BOOK: TUESDAYS WITH MORRIE BY MITCH ALBOM


Do I wither up and disappear or do I make the best of my time left?

Are you giving to your community? Are you at peace with yourself?

Are you trying to be as human as you can be?

This, I believe is a straight up classroom type life lessons as portrayed by Mitch himself and his tuesday conversations with his previous professor who is currently battling cancer. Here, Morrie asks Mitch to accompany him to his last days as he teaches each and everyone of us how to live by learning how to die.

*** second book to re-read! ❤

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Accept what you are able to do and what you are not able to do. Accept the past as past without denying it or discarding it. Learn to forgive yourself and others. Don’t assume that it’s too late to get involved.

Dying is only one thing to be sad over. Living unhappily is something else.

The culture that we have does not make people feel good about themselves. We’re teaching the wrong things. And you have to be strong enough to say it the culture doesn’t work for you, don’t buy it. Create your own.

The tension of opposites? Life is a series of pulls back and forth. You want to do one thing but you are bound to do something else. Something hurts you, yet you know it shouldn’t. Most of us live somewhere in the middle. So which side wins? Love wins. Love always wins.

So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half – asleep, even when they’re busy doing things they think are important. This is because they are chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning to your life is to devote yourself to loving others, to your community and to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.

I. WORLD

Death is the great equalizer, the one big thing that can finally make strangers shed a tear for one another. The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love and to let it come in. Love is the only rational act.

II. FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF

I give myself a good cry when I need it. But then I concentrate on all the good things still in my life. A thing is only horrible if you see it that way.

III. REGRETS

Is this all? Is this all I want? Is something missing? We all need teachers in our lives.

IV. DEATH

Everyone knows they’re going to die. but nobody believes it. If we did, we would do things differently. To know you’re going to die and to be prepared for it at any time. That way, you can actually be more involved in your life while you’re living. Once you learn how to die, you learn how to live.

V. FAMILY

There is no foundation, no secure ground upon which people may stand today if it isn’t the family. Family is not about justt love but letting others know there’s someone who is watching out for them.

VI. EMOTIONS

Don’t  cling to things because everything is impermanent. Detachment doesn’t mean you don’t let the experience penetrate you. On the contrary, you let it penetrate you fully. That’s how you are able to leave it. Wash yourself with emotion. It won’t hurt you. It will only help.

VII. FEAR OF AGING

It’s like going back to being a child again. We all know how to be a child. It’s inside all of us. It’s just remembering how to enjoy it. Aging is not just decay. It’s growth. It’s more than the negative you’re going to die, it’s also the positive that you understand you’re going to die and that you live a better life because of it. You have to find what’s good and true and beautiful as it is now. Looking back makes you competitive. How can I be envious of where you are — when I’ve been there myself?

VIII. MONEY

Money is not a substitute for tenderness, and power is not substitute for tenderness. Know what really gives you satisfaction? Offering others what you have to give. Devote yourself to loving others, and devote yourself to your community and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning. Only an open heart will allow you to float equally between everyone. Do the kind of things that come from the heart. When you do, you won’t be dissatisfied, you won’t be envious, you won’t be longing for somebody else’s things.

IX. LOVE GOES ON

Love is how you stay alive, even after you’re gone. As long as we can love each other, and remember the feeling of love we had, we can die without ever really going away. All the love you created is still there. You live on — in the hearts of everyone you have touched and nurtured. Death ends a life, not a relationship.

X. MARRIAGE

In marriage, you get tested. You find out who you are, who the other person is, and how you can accommodate or don’t. If you don’t respect the  other person, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. If you don’t know how to compromise, if you can’t talk openly about what goes on between you and if you don’t have a common set of values in life, you’re gonna have trouble — and the biggest one? your belief in the importance of your marriage.

XI. CULTURE

The big things — how we think, what we value– those you must choose yourself. You can’t let anyone or society determine those for you. Every society has its own problems. The way you do it, is not to run away. You have to work at creating your own culture. No matter where you live, the biggest defect we human beings have is our shortsightedness. We don’t see what we could be. We should be looking at our potential, stretching ourselves into everything we can become. We all need others.

Be compassionate. Take responsibility for each other. If we only learned those lessons, this world would be so much a better place.

XII. FORGIVENESS

Forgive yourself before you die and forgive others. Make peace.

 

LEARN: If you want something,make it happen.


