EVERYDAY: Our Wedding (Bride’s Vows)


November 24, 2019, the most magical day of my life. ❤

Documenting this here so I can read it over and over and over again and be reminded of my commitment to my husband.

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”8 years ago, I walked into BOC looking to start my career. Instead, I met the man I was going to marry.

Bab, thank you for always braving the Saturday El Shaddai just to bring me home. Thank you for giving me your chicken skin, knowing I hate the white portion. Thank you for always giving me the last bite of our sizzling tofu.

Thank you for always supporting me & pushing me to be my best, especially when I don’t believe in myself. Thank you for trusting that I can do more. I promise I’ll always be here to support you whether you want to pursue law or try out your singing career. Thank you for never making me feel less for all my shortcomings & lastly, Thank you for enduring the boy – jojo tandem. (Everybody knows how strict my parents are).

I don’t know where life will take us but I promise that we’ll get through anything as long as we face them together. I promise not just to be your wife but to continue being your bestfriend. I promise to hear you out life a friend even in your ugliest & work it out as your wife.

I know marriage won’t always be a happy ending. There will be days we can’t bear to be with each other. I know that we will have to work on our relationship every single day, but it will be easy knowing it’s with you. I know that both of us will change but I promise to love not just the person that you are now but the person that you will become, no matter how different you may be. If I have to wake up 40 years from now and see a bald fat guy, I want it to be with you, double chin & all.

I promise not to give up on us & to do everything to make our marriage work. I promise not to run when things get hard. I promise I’ll stay even when you’re annoying as hell. I promise to love you when it’s easy & even more when it’s not. Most importantly, I promise to still hold you hand even when you wear crocs in public.

Baba, I’m not sure if you remember. But 5 years ago, I wrote a blog about you. It says,

Someday, I want to experience freaking out of wedding details. I want to argue with you what flowers should go inside the church, or what color of tux should you wear, who our ring bearer is, the color of our invitation, what our theme song is, what flavor our wedding cake will be or what band should we hire. I want to take hundreds of prenuptial pictures with you. I want to attend a wedding rehearsal and not be scared that you might flip out because I am aware of how much you love me. Someday, I want to have hundreds and thousands of butterflies in my stomach not because I’m nervous but because I am full of excitement to finally be called your wife. I want to wear a sparkling fantasy shoes because I’ve already met my prince charming. An intelligent-charming-handsome lawyer slash banker slash archaeologist prince charming. I want to feed you our cake and let you drink wine knowing that I will be doing it for the rest of our lives. Lastly, I want to walk down the aisle perfectly happy knowing that all of my dreams are waiting for me, ready to take my hand and exchange vows in front of god and in front of our families and friends. I want to walk down the aisle and say I do to the man of my dreams. 

Today, baba, I get to fulfill that dream, that blog I wrote 5 years ago. Today, I’ll be your wife. I love you baba. I can’t wait to take on life with you.

EVERYDAY: Our Wedding (Groom: The Pre-Wedding)


November 24, 2019, the most magical day of my life. ❤

GROOM: When she was still my fiancée, my wife would (once-in-a-while) ask me “When did you know / decide that you will marry me?” and I would always answer that I already knew it when I started to woo her. And she would not believe that. But it is true. I did not pursue her just to fool around. I pursued her because I wanted to be committed to her.

I proposed on October 27, 2018 in Coron, Palawan and we decided to get married (more or less) a year after the proposal. We planned our wedding date to coincide with our first date which was on November 18 but it would fall on a Monday so we decided to move it on the nearest Saturday which was on November 16. One of the mistakes that we did was to book a reception venue first before a Church. However, we already paid a non-refundable fifty thousand peso advance payment for the reception so there is really no choice but to just pick any Church for our wedding. I searched for every near church in the area but to no avail so I looked for farther Churches located in Batangas (Caleruega and Chapel on the Hill) for a weekend date. Caleruega’s 2PM schedule was fully booked until 2020. Luckily, I was able to find a free Sunday slot in Chapel on the Hill. I remember driving from my house in Sta. Ana, Manila to Chapel on the Hill in Batanagas just to reserve the available date (November 24, 2019). Consequently, we also had to change the date with our venue coordinator.

After those two major suppliers were booked, everything went by so fast. There were too many discussions and problems which came thru but my wife and I solved it by talking properly. We did not want to involve our parents so much since we wanted them to just attend the ceremony and not worry much about it.

