THOUGHTS: The A – Z of Skincare


Buying the perfect skincare for your skin is such a daunting task. I’m not a skin care expert nor do I claim myself to be. I don’t even have a solid miracle stash until today. I have been using serums in less than a year and I still have a lot to learn.

The market is plagued with so much skin care products and I took the liberty to sum up all the common ingredients in a skin care to help me decide on the best product to buy and combine.

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AZELAIC ACID

BEST FOR: Anti-Inflammatory and Anti-Microbial.

ALSO: Cell turnover so scarring is minimized and fades marks

AHA (Alpha Hydrooxy Acids)

BEST FOR: Exfoliation, Cell Turnover for Brighter Skin

ALSO: Promotes Collagen and Blood flow, Corrects discoloration & age spots

BHA (Beta Hydroxy Acids)

BEST FOR: Exfoliation

ALSO: Diminishes the look of fine lines and wrinkles,, improves dull skin tone.

DIFFERENCE WITH AHA: It is oil-soluble.

BAKUCHIOL

BEST FOR: Anti Aging (Retinol Alternative)

ALSO: Anti-Inflammatory and Antioxidant, Stimulates collagen and Increases cell turnover

BENTONITE CLAY

BEST FOR: Healing and Regeneration Process

ALSO: Shrinks, unclogs and tighten pores, promotes blood circulation and eases irritation

KAOLIN CLAY

BEST FOR: Blood Circulation

ALSO: Softens skin & draws out oil

RHASSOUL CLAY

BEST FOR: Removing impurities

ALSO: Evens out skin tone, stimulates blood circulation, redues flakiness

EMOLIENTS (Squalene, Lanolin, Paraffin)

BEST FOR: Softening the skin

ALSO: Improves dry and flaky skin

GLUTATHIONE

BEST FOR: Antioxidant

ALSO: Reduces pigmentation, brightens the skin, detoxifies the body

GLYCERIN

BEST FOR: Softens the skin

ALSO: Reduces appearance of wrinkles and slows down aging

HYALURONIC ACID

BEST FOR: Moisturizes skin

ALSO: Slows down aging and speeds up healing process

NIACINAMIDE

BEST FOR: Antioxidant

ALSO: Brightens skin, reduces pigmentation and minimizes pores

PEPTIDES

BEST FOR: Anti-aging

ALSO: Stimulates production of collagen, promotes skin firmness and seals mositure

RETINOL

BEST FOR: Anti-aging

ALSO: Promotes collagen and fades pigmentation

SALICYLIC ACID

BEST FOR: Removes impurities

ALSO: Removes excess oil, softens the skin and helps shed off dead skin cells

SQUALENE

BEST FOR: Hydration

ALSO: Reduces wrinkles and eliminate scars

VITAMIN C

BEST FOR: Skin Brightening

ALSO: Promotes collagen production, Boosts immunity & repairs body tissues

VITAMIN E

BEST FOR: Hydration

ALSO: Reduces UV Damages on skin and Anti Aging

I hope this helped you somehow. I know it cleared up some questions I have. Did I miss something? Please feel free to add in the comments below. I’d like to learn some more. ❤ 

THOUGHTS: The 6 Phones I’ve had in my life


Phones have a special place in our lives. Do you agree? It’s the first thing you look for when you wake up in the morning and the last thing you hold when you go to sleep. Don’t deny it! You can’t even leave the house without it. Sure, we can offer the excuse of for emergencies and the importance of communication these days.

But there’s an obsession already. Right? And I’m not being a hypocrite. I am also guilty of such. And since we have all the time in the world now, I decided to clean a particular drawer where all of my gadgets are. And here it is, A collection of all the phones that I’ve used and own throughout these years. 😛

I did not include the Siemens Phone that I used when I was in grade school. My dad usually lets me bring it to school for Emergency but it was never really mine. 😛

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NOKIA 3530

My first ever phone. 😛 It was a semi gift during my grade school graduation. I can still remember how excited I was since it was one of the first few phones to have a color display. ❤ There was no camera but one of the things I loved most about this is how I can download different wallpapers to customize it. (Yes, as early as that, I knew I loved black – Thus my black casing.) This served me all throughout my 4 years in HS. Haha.

