you persevere and try all the keys you’ve got, eventually, you’ll open the door.

2. How can you love yourself while knowing your own flaws? 

  • To love and forgive yourself, it’s enough to want to become a better person and to accept that you have always done the best that you could. True love is free and knows no limits It doesn’t seek to satisfy its own needs but concentrates on what’s good for the loved one. If you search truthfully, you will end up finding a reason to love yourself and you will discover that you are a unique and wonderful being.

 

Ultimately, if you want a book that will teach you a two or three about living the right kind of life, pick this book up. But if you’re looking for something that resembles how the little prince is written, you’ll be disappointed.

BOOK: TUESDAYS WITH MORRIE BY MITCH ALBOM


Do I wither up and disappear or do I make the best of my time left?

Are you giving to your community? Are you at peace with yourself?

Are you trying to be as human as you can be?

This, I believe is a straight up classroom type life lessons as portrayed by Mitch himself and his tuesday conversations with his previous professor who is currently battling cancer. Here, Morrie asks Mitch to accompany him to his last days as he teaches each and everyone of us how to live by learning how to die.

*** second book to re-read! ❤

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Accept what you are able to do and what you are not able to do. Accept the past as past without denying it or discarding it. Learn to forgive yourself and others. Don’t assume that it’s too late to get involved.

Dying is only one thing to be sad over. Living unhappily is something else.

The culture that we have does not make people feel good about themselves. We’re teaching the wrong things. And you have to be strong enough to say it the culture doesn’t work for you, don’t buy it. Create your own.

The tension of opposites? Life is a series of pulls back and forth. You want to do one thing but you are bound to do something else. Something hurts you, yet you know it shouldn’t. Most of us live somewhere in the middle. So which side wins? Love wins. Love always wins.

So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half – asleep, even when they’re busy doing things they think are important. This is because they are chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning to your life is to devote yourself to loving others, to your community and to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.

I. WORLD

Death is the great equalizer, the one big thing that can finally make strangers shed a tear for one another. The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love and to let it come in. Love is the only rational act.

II. FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF

I give myself a good cry when I need it. But then I concentrate on all the good things still in my life. A thing is only horrible if you see it that way.

III. REGRETS

Is this all? Is this all I want? Is something missing? We all need teachers in our lives.

IV. DEATH

Everyone knows they’re going to die. but nobody believes it. If we did, we would do things differently. To know you’re going to die and to be prepared for it at any time. That way, you can actually be more involved in your life while you’re living. Once you learn how to die, you learn how to live.

V. FAMILY

There is no foundation, no secure ground upon which people may stand today if it isn’t the family. Family is not about justt love but letting others know there’s someone who is watching out for them.

VI. EMOTIONS

Don’t  cling to things because everything is impermanent. Detachment doesn’t mean you don’t let the experience penetrate you. On the contrary, you let it penetrate you fully. That’s how you are able to leave it. Wash yourself with emotion. It won’t hurt you. It will only help.

VII. FEAR OF AGING

It’s like going back to being a child again. We all know how to be a child. It’s inside all of us. It’s just remembering how to enjoy it. Aging is not just decay. It’s growth. It’s more than the negative you’re going to die, it’s also the positive that you understand you’re going to die and that you live a better life because of it. You have to find what’s good and true and beautiful as it is now. Looking back makes you competitive. How can I be envious of where you are — when I’ve been there myself?

VIII. MONEY

Money is not a substitute for tenderness, and power is not substitute for tenderness. Know what really gives you satisfaction? Offering others what you have to give. Devote yourself to loving others, and devote yourself to your community and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning. Only an open heart will allow you to float equally between everyone. Do the kind of things that come from the heart. When you do, you won’t be dissatisfied, you won’t be envious, you won’t be longing for somebody else’s things.

IX. LOVE GOES ON

Love is how you stay alive, even after you’re gone. As long as we can love each other, and remember the feeling of love we had, we can die without ever really going away. All the love you created is still there. You live on — in the hearts of everyone you have touched and nurtured. Death ends a life, not a relationship.

X. MARRIAGE

In marriage, you get tested. You find out who you are, who the other person is, and how you can accommodate or don’t. If you don’t respect the  other person, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. If you don’t know how to compromise, if you can’t talk openly about what goes on between you and if you don’t have a common set of values in life, you’re gonna have trouble — and the biggest one? your belief in the importance of your marriage.

XI. CULTURE

The big things — how we think, what we value– those you must choose yourself. You can’t let anyone or society determine those for you. Every society has its own problems. The way you do it, is not to run away. You have to work at creating your own culture. No matter where you live, the biggest defect we human beings have is our shortsightedness. We don’t see what we could be. We should be looking at our potential, stretching ourselves into everything we can become. We all need others.

Be compassionate. Take responsibility for each other. If we only learned those lessons, this world would be so much a better place.

XII. FORGIVENESS

Forgive yourself before you die and forgive others. Make peace.

 

BOOK: All your perfects by Colleen Hoover


Goodreads: Quinn and Graham’s perfect love is threatened by their imperfect marriage. The memories, mistakes, and secrets that they have built up over the years are now tearing them apart. The one thing that could save them might also be the very thing that pushes their marriage beyond the point of repair.

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This is what scares me in a marriage. How can two perfectly in love couple just fall out of love? Can a relationship stay the same if both work on it hard enough? Infidelity is one but how can a person who used to give you so much contentment and happiness be the person you don’t want to see next to you in the morning? Two, children is not the sole goal to a marriage. Why can’t it be two people who wants to commit to each other for the rest of their lives call it a happy marriage whether or not they have kids? Children are an amazing gift of god, but I think it is only a by-product of the love the couple has for each other. It’s not only kids that keeps a marriage alive.

Anyway, despite the whirlwind of emotions this book cost me, I was able to finish it in one night and one day. That’s just how much I want to keep reading and rooting for their marriage to work out. I won’t spoil but Graham less the infidelity is just amazing, how much he loves his wife. And his tear jerking letters. I promise to love you more when…

With my marriage? I also hope to weather Category 5 moments or even the stronger ones. Fingers crossed. ❤ Colleen, you did it again! You really are one of my favorite authors! ❤

The SAD Parts: 

  • He used to look at me with amusement and awe. Now his eyes just flood me with pity.
  • It’s strange how I can miss a person who is still here. It’s strange that I can miss making love to a person I still have sex with
  • Should he be punished by my infertility? He says kids don’t matter to him as much as I matter to him, but I know he says that because he doesn’t want to hurt me. But ten or twenty years from now, he’ll resent me.
  • Just because we used to be perfect for each other doesn’t mean we’re perfect together now.