One month before the wedding, we felt exhausted because of all the errands and the work that we should do. I just wanted everything to get done. I was already thinking of the days after the wedding (sana matapos na). 

We checked-in in our hotel on November 23, 2019 (a day before the wedding) so our families could still rest and chill before our busy day.  There was a forecasted bad weather on our wedding day so I could not relax. I was very anxious since I did not want our day to be ruined by a storm. We worked hard and sacrificed a lot just to have the BEST wedding.

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I woke up at 6am on November 24, 2019. The first thing I did was to look outside and thanked God for a blue sky. The weather was fair until the time that we had to go to the Church. It rained when my family and I were being transported to the Church. The rain was so hard. I was pissed and sad but I just prayed and I tried to be calm. Our coordinator was very helpful calming me. 

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My husband is wearing a really dark emerald suit, dark brown tie, shoes and belt. 

The room assigned to my husband is a lot bigger than mine. All of his entourage can fit inside the house. ❤ I’m pretty sure they are watching him and our PV team while they were shooting him here. 😀

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Yep! We pick GOOOOODD. ❤ It’s the watch I gave him for this 25th birthday! Our minimalist white marble invitation and the perfume I gave him too as a Christmas gift before. Since then, he’s been using the scent. ❤

It’s his siblings helping him straighten his tie and close his suit, dashing as ever. ❤

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WOAHHHHH. HANDSOME ALERT. ❤ 

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Our PV team had a fun time. Our hotel made it easy for them to shoot. ❤

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To officially introduce our groom squad. here’s the 3 of his siblings as his bestmen, 2 of the husbands of my close friends, his high school bestfriend and his cousin. My brother and his first cousins as our Secondary Sponsor.

Our groom squad is all wearing a black suit and black shoes. We all gave them neckties that will match with our bride squad. ❤

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We are surrounded with greenery and fresh air, complimenting and emphasizing the beautiful day of our union. ❤

Mr. Darcy in real life! I married this man. ❤

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And boys, being boys. They had to start the day with a shot of alcohol. Uhm hello? You’ll be marrying me.  What do you need the alcohol for? 😛

And with a shot of Jack Daniels, off they go to the church, while the groom stays to have a photo with his family. ❤

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Lastly, here’s my dashing groom opening my gift: A bunch of adventures and dates. ❤

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Bride to Groom: ‘My love, My life, My All – Baba we never have to miss another seat sale again! I love you so much. To more red eye flights, road trips, trying out hole in the wall restaurants, hopping to 1 hotel to the other. DATE DAY is all on! I can’t wait. I love love love you! ❤ ”

Groom to Bride: ‘Hi Mahal! I bought this property in 2016 para tirhan natin! Please receive the main keys for our condominium! Excited to spend our time together here. I-design and mag netflix and chill. I love you! See you sa altar! ”

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EVERYDAY: Our Wedding (The Ceremony)


November 24, 2019, the most magical day of my life. ❤

It was a beautiful Sunday afternoon. Everyone is dressed, everyone is made up. All of our loved ones, may it be family or friends or friends that became family, are gathered to celebrate our union.

Our wedding was held in Chapel on the Hill, or Don Bosco Chapel in Tagaytay. It was only 10 – 15 minutes away from our hotel.

Our union or the official ceremony is set at 2:00 in the afternoon. It was cloudy. To be honest, it was raining that afternoon but God has his ways. It was raining when we left the hotel but it stopped when I arrived in the chapel.

Inside the chapel where my husband waits, he waits impatiently and jittery. Why? Our officiant was late. HAHA. They were coming from Antipolo Cathedral and running late. Thus, the groom, my hubby and a friend of our officiant was personally contacting him as it was past 2:00 pm already. Our coordinator had to confiscate the groom’s phone to keep him from panicking. 😛

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For our entourage march, we chose an instrumental Thousand Years by Christina Perri. This is my nervous hubby with my second parents, walking down the aisle.

Our flower girls are also dressed in all white, mikado material with no beads or lace, to compliment my wedding gown. Here’s my hubby’s god daughter, maiara and my god daughter, elle carried by her father.

