BOOK: A Wish for Us by Tillie Cole


GOODREADS: Nineteen-year-old Cromwell Dean is the rising star of electronic dance music. Thousands of people adore him. But no one knows him. No one sees the color of his heart. Bonnie Farraday lives for music. She lets every note into her heart, and she doesn’t understand how someone as talented as Cromwell can avoid doing the same. He’s hiding from his past, and she knows it. She tries to stay away from him, but something keeps calling her back.

The story, it’s beautiful. I just read Thousand Boy Kisses and thought that Ticole is somehow Coho. I loved it so I decided to test my new adoration and boy was I right! Now I just want to read more Ticole because I know it’ll be worth my time.

I love stories that teaches us something new. And in this book, I learned more about synesthesia. I learned about music and tempo and rhythm and classic music.

  • The idea of time, moving, us being useless to stop it.
  • Even if something makes you hate music, whatever it is can often be the catalyst for your next great work.
  • Manners cost nothing, son. Always be gracious with those who want to help.
  • EASTON to BONNIE: She’s good people. She’s my sister. But she’s more than that. She’s my best friend. Damn, she’s my compass. What the hell is the world without Bonnie? Because I will see you again. Look up, and I will always be there with you. And when it’s your time, I’ll be the one to come and get you.
  • I had made many wishes in my life, but Cromwell had been the wish that I never made.
  • Cromwell Dean was an enigma.
  • And like a forever raging sea, my heart never calmed.
  • Her laughter illuminated the room.
  • She was my silver.
  • Obstacles in life sometimes make you look at the world in ways you never did before.
  • Maybe you’re the guardian angel that has arrived to get her through all this.
  • She walked into my life like a tornado and knocked me on my ass. And I fell in love with her. Not just a little bit either. She became my whole world.
  • Cromwell Dean was my sun.
  • The girl, that with one single smile, still completely illuminated my world.

Let’s give Cromwell’s Father the credit he deserves. Yeah? First, he knew from the start that crom was not his son. But he gave him his unconditional love and unwavering support. He swallowed his pride and asked for the help of the person who got his wife pregnant. It must have been hard for him but for his son, he would do anything to achieve his full potential. Hands down.

And Cromwell? to hate his dad so much and blame him for robbing him off his childhood, lashing out and eventually finding out that your father has been killed? To think about the last things you said? That his father died not knowing that he appreciated all his efforts and that he also loved him back. That must have been difficult, the guilt eating you every single day and later finding out that he was not even your father? Whew.

I have to say that I admire how much Easton and Bonnie loved each other. The sibling love for each other is incomparable. The way they hold on to each other, the way they both get strength from each other and how they look out for each other. Wow. And this is ONE BIG SPOILER: Easton taking his own life and eventually saving the life of his twin sister for having a heart failure is BEYOND HEARTBREAKING. My mind is blown and heart is inconsolable.

The creativity, talent and passion in the whole book is truly felt. The lyrics of the song pierces the heart and stays there. The talent and their love for music is all consuming.

I have to say, now I am more freaking intrigued to read Ticole’s other books. ❤ ❤

BOOK: A Thousand Boy Kisses by Tillie Cole


GOODREADS: One kiss lasts a moment. But a thousand kisses can last a lifetime. One boy. One girl. A bond that is forged in an instant and cherished for a decade. A bond that neither time nor distance can break. A bond that will last forever. Or so they believe.
A  seventeen-year-old Rune Kristiansen returns from his native Norway to the sleepy town of Blossom Grove, Georgia, where he befriended Poppy Litchfield as a child, he has just one thing on his mind. Why did the girl who was one half of his soul, who promised to wait faithfully for his return, cut him off without a word of explanation? Rune’s heart was broken two years ago when Poppy fell silent. When he discovers the truth, he finds that the greatest heartache is yet to come.

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A heartbreaking story of a bestfriend turned to a lover story. It’s not about betrayal or cheating or losing that friendship. It’s more than that. I felt the pain and if I were Rune, I don’t think I would have survived that. :/