The GRAHAM Parts: 

  • Graham: Nothing about you is unimpressive.
  • Graham: You are so fucking beautiful.
  • Graham: Be my wife, Quinn. Weather the category 5 moments with me.
  • Graham: I didn’t marry you just for the good years. I didn’t marry you just for the amazing chemistry we have. And I’d be foolish to think our marriage could last an eternity without a few tough moments. I know one thing with complete certainty, I love you more this year than any year that came before it. And as much as I promise to be your pillar of strength for as long as you need one. I’m sure I will sometimes fail you. My whole purpose in life is to make you happy and sometimes I feel like I’m unable to do that anymore. Sometimes I give up on myself. But I just pray that you don’t give up on me.
  • Graham: I promise to love you more when you’re hurting than when you’re happy.  I promise to love you more when we’re poor than when we’re swimming in riches. I promise to love you more when you’re crying than when you’re laughing. I promise to love you more when you’re sick than when you’re healthy. I promise to love you more when you hate me than when you love me.

Some lines from the book: 

  • Sometimes when people change, it’s not always noticeable in a marriage, because the couple changes together, in the same direction. But sometimes people change in opposite direction.
  • The problem is, love and happiness are not concordant. One can exist without the other.
  • It’s hard to hold one to someone who has long since slipped away.
  • When you associate yourself with another person for so long, it’s difficult becoming your own person again.
  • Ten years from now on August eight, I’m going to roll over in our bed at midnight and whisper, ‘I told you so’ in your ear.
  • Smiling like he just conquered he world.
  • My husband’s heart is my saving grace.
  • He’s just the right amount of confident and cocky. But he balances that out with his reverent side. He’s funny and smart and he comes on way too strong, but it all feels so genuine.
  • Sadness is like a spiderweb. You don’t see it until you’re caught up in it, and then you have to claw at yourself to try to break free.
  • We’re all full of flaws. Hundreds of them. They’re like tiny holes all over our skin. Sometimes we shine too much light on our own flaws. But there are some people who try to ignore their own flaws by shining light on other people’s to the point that the other person’s flaws become their only focus. They pick at them, little by little, until they rip wide open and that’s all we become to them. One giant, gaping flaw.
  • When you meet someone who is good for you, they won’t fill you with insecurities by focusing on your flaws. They’ll fill you with inspiration, because they’ll focus on all the best parts of you.
  • Sometimes people meet and none of the surface-level-stuff matters because they see past all that.
  • It’s weird. I used to be fine when I was alone. But now that I have you, I’m lonely when I’m alone.
  • It wouldn’t matter if that consisted of a conversation, a kiss or a three day fuck-a-thon. Betrayal hurts the same on any level when it’s your husband doing the betraying.
  • A good husband stands at his wife’s side through sickness and health. A good husband – a husband who truly loves his wife – wouldn’t cheat on her and then blame his infidelity on the act that he’s lonely.
  • It’s funny how you can be so happy with someone and love them so much it creates an underlying sense of fear in you that you never knew before them. The fear of losing them. The fear of them getting hurt.
  • Be whatever you want to be. Be a soldier, if you want. Or a lawyer or a CEO or a housewife. The only thing you shouldn’t be is embarrassed.
  • No matter how much you love someone – the capacity of that love is meaningless if it outweighs your capacity to forgive.
  • What’s the secret to such a perfect marriage? Our marriage hasn’t been perfect. No marriage is perfect. There were times when she gave up on us. There were even more times when I gave up on us. The secret to our longevity is that we never gave up at the same time.
  • The sight of him alone instantly calms me.
  • The longer it takes, we might even appreciate it a little more. Gratitude is born in the struggle.
  • But I promise you I am loving you harder this year than any year that came before it.

THOUGHTS: BILLIONS TV SHOW


This may as well be my second favorite show next to Suits in their own room for brains and ego genre. I am not being overly dramatic but if you haven’t watched the show, you better fucking start now.. Why am I hooked?

  • There’s a twist in every episode. (May it be Chuck’s betrayal to his bestfriend or Axe’s lie to his wife, firing of Bryan or the betrayal of Taylor – like one thing happens one after the other..
  • Like One big ball of ego is running the show
  • A ton of testosterone floating in every scene.
  • Ben Kim’s elevator dance
  • Seeing that there’s a strong female lead character who only uses words to rebuild a man
  • Learning a thing or two such as Catherine the Great and horse penises or the matador perspective.
  • Because ultimately, who doesn’t want to learn about wealth and power?
  • Or Lara’s principle to teach her children a life not ruled by money
  • And heck, it’s in New York City!
  • How can you even choose between Axe and Chuck? No? Because you can’t! But I’m secretly rooting for Axe anyway.

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Some good ‘ol lines from the big ball of penises:

  • What’s the point of having FUCK YOU MONEY if you never say FUCK YOU?
  • When I pull a deal off the table, I leave Nagasaki behind
  • The enemy worse than a dangerous man with unlimited resources is one without nothing to lose
  • Whenever you can, put a company in your mouth
  • The best way to bond with someone isn’t doing a favor, it’s asking for one.
  • You don’t have to outswim the shark. You just have to outswim the guy you’re scuba diving with
  • What we do has consequences, intended and unintended. The decisions we make, the actions we bring, have weight.
  • I like nightmares. When I wake up. They leave me deeply valuing my reality
  • Become anti fragile or die.
  • The fact that you can’t fully understand that doesn’t mean he’s wrong. It just means you haven’t gone beyond your own limits.
  • We all mask certain emotions. Bjorn Borg did. Eventually it will end up costing you everything
  • You were wrong. Im not human. Im a machine. Im a fucking terminator.
  • Only people with money forget about money
  • They may be cheering now. But believe me they are dying to boo.
  • Nobody leaves a negotiation happy.
  • Only a fool doesn’t look at the downside but only a coward allows it to dissuade him from that which he knows he must do.
  • But either way, GET OFF MY DICK..
  • The great never sacrifice the important for the urgent.
  • Hate is nature’s most perfect energy source. It’s endlessly renewable.

