PONDER: All of us


We all have shit days every now and then. All of us. No matter how perfect we aspire to be, and no matter how many tings we promised ourselves we would do, sometimes all the things we wanted to achieve just can’t happen in one day and that is perfectly okay. – momentary happiness

 

LEARN: The 3 P’s of Survival


I came across this article on facebook and is definitely worth sharing. It’s level of reference and ‘relatability’ is high.

COMMENCEMENT ADDRESS OF SHERYL SANDBERG

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  • when life sucks you under, you can kick against the bottom, break the surface, and breathe again. I learned that in the face of the void — or in the face of any challenge — you can choose joy and meaning.
  • The easy days ahead of you will be easy. It is the hard days — the times that challenge you to your very core — that will determine who you are. You will be defined not just by what you achieve, but by how you survive.

 

  1. Personalization  – the belief that we are at fault. This is different from taking responsibility, which you should always do. This is the lesson that not everything that happens to us happens because of us.Not taking failures personally allows us to recover — and even to thrive.
  2. Pervasiveness – the belief that an event will affect all areas of your life. There’s no place to run or hide from the all-consuming sadness.There is more to life than your grief. The world keeps on revolving.
  3. Permanence – the belief that the sorrow will last forever. For months, no matter what I did, it felt like the crushing grief would always be there.

 

think about how much worse things could be.Finding gratitude and appreciation is key to resilience.find that gratitude — not just on the good days, but on the hard ones, when you will really need it.

I hope that you live your life — each precious day of it — with joy and meaning. I hope that you walk without pain — and that you are grateful for each step.

And when the challenges come, I hope you remember that anchored deep within you is the ability to learn and grow. You are not born with a fixed amount of resilience. Like a muscle, you can build it up, draw on it when you need it. In that process you will figure out who you really are — and you just might become the very best version of yourself.

BOOK REVIEW : JONATHAN LIVINGSTON SEAGULL BY RICHARD BACH


ARE YOU READY TO SPREAD YOUR WINGS AND FLY?

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The story of Jonathan is relatively simple, except for the lengthy explanations on speed, wingspan, curves and winds. Jonathan teaches us a couple of things about life;

  1. “Most gulls don’t bother to learn more than the simplest facts of flight — how to get from shore to food and back again.  For most gulls, it is not flying that matters, but eating. For this gull, though, it was not eating that mattered, but flight.” Eating is a way of survival. Flying though, is looking for something that you truly love, learning it and perfecting it. 
  2. ”He found that moving more than one feather at that speed will spin you like a rifle ball… and Jonathan had flown the first aerobatics of any seagull on earth” Jonathan taught us that to achieve excellence, you have to fail. Failure is inevitable. Failing not once, not twice, not thrice but constant mistakes should be encountered to reach excellence. But with each failure, each mistake that you experience, you learn a new lesson everyday. You learn one more thing that you should not do. You learn one more thing that you should avoid. Through this, you achieve excellence, you achieve perfection. 
  3. “I have no wish to be leader. I want only to share what I’ve found, to show those horizons out ahead for us all” The important thing is to be able to share to others what you know. It’s not that you know something, it is when others know what you know, that’s your legacy. 
  4. Jonathan Seagull discovered that “boredom and fear and anger are the reasons that a gull’s life is so short, and with these gone from his thought, he lived a long fine life indeed. “
  5. “You must begin by knowing that you have already arrived.” It’s what you think of yourself that matters most. It’s your  thought that determines the outcome. If you already think that you’ve won, then you win.
  6. Everything that limits us, we must put aside.
  7. “Your limitations is nothing more than your thought itself, in a form you can see. Break the chains of your thought, and you will break the chains of your body too”.
  8. “Don’t believe what you’re eyes are telling you. All they show is limitation. Look with your understanding, find out what you already know, and you’ll see the way to fly”

We can lift ourselves out of ignorance, we can find ourselves as creatures of excellence and intelligence and skill. We can be free! We can learn to fly! 

EVERYDAY: Sales Standard Workshop


For the second time this year, I attended a Training; Sales Standard as the title suggests. This training is supposed to standardized the way we are to internal and external clients, our mindset towards our job and how we are as salespeople.

GIVING UP IS FAILURE

If you’re not from Sales, you will never know how hard it is, how much confidence, heavy breathing and guts it took us to even approach you, how hard it is to sleep at night thinking where will I get my next client or how will I reach my quota, how degrading and heartbreaking it is for us when you turn away and reject us.