Here’s my handsome nephew – pio, my intelligent nephew – tyke and hubby’s cousin – matthew with a practiced showbiz smile. 😀

Meanwhile, I was feeling at ease. Still, I was not nervous AT ALL. I was even chatting with my driver and my bride assistant. UNTIL, I saw the people outside the chapel going inside! I then started to feel the NEED and URGE  to pee! Of all the times that I need to urinate — it was moments before I need to walk down the aisle. The nearest bathroom? on the other side of the chapel, where I will need to walk past all of our guest! Ergo, I need to hold it in! I was even asking my bride assistant if I can do it at the back of my bridal car. 😀 (I did it once, mind you! in college. :P)

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Like I said, it was cloudy and raining minutes before we started. While I was getting off the car and walking towards the entrance, I was focused on my walk because it was windy and my veil keeps getting caught in the branches of the trees.

15 to 20 steps from getting inside the church, it started drizzling! GAD. I was not panicky. I still maintained my composure.

I personally picked my Bridal March to be I get to love you by Ruelle. I listened to a couple of bridal songs, friends also suggested and I searched and search until I found the perfect song. This, this song is perfect for how I feel for my hubby. ❤

Every time I hear this song, before and after our marriage – it still makes my heart swell. You know how when you just get into a moment where you feel so so much love for that person, you heart feels like exploding? I’m not exaggerating. That’s how I feel for him and this song always reminds me of that. ❤

It’s true what they say, you will not hear anything! everything is blurry! When I finally turned right and face the altar – I could not see anything but my husband! I couldn’t even hear the perfect song that I chose! I just kept walking! I felt I was breezing through.

TIP: On how to walk, you’re supposed to kick your gown to the front then step. So you won’t step on your gown. And oh, don’t just go for aesthetic on your bouquet. It really is heavy.  

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And the rest of the ceremony follows. It kept pouring cats & dogs while everyone was safely inside the chapel.

Also, ask your parishes too what kind of offering they prefer. I really thought they would prefer food such as canned ones and instant noodles and the like. Apparently, they prefer cleaning materials which they can readily use for their chapel. So we offered Zonrox, Lysol, Tissues and Alcohol.

oh! Another TIP: Place your hands inside the veil and push them away from your face. I had a hard time opening my eyes the entire time! My lashes were bent down / pushed down rather by my veil.

Our song line up: for the Gospel – Alleluia, for the offertory – Lord I offer my life, for communion – Lead me Lord and Anima Christi.

Here we are, exchanging our vows. I don’t why I laughed but I did. ❤ This is the essence of our union: to commit in front of God and all our loved ones to love each other for the rest of our days.

This is our most awaited moment – the promise and our commitment. While our guests? they are actually waiting for this. 😀

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Our officiant, Fr. Nante and Fr. Peejay, the celebrators of our mass.

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For the contract signing, we chose the following songs: Thousand Miles by Vanessa Carlton, Everything by Michael Buble, I do cherish you by 98 degrees and In your eyes by Regine Velasquez.

The pictorial and recessional followed after. ❤

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For our recessional, we chose to have wands colored dark emerald and gold together with bubbles which I personally painted gold. ❤

TIP: Don’t dwell so much in the small details. During our preparation, I gave so much time and stress over the smallest of details such as the color and if the output of the bubble wands that I painted are okay. Turns out — the guests doesn’t really care about the details. But if you enjoy doing it, like I did – go ahead! No harm done as long as you are happy with it. 😀

I finally get to call the love of my life for 6 years, MY HUSBAND. ❤

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The happiest day of life, my dreams are now a reality. 

I love you so much, my baba! ❤ 

EVERYDAY: Our Wedding (Bride: The Pre-Wedding)


November 24, 2019, the most magical day of my life. ❤

We drove up to Tagaytay a day before our wedding so we can get all settled before our big day. Our family stayed in Abagatan Ti Manila. I stayed in the Heritage Room while my family were in different deluxe rooms. We actually had lunch with my relatives and had dinner with my immediate family. I even had time to do some girl talk with some of my entourage who were staying in the same hotel.

It was a perfect, sunny morning. My day started at 5:00 in the morning. My coordinator and I agreed to meet at 6:00 am so we can still do the turnover for an hour. My Hair & Make-Up team will be arriving at 7:00.

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My HMUA Team, led by Elaine Celestino arrived at 6:00 but stayed in the parking. Elaine, together with her assistant did mine, my maid of honor, the groom’s mother and our flower girl. The white robe I’m wearing while I’m doing my make-up is a gift from my cousin. Thank you, Maves!

TIP: Play your favorite songs in the background. That will help lighten everyone’s mood! Since I’m a 90s baby, I was playing RNB 90s and singing to the tunes of Shawty it’s your Booty, Buy you a drank, Confessions, Mad, My Boo, So sick, Miss Independent and the likes.