I may have to admit it – I think the character of axe is insanely hot. Brains and being a douche? Oh yes Sir! ❤

BOOK: DAVID & GOLIATH by Malcolm Gladwell


Giants are not what we think they are. The same qualities that appear to give them strength are often the sources of great weakness. And the fact of being an underdog can change people in ways that we often fail to appreciate; it can open doors and create opportunities and educate and enlighten and make possible what might otherwise have seemed unthinkable.

Power can come in other forms – in breaking rules, in substituting speed and surprise for strength. The powerful and the strong are not always what they seem.

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CHAPTER ONE: VIVEK RANADIVE

  • There is a set of advantages that have to do with material resources, and there is a set that have to do with the absence of material resource – and the reason underdogs win as often as they do is that the latter is sometimes every bit the equal of the former.
  • The difference is the willingness to try harder than anyone else.

CHAPTER TWO: TERESA DE BRITO

His father started out by earning money for a living. He’s trying to teach his children how to be more frugal and to be more grateful and how to earn the money that you spend. But as a parent, he wants the best for his children and for them not to experience what he experienced. But where do you draw the line? It’s hard to teach your children how to earn their own money if you have the financial capacity already.(He who doesn’t have it, does it and he who has it, misuses it.)

  • ‘Any fool can spend money. But to earn it and save it and defer gratification – then you learn to value it differently.
  • Scarcity was a great motivator.
  • What is possible isn’t always right.
  • It is good to be bigger and stronger than your opponent. It is not so good to be so big and strong that you are sitting duck for a rock fired.

CHAPTER THREE: CAROLINE SACKS

‘If I’d gone to the University of Maryland, I’d still be in science’. Did you know that there is a higher percentage rate of people succeeding in life who came from little ponds? People from the highest institutions tend to think lowly of themselves compared to other people when you have the big pond as an environment.

  • Did they want to be a little fish in a big pond of a Big Fish in a little pond?
  • There is a point at which money and resources stop making our lives better and start making them worse.
  • We strive for the best and attached great importance to getting into the finest institutions we can. But rarely do we stop and consider whether the most prestigious of institutions is always in our best interest.
  • The challenge was to advance without worrying about opinion.
  • There are times and places where it is better to be a big fish in a little pond than a little fish in a big pond, where the apparent disadvantage of being an outsider in a marginal world turns out not to be a disadvantage at all.
  • How you feel about your abilities – your academic self-concept – in the context of your classroom shapes your willingness to tackle challenges and finish difficult tasks. It’s a crucial element in your motivation and confidence.
  • Sometimes, it’s not just how smart you are. It’s how smart you feel relative to the other people in the room.
  • We take it for granted that the big pond expands opportunities, just as we take it for granted that a smaller class is always a better class. We have a definition in our heads of what an advantage is – and the definition isn’t right. It means that we misread battles between underdogs and giants. It means that we underestimate how much freedom there can be in what looks like a disadvantage. It’s the little pond that maximizes your chances to do whatever you want.

THE THEORY OF DESIRABLE DIFFICULTY

2 Corinthians 12: 7-10 ‘I was given a thorn in my flesh, a messenger of Satan, to torment me. Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me. But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. 10 That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong’

CHAPTER FOUR: DAVID BOIES

Dyslexia: There’s a possibility that they succeeded, in part, because of their disorder – that they learned something I their struggle that proved to be an enormous advantage.

  • Capitalization Learning is we get good at something by building on the strengths that we are naturally given. But desirable difficulties have the opposite logic. They excel by making their lives harder, by forcing them to compensate for something that had been taken away from them.
  • It requires that you overcome your insecurity and humiliation.
  • What is learned out of necessity is inevitably more powerful than the learning that comes easily.

CHAPTER FIVE: EMILY JAY FREIREICH

When a bomb falls, it divides the population into three groups: the dead, the near misses and the remote misses. When you are the remote miss, there’s a feeling of excitement with a flavour of invulnerability. A near miss leaves you traumatized while a remote miss makes you think you are invincible.

  • We are prone to be afraid of being afraid and the conquering of fear produces exhilaration. The contrast between the previous apprehension and the present relief and feeling of security promotes self-confidence that is the very father and mother of courage.
  • The idea of desirable difficulty suggest that not all difficulties are negative.
  • Traumatic experiences can have two completely different effects on people: the same event can be profoundly damaging to one group while leaving another better off.
  • In certain circumstances, a virtue can be made of necessity.
  • Courage is not something that you already have that makes you brave when the tough times start. Courage is what you earn when you’ve been through the tough times and you discover they aren’t so tough after all.
  • It is possible to emerge from even the darkest hell healed and restored.

CHAPTER SIX: WYATT WALKER

De Rabbit is de slickest o’ all de animals de lawd ever made. Martin Luther King’s war from equality among the people of color.

  • The figure of the trickster hero appears in the form of a seemingly innocuous animal that triumphs over others much larger than himself through cunning and guile.
  • The weak could compete in even the most lopsided of contests if they were willing to use their wits.
  • Dyslexics compensate for their disability by developing other skills that at times can rove highly advantageous.
  • There is an unexpected freedom that comes from having nothing to lose.
  • Our definition of what right is, as often as not, simply the way that people in positions of privilege close the door on those on the outside.
  • You got to use what you got.

CHAPTER SEVEN: ROSEMARY LAWLER

  • The Principle of Legitimacy is based on three things. First, people who are asked to obey authority have to feel like they have a voice. Second, the law has to be predictable. There has to be a reasonable expectation that rules tomorrow are going to be roughly the same rules as the rules today. Third, authority has to be fair. It can’t treat one group differently from another.

CHAPTER EIGHT: WILMA DERKSEN

We have all done something dreadful in our lives, or have felt the urge to.

A daughter was killed in a robbery in front of a restaurant. The dad reacted by imposing Three Strikes law when it comes to crime and imprisonment.

