PONDER: Be your own Hero


These are not my words. It’s something I want to share and keep here so I can read it whenever I need to be reminded.

Don’t stop being who you want to be – who you’re willing to become – just because people have a painting of who you’re mapped out to be. Focus on yourself. Challenge yourself. Become the person you know you can become. Don’t let anyone make decisions for how you’re going to be or where you’ll end up. It’s not their story you’re writing. It’s yours. Let change be your own. Let who you are be a cause for the kind of change you want in your life. You have the ability to make your own choices and the capability to lead your own life.

Be your own change. Be your own savior. And most of all, Be your own Hero.

  • -Braverhope

BOOK REVIEW : The sun and her flowers by Rupi Kaur


GOODREADS: Divided into five chapters and illustrated by Kaur, the sun and her flowers is a journey of wilting, falling, rooting, rising, and blooming. A celebration of love in all its forms.

MY GOD. How can I describe this book? I simply can’t. The only thing I need to recount and share is that I have been bookmarking and highlighting NON-STOP. If I was reading a hard copy, it would be wet with neon markers.

I love 97% of the book. ❤ ❤ ❤

  • You left and I wanted you still yet I deserved someone who was willing to stay
  • It isn’t what we left behind that breaks me. It’s what we could’ve built had we stayed.
  • I could be anything in the world but I wanted to be his.
  • You’re everywhere except right here, and it hurts.
  • If I’m not the love of your life, I’ll be the greatest loss instead.
  • Why is it that when the story ends, we begin to feel all of it.
  • You do not just wake up and become a butterfly.
  • My mother sacrificed her dream so I can dream
  • Never feel guilty for starting again.
  • When death takes my hand, I will hold you with the other and promise to find you in every lifetime.
  • I will no longer compare my path to the other.
  • The day you have everything, I hope you remember when you had nothing.
  • How do I love myself enough to know your accomplishments are not my failures.

GAHH. It’s about loss, self love, accepting your flaws, loving yourself, holding yourself accountable for your actions, living life, finding value and everything in between. ❤

BOOK REVIEW : Barking up the Wrong Tree by Eric Barker: Chapter 5


The Surprising science behind why everything you know about success is mostly wrong

Chapter 5: Believe in yourself.. sometimes. What can we learn about walking the tightrope between confidence and delusion from chess masters, secret military units, Kung Fu con artists and people who cannot feel fear.

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  • Sometimes the mere appearance of confidence can be the difference between wining and losing.
  • In ‘Self Esteem and Earnings’ showed that your level of confidence is at least as important as how smart you are when it comes to how much money you end up making.
  • More confidence provides more benefits. Studies show overconfidence increases productivity and causes you to choose challenging tasks, which make you shine in the workplace.
  • Why is confidence powerful? It gives us a feeling of control. People who believe they can succeed see opportunities, where others see threats. They are not afraid of uncertainty or ambiguity, they embrace it. They take more risks and achieve greater returns. Given the choice, they bet on themselves. They see their success as a function of their own motivation and ability – not luck, random chance or fate. They carry this belief even when luck does play a crucial role in the success.
  • Displaying overconfidence makes others feel you’re both competent and higher in status. The secret of leadership was the ability o play a role, to pretend, to be skilled in the theatrical arts .. to come across effectively, we need to master how to convey power. The perception is all that matters.
  • Confidence can improve performance and success. It can make others believe in you. But confidence can also be extremely dangerous. It can lead to delusion and hubris.
  • Dunning Kruger Effect is the odd phenomenon of people with the last experience being the most confident because they don’t have the experience to judge just how challenging something is.
  • When we’re less sure, we’re more open to new ideas and we’re actively and passively scanning the world for new ones. Listening to other people’s ideas increases brainpower. Social interactions can actually make us smarter. But there’s a catch: to get the cognitive boost, you need to take the other person’s perspective.
  • Two benefits of humility; it’s a reality check and it keeps us from being arrogant. Humility can actually drives self-improvement because we can see the gap between where we are and where we want to be.
  • We need optimism and confidence to keep gong and convince others to join our cause, but negativity and pessimism help us see problems so we can make them better.
  • Abraham Lincoln: ‘so with men, if you would win a man to your cause, first convince him that you are his sincere friend. I destroy my enemies when I make them my enemies.

How do you develop self – compassion?

  1. Talk to yourself. Don’t beat yourself up or be critical when things don’t go your way.
  2. Learn to accept your humanity. You are fallible.
  3. Recognize your failures and frustrations without either denying them or seeing them as the end of the world. Then do something about them.

 

  • Believing in yourself is nice but forgiving yourself is better.
  • Adjust for natural level of self-esteem.
  • Don’t be a faker. Be you on your best day and the people will see the real you.

THOUGHTS: 4 Things you”ll hate in Marketing and Sales.


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  1. Knocking

When you’re just beginning to build your portfolio, you’ll have to do it in baby steps. You’ve got to knock on doors, sell your company, its products and services and convince them that you’re credible. And don’t you just hate the added stares that you get once you open a door?

  1. Heat and Heels

Don’t get me wrong. Heels are a woman’s best friend. It gives you instant height, butt lift, posture and most importantly, confidence. But if you have to go knock on all doors and hop from one building to the next, the heat riles up your irritation. It makes you sweat and melts all the make-up on your face.

  1. Pretending to smile.

Even if you hate the person in front of you or if you’re just having a bad hair day or you just broke it off with your boyfriend, you have to smile. Even if the person makes you do things beyond your Job Description, you have to smile. Even if your client is demanding.

  1. Rejection

I’m the type who easily gets discouraged. I have a soft heart and I don’t really have a well full of self worth and confidence. When a client turns me down, I carry it with me for days and months and stomps the little confidence that I have.

Oh Marketing, I have to love you. I have to learn to love you. I have to.