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Nokia 1616-2

This was especially helpful when I was living a double life. 😛 A call and text function just to cater my confused lifestyle. Haha. I used this for a brief time when I was in college.

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Sony Ericsson K800i

This is my College Phone. ❤ I love that it has a scroll in the middle. It’s what makes it unique and the flash saved me a couple of times when we were clubbing back then. 😛 Since this has a Photo Vid feature already, it’s small screen is a disadvantage.  And though it has a VGA Video Call already, I don’t think I ever used it. I was using this phone from College up until when I was working.

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Blackberry 9700

The hype when I started working! Everyone was talking about BB Messenger. I think the advantage of Blackberry is it’s BB Hub where all of your emails, instant message and SMS are all in one push notification. I loved how there’s a certain professionalism status or symbol it gives by using a Blackberry.

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Iphone 4S

The first phone I ever bought from my own pocket. ❤ and my second apple product next to my Itouch. I think this used to be my favorite phone. ❤ You all know how apple works. I love that it has so much storage, the quality of the image is great. I liked how compact and it easily fits in the palm of my hand. I used this when I was working already and the reason why I had to let this one go is because of the battery. :/

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Samsung Note 5

The phone that made the switch worth it. ❤ I still like Apple of course. But the ease of use of Samsung especially that I am studying and working, is such a gem. I usually have to transfer downloaded files, edit power point and documents for school and with this phone, everything was seamless. I can edit right away and with the help of an OTG, everything was easy! Aside from that, the quality of the image under a Natural Light is perfect and doesn’t need any edits. ❤ I love love love this phone. Unfortunately, after 4 years of using it, I think the problem was battery too. :/

 

Currently, I am using a Samsung Galaxy A70. So far, I am loving my new phone. It may not be the latest model, but its features is also high quality. As you can see from the history of my phones, I don’t normally buy the latest or the highest model, I like to maximize the life of each one, or maybe just an excuse because I’m somehow (kuripot). 😛

 

What’s the best phone you’ve had so far? Are you an Apple fan or Samsung User? What was your first ever phone? Let me know! Leave some comments below. ❤ Hope you can like this post and Subscribe. ❤  

THOUGHTS: 11 Instagram Accounts to follow if you love Interior Design


Let me first clear this beforehand: This is in no way, a paid Ad. This is me, trying to justify why I spend hours on this platform. 😛 Maybe it’s because I’m practically aging or that we are in the middle of renovating our home. ❤

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These are the accounts I draw inspiration from!

  • COSIEST HOME

That very simple bedroom is just so relaxing! No clutter. 😀 and so refreshing to have that black glass panel as a divider in the bathroom. Last but not the least, a swing as a whole living room? Why not?

  • CRUMBS HOME

That arc and that hallway!! You know how sometimes double decks are such a turn off because it looks so bad? Well, not anymore! black and gold works well. ❤ I also love the last picture with that black glass panel ending the hallway.

  • PERFECT HOMES

Notice the painting on the wall. It’s so refreshing! It’s abstract and with light and lovely colors. I also like that the account also features an office corner which I absolutely love — white & gold. The last picture also suggests a good way of designing a wall! — a map you can tick off of all your travels.

  • BOHEMIAN DECORS

If you’re more of a Boho Chic favoring colors and plants and flowers, follow this account! I especially love the middle picture. Look at that corner! I can picture myself having a nap or reading a book. ❤

  • COZY HOME SHOTS

White and Rattan always looks pleasing!! And look at that little swing in the middle of the living room. ❤ It’s nice peace of quiet where I can read a book. I also love the little corner in the middle picture. The black mirror accentuated the whole wall. ❤

  • MY DOMAINE

I can almost breathe the air on that first photo! That heigh ceiling is such a turn-on!! And that Airbnb? WOWWWWW. It’s like experiencing on a whole new level of cave house! This may probably be my favorite account of all. Not only are they featuring home designs but a lot of very different homes!!