  • All we’re looking for are results and the results are my greatest reward.
  • The logic of the inverted U curve is that the same strategies that work really well at first stop working past a certain point.
  • If you lock up too many people for too long, the collateral damage outweighs the benefit.
  • There comes a point where the best intentioned application of power and authority begins to backfire.

CHAPTER NINE: ANDRE TROCME

  • The excessive use of force creates legitimacy problems, and force without legitimacy leads to defiance, not submission.

 

To finally summarize this book:

If you take away the gift of reading, you create the gift of listening. If you bomb a city, you leave behind death and destruction. But you create a community of remote misses. If you take away a mother or a father you cause suffering and despair. But one time in ten, out of that despair rises and indomitable force. You see the giant and the shepherd in the valley of Elah and your eye is drawn to the man with a sword and shield and the glittering armor. But so much of what is beautiful and valuable in the world comes from the shepherd, who has more strength and purpose than we ever imagine.

 What I love about this book is that it made me question what I already thought I knew, especially the bombing philosopy and the inverted u curve. Read it too, you’ll love it!

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I am currently reading David & Goliath by Malcolm Gladwell.

”Giants are not what we think they are. The same qualities that appear to give them strength are often the sources of great weakness. ”

Much of what we consider valuable in our world arises out of (these) one-sided conflicts. Because the act of facing overwhelming odds, produces greatness and beauty.

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BOOK: GOODBYE DAYS by JEFF ZENTNER


What if you could spend one last day with someone you lost?

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GOODREADS: ‘One day Carver Briggs had it all—three best friends, a supportive family, and a reputation as a talented writer at his high school, Nashville Academy for the Arts.

The next day he lost it all when he sent a simple text to his friend Mars, right before Mars, Eli, and Blake were killed in a car crash.

Now Carver can’t stop blaming himself for the accident, and he’s not the only one. Eli’s twin sister is trying to freeze him out of school with her death-ray stare. And Mars’s father, a powerful judge, is pressuring the district attorney to open a criminal investigation into Carver’s actions.

Luckily, Carver has some unexpected allies: Eli’s girlfriend, the only person to stand by him at school; Dr. Mendez, his new therapist; and Blake’s grandmother, who asks Carver to spend a Goodbye Day with her to share their memories and say a proper goodbye to his friend.’

  • Death steals everything except our stories
  • Funny how people move through this world leaving little pieces of their story with the people they meet, for them to carry. Makes you wonder what’d happen if all those people put their puzzle pieces together.
  • Sometimes pain makes us do bizarre things.
  • – I like the relationship of Blake and the grandma. How he spent saturday morning with her fishing although they are bad at fishing, just so they can bond together.
  • What do you think it takes to keep you out of heaven?
  • I think the only person who knows someone completely is that person. And even then, not always.
  • We go about our lives doing everything we can to keep from looking silly.
  • No one knows how anybody lives through anything. People just do.
  • I wish I’d held on to every moment with him the way a drowning person holds a life preserver.
  • What if there’s a god who’s so much bigger and more powerful than anything that he build universes like ships in bottles, and no matter how far you look or reach, you can’t see or tough outside the bottle?
  • For the most part, you don’t hold the people you love in your heart because they rescued you from drowning or pulled you from a burning house. Mostly you hold them in your heart because they save you, in a million quiet and perfect ways from being alone.
  • Nobility has a funny way of disappearing when accountability raises its ugly head.
  • Have you ever done something similar to this with your own parents? where you tell them who you are? 

BOOK: THE UPSIDE OF UNREQUITED LOVE by BECKY ALBERTALLI


Third book for 2018. ❤

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Goodreads: Seventeen-year-old Molly Peskin-Suso knows all about unrequited love—she’s lived through it twenty-six times. She crushes hard and crushes often, but always in secret. Because no matter how many times her twin sister, Cassie, tells her to woman up, Molly can’t stomach the idea of rejection. So she’s careful. Fat girls always have to be careful.

Then a cute new girl enters Cassie’s orbit, and for the first time ever, Molly’s cynical twin is a lovesick mess. Meanwhile, Molly’s totally not dying of loneliness—except for the part where she is. Luckily, Cassie’s new girlfriend comes with a cute hipster-boy sidekick. Will is funny and flirtatious and just might be perfect crush material. Maybe more than crush material. And if Molly can win him over, she’ll get her first kiss and she’ll get her twin back. 

There’s only one problem: Molly’s coworker Reid. He’s an awkward Tolkien superfan with a season pass to the Ren Faire, and there’s absolutely no way Molly could fall for him. Right?

  • This tiny thread connecting me to a total stranger, it’s the kind of thing that makes the universe feel smaller.
  • I wish I were the kind of person who knows how to fill a silence.
  • But that’s the thing I’m most afraid  of. Not mattering.. Existing in a world that doesn’t care who I am.
  • My heartbeat is probably making those giant zigzags.
  • Fun exists wherever you make it.
  • Sometimes that’s just what happens. People grow apart.
  • There’s something really badass about truly, honestly not caring about what people think about you.
  • We like who we like. Who cares if someone doesn’t get it? That’s a good thing. Less competition.
  • I don’t think my heart wants to stay in my chest.
  • I am entirely made of butterflies.
  • Change is fucking hard. It’s fucking tragic. Change can go fuck itself. Because that’s the thing about change. It’s so painfully normal. It’s the most basic of all tragedies.
  • But you know, there’s an upside there. Because when you spend so much time just intensely wanting something — and then you actually get it? It’s magic. It’s butterflies and haziness and heart eyes, but underneath all that .. there’s this bass line of I can’t believe this. I can’t believe this is me. I can’t quite articulate the sweetness of that feeling. It’s finding out the door you were banging on is finally unlocked. 

BOOK: IT’S NOT LIKE IT’S A SECRET by MISA SUGIURA


It’s my second book for the year and it awakened my high school and college memories.

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Goodreads: Sixteen-year-old Sana Kiyohara has too many secrets. Some are small, like how it bothers her when her friends don’t invite her to parties. Some are big, like that fact that her father may be having an affair. And then there’s the one that she can barely even admit to herself—the one about how she might have a crush on her best friend.