This, my final look for the church ceremony. ❤ This time, I’m wearing the dress I designed from scratch, made a reality by Embellish Dress Shop.

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My beautiful bouquet was prepared by Dangwa Florist. I wanted an all white roses. At first, I wanted a cascading bouquet but when I tried carrying one, it was too heavy for me. I changed it back to round ones. Also, check my Champagne colored heels.

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Some of our wedding details: an All White wedding invitation made by Paper Thread Studio with an illustration of us from our engagement shoot. ❤ Our rings were made by Marry Me and obviously, my perfume known to be Janna’s scent – Gucci.

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The kind of gown all small girls dream of. The Wedding Gown of my dreams. ❤ It’s an A-Line in Gazar – Mikado Material, a deep V, neck line with sheer V deep armholes, a deep V Back with floral appliques on the side and some pearls to cover my chest. The amazing thing? it has pockets! P.S. I didn’t want any diamonds or lace or sheer or sequins.

The Gown of my dreams was created by Rose Lagdameo, the official couturier of Pronovias, Mi Sueno here in the Philippines.

Uhuh! Isn’t it perfect? ❤

I swear I wasn’t feeling any nervousness. I was at peace and calm and you know, just following wherever they needed me to be. And here comes our Photographer and Videographer, Timoteo Photo and Stories by Supermac, asking me to read my vows.

Two months before our wedding, there was a memo released for all the churches in Tagaytay – we are no longer allowed to read our personal vows during the ceremony. :/ I’d like to share my Wedding Vows on a separate post.

Check out the details of my white robe from Embellish Dress Shop. ❤

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Before the shenanigans with my bridemaids, here I am being followed by a couple of photographers, shooting everywhere, all around the property of Abagatan!

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My hair was carefully done by David’s Salon! Check out my beautiful highlights! ❤ Let me take this time to introduce my bride squad: I have 2 Maids of Honor, my older sister, Jillian and my best friend, Alex. My Bridesmaids are Bianca and Atria, my 2 best friends from High School and Nicole and Jaja from my college group. My Secondary Sponsors are Katrina, one of my HS Bestfriends, my cousin Ivy and groom’s cousin, Yza.

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We got our bride squad champagne robes from SMGM Bridal Shop. It’s nice right? It’s the perfect classy color and size is right.

TIP: Get your closest friends! It will be more fun and it will be an opportunity for them to get to know each other and become close friends as well.

As our gift to our bride squad, my Maid of Honor Alex gave me 9 sets of Make-Up from Barebug, her business. And as our gift for her, I purchased a wallet from Mango.

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The beautiful gown of our bride squad was created by Christlee Marcelino. As part of our theme, our Bridesmaids wore a dark emerald gown, our Secondary Sponsors wore a sage green and our Maids of Honor wore a champagne gown. All of their gowns are plain, mikado gown with a high slit infront. ❤

Before we head to the church, we each had a toast of a fruity wine! And zero ounce of doubt or nervousness, STILL!

Of course we have to have a series of shots withe most important group – my family! A couple with my mom, my dad, my siblings and one with that yaya I grew up with.

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I love my family and I’m glad we are complete on this beautiful day. ❤

About to see the love of my life, say I do and promise to stay committed for the rest of our lives. I can’t wait. ❤ Look how happy I am!

LEARN: Bride Kidnapping


Ala Kachuu – to take and flee

NIKULIN VARLEI VITSIN "KIDNAPPING CAUCASSIAN STYLE"

I just learned about this custom / practice in my Ethics Class. This disturbing.

Bride kidnapping, also known as marriage by abduction or marriage by capture, is a practice in which a man abducts the woman he wishes to marry. Bride kidnapping has been practiced throughout history around the world and continues to occur.

In many cases, society encourages the family of the bride to accept the marriage.

In Kyrgyztan,  as rural migrants flood into the city, young men too poor to afford the pageantry of a traditional wedding opt instead to kidnap a bride.

Bowing to social pressure, parents of a kidnapping victim often do not take their daughter back because, the thinking goes, a kidnapping suggests the woman has somehow been sullied. Many kidnapping victims are raped and a daughter’s virginity is prized in conservative Kyrgyz households.

This should be stopped. Every person has hisher own rights and that includes a woman’s freedom to choose who to marry. It’s as if the government allows the men in their society to objectify women.