  • BEFORE AFTER DESIGN

I love the concept of Before & After Design. It kind of gives me hope that no matter what the status of an area is, it can be revived to something beautiful. ❤ It also gives an idea because it gives a clear picture of how it was before.

  • NEST FEELS

Who wouldn’t love that view? And there’s so much SPACE. ❤ And I think you’ve noticed by now how I’m attracted to that black glass panel. Imagine that leading to some backyard grill.

  • HOUSE CREATIVE

I can imagine myself having an early dinner while watching that sunset! It’s like living on the beach!!!

  • MY MITZI

I’m drawn to anything white and bright. ❤

  • FRESH COAST FLIPS

Another before and after account where you can gather different ideas on what to do with your own home. ❤

Again, this is not a paid ad. This is me, simply appreciating the accounts that’s been keeping me company this pandemic. Check them out. ❤

THOUGHTS: Buffer Time according to Linkedin’s CEO


During this quarantine, I have so much ‘me time’. But I also want to be productive so what I try to do most days, I check my emails and try to edit vlogs I can upload on youtube or write posts here or just read a book. For me, that’s me time.

But then, while I was checking my email this morning, I stumbled upon this article from INC where I have a subscription from.  The article read: . LinkedIn’s CEO Just Shared the Best Work at Home Advice You’ll Read Today. Of course, I had to click. What is the BEST Advice when WFH? right? It’s been more than a month of WFH. What could be new?

BUFFER TIME! 

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According to the CEO of Linkedin, Jeff Weiner – we all need to allot a buffer time to be able to maximize our days and not be overwhelmed with anxiety and for the benefit of our mental health. Furthermore, in his post in Linkedin, he further emphasized that Buffer Time does not only mean from work. It also means from everyone and everything else that’s been keeping us busy such as caring for babies, doing household chores, or simply paying off our bills.

Buffer Time is simply taking a breather and just relaxing. Don’t feel guilty as it will not only do you good but everyone else around you.

 A 10 minute walk, a 5 minute yoga or a meditation. Be strict with your buffer time. Schedule it and do not compromise.

THOUGHTS: 25 Things you can do this Quarantine


How are you all doing so far? It’s a very difficult and sad time for everyone. I, for one am  the type of person who wants to be out and about. I don’t really like staying at home and doing nothing for a LONG time. But what can we do? We can only make the best out of the situation that we are placed in.

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Here are some things you can do while in isolation:

READ A BOOK. I’m obviously a book freak and I’ll grab a book every chance I get. Let a book transport you wherever you choose to be. Paris? Narnia? Magical World? Sci Fi? Books got you covered.

WORKOUT. Admittedly, I’m new to this. I used to be so lazy but this quarantine is making me gain pounds I don’t even want. 😛 Get your ass up! Time to get that abs and that toned body we always include in our New Year’s Resolution. You have all the time now. No excuses.

VIDEOCALL with YOUR FRIENDS. I’m included in the population who would normally ignore your call. 😛 I’d rather much text. It’s the introvert in me. But a videocall with your friends is a good way to instill something special in your mundane day. Reach out to your friends and find out how they’re doing too.

CLEAN YOUR MAKE UP BRUSHES. Who here is guilty like I am? It’s been months since I last cleaned my brushes. It’s important. You might be wandering why you’re having breakouts? It may be because the brushes you are using are not clean!

SPRING CLEANING. I love cleaning my closet! No matter how often I do this, there seems to be some clothes that I can donate, things I need to let go of or shoes and bags that I no longer use that I can throw or sell. Lessen your clutter.

COMPLETE A BINGO CHALLENGE. Who here has been seeing different kinds of Bingo in Instagram? Do you enjoy ticking the boxes? Join in the fun or make one yourself!

TRY OUT INSTAGRAM EFFECTS. Why not explore the different things you can do in Instagram aside from posting your heavily curated pictures. Try different effects such as Guess the Gibberish or Who’s more likely to? It’s fun.