When Sana and her family move to California she begins to wonder if it’s finally time for some honesty, especially after she meets Jamie Ramirez. Jamie is beautiful and smart and unlike anyone Sana’s ever known. There are just a few problems: Sana’s new friends don’t trust Jamie’s crowd; Jamie’s friends clearly don’t want her around anyway; and a sweet guy named Caleb seems to have more-than-friendly feelings for her. Meanwhile, her dad’s affair is becoming too obvious to ignore anymore.

Sana always figured that the hardest thing would be to tell people that she wants to date a girl, but as she quickly learns, telling the truth is easy… what comes after it, though, is a whole lot more complicated.

Some of my favorite lines from the movie:

  • With a face like your favorite love song and a body like fireworks on the fourth of july
  • People think they’re unique, but they’re really stereotypes. It’s just the way they are. They want to be in a group and they’ll sacrifice their individuality to fit in.
  • From Sana’s mom: I can want all kinds of things for you, but I only know that you can do your best. I am teaching you to see the world the way it is, not the way you want it to be. That’s my job.
  • Everyone – even an ugly oyster – has the power and beauty inside. But sometimes they keep it a secret. and sometimes it takes patience to find it.
  • If you’re nobody together with someone, doesn’t that make you a somebody? At least to each other? that can’t be bad right?
  • While I stand there with my heart bang-bang-booming like a bass drum.
  • Feeling like I’m going to levitate and float away in a pink cotton candy cloud.
  • Find your stride. Find a good pace and stick with it.
  • Anything for you, doll.
  • Because the reality is that life can be hard, and awful and sometimes all you can do is keep working at it. But there’s hope. There’s a future together.
  • GAMAN – it’s about stepping up and choosing which hardship you endure. And enduring it with grace because of something important, like honor or family or something important.
  • My heart is her home. ❤

One,  I can never understand how sana’s mom can endure that pain everyday. If you are looking for a light read that also tackles racism, judgement and stereotyping and love from all sorts of gender.

BOOK THOUGHTS: THE MAGIC OF THINKING BIG


Chapter 3: Build Confidence and Destroy Fear

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  • All confidence is developed. No one is born with confidence
  • Action cures fear. Indecision, postponement fertilize fear. Hesitation only enlarges & magnifies fear. Take action promptly. Be decisive
  • Don’t build mental monsters. When you remember situations of any kind, concentrate on the good part of the experience
  • To think confidently, act confidently
  • Managed motions can change emotions
  • Think: People are alike in so many ways than they are different. So if the other person is basically like me, there’s no point in being afraid of them.

HOW TO BUILD CONFIDENCE:

  1. Deposit only positive thoughts in your memory bank. Recall your little victories and accomplishments
  2. Withdraw only positive thoughts from your memory bank.

HOW TO CONQUER FEAR OF PEOPLE:

  1. Get a balanced view of the other fellow.
    • Every person is important. You are equally important as the people around you.
  2. Develop an understanding attitude
    • Try to empathize with the person. If someone lashes out on you and make a scene, try to understand the life he has.
    • Think: Underneath, he’s probably a nice person. Most folks are.

HOW TO MAKE EVERYTHING ABOUT YOU SAY ‘I’m confident’

  1. Be a front seater
  2. Make eye contact
  3. Walk 25% faster
  4. Speak Up
  5. Smile Big

 

Chapter 4: How to Think Big

  • Everyday there are more signs of expanding opportunity
  • How big we think determines the size of our accomplishments
  • Probably the biggest human weakness is self-deprecation – selling oneself short.
  • You’re bigger than you think. So fit your thinking to your true size. Never, never never sell yourself short
  • To think big, we must use words and phrases that produce big, positive images
  • Before complaining, ask yourself, ‘Is it really important?’
  • Think big and none of the little things can hold you back

Four ways to develop the big thinker’s vocabulary

  1. Use big, positive cheerful words and phrases to describe how you feel
  2. Use bright, cheerful, favorable words and phrases to describe other people
  3. Use positive language to encourage others. Compliment people personally at every opportunity
  4. Use positive words to outline plans to others

 

See what can be, not just what is.

  • Look at things not as they are, but as they can be. Visualization adds value to everything.
  • It isn’t what one has that’s important. Rather, it’s how much one is planning to get that counts
  • The price tag the world puts on us is just about identical to the one we put on ourselves.
  • Practice adding value to thinks. Look for ideas to make things worth more.
  • Practice adding value to people. Remember, to bring out the best in a person.
  • Practice adding value to yourself.

 

Chapter 5: How to think and dream creatively

  1. Believe it can be done. When you believer something can be done, your mind find ways to do it.
  2. Don’t let tradition paralyze your mind
  3. Ask yourself, ‘How can I do better?
  4. Ask yourself, ‘How can I do more?
  5. Practice asking and listening
  6. Stretch your mind & get stimulated

 

  • When you believe, your mind find ways to do
  • Man belongs where man wants to go
  • Make it a point to soak up all the good ideas that you can
  • Be an experimental person. Break up fixed routines. Expose yourself to new things.
  • Be progressive, not regressive
  • There is an endless room for improvement
  • It isn’t so much what you know when you start that matters. It’s what you learn and put to use after you open the door that counts the most
  • Capacity is a state of mind. How much we can do depends on how much we think we can do
  • Do what you do better and do more of what you do
  • There is no limit to what we can learn by asking and listening
  • Let yourself be exposed to ideas of other intelligent people
  • Your mind will create a way, if you let it

 

 

BOOK THOUGHTS: The Magic of Thinking BIG


***I’m only on Chapter 2 and I find myself nodding while reading every line. I’m sharing you the most important ones from what I’ve read so far….

Chapter 1: Believe you can succeed and you will

  • Belief is the thermostat that regulates what we accomplish in life
  • A person is a product of his own thoughts. Believe big and grow big.
  • Believe in yourself and good things will start happening.
  • Those who convert opportunity into reward will be those wise people who learn how to think themselves to success.

How to develop the Power of Belief

  1. Think success, don’t think failure. Thinking success conditions your mind to create plans that produce success.
  2. Remind yourself regularly that you are better that you think you are. – Never sell yourself short.
  3. Believe Big. The size of your success is determined by the size of your belief.