If you’re going to try, go all the way. Otherwise don’t even start. This could mean losing girlfriends, wives, relatives, jobs. And maybe your mind. It could mean not eating for three or four days. It could mean freezing on a park bench. It could mean jail. It could mean derision. It could mean mockery, isolation. Isolation is the gift. All the others are a test of your endurance. Of how much you really want to do it. And you’ll do it, despite rejection in the worst odds. And it will be better than anything else you can imagine.

BOOK: SLAMMED by COLLEEN HOOVER


What is actually worse? Losing your dad and moving to another place, or losing your mom from a fight against cancer? There is no way you could choose right. But both happened to Layken. 

Layken lost her dad, having died of heart attack. They had to move because her family simply cannot afford to live there anymore. When they moved to Michigan, she met a boy and fell in love. Only to find out later, that he was his English Professor. As she tries to resist the brooding sexy professor, she also has to deal with the fact that her mother is terminally ill with Cancer. Will teaches her how to continue living and that poetry, expression through the use of words can simply be therapeutic.

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  1. You know a band has true talent when their imperfections define perfection.
  2. The slightest touch and simplest gestures have such an illicit effect on my senses
  3. The way these poets were able to lure you into a whole new world, viewing things from a vantage point you have never seen before.
  4. The door between us feels like barricade.
  5. But when he feelings are there, it can lift you up and take you anywhere.
  6. I wish I could find a way to let go of the hold he has on me.
  7. I’m not a fan of inconsistency.
  8. And exactly one million, fifty one thousand and two hundred minutes from now, I’m going to propose to you, and ask that you share all the rest of the rest the minutes of your life with me.
  9. I’ll paint you a world one day. A world where smiles don’t fade. A world where laughter is played in the background.
  10. It’s amazing how many tears one person can have.
  11. It was life. Life happens. Shit happens. And it happens a lot. To a lot of people.
  12. The only thing any of us have in common is the inevitable.
  13. You’ll never be ready for it, Lake. You never will. (Death)
  14. Push your boundaries, Lake. That’s what they’re there for.
  15. Everyone assumes they have at least one more day.
  16. She was so full of life. So full and enthralled with a life that tried so hard to knock her down,
  17. He kisses me like he’s making up for an entire month of stolen kisses.
  18. That’s impossible Mom. You don’t know how to do terrible.
  19. It broke my heart that you needed him more than you needed me. (Mom)
  20. Decide what to be and go be it.
  21. Put emphasis on life.
  22. Sometimes life gets in the way. It gets all up in your damn way.
  23. Don’t take life too seriously. Punch it in the face when it needs a good hit. Laugh at it.
  24. Never judge others. Unexpected events can change a person. You never know what a person is experiencing in their own life.\
  25. Question everything.People make spontaneous decisions based off of their hearts all the time.
  26. His fingertips feel like electric pulses penetrating my skin.

Interesting things: ‘I would rather’ game.

Layken’s mother taught her that before engaging into any relationship, she must ask these three questions which I am sharing with you now: Does he treat you with respect at all times? If he is the exact same person twenty years from now that he is today, wold you still want to marry him? Does he inspire you to want to be a better person?

Has anyone of you ever read For One More Day of Mitch Albom? I remember that one of his points there was, ”When you lose your parents, it’s like you’re alone. and you will have to go through every battle alone”.
And that is exactly how it is. For me, I mean. My Mom, my mom is my rock.

It just pains me how Layken was dragged down to the blackhole when his father died. But the death of her mother? It just pushed her down back to the shit under the blackhole or farther, even. I could never imagine my life without my parents. And that’s the truth. And I don’t ever want to.

But there are also happy parts in this sad little story. There was a love interest, just like any other novel. The twist? Student – teacher relationship. I also admire how Will values his role in his little brother’s life. I respect him for putting his brother as his first priority.

Overall, I liked the story. It’s a good read too.

THOUGHT: What’s the one advice you’ll tell your younger self?