DO A TIKTOK CHALLENGE. Come on! Don’t preserve your dignity. I know you have a Tiktok Account. Try the dance challenges or imitate a prank or create a duet with your friends. It’s fun way to bond with them digitally!  I know I did. 😛

LISTEN TO A PODCAST. I discovered a number of podcasts I know listen. I’m planning on listening to them even after quarantine. It’s a good way to be productive while you’re on your way home or while strolling in the mall. Do you have favorite accounts that you listen to? Let me know!

ARRANGE YOUR BOOKSHELF. I’m guilty. My bookshelf used to be a place for my charger, notebooks, pens, camera and all sorts of things. I fixed it up and let me tell you, it’s a breather looking at it now, arranged in colors and in height. 😀

CUT YOUR HAIR. This is not new to me. I have been cutting my hair for the longest time. Try it! You have all the time in the world to regret your decision. 😛 and spare time to grow your hair back. Haha Time to experiment! Too bad my husband doesn’t trust me enough to let me cut his hair.

GROOM YOUR PET. There may be a few or no pet salons that are open now. Why not trying to it yourself? It will save you a couple of bucks not going to a salon when everything normalizes. Right?

FINISH A SERIES. Been meaning to binge watch something your office mate mentioned? Now is the time. Can’t sleep? Watch! Add some popcorn or chips. Our Marathon food is Ruffles Sour Cream & Cheddar with some Maltesers and Wine. How about you?

SLEEP. Feeling tired all the time when you had to go to work? Hibernate. No one to tell you otherwise. Practice sleeping early or getting enough sleep at the very least.

DRINK COFFEE. Or whatever it is you crave. Are you a Milk Tea Addict? try to learn making one. or whip your own healthy shake all health buffs are doing.

BE A PLANT MAMA. Try to insert some greens in your home. Personally, I don’t like the smell of soil, especially when wet. So I don’t really plan on being a plant mama. But you might want to try? whatever works with you.

START PLANTING. If you don’t want a regular plant. Why not some vegetables. Grow your own market. Plant some tomatoes or potato and save your money next time you go for some grocery.

PLAY WITH YOUR PET. They miss you on an everyday basis. You now know how it feels being stuck at home. You know how your pets feel. Play with them. You are their world. Spend time with them and even include them in your tiktok videos. 😛

BOND WITH YOUR LOVED ONES. No matter who you’re stuck with this quarantine, appreciate their company. May it be your office mate, parents, siblings or cousins, spend time with them. Don’t keep to yourself.

PLAY SOME BOARD GAMES OR CARDS. There’s no better time to bring out those board games or learn a new card game. Practice your skills! Maybe next time, you’ll win. 😛 Haha

JOIN A WEBINAR. Companies and Organizations are a lot kinder these days. A lot of people are hosting FREE Webinars now. Yes, FREE. Take advantage and learn a thing or two this lockdown.

CLEAN YOUR PHONE. Delete all the screenshots thats been eating your memory! Arrange your apps. Compile it in one box or delete the ones you’re not using. Transfer your files and create a back up for the thousands of photos you’ve been keeping.

ENROLL IN AN ONLINE COURSE. There are free courses now! If not, most of them are discounted. There is no time ever wasted when spent learning something new. Enroll now.

PRAY. It may be the most effective way. You may never had the time to pray a novena? Now’s the time. Not the type to pray a Novena? Talk to him! It doesn’t have to be a formal prayer. Just talk to him. He listens, anywhere and anytime of the day.

START YOUR OWN BLOG. It keeps me productive. It also serves as my outlet for my thoughts. You can do anything with it. It’s yours. And if this is not your thing, be supportive! Like my post, subscribe to my blog or leave a comment. 😛

 

What is your new normal and How are you doing so far? What are your learning and What new habits and skills did you start? Let me know and let’s start a conversation. 