 

Chapter 2: Cure yourself of Excusitis, the failure disease

The Four most common forms

1.‘But my health isn’t good’

  • The perfect specimen of adult life is nonexistent. There is something wrong with everybody
  • The right attitude and one arm will beat the wrong attitude with two arms everytime.’

HOW TO CURE:

  1. Refuse to talk about your health
  2. Refuse to worry about your health
  3. Be genuinely grateful that your health is as good as it is
  4. Remind yourself often, ‘it is better to wear out than rust out’

 

2. ‘But you’ve got brains to succeed’

  • Two common reasons: We underestimate our own brainpower & we overestimate the other fellow’s brainpower
  • What really matters is not how much intelligence you have but how you use what you do have

HOW TO CURE:

  1. Never underestimate your own intelligence and never overestimate. Concentrate on your assets. It’s how you use your brains that counts
  2. Remind yourself daily: ‘My attitude is more important than my intelligence’
  3. Remember that the ability to think is of much greater value than the ability to memorize facts

 

3. ‘It’s no use. I’m too old. Or too young’

  • What matters is how well you know your job. Age has no real relation to ability, unless you convince yourself that years alone will give you the need to make your mark

HOW TO CURE:

  1. Don’t be age conscious.
  2. Don’t take advantage of your new gold bars
  3. Get used to having older persons working for you
  4. Your age won’t be a handicap unless you make it one

 

4. ‘But my case is different. I attract bad luck’

  • Just concentrate on developing those qualities in yourself that will make you a winner

HOW TO CURE:

  1. Accept the law of cause and effect
  2. Don’t be a wishful thinker. Success comes from doing those things and mastering those principles that produce success

 

MOVIE: HOPE SPRINGS


I stumbled upon an article about failed marriages and there it reveals links on the movies that characterizes failed marriages — so, intrigued. I downloaded this movie.

 

Instantly, it made me rethink of getting married. My first thought: How can a man loves you so much at once, then suddenly get stuck and left no trace of affection? It pains me just thinking about it.

A few realizations:

  • It’s no secret that women like to give hints but not explicitly saying it to their partners. It’s no secret either that men, most of the time doesn’t have a clue. COMMUNICATE. I, for one would tell my SO that it’s okay for him to stay at home during our date days but deep down, all I’m wishing is for him to visit me, take me out and still spend the day with me because he wants to, because he can’t wait to see me and because he wants to be with me too even though I already told him that it’s okay. Most of the time, women say one thing but mean another. Ladies, speak up. The only obvious reason is your partner wouldn’t know if you don’t tell him. Men, get to know your partners, know when they’re being serious and look for the subtle hints.
  • Determine your love language. It’s important to express your love the way your partner prefers it for a better chance of appreciation. May it be physical touch, vocal such as compliments, quality time, etc.
  • BE OPEN.  This goes hand in hand with communicating with your partner. If there’s a specific act that you want to try in the bedroom, a fantasy or a secret, tell it to your partner. If you disapprove, at least try then tell your partner the reason behind.
  • TOUCH EACH OTHER.  Just touch. Remember you once couldn’t keep your hands off of each other. A simple holding hands, a kiss on the cheek, a hug while washing the dishes or a hugging your husband from the back while he reads his newspaper will go long way.
  • APPRECIATE EACH OTHER. When your wife prepares you a meal, appreciate it. She allotted her time preparing the food. It’s no like she had nothing better to do. When your husband provides for your family, appreciate it. There are a lot of men who are not responsible enough to provide for their families. When your wife cleans up after your laundry, prepares your clothes the next day, fixes the bed in the morning, appreciate her. She does this because she loves you and she wants to be a good for you. When your husband picks you up at work and drives you to work every morning, appreciate him. He woke up early too. He drove you to your workplace even though it’s out of his way. You get the picture. Appreciate your SO, before it’s too late. Appreciate the little things before you miss out on them. You will never really notice the small things they do not until you have a messy house and a disrupted life already. 
  • IT TAKES TWO.   You are in a marriage for a reason. It is because you both have each other for everything. It means you both committed to a lifetime together. You both have to put an effort into the relationship. It takes work. It’s not all rainbows and unicorns.

 

Love, like I said. I promise to always try. I promise not to give up on us. I promise to be like Kay who will do everything to make our marriage work. I promise not to run when things get tough. I love you.

BOOK: FAST FORWARD: The Ultimate Career Guide for Millennials on the Move by JONATHAN YABUT


***Sharing with you all the book I just finished reading.

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GETTING HIRED

  1. It’s Okay to be choosy with your first job
  • Get the best one that you can get because it will influence the future of your employment.
  • Avoid jobs that have no multiple doors for career switching.
  1. Tips for Job hunting in the Digital World
  • That one line summary stating who you are must be the first thing the recruiter sees.
  • The strategy is to think out of the box and be open minded to more opportunities.
  • Be humble enough to admit that you will need to exploit your network.
  • Every piece of success requires hard work so do your part. Be visible online, be strategic in your search and be brave and relentless to ask around.
  • The universe won’t give you what you want or what you need – unless you ask.
  1. Don’t make these 5 resume writing mistakes
  • Recuiters will always want proof of your expertise the moment they start scanning your resume. Turn your achievements into numbers.
  • GRAMMARLY – App
  1. 5 Tips for a successful interview
  • Do your research – what is its strategy in the next 5 years? Link it back to you.
  • By failing to prepare, you prepare to fail. – Preparation breeds familiarity, familiarity breeds confidence and when you’re confident, you become an unstoppable force set on winning.
  • ORP (Online Reputation Management) – Clean up your social media profile.
  • It’s never the end of the world if you failed an interbiew. Use the defeat as a means to fuel your hunger to ace the next one.