  • I always feel better when the light of my life sits beside me and talks to me some.
  • This life, well, it’s just a great big adventure while we have it. An adventure to enjoy and love with all of our heart before we go on to the greatest adventure of all.
  • Not just everyday kisses, but the special ones, the ones where my heart almost burst from my chest.
  • Poppymin! It means MY poppy. For infinity, forever and always. You’re my poppy. I had blinkers on to any other girl. I only saw Poppy. In my world, only she existed.
  • Maybe it was because sometimes all we get are moments. There are no do-overs, whatever happens in a moment defines life – perhaps it is life.
  • Because something so beautiful can never last forever, shouldn’t last forever. It stays for a brief moment in time to remind us how precious life is. Because something so completely perfect and special is destined to fade.
  • Maybe we’re like the cherry blossom, Rune. Like shooting stars. Maybe we loved too much too young and burned so bright that we had to fade out. Extreme beauty, quick death. We had this love long enough to teach us a lesson. To show us how capable of love we truly are.
  • Why does it take a life ending to learn how to cherish each day? Why must we wait until we run out of time to start to accomplish all that we dreamed, when once we had all the time in the world? Why don’t we look at the person we love the most like it’s the last time we will ever see them? Because if we did, life would be so vibrant. Life would be so truly and completely lived.
  • We should strive for all those precious breaths to be taken in as many precious moments we can squeeze in this short time on earth.
  • We all  have people who carry us through the worst times, the saddest times, the times that seem impossible to break free from. In one way or another, whether it’s through the Lord or a loved one or both, when we feel like we can’t walk on anymore, someone swoops in to help us, someone carries us through.
  • Rune gave Poppy her dream to be able to play in one of the biggest stage: I still wanted you to have this. To have known what this dream would feel like. I wanted you to have a chance in the spotlight. A spotlight that, in my opinion you deserve, not as the person I love most in the entire world but as the best cellist. Tonight, you have the stage, poppymin. I just wanted you to have this dream fulfilled. ❤ ❤
  • Poppy gave Rune back his passion to take photographs. She took him to see an exhibit of a famous photographer with pictures that changed the history of the world: A picture of Esther, his wife was included. It reads that even though the picture of his wife didn’t change the world, Esther changed his. ❤ ❤
  • Love was simply the tenacity to make sure that the other half of your heart knew he or she was adored in every way. In every minute of every day.
  • Poppymin, she was my cherry blossom. An unrivaled beauty, limited in its life. A beauty so extreme in its grace that it can’t last. It stays to enrich our lives, then drifts away in the wind. Never forgotten. Because it reminds us we must live. That life is fragile, yet in that fragility, there is strength. There is love. There is purpose. It reminds us that life is short, that our breaths are numbered and our destiny is fixed, regardless of how hard we fight. It reminds us not to waste a single second. Live hard, love harder. Chase dreams, seek adventures – capture moments. Live beautifully.
  • Rune on the Anniversary of Poppy’s death: lighted one thousand lanterns, where there kisses were written – to reach poppy in heaven. — You were enough to last a lifetime.

I love every chapter. I loved the whole book. They are so much in love. They were both pouring their selves to each other. It’s a bit dramatic but god, their acts of love, the theater and the exhibit? ❤ ❤ ❤ my heart on the floor. and the letter of Poppy? Bawling!

BOOK: When we Collided by Emery Lord


GOODREADS:  ”In an unflinching story about new love, old wounds, and forces beyond our control, two teens find that when you collide with the right person at just the right time, it will change you forever. Jonah never thought a girl like Vivi would come along.  Vivi didn’t know Jonah would light up her world.”

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Mainly, I appreciate the effort to raise awareness and to teach us a thing or two on different mental disorders but if I am completely honest, No. I didn’t like the story. I wasn’t drawn to it and definitely not invested in the characters. 
 
Vivi is this ball of energy, a sunshine to others and a friend to everyone. Before the said summer, she was acting out of the ordinary and was diagnosed bipolar and tried to kill herself in order to feel something, anything. Jonah is acting parent to his younger siblings while her mother grieves for the death of his father. Together with grief, he has to grow up, take care of his siblings and look after their family restaurant. 
 
Some of the lines that stuck with me:
  • The natural world makes the finest architects, designers and artists look like silly amateurs. 
  • He’s the ring to my Frodo, the wardrobe to my Lucy prevensie. His presence in my life sets me on my journey, and I can feel it, a vital mission pulsing in my bones. 
  • But life surprises you. It tells you to close your eyes and blow out the candles, and then sometimes smashes your face into the cake before you can even make a wish. 
  • Well sometimes the universe gives you back, when it doesn’t want you yet — it just wants to remind you that it could, if it wants to. 
  • He looks at me with a look of amazement, like I’m a whole galaxy, glittering and vast and uncharted. 
  • How about you just let me be me and I’ll let you be you. We’ll feel everything we feel and not apologize for it. 
  • He said the measure of the man is in those decisions. Do you keep yourself and your family in safe harbor always? or do you move forward and brave the storms? 
  • Each broken person is different and there is no right way for everyone. Just a whole lot of wrong ways. 
  • No matter what heaven you believe in, your time on this earth will end. What I’m saying is that you should listen – really listen – to the slosh of the waves and the distant call of pacific birds. You should fill your lungs with ocean air, while you still can. 
  • Sometimes you have to scream to be heard and sometimes you have to open your lungs and let the words fly because they are inside you. 
  • This is going to ruin a few days. It might make some weeks harder. A few hard weeks in a great, big life. 
  • Sometimes trying to make things better makes us better too. The point is, I’m trying to create good things in the midst of bad. 
  • Maybe we are dying planets, jonah being drawn into the darkness. When we collided, we bounced each other back into orbit. And now we have to do that – we have to return to our own paths because that’s what we gave each other. 
  • That’s the thing they never tell you about love, just because one ends, that doesn’t mean it failed. 
  • A cherry pie isn’t a failure just because you eat it all. It’s perfect for what it is and then it’s gone. And exchanging the truest part of yourself – all the things that you are – with someone? What a slice of life. One I’ll carry with me into every single someday. 
  • There are thousands upon thousands of other stories. One is that it’s hard sometimes and maybe the path isn’t perfect but you get there. Some difficult weeks in wonderful lives. 
  • Keep talking. Because even when it doesn’t feel like it, more best days are always ahead. Claim them. 
 