BOOK REVIEW: Girl in Pieces by Kathleen Glasgow


GOODREADS: Charlotte Davis is in pieces. At seventeen she’s already lost more than most people lose in a lifetime. But she’s learned how to forget. The broken glass washes away the sorrow until there is nothing but calm. Every new scar hardens Charlie’s heart just a little more, yet it still hurts so much. It hurts enough to not care anymore, which is sometimes what has to happen before you can find your way back from the edge.

Honestly, it took me longer than I expected. It’s not a light read and to put it out there, this book and the story can be a trigger for those with history of self harm, depressed or any suicidal thoughts.

Spoiler Alert? At seventeen years old, Charlie wakes up in Creeley, a rehab center for women who self-harm. Her father committed suicide by drowning himself, her mother gave up on her, her best friend, a fellow cutter is brain dead, she lived on the street, got sold for sex and her only friend who she likes only wanted to be friends.

I learned that talking really helps and it goes both ways. It’s important to talk to someone. Don’t keep whatever hatred or tension or sadness pent up. Lend an ear. Offer to listen to. People around you may be struggling too. Always be kind, a little kindness goes a long way. We never really know what battles other people are fighting everyday.

This is also the reason why I feel like I need to highlight Michael, Ariel, Linus and Felix. They are such a ray of sunshine in Charlie’s recovery. It’s nice how Mikey offered to help right off the bat, after not being in touch for so long. The lives of Michael and Linus also showed hope that things do get better and people get better. Michael has been sober and is living his best life. He realized he was tired of all the nonsense. Ariel! She’s what everyone needs! A mother figure to knock some sense in all of us. Don’t you think? Linus also told Charlie that she still struggles all the time and that sometimes, she just needs to wait it out. Felix, on the other hand has been helping Charlie on keeping busy and helping her translate all her feelings into paper.

Just one bit about Riley though – I loved his gift. You know how you need not tell the person what you like because he sees you? He watches you and knows what you want, what’s important to you and all? Like how Riley gave her this art book because he saw how her eyes sparkled when she was looking at this particular book.

I’m also happy with the way things ended. It should not always be a happy love story. It’s nice that Charlie is getting her shit together and that she did not llet Riley’s on stage performance affect her progress. And Oh! I also need to discuss Blue’s significant part on Charlie’s recovery. She was consistently there for her, making her feel at home, having someone to come home to, to talk to after work, someone who actually wants to be with you and appreciates your company – and I must say, it’s such a huge impact on Charlie’s confidence and mental health.

It’s not an easy read because it was so raw and honest. The author clearly depicts how the mind of a cutter runs. It’s so sad and I felt so lonely in some parts of the book. It tackles about hope, loneliness, self-harm and belonging – which everyone can relate to. This book opens you to a whole new world of understanding.

It’s such a help. Reading this book tells you that you are not alone and it’s so good to know that other people are experiencing this too, and maybe, just sometimes – that is enough, to know that someone else is feeling those too.

  • I’m so lonely in the world I want to peel all of my flesh off and walk, just bone and gristle.
  • I cut because I cut. It’s as simple as that. I need release. I need to hurt myself more than the world can hurt me, and then I can comfort myself. Hurting yourself makes you feel better. That somehow you can rid yourself of pain by causing yourself pain.
  • You don’t know what it feels like to every day, every fucking day, be so lonely that this black hole inside is going to swallow you down.
  • The moral of the story Charlie is this, don’t let the cereal eat you. It’s only a fucking box of cereal, but it will eat you alive if you let it.
  • You own all of yourself, Charlie. Every last bit.
  • Everything and everybody that’s busted can be fixed.
  • The world hurts enough. Why fucking chase it down?
  • Sometimes you have to let stuff go if you want to move forward, you know?
  • How can you live in fear of your very self?
  • Stuff happens. You just gotta keep on truckin.
  • Everybody you meet is like a little mirror of you.
  • Cutting is a fence you build upon your own body to keep people out but then you cry to be touched. But the fence is barbed. What then?
  • You be you, Charlie. You be you.
  • We have to choose who we want to be, not let the situation choose us.