So I asked 33 people of what they would have wanted to know when they were young. We all have regrets.
We all make mistakes. We all have that, ‘I should have done this, I should’ve done that.. ‘ And the list goes on.
So here it is:
1.  Listen to your parents or the elderly – Nicole
2. Study First, Landi Later and Play Safe – Pam
3. Value the importance of time – Panda 
4. Never grow up! – Baby
5. Go out, Have fun, See the world, Travel and Start building your future – Irma 
6. Travel more – Ivy 
7. Flirt while you’re young – Donna 
8. Enjoy life – Lei 
9. Study Hard! – Mark 
10. Stick up to what you like – Roumel
11. Focus on your dreams and no turning back – Rich 
12. Learn the value of money while you’re still young! Save! – Chris 
13. Do more of what makes you happy – Jeska
14. Express your love to your family and spend more time with them – Boy 
15. Save money as early as possible. Spend more time with your family – Jojo 
16. Take Risk, Be involved, Speak up and Be more present – Vincci
17. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, show up and never give up! – Pleia 
18. Never settle for mediocrity – Bianca 
19. Hope you did your best shot – Atria
20. Enjoy the ride – Edward 
21. Study Harder and Court you – JM
22. Study Harder and Enjoy College. – Yasmin 
23. Explore! Don’t stop until you find that one thing that excites you and makes you feel alive! Laugh at yourself and stumble! – Krismarie
24. Don’t be afraid and Go out of your comfort zone. – Mics 
25. You should go out and explore life. Don’t let fear, rejection, failure and future of the unknown eat you and stop you from making mistakes, being happy, living life and loving. – Katz
26. Learn all what you can. Carpe Diem. – Lauren 
27. Know your boundaries & Never setlle for anything else. – Mai 
28. Don’t let failure hold you back. – Hansel 
29. Take your studies seriously. – RJ 
30. Go out there and have fun. But don’t forget to save. – Mike 
31. Do something today that you will thank yourself later. – Lance 
32. Live life with no regrets – Benedict 
33. Growth is always outside your comfort zone and never within it. Go on adventures, be bolder, take risks. – Jean Kaye 

It’s nice to hear this from friends, colleagues and acquaintances. And as I? : Never be mediocre.

But hey, I don’t think one statement will ever fit all the things we learn in this roller coaster ride, eh?
We can always learn a thing or two from every person we meet.

My wish for you is in whatever stage you are in your life, whatever you are going through right now,
if you’re a high school student, a struggling new graduate, an unemployed 40 year old, a terror professor,
a heinous trader, a practicing lawyer or a retired fellow trying to make a sense in this world,
may you stumble and fall early and learn from it as soon as you can.

As for now, I’ll tuck myself to sleep and welcome tomorrow’s mistakes with open arms.

MOVIE: HER


Some noteworthy lines from the movie:

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1. Sometimes I think I have felt everything I’m ever gonna feel. And from here on out, I’m not gonna feel anything new. Just lesser versions of what I’ve already felt.

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2. The past is just a story we tell ourselves.

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3. We are only here briefly, and in this moment I want to allow myself joy. So fuck it.

4. I want to learn everything about everything. I want to eat it all up. I want to discover myself.

BOOK: A LONG WAY DOWN BY NICK HORNBY


Another group of friends – or let’s say, acquaintance again in writing. 4 people crossed paths as they were all planning to jump of the famous suicide tower. Now their lives are interconnected to one another – and they feel a bond to each one stronger than the people who are close to them. The bond of desire to take their own lives. 

The characters:

1. Martin  a celebrity who was imprisoned for sleeping with a 15 year old lost his wife and never sees his children, who is also almost out of a job. Everyone, inevitably judges him.

2. Maureen, a 40 year old single home who has no life, no work besides taking care of his son who is not normal. She wants to kill herself because of the guilt and her conscience: her thoughts are eating her; she would rather die than to take care of her son her whole life and not to have a life of her own. ”I was crying because all I wanted in the world, the only thing that would make me want to live, is for Matty to die”.

3.JJ, a failed musician, whose biggest goal in life is to become a famous musician together with his band. He lost his band and girlfriend at the same time. What pushes him off the ledge is his fear that he’ll be delivering pizzas all his life, and not being able to do what he loves most: music.

4. Jesse, a teenager who was left by his boyfriend. Her biggest source of depression: her sister is nowhere to be found.

Here are some of the things I think is noteworthy:

1. There are lots and lots of factors that push people over the edge; none of these factors are likely to make you feel anything but fucking miserable.

2. Knowing that you want to die makes you less scared.

3. Wanting to die seems like it might be a part of being alive.

4. There’s more than one way to be a loser. There’s sure more than one way of losing.

5. The trouble with my generation is that we all think we’re fucking geniuses. Making something isn’t good enough, and neither is selling something, or teaching or even just doing something. We have to BE something.