What are the two things I learned from this story? 
 
One is that you can certainly have a bad day, a bad week or a bad month. But you can still have the best life. 
Two, not all relationships are meant to last. But each person that you can encounter teaches you something, they have a purpose in your life. 

BOOK: Where the Forest meets the Stars by Glendy Vanderah


GOODREADS: The girl calls herself Ursa, and she claims to have been sent from the stars to witness five miracles. With concerns about the child’s home situation, Jo reluctantly agrees to let her stay—just until she learns more about Ursa’s past.

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CAPTIVATING. The Story is simply captivating.

Where did this little girl come from? Is she a changeling? Should I be scared? Is this some sort of sci-fi fiction? Does she have powers? and why in the hell is this girl so smart?

As I kept on reading chapter after chapter, I felt nothing but pure curiosity how this story unfolds, what secret ursa is keeping and is she really from another universe? Man! Ursa got her story figured out! From her earpood and hetrayeh to the quarks!!

In a way, everyone needs to be more like Ursa. She is stubborn, knows what she wants and fights for it, courageous, strong willed, resourceful and curious about every little thing! AND, she sees the joy in all places! ❤

This is my first time to read a Vanderah and I’m sure as hell won’t doubt to read another one. ❤ (Two days too! )

BOOK: HOPELESS by Colleen Hoover


GOODREADS: Sometimes discovering the truth can leave you more hopeless than believing the lies…

That’s what seventeen-year-old Sky realizes after she meets Dean Holder. A guy with a reputation that rivals her own and an uncanny ability to invoke feelings in her she’s never had before. He terrifies her and captivates her all in the span of just one encounter, and something about the way he makes her feel sparks buried memories from a past that she wishes could just stay buried. When the secrets he’s been keeping are finally revealed, every single facet of Sky’s life will change forever.

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This book will let you experience butterflies in your stomach at one point and when you’re invested already, it will make you see pain, fear and trauma.

First, let me just put it out there:

  • Everything about him causes my lungs to fail and heart to go into over drive.
  • You can’t get mad at a real ending.
  • Not everything is going to go my way and not everyone gets a happily ever after. Life is real and sometimes it’s ugly and you just have to learn how to cope.
  • LIVE  (Like + LoVE)
  • When it’s you and me, Sky.. it’ll never be anything less.
  • Life can’t be divided into chapters .. only minutes. The events of your life are all crammed together one minute right after the other without any time lapses or blank pages or chapter breaks because no matter what happens life just keeps going and moving forward and words keep flowing and truths keep spewing whether you like it or not and life never lets you  pause and just catch your fucking breath.
  • The bad things aren’t you. They are just things that happen to you. You need to accept that who you are and the things that happen  to you, are not one and the same.
  • Sometimes you have to choose between a bunch of wrong choices and no right ones. You just have to choose which wrong choice feels the least wrong.
  • There will be days that I don’t think we’ll know how to survive. But we will. We will, because we have each other. So, I’m not worried about us. I’m not worried at all.

 

THE BANTER. ❤ ❤ ❤ I am fascinated with guys in the books who has a PHD in Banter. GAH. The way they twist their statements . . . ❤  ANYWAY, what I liked about this book is that it’s not just another romcom YA. It talks about the grief and devastation of a child who experienced a very traumatic sexual abuse at such a young age from her father. Alcohol, drugs and let alone depression will never be and should not be an excuse for anyone to sexually abuse someone. It haunts the victim and they carry it with them, no matter how long it has been.