 LEARN FROM OTHERS

  1. Choose your friends wisely.
  • Are they making you a better person?
  1. The Power of Networking
  • You’ll never know who you’ll bump into.
  • Have your business card with you wherever you go.
  • Have the courage to talk to people.
  • Your network is your net worth
  1. Delete people who bring Negativity to your life
  • Stop worrying and being stressed about these people. There are more important things in life to spend your energy on.
  • Be smart with your choices. You don’t need to fight fire with fire. There are other battles to win.
  1. 3 Lessons from Pia Wurtzbach’s Victory.
  • Never settle. Always look for opportunities ahead that are grander and bigger.
  • Contentment breeds complacency. Complacency breeds mediocrity.
  • Asking for help is not a sign of weakness.
  • Every new failure is a strategy to become better.
  • Giving it another shot might just change your life.

DEFEAT OFFICE POLITICS

  1. Yes you can defeat office politics
  • You are the only one who can steer your own career to greatness.
  • The key is to be observant, be critical and analyze patterns that you see in people and in their habits.
  1. You’re not pizza. You can’t please everyone
  • You want people to respect you because they know you mean business. You can be firm without losing your grace.
  1. You don’t need to be a bully to get things done
  • You don’t need to threaten people to get things done. You don’t need to hurt people’s feelings to gain their attention.
  • Kindness and excellence in the corporate world are never, ever mutually exclusive.
  1. When water boils, are you a potato or an egg?
  • You can never control the winds that move your ship but you can always adjust your sail.
  • The same fire that melts the butter, toughens the steel.
  • The same water that softens the potato hardens the egg.
  • We should make the most of what life throws at us.
  • How you choose to react to situations maybe permanent and will likely determine your future.
  1. Don’t make permanent decisions based on temporary emotions
  • Think properly and look at the bigger picture without making hasty decisions.
  1. At work, always see the best in others.
  • Always focus on the goodness of others. People are naturally good, only stress can make them rude.
  1. The Power of a Growth Mindset
  • You only need a minimum level of intelligence or talent to succeed in life – the rest depends on execution.

GET PROMOTED

  1. 5 Unspoken rules to getting promoted
  • Make your boss fully aware that you are expecting it.
  • Promotable employees initiate tasks beyond what is needed, and with minimal supervision.
  1. Why even the best employees don’t get promoted
  • Leadership is a pullership not a pushership. It is about serving other people who work for you. It is putting a spotlight on your team and not yourself.
  • The role of a great leader is to make more leaders out of themselves.
  1. Why do soft skills matter at work?
  • Pick the right friends, the right boss, the right company and the right mentors in life. If you are going to spend 12 hours of your life everyday with these people, might as well spend them with the right people who can transfer the best things that you’ll never have.
  1. You’re never too important for a small task
  • Humility is always integral to your success.
  • You can never be too good for any task, so take even the smallest of legwork with dignity and respect.
  1. Always give your best even when no one is looking
  • Always aim for the best quality you can give to any craft that you do
  • Do well even if no one’s looking.
  • Give your best shot because giving your all is a good end goal in itself.
  1. Have one crazy goal
  • Choose one goal that will push you to achieve that 1 extra mile you always missed.
  1. Stop being an askholic
  2. Take the moment and perfect it
  • Do what you need to do even when it’s painful.
  • We don’t find perfect time, we make it ourselves.
  • You don’t need to be great to start but you need to start to be great.
  1. Success is the best revenge
  • Focus on your dreams and ambitions, commit to it for years and get it done. Success.
  1. What’s done in love is done well
  • We cant always be fond of every work thrown at us, but we have the power and time to love it in due course.

MANAGE YOUR BOSS

  1. I hate my boss
  • The more you know your boss, the more predictable and manageable he will be.
  • Focus on one small thing and cultivate it and leverage on it until you finally get to accept your boss despite the bad things you hate him for.
  1. 4 Questions to ask your boss about work.
  • Successful people only get what they want when they chase it
  • Take time to find out what those career related strengths are.
  • Take the wheel when you can because there is no one else more responsible for your career but yourself.
  • You need to assert and communicate what’s on your mind and heart.
  1. At work, it’s okay to say no to your boss
  • Say no to other opportunities and focus on one big thing and be good at it.
  • Deciding what not to do is as important as deciding what to do.
  • Don’t try to be everything in people’s minds. Don’t try to please everyone at work. Ignore the rest, focus your energy so you can move up the scale.
  1. How to motivate yourself when your boss doesn’t.
  • The world is bigger and larger than your boss. Be resourceful and independent to inspire yourself or get that inspiration somewhere else instead.

ACHIEVE WORK LIFE BALANCE

  1. Work Life Balance is a Choice
  • Recharge as much as you can because life is a marathon not a sprint. Pause once in a while and invest in more energy that can help you achieve more later,
  1. Your 8 Office Resolutions for a better Work Life Balance
  • Appreciate that life really happens when you exit the office doors.
  • Find a mentor outside your department
  • Sell yourself as a brand. Be consistent with an ensemble that can project a confident and sharp you.
  • Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.
  1. Let go of the lettuce in your life
  • The reality is that we can’t be everything that we want to be, and we won’t have the time to enjoy everything we aspire to have.
  • We have to make a bold choice and commit to the things that really matter in life. This also means sacrificing things to give way to more important things.
  • What is the lettuce in your life that you need to let go of?
  1. Stop eating lunch at your work desk
  2. Why I spend so much on travel and why so should you
    • Travel changes you permanently.
    • You become less stubborn about what you think is only right.
    • Travel changes you for the better, no matter how bad the experiences can be and no matter how it can devalue everything that your credit card swipes for.
    • Enjoy the time to be merry and learn much from the time needed to recover the expenses.
  3. Always keep a life scoreboard

 QUIT IF YOU MUST BUT FIND GREENER PASTURES

  1. 4 Undeniable signs that it’s time to leave your job
  • Remember that your role in life is to live life through a job not to end in one.
  • Don’t quit a tough boss who polishes you painfully like a diamond.
  1. The 5 reasons why good employees quit their bosses
  • A good boss takes the time to know your life story.
  • A good boss sharpens people’s skills so they can become like her.
  1. Yes, it’s okay to jump from one company to another
  • The only way to learn and to expand your horizons is to stretch yourself to take on challenges you’re not comfortable with just yet. To understand what you like and want in life, you have to expose yourself to as many things as possible.
  • Look for greener pastures until you find what’s right for you. Do it early and do it quickly. People who make it big are big because they think big. They’re never contented. The successful ones always wins because they risked what they thought was worth fighting for.
  1. Don’t leave before you need to leave

BOOK: NOVEMBER 9 by COLLEEN HOO


Goodreads: Fallon meets Ben, an aspiring novelist, the day before her scheduled cross-country move. Their untimely attraction leads them to spend Fallon’s last day in L.A. together, and her eventful life becomes the creative inspiration Ben has always sought for his novel. Over time and amidst the various relationships and tribulations of their own separate lives, they continue to meet on the same date every year. Until one day Fallon becomes unsure if Ben has been telling her the truth or fabricating a perfect reality for the sake of the ultimate plot twist.’

