BOOK REVIEW : TUESDAYS WITH MORRIE by MITCH ALBOM


Just like other Mitch Albom Books, it leaves you wanting more. It leaves you with things to ponder on, which I think is one criteria for it to be a good book, right? So here are some of them;

Tuesdays-with-Morrie

DO I WITHER UP AND DISAPPEAR, OR DO I MAKE THE BEST OF MY TIME LEFT?

  • Accept what you are able to do and what you are not able to do. Accept the past as past, without denying it or discarding it. Learn to forgive yourself and to forgive others. Don’t assume that it’s too late to get involved.
  • Am I going to withdraw from the wold, like most people do, or am I going to live?
  • I had been too wrapped up in the siren song of my own life
  • The culture we have does not make people feel good about themselves. We’re teaching the wrong things. And you have to be strong enough to say if the culture doesn’t work, don’t buy it. Create your own.
  • Life is a series of pulls back and forth. You want to do one things, but you are bound to do something else. Something hurts you, yet you know it shouldn’t. You take certain things for granted, even when you know you should never take anything for granted.
  • Love wins. Love always wins.
  • The way you get meaning to your life is to devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.
  • Still, if you really want it, then you’ll make your dream happen.
  • Maybe death is the great equalizer, the one big thing that can finally make strangers shed a tear for one another.
  • The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in.
  • Let it come in. We think we don’t deserve love, we think if we let it in we’ll become too soft. But a wise man named levine said it right. Love is the only rational act.
  • But then I concentrate on all the good things still in my life.
  • Sometimes you cannot believe what you see, you have to believe what you feel. And if you are ever going to have other people trust you, you must feel that you can trust them too — even when you’re in the dark. Even when you’re falling.
  • To know you’re going to die, and be prepares for it at anytime. That’s better. That way you can actually be more involved in your life while you’re living.
  • Once you learn how to die, you learn how to live.
  • We really don’t experience the world fully, because we’re half-asleep, doing things we automatically think we have to do.
  • Love each other or perish.
  • Without love, we are birds with broken wings.
  • Don’t cling to things, because everything is impermanent.
  • If you’re always battling against getting older, you’re always going to be unhappy, because it will happen anyhow.
  • You have to find what’s true and beautiful in your life as it is now.
  • We put our values in the wrong things. and it leads to very disillusioned lives.
  • Do the kind of things that come from the heart. When you do, you won’t be dissatisfied, you own’t be envious, you won’t be longing for somebody else’s things. On the contrary, you’ll be overwhelmed with what comes back.
  • Love is how you stay alive, even after you’re gone.
  • But the big things – what we value, how we think — those you must choose for yourself. You can’t let anyone — or any society determine those for you.
  • Look, no matter where you live, the biggest defect we human beings have is our shortsightedness. We don’t see what we could be. We should be looking at our potential, stretching ourselves into everything we can become.
  • Invest in the human family. Invest in people. Build a little4 community of those you love and who love you.
  • Forgive yourself before you die. then forgive others.
  • Death ends a life, not the relationship.
  • Love is when you are as concerned about someone else’s situation as you are about your own.
  • There is no such things as ‘too late” in life.

LEARN: Bride Kidnapping


Ala Kachuu – to take and flee

NIKULIN VARLEI VITSIN "KIDNAPPING CAUCASSIAN STYLE"

I just learned about this custom / practice in my Ethics Class. This disturbing.

Bride kidnapping, also known as marriage by abduction or marriage by capture, is a practice in which a man abducts the woman he wishes to marry. Bride kidnapping has been practiced throughout history around the world and continues to occur.

In many cases, society encourages the family of the bride to accept the marriage.

In Kyrgyztan,  as rural migrants flood into the city, young men too poor to afford the pageantry of a traditional wedding opt instead to kidnap a bride.

Bowing to social pressure, parents of a kidnapping victim often do not take their daughter back because, the thinking goes, a kidnapping suggests the woman has somehow been sullied. Many kidnapping victims are raped and a daughter’s virginity is prized in conservative Kyrgyz households.

This should be stopped. Every person has hisher own rights and that includes a woman’s freedom to choose who to marry. It’s as if the government allows the men in their society to objectify women.