I guess the only thing I didn’t like about the book is the romance part. I know I did say that I love the banter, but it’s just that. How can they fall in love in just 2 months and talk about forever? How can Sky feel ‘broken’ after just going out for 2 days? How can she feel devastated just because a guy refused to talk to her for a week? I mean, come on!! Get a grip! Sure, there were I love yous but I don’t really believe in Sky + Holder. 😛

It was an okay read but there was no I-can’t-put-it-down urge. Tho, I finished it in 2 days!

BOOK: Barking up the Wrong Tree by Eric Barker: Chapter 4


The Surprising science behind why everything you know about success is mostly wrong.

Chapter 4: It’s not what you know, It’s who you know (unless it really is what you know) What can we learn about the power of networks from hostage negotiators, top comedians and smartest person who ever lived

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  • Paul Erdos loved to collaborate. He lived out of a suitcase and routinely traveled to 25 countries, eventually working with 500 other mathematicians. ‘Erdos Number’ – a measure of how close you are to working with Paul.
  • Research shows that you don’t actually need to know more to be seen as a leader. Merely by speaking first and speaking often – people come to be seen as El Jefe and those who initially act shy in groups are perceived as less intelligent.
  • To get ahead, you need to self-promote. This comes naturally to extroverts and is actually more important than competence when it comes to being seen as a leader.
  • Having a large network opens you up to more opportunities, it exposes you to all kinds of other new possibilities.
  • Introversion predicts academic performance better than cognitive ability.
  • If you can’t stand a moment aloe, get that MBA and chase that leadership position over a passive workforce. But if people drive you crazy, dive deep into your passion, earn those ten thousand hours and be renowned as the best in your field.
  • Adam Grant: Read each situation carefully and ask yourself: What do I need to do right now to be most happy or successful?
  • When we collaborate – the gains can be exponential. But when we don’t communicate, we can end up not only missing those benefits but also getting our efforts jammed.
  • Adam Rifkin: Be a friend. It is better to give than to receive. Look for opportunities to do something for the other person, such as haring knowledge or offering an introduction to someone that person might not know but would be interested in knowing. Do not be transactional. Do not offer something because you want something in return. Instead, show a genuine interest in something you and other person have in common.
  • The Rule of Thumb in friendship: Be socially optimistic. Assume other people will like you and they probably will.
  • The groups you associate with often determine the type of person you become.
  • Thank the people around you. Relationships are the key to happiness and taking time to say ‘thanks’ renews that feeling of being blessed.

 

Fundamentals of Friendship

  1. You like Ironman? I like Ironman too. – Introduce yourself. We all choose to be friends with people who are like us.
  2. Listen and Encourage other toddlers. – Ask them questions and listen. You’re likely to hear something you can connect over. Asking people questions about themselves can create a bod as strong as lifelong friendship in a surprisingly short amount of time. Stop thinking about what you’re going to say next and focus on what they’re saying now. Don’t be afraid to pay the person a sincere compliment. Asking for advise can really help others warm up to you. Ask what challenges people face. Everyone loves to complain a little about the things that stress them out.
  3. Be a giver. Share yout twinkies. – Offer to help people. When people say they’re having a trouble about something, find a way to help.

How to get an Amazing Mentor right for you? 

  1. Be a worthy pupil – When the student is ready, the teacher appears.
  2. Study them, really study them – Spend time and be intimately familiar with someone’s work and you want someone who scares you a bit.
  3. Wasting a mentor’s time is a mortal sin – Asking great questions is a perfect way to build a relationship. Never ask a mentor a question Google can easily answer for you.
  4. Follow up – The key is to stay relevant. You need to consistently hit them with a conversation to keep the relationship alive but without being a nuisance. Do what they said, get results and let them know they made a difference.

 

We all have stuff we can learn from someone else. 

BOOK: Barking up the Wrong Tree by Eric Barker: Chapter 3


The Surprising science behind why everything you know about success is mostly wrong.

Chapter 3: Do Quitters never win and Winners never quit? 

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  • Creative individuals frame their experiences. They regard failure as a learning experience. They try to build upon its lessons in their future endeavors.
  • The capacity to continue trying despite repeated setbacks was associated with a more optimistic outlook in life.
  • Sometimes quitting is the smartest choice and giving up, when done right can make you a huge success too.
  • ‘Self Talk’ – It turns out when these words are positive, they have a huge effect on your mental toughness, your ability to keep going.
  • We’re not always right that we ‘can’t do it’. Sometimes there’s a way out that we didn’t see because we gave up.
  • ‘Depressive Realism’ – optimists lie to themselves. But if we all stop believing anything can change, nothing ever will. We need a bit of fantasy to keep us going.
  • It all comes down from the stories you tell yourself about the world. And that’s something you can change.
  • Optimists shape their stories according to 3 Ps: permanence, pervasiveness and personalization.
  • If life is all about pleasure, then when it ceases to be fun or immediately beneficial, we quit. When we step outside the wish for comfort, when we live for something greater than ourselves, we no longer have to fight the pain, we accept the pain as a sacrifice. And we don’t give up. It’s the stories we tell ourselves that keep us going. They can be a higher truth. Or in many cases, they don’t need to be true at all.
  • Frankl: What is to give light must endure burning.
  • Stories are the invisible undercurrent that promotes success in a shocking number of the most important areas of life. Stories are a filter, imposing order on an often chaotic world. Stories remove information. They make recollections less accurate. They are deliberately constructed, but life often isn’t. Stories can keep us going because of their inaccuracy. Stories aren’t perfect pictures of the world, but they allow us to succeed for this very reason. You weren’t ‘born to do anything in particular but when your ‘story’ says you were ‘born’ to do something, you perform better and persist.
  • A healthy minds tells itself flattering lies.
  • ‘Scrooge Effect’ – when you take a little time to think about death, you become more kind and generous to others. You put aside short-term goals for a moment and consider who you really want to be.
  • Fate is that thing we cannot avoid. It comes for us despite how we try to dun from it. Destiny is the thing we must chase, what we must bring to fruition. It’s what we strive toward and make true.
  • We are what we pretend to be. If you want to be a knight, act like a knight.
  • ‘Cognitive reappraisal’ – telling yourself a different story about what is happening. By engaging in cognitive reappraisal and telling ourselves a different story about what is happening, we an subvert the entire willpower paradigm.

Make it a game. Make your problems, struggles or goals a game and make it WNGF – Winnable, Novel Challenges, Goals and Feedback

  1. Winnable – Each game has clear rules. We intuitively know that and it makes us very positive about our chances if we persist.
  2. Novel Challenges – Good games make sure we’re always stimulates by something just a little different, honing our attention.
  3. Goals – Good games are very clear what you need to do to win. They serve to focus you and guide decision making.
  4. Feedback – the best way to motivate people is by facilitating small wins. Once a small win has been accomplished, forces are set in motion that favor another small win.

 

The Upside of Quitting

  • Everything we do in life is a trade – off. Choosing to do one thing means not doing something else.
  • Opportunity Cost – the price of anything is the amount of life you exchange for it.
  • Quit doesn’t have to be the opposite of grit. It has to be Strategic Quitting.
  • Once you’ve found something you’re passionate about, quitting secondary things can be an advantage, because it frees up time to do that number one thing.
  • Peter Drucker: time is the most important resource. Getting rid of everything that wasn’t moving the needle when it came to achieving your goals.
  • Know your number one priority. Then start quitting stuff that isn’t as important and see what happens.
  • You can do anything once you stop trying to do everything.
  • Try things. Quit what fails. Then apply grit.
  • The more experiments you make, the better. Fail fast, fail cheap.
  • Moving on from dead end pursuits is essential to the discovery of more promising paths.

So don’t be afraid to do some experiments and quit the ones that don’t work. It can lead to great things. You need to quit some things to find out what to be gritty at. And you need to try stuff knowing you might quit some of it to open yourself up to the luck and opportunities that can make you successful. 

BOOK: Barking up the Wrong Tree by Eric Barker: Chapter 2


The Surprising science behind why everything you know about success is mostly wrong.

Chapter 2: Do Nice Guys finish last? What can you learn about trust, cooperation and kindness.. from Gang members, pirates and serial killers

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  • According to Jeffrey Pfeffer, managing what your boss thinks of you is far more important than actual hard work.
  • Brilliant but Cruel: If someone is too nice, we figure they must be less competent. In fact, being a jerk makes others see you as more powerful.
  • Why do jerks succeed? they’re assertive about what they want, and they’re not afraid to let others know about what they’ve achieved.
  • Ruut Veenhoven: The quality of society is more important than your place in the society.
  • Discipline of continuous dealings: When you know and trust someone, it makes a transaction smoother and faster. That means more transactions happen, producing a better market and more value for everyone involve.

 

Axelrod’s Four Lessons from TFT’s success: (tit for tat)

  1. Don’t be envious – Just because someone else wins, that doesn’t mean you lose. Sometimes that person needs the fruit and you need the peel. And sometimes the strategy that makes you lose small on this round makes you win big on the next. Don’t worry how well the other side is doing, worry about how well you’re doing. 
  2. Don’t be the first to defect – Not only in reciprocity one of the key elements of being influential and winning favor with others but it’s also essential that you go first. All the big winners are nice and all the big losers started off betraying.
  3. Reciprocate both cooperation and defection – Never betray anyone initially. But if a person cheats you, don’t be a martyr.
  4. Don’t be too clever :

 

SIX FAST RULES

  • Pick the right pond – the people who surround us often determine who we become.
  • Cooperate first – Go ahead and send that new inmate a gift basket. When the knives come out in prison yard, you’ll have a lot more people watching your back.
  • Being selfless isn’t saintly, it’s silly
  • Work hard but make sure it gets noticed – Jerks are not afraid to push a little. They self-promote. They negotiate. They make themselves visible.
  • Think long term and make others think long term – a person always discern on two things; whether a potential partner can be trusted and whether he is likely to be encountered again.
  • Forgive

BOOK: TUESDAYS WITH MORRIE BY MITCH ALBOM


Do I wither up and disappear or do I make the best of my time left?

Are you giving to your community? Are you at peace with yourself?

Are you trying to be as human as you can be?

This, I believe is a straight up classroom type life lessons as portrayed by Mitch himself and his tuesday conversations with his previous professor who is currently battling cancer. Here, Morrie asks Mitch to accompany him to his last days as he teaches each and everyone of us how to live by learning how to die.

*** second book to re-read! ❤

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Accept what you are able to do and what you are not able to do. Accept the past as past without denying it or discarding it. Learn to forgive yourself and others. Don’t assume that it’s too late to get involved.

Dying is only one thing to be sad over. Living unhappily is something else.

The culture that we have does not make people feel good about themselves. We’re teaching the wrong things. And you have to be strong enough to say it the culture doesn’t work for you, don’t buy it. Create your own.

The tension of opposites? Life is a series of pulls back and forth. You want to do one thing but you are bound to do something else. Something hurts you, yet you know it shouldn’t. Most of us live somewhere in the middle. So which side wins? Love wins. Love always wins.

So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half – asleep, even when they’re busy doing things they think are important. This is because they are chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning to your life is to devote yourself to loving others, to your community and to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.

I. WORLD

Death is the great equalizer, the one big thing that can finally make strangers shed a tear for one another. The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love and to let it come in. Love is the only rational act.

II. FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF

I give myself a good cry when I need it. But then I concentrate on all the good things still in my life. A thing is only horrible if you see it that way.

III. REGRETS

Is this all? Is this all I want? Is something missing? We all need teachers in our lives.

IV. DEATH

Everyone knows they’re going to die. but nobody believes it. If we did, we would do things differently. To know you’re going to die and to be prepared for it at any time. That way, you can actually be more involved in your life while you’re living. Once you learn how to die, you learn how to live.

V. FAMILY

There is no foundation, no secure ground upon which people may stand today if it isn’t the family. Family is not about justt love but letting others know there’s someone who is watching out for them.

VI. EMOTIONS

Don’t  cling to things because everything is impermanent. Detachment doesn’t mean you don’t let the experience penetrate you. On the contrary, you let it penetrate you fully. That’s how you are able to leave it. Wash yourself with emotion. It won’t hurt you. It will only help.

VII. FEAR OF AGING

It’s like going back to being a child again. We all know how to be a child. It’s inside all of us. It’s just remembering how to enjoy it. Aging is not just decay. It’s growth. It’s more than the negative you’re going to die, it’s also the positive that you understand you’re going to die and that you live a better life because of it. You have to find what’s good and true and beautiful as it is now. Looking back makes you competitive. How can I be envious of where you are — when I’ve been there myself?

VIII. MONEY

Money is not a substitute for tenderness, and power is not substitute for tenderness. Know what really gives you satisfaction? Offering others what you have to give. Devote yourself to loving others, and devote yourself to your community and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning. Only an open heart will allow you to float equally between everyone. Do the kind of things that come from the heart. When you do, you won’t be dissatisfied, you won’t be envious, you won’t be longing for somebody else’s things.

IX. LOVE GOES ON

Love is how you stay alive, even after you’re gone. As long as we can love each other, and remember the feeling of love we had, we can die without ever really going away. All the love you created is still there. You live on — in the hearts of everyone you have touched and nurtured. Death ends a life, not a relationship.

X. MARRIAGE

In marriage, you get tested. You find out who you are, who the other person is, and how you can accommodate or don’t. If you don’t respect the  other person, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. If you don’t know how to compromise, if you can’t talk openly about what goes on between you and if you don’t have a common set of values in life, you’re gonna have trouble — and the biggest one? your belief in the importance of your marriage.

XI. CULTURE

The big things — how we think, what we value– those you must choose yourself. You can’t let anyone or society determine those for you. Every society has its own problems. The way you do it, is not to run away. You have to work at creating your own culture. No matter where you live, the biggest defect we human beings have is our shortsightedness. We don’t see what we could be. We should be looking at our potential, stretching ourselves into everything we can become. We all need others.

Be compassionate. Take responsibility for each other. If we only learned those lessons, this world would be so much a better place.

XII. FORGIVENESS

Forgive yourself before you die and forgive others. Make peace.

 

BOOK: GOODBYE DAYS by JEFF ZENTNER


What if you could spend one last day with someone you lost?

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GOODREADS: ‘One day Carver Briggs had it all—three best friends, a supportive family, and a reputation as a talented writer at his high school, Nashville Academy for the Arts.

The next day he lost it all when he sent a simple text to his friend Mars, right before Mars, Eli, and Blake were killed in a car crash.

Now Carver can’t stop blaming himself for the accident, and he’s not the only one. Eli’s twin sister is trying to freeze him out of school with her death-ray stare. And Mars’s father, a powerful judge, is pressuring the district attorney to open a criminal investigation into Carver’s actions.

Luckily, Carver has some unexpected allies: Eli’s girlfriend, the only person to stand by him at school; Dr. Mendez, his new therapist; and Blake’s grandmother, who asks Carver to spend a Goodbye Day with her to share their memories and say a proper goodbye to his friend.’

  • Death steals everything except our stories
  • Funny how people move through this world leaving little pieces of their story with the people they meet, for them to carry. Makes you wonder what’d happen if all those people put their puzzle pieces together.
  • Sometimes pain makes us do bizarre things.
  • – I like the relationship of Blake and the grandma. How he spent saturday morning with her fishing although they are bad at fishing, just so they can bond together.
  • What do you think it takes to keep you out of heaven?
  • I think the only person who knows someone completely is that person. And even then, not always.
  • We go about our lives doing everything we can to keep from looking silly.
  • No one knows how anybody lives through anything. People just do.
  • I wish I’d held on to every moment with him the way a drowning person holds a life preserver.
  • What if there’s a god who’s so much bigger and more powerful than anything that he build universes like ships in bottles, and no matter how far you look or reach, you can’t see or tough outside the bottle?
  • For the most part, you don’t hold the people you love in your heart because they rescued you from drowning or pulled you from a burning house. Mostly you hold them in your heart because they save you, in a million quiet and perfect ways from being alone.
  • Nobility has a funny way of disappearing when accountability raises its ugly head.
  • Have you ever done something similar to this with your own parents? where you tell them who you are? 

BOOK: SAD GIRLS by LANG LEAV


School is almost out for Audrey, but the panic attacks are just beginning. Because Audrey told a lie and now her classmate, Ana, is dead. Just as her world begins to spin out of control, Audrey meets the enigmatic Rad—the boy who could turn it all around. But will their ill-timed romance drive her closer to the edge?

 The lie that Audrey was really creepy, gross and just downright disgusting. How can a father rape his own daughters? That would be one of the worse. —- Although it’s not far from reality, with the crimes nowadays. It’s just one of the worse lies.  And how can Rad not do anything about it? Was it out of fear? But if you love the girl, speak. It’s not also right to let someone else get the blame, even if it wasn’t intentional.

 ·         But you can’t make people listen. They have to come around in their own time, wondering what happened and why the world blew up around them.

·         She carried herself like a storm or a melodrama. She could walk into a room and instantly change the atmosphere.

·         The most beautiful things are damaged in some way.

·         I can’t live my whole life worrying about every damn thing people are saying about me.

·         There are millions of books out there. We could be living all sorts of lives.

·         Its human nature I suppose. To have another person validate your own unique view of the world.

·         It’s about running your own race.

·         Write something that will make sense ten years from now.

·         Writing was cathartic for me.

·         All sad people write. A way of working through things that feel unresolved, like undoing a knot. People who are prone to sadness are more likely to pick up a pen.

·         Sometimes, we get attached to things, just for the sake of it. Long after we’ve outgrown it.

·         You can’t go through your life without hurting people. It’s unrealistic.

·         What if I’m making a huge mistake? Then make it.

·         Isn’t it weird? You can create something that is pure genius. But you have to get your timing right.

·         You and me – we’re meant to be rock solid, right? I always thought if nothing else worked out in my life, I’d still have you.

·         Our emotions pull us in different directions. The stronger the emotion, the greater the pull. Feelings are not always practical, nor do they make any logical sense. That’s just the way it goes.

·         The period where you cross the threshold into adulthood. And it’s meant to be a times that is as magical as it is unsettling. Your life is thrown into chaos and disarray. Think of it as your own tiny revolution.

·         Writing is the consolation price your’re given when you don’t get the thing you want the most.