But being in sales will teach you how to walk straight in heels and keep a smiling face when you reach your client’s office after walking for several miles, how to carry our bag and all your papers and forms in one arm and extend the other to the client, how to amicably get pass the secretary and how to do small talk (though I’m not getting any better at this).

But aside from that, you will learn to be patient, to be persistent, to accept rejections but strive harder, to talk to different sets and groups of people whatever their position is, to hone your presentation skills, to increase your negotiation and influence on your clients, how to handle and carry yourself. — and to know that being in sales is also as important as any other function in a company and take pride in it.

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BOOK THOUGHTS: GET BACK UP – YOU CAN DO IT BY JOHN MASON


An excerpt from the book, ”You can do it. Even if others say you can’t” by John Mason.

Learning From MistakesThe fact that you’ve failed is proof that you’re not finished. Failures and Mistakes ca be a bridge, not a barricade to success.Mistakes are just feedback. It’s not how far you fall but how high you bounce that makes all the difference.

The best way to go on after a failure is to learn the lesson and forget the details.

Failure is the opportunity to start over more intelligently.

Success consists of getting up just one time more than you fall down. So get up and go on.  

Fucking Work.


If you have ever gone through a toll booth, you know that your relationship to the person in the booth is not the most intimate you’ll ever have. It is one of life’s frequent non encounters: You hand over some money; you might get change; you drive off.Late one morning in 1984, headed for lunch in San Francisco, I drove toward a booth. I heard loud music. It sounded like a party. I looked around. No other cars with their windows open. No sound trucks. I looked at the toll booth. Inside it, the man was dancing.

“What are you doing?” I asked.

“I’m having a party,” he said.

“What about the rest of the people?” I looked at the other toll booths.

He said, “What do those look like to you?” He pointed down the row of toll booths.

“They look like…toll booths. What do they look like to you?”

He said, “Vertical coffins. At 8:30 every morning, live people get in. Then they die for eight hours. At 4:30, like Lazarus from the dead, they reemerge and go home. For eight hours, brain is on hold, dead on the job. Going through the motions.”

I was amazed. This guy had developed a philosophy, a mythology about his job. Sixteen people dead on the job, and the seventeenth, in precisely the same situation, figures out a way to live. I could not help asking the next question: “Why is it different for you? You’re having a good time.”

He looked at me. “I knew you were going to ask that. I don’t understand why anybody would think my job is boring. I have a corner office, glass on all sides. I can see the Golden Gate, San Francisco, and the Berkeley hills. Half the Western world vacations here…and I just stroll in every day and practice dancing.”

For weeks, I have been desperately looking for something to please me at work. Unfortunately, I’m stuck in a rut – full of self pity, anger, annoyance and hatred. I have been praying constantly to give me something. But other things, I suppose, drown out my prayers.

I am astonished by how this man thinks of his job. If  it was me, I would look at it as non rewarding routinary work. Imagine going to work every day handing out tickets to various people going everywhere and yet, you’re stuck there in a little box for 8 hours, with no one to talk to, with no boss to appraise you, with strangers shouting that you are slow.

I would have never thought of his work the way he pictured his day. I am somewhat ashamed of how lowly I think of my job compared to this fellow. He should much probably be better being a life mentor for the overly depressed people. Be my mentor. So what is the actual goodness in my job? Oh god. I still can’t think of any.

This is hopeless.

My brain is dead. My butt is sore. Work is unsatisfying. Opportunities are not presented. Colleagues are blah. HR is unfair. Supervisor’s expectations are low. Chances are not given. Self Comparison. World is bleak and dismal.

Back up a bit. This shouldn’t be my thoughts.

My brain is dead. My butt is sore. Work is unsatisfying. Opportunities are not presented. Colleagues are blah. HR is unfair. Supervisor’s expectations are low. Chances are not given. World is bleak and dismal.

With my idle time, I should read. Not tiring work? Exercise when I get home. Look for something else to do, Ask. Create my own opportunities. Smile and always be nice, still. I can’t do anything about HR. So, I should suck it up. Set high expectations for myself. I should not wait for it to be given, make it happen.

World will always be bleak and dismal. It will be my choice on how I will see things.

Ha! I am good in pretentions. :l So, I’ll smile and pray.