6. Oscar Wilde once said, One’s real life is often the life one does not lead.

7. Everyone needs a little time out.

8. Consistency is the last refuge of the unimaginative.

9. Why is it so much easier to leap into the void than to face up to what you’ve done?

10. Women are fucking maniacs, man.

11. She loved me, which struck me as an answer more likely to confuse and obscure than to illuminate.

12. Failure is a hurtful success, and is likely to provoke even more anger, because there’s no grief to water it down.

13. You know how if you lose something valuable, a wallet, or a piece of jewelry, you cant concentrate on anything else? Well, it feels like that all the time, everyday.

14. That was me, that was who I was, and I just feel empty and frustrated, and, and, See, when you know you’re good, you think that will be enough, that’ll get you there, and when it doesn’t.. What are you supposed to do with it all? There’s nowhere for it to go, and it was.. Man, it used to eat me up even when things were going okay, because even if things were going okay, I was’t on stage, and sometimes it felt like I needed to be, otherwise, I’d explode.

15. I’m dying of some disease that dries up all the blood in your veins and all your sap and everything that makes you feel alive.

16. You thought you were going to be someone, but now it’s obvious you’re nobody. You haven’t got as much talent as you thought you had, and there was no plan B, and you got no skills, no education, and now you’re looking at forty or fifty years of nothing. Less than nothing, probably. 

17. Every unhappy situation had an unhappy opposite situation.

18. Hard is trying to rebuild yourself, piece by piece, with no instruction book, and no clue as to where all the important bits are supposed to go. 

BOOK THOUGHTS: WHAT YOU MAKE OF YOUR LIFE IS UP TO YOU


An excerpt from the book, ”If life is a Game, these are the rules” by Cherie Carter – Scott. 

This probably is my favorite lesson I’ve come across. In so many phrases, in so many authors, in so many books, one essence. Now read this carefully.

Every person creates his own reality. You can either engage in the blame game, or you can take control of your life and shape it as you would like. You can either let your circumstances dictate what happens to you, or you can transcend your perceived limitation and make extraordinary things happen. 

When you fully recognize your challenges, your gifts, and individual reality, and you accept the life path they present, the world provides whatever you need to succeed.

When you claim authorship of your life, the world responds and the genius ignites. 

When you begin to live your life understanding that what you make of it is u to you, you are able to design it according to your authentic choices and desires.

THOUGHTS: In my 22 years of existence, I learned..


  1. Life is unfair. & That’s just how it is. Just like how I read somewhere, ‘ Kiddo, the world doesn’t owe you an explanation”
  1. And once you’ve accepted that, you wouldn’t complain all the time.
  2. The time you spent complaining is of much better use finding solutions to your problems.
  3. Eating is one of life’s greatest pleasures.
  4. There is always two sides to every story. A silver lining is always present.
  5. Your co-worker who is always sleeping on the job will always get what he wants. As long as he’s wiping the ass of your boss. Refer to No.1.
  6. Anger will never be enough reason to wish someone dead.
  7. People, most often than not, will wish you suffering if he is suffering.
  8. How you dress will completely change how you feel about yourself and how people will see you.
  9. People think too much.
  10. Everyone you meet is better than you at something.
  11. No one in this world has gotten it all figured out.
  12. Everyone has regrets.
  13. Saving at least Php 100 a day will be such a good habit that will benefit you in the long run.
  14. The longer you postpone something, the harder it gets.
  15. Every lie will just push you to tell more lies which will eventually bite you in the ass.
  16. In every TV Show, there’s a sex addict. Joey in Friends, Barney in How I met your mother and Charlie in Two and a half men.
  17. Smiling to strangers will eventually lead to good things.
  18. Oftentimes, good things happen when you least expect it.
  19. Making a ‘to do list’ will vastly improve your productivity.
  20. Everyone thinks he’s always right.
  21. If you keep hearing criticisms, two things will happen. Either you wallow in self pity or you fuckingly prove them wrong.
  22. Reading goes a long way.
  23. Kids say that they never want to be like their parents but end up being exactly like them.
  24. Parent’s greatest output is their kids.
  25. No matter how young you are, you should set aside money for investment.
  26. If you work hard enough for what you want, you will succeed – LIE. Refer to No.1.
  27. Infidelity is never a mistake. It is never an accident. It happens by choice.
  28. Your family is your piggy bank of encouragement.
  29. If you truly love the person you are with, it will always feel like forever. – though it isn’t always the case.
  30. If you’ve never been in the same situation, never say ‘it’s okay’ – because it never is.
  31. I’ve learned some of these things the hard way. But I’ve never really embraced them. Life gets to me too.