·         She’s in every damn line he writes.

·         Our first love isn’t the first person you give your heart to – it’s the first one who breaks it.

·         Too many great things in this world get lost because of reason.

·         You’ve got to do what your heart tells you to.

·         It was one of those apocalyptic ‘fuck you’ to the universe kind of moments.

BOOKS: BOOKS OF 2016


Every person has a literature inside them.

  1. The Girl who kissed a lie. (review)
  2. Me before you (review)
  3. A clockwork Orange (review)
  4. Lolita (review)
  5. Every Heart (review)
  6. Seagull (review)
  7. The Guarded Heart (review)
  8. Love, Lucas
  9. The Unbearable Lighness of Being
  10. Openly Straight (review)
  11. I’ll give you the Sun (review)
  12. When Summer Ends (review)
  13. I see you (review)
  14. The Night we said yes
  15.  You and Everything After

BOOKS: BOOKS OF 2015


Hiiii! This is just my way of keeping tabs on the books that I’ve read. So let me just list it down here. Okay?

  1. A long way down by Nick Hornby
  2. The gift of Acabar by Og Mandino
  3. More than her
  4. This is where I leave you
  5. Stargirl
  6. The Great Gatsby
  7. Never Never
  8. Beautiful you
  9. Never Eighteen
  10. Maybe Someday
  11. Kite Runner
  12. The Greatest Miracle in the world
  13. Gracefully Grayson
  14. Lift
  15. All the Bright Places
  16. Slammed
  17. The Perfectionists
  18. Playlist for the Dead
  19. Truest
  20. Colorless Tzukuru Takazaki

EVERYDAY: 25th


A simple white dress can make me happy. It need not be grand or branded or expensive. It just have to look pretty. I didn’t wish for any material thing. But God probably has other plans. Everything I wished for cannot be equated financially.
I was quite devastated with the way my birthday turned out to be. I always wanted to go somewhere new and do some new exciting stuff on my birthday (Batangas, Ilocos). But then the boyfriend cannot go on leave since he’s new in his job. Thus, the plan ended up having dinner with him, instead. Little did I know, someone would ring me at 5 in the morning, ask me to comedown and bring me flowers, cake and gifts. 🙂 (Thank you, love!) What’s more in store for my day?

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I had a quick lunch with my Dad on the way to some very important meeting – which I’d claim that turned out extremely good. Can you guess where?

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After my productive meeting, I met up with one of my bestfriends – Alex at Shangrila. We had lunch at Balboa. Scrap that. We had a BIG LUNCH.
We ordered for Nothing Hill at Php 268 It’s bacon and crab croquettes. I wasn’t able to taste this dish though.

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And I guess you already know my staple food – Four Cheese Pizza for Php 398.
You can never, ever go wrong with Four Cheese. It’s always a guarantee that it’ll be irresistibly good.

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Lastly, Picasso for Php 328 – a Truffle Mushroom Linguine.
It was bland. It was not a bad choice but there could a lot more better pasta than this one.

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And we obviously had fun goofing around.

 

Thank you for the Pandora, fart and for the book (which I already read) Bahaha. :*

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And for dinner, I had a quiet and romantic dinner with the boyfriend at Discovery Suites, 22 Prime Steak to be exact.

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We both ordered for the Baby Back Ribs that comes with their salad and a cocktail already.
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Thank you for making my day extra special, babe. And thank you for buying all the books on my list!
I’ll take care of the Kate Spade Earrings! 🙂 Thank youuu for all the trouble and a bigger thank you for the moral support on my meeting that day and for continuously being my fan. I love you.
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LEARN: Books for 2016


As Goodreads, kept reminding me of my Reading Challenge, I will now have to post my Book List. I challenged myself to read at least 25 books this year.

I have with me e-books. So I’m going to take advantage of those.

  1. The Girl who kissed a lie – DONE
  2. Me before you – CURRENTLY READING
  3. Always you
  4. I’ll give you the sun
  5. How I fly
  6. Love letters to the dead
  7. November 9
  8. Made you up
  9. The start of everything
  10. When summer ends
  11. Lola and the Boy next door
  12. Isla and the happily ever after
  13. Anna and the french kiss
  14. The rest of us just lives here
  15. Norwegian wood
  16. The lovesick cure
  17. Say what you will
  18. We were liars

Books I need to buy (only because it’s listed on the must read list)

  1. A clockwork Orange
  2. The April Witch
  3. Heaven has no favorites
  4. 1984
  5. Light breathing
  6. One hundred years of solitude
  7. The prince
  8. Lolita
  9. The master & margarita

Do you have any recommendations? Any books you’d like me to read first? What are your favorites? Please share it with me.