Ben’s mother killed herself because she had cancer. Ben’s brother is friends with Miles and Ian. Fallon was hurt during a fire that ben started.

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How would you like to be immortalized in a book? 

  1. Fallon’s mom was supportive of her decisions.
  2. How confident and charming ben is.
  3. How ben converse like in a book, a true writer. **SWOON**
  4. Love the idea of the whole pretend-in-a-relationship
  5. The idea of TATTOO on your wrist – right when you feel that you’re finally in love.
  6. Ben picking something from Fallon’s teeth – a gross thing but a sweet gesture when someone is in love.
  7. DYLAN THOMAS

 

 

  • The truth is an excruciatingly painful son of a bitch
  • Sometimes at night, I’ll rewrite conversations I had during the day, but I’ll change them up to reflect everything I wish I could have said in the moment.
  • You’ll never be able to find yourself if you’re lost in someone else.
  • She doesn’t hold a candle to you.
  • If we’re going to kiss, it has to be book worthy.
  • Using you as a standard is completely unfair to the rest of the whole female population.
  • Guys see boobs coupled with a great sense of humor and think they found the holy fucking grail.
  • Comfort can sometimes be a crutch when it comes to figuring out your life.
  • Goals are achieved through discomfort and hard work. They aren’t achieved when you hide out in a place where you’re nice and cozy.
  • Go easy on me. My heart is fragile.
  • I hope they laugh at you, fallon. If people are laughing at you, it means you’re putting yourself out there to be laughed at. Not enough people have the courage to even take that step.
  • I didn’t even know that kisses could really make eyelids flutter open.
  • You’re incomparable.
  • There will always be bullies, ben. You need to learn how to deal with them yourself. You need to learn how to not let them get to you.
  • If she’s not careful, I might just fall in love with her tonight.
  • He’s soaking me up like it’s a privilege rather than a favor.
  • I don’t want to be your first fallon. I want to be your last.
  • In the real life, you have to bust your ass for the happy ever after.
  • When you find love, you take it. You grab it with both hands and you do everything in your power not to let it go. you can’t just walk away from it and expect it to linger until you’re ready for it.
  • Im really in love with her. – like crippling, debilitating, paralyzing love.
  • the only thing not going right in my life is the fact that you aren’t a part of it every single day.
  • When you love someone, you owe it to them to help them be the best version of themselves that they can be.
  • Though lovers be lost, love shall not.
  • You’ll know, ben. When you’re willing to give up the things that mean the most to you just to see someone else happy, that’s real love.
  • You saved me the day we met, fallon.
  • Because I’m going to love her through every single one of them.

BOOK: POINT OF NO RETREAT by COLLEEN HOOVER


Goodreads: “Layken and Will have managed to overcome the obstacles that threatened to destroy their love, proving that they are destined for one another. What they are about to learn, however, is that the things that have brought them together may be the very things that ruin their connection forever…
Layken is left second-guessing the relationship whilst Will is jumping over hurdles to prove his love for her. What the young lovers discover about themselves along this journey may change their entire world and the lives of those who depend upon them the most…”

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  1. I love Lake’s Mother for thinking of a jar full of stars that would somehow make them feel that she’s still around when they both need guidance.
  2. Vaughn is really someone to hate.
  3. I despise Will for keeping a secret from Lake! How can you not tell your girlfriend that you’re ugly ex girlfriend whom you had sex with is in your class – who you get to see three times a week and is currently sitting beside you in class? Fuck will. How can you not tell her?
  4. I LOVE KIERSTEN, her intelligence, her with, her confidence to talking with older people and the way her mind thinks. And yes, kiersten – Can I be your new bestfriend too?
  5. SUCK and SWEET Time – something that family and friends could bond over.
  6. FOREHEAD KISSES – they’re my favorite too. And I would definitely be pissed if my significant other gives my favorite kiss to another person. So, Will – you suck at this again.

 

  • Sometimes, things can happen in life that you didn’t plan for. All you can do now is suck it up and start mapping out a new plan.
  • My heart pounds against my chest. Not because I’m nervous. Not even because I want her worse that I’ve ever wanted her before. It’s pounding against my chest because I realize I’ve never been so sure about the rest of my life than I am in this moment. This girl is the rest of my life.
  • Love is the most beautiful thing in the world. Unfortunately, it’s also one of the hardest things in the world to hold on to, and one of the easiest things to throw away.
  • I’ll never be able to give you everything you deserve, but I’ll definitely spend the rest of my life trying.
  • “Your mother encourages you to cuss?” Gavin says.Kiersten nods. “I don’t see it that way. It’s more like she’s encouraging us to undermine a system flawed through overuse of words that are made out to be harmful, when in fact they’re just letters, mixed together like every other word. That’s all they are, mixed up letters. Like, take the word “butterfly” for example. What if someone decided one day that butterfly is a cussword? People would eventually start using butterfly as an insult, and to emphasize things in a negative way. The actual WORD doesn’t mean anything. It’s the negative association people give these words that make them cusswords. So if we all just decided to keep saying butterfly all the time, eventually people would stop caring. The shock value would subside…and it would just become another word again. Same with every other so-called bad word. If we would all just start saying them all the time, They wouldn’t be bad anymore. That’s what my mom says anyway.”
  • You’re my plan. You’re always my only plan.
  • She’s so incredibly beautiful, especially when she’s not trying to be.
  • Everyone’s entitled to a bad day every now and then.
  • “Sherry, until I met you I didn’t know what life was. I had no clue that I wasn’t even alive. It’s like you came along and woke up my soul.

Well, best wishes to you, Will and Lake! 🙂