MOVIE REVIEW: The Banker


IMDB: In the 1960s two African-American entrepreneurs hire a working-class white man to pretend to be the head of their business empire while they pose as a janitor and chauffeur.

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Based on true story, these 2 black men decided to fight the racial ceiling the society around them built.

Growing up, Garrett was taught not to dream big and that there are limitations to what they can achieve and what black men deserves – a life of servitude. Refusing to believe that his life is limited to what has been told to him, he educated himself. He listened to how white men runs their business, listened to conversations, eavesdrop on businessmen & observed how successful people thinks and acts.

Let’s give it to Garrett huh! He dreams the impossible and is firm on his principles. I also admire his tenacity to break the racial ceiling and for not giving up even when there were a lot of closed doors on the way. Remember what Steve Jobs said? People who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do. If you’ve watched the film, the first building owner laughed at his idea, bankers and even Joe at first thought that his idea ridiculous. But it was his strong desire and firm belief that made it all happen.

Both Bernard and Joe fought against  this prejudice that only white men can be successful, only white men can own a building, only white men can live on posh neighborhoods, only white men can book an appointment, only white men can be granted a loan and the likes.

With this notion in mind, they hire a white man, Matt to be the face of their business so they can get their foot in the door in what once was an area they cannot enter. The relationship was going great. Matt learns a lot about the business while Bernard and Joe gathers wealth with the help of Matt. Although, relationship turns sour in the end when they were caught.

I do understand the ambition of Matt to become a business owner himself, I do. Everyone wants that. However, I also do think that he’s not ripe enough to run the business on his own which proved to be true when he failed to review the contracts.

It’s sick. right? How awfully poisoned the society was before with regards to color discrimination. It’s infuriating to be called dumb just because of the color of your skin. Remember Matt’s comment when he was being investigated? (I’m sure the janitor will not understand). Sickening, I know.

Apart from that, the film also shone the light on business and wealth building. We all learned this in class. Capital is king and it was repeated all through out the movie, and is actually one of the first things that Bernard discussed with Joe (having the capital). Additionally, it’s also admirable that Bernard and Joe is not only fighting the racism for their own good but they also want to uplift the whole black community by giving them loans as an opportunity for them to better their lives and achieve what they call the American Dream.

It’s sad that they are seen as con-artists or law breakers when they in fact are not doing anything illegal. They just made it appear that Matt, the white man is the head of the business and is running on his own while the two black men, the real brains of the business were forced to hide behind mops and wheels.

It’s a good movie to watch! Recommend me some? ❤

EVERYDAY: Our Wedding (Bride: The Pre-Wedding)


November 24, 2019, the most magical day of my life. ❤

We drove up to Tagaytay a day before our wedding so we can get all settled before our big day. Our family stayed in Abagatan Ti Manila. I stayed in the Heritage Room while my family were in different deluxe rooms. We actually had lunch with my relatives and had dinner with my immediate family. I even had time to do some girl talk with some of my entourage who were staying in the same hotel.

It was a perfect, sunny morning. My day started at 5:00 in the morning. My coordinator and I agreed to meet at 6:00 am so we can still do the turnover for an hour. My Hair & Make-Up team will be arriving at 7:00.

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My HMUA Team, led by Elaine Celestino arrived at 6:00 but stayed in the parking. Elaine, together with her assistant did mine, my maid of honor, the groom’s mother and our flower girl. The white robe I’m wearing while I’m doing my make-up is a gift from my cousin. Thank you, Maves!

TIP: Play your favorite songs in the background. That will help lighten everyone’s mood! Since I’m a 90s baby, I was playing RNB 90s and singing to the tunes of Shawty it’s your Booty, Buy you a drank, Confessions, Mad, My Boo, So sick, Miss Independent and the likes.

This, my final look for the church ceremony. ❤ This time, I’m wearing the dress I designed from scratch, made a reality by Embellish Dress Shop.

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My beautiful bouquet was prepared by Dangwa Florist. I wanted an all white roses. At first, I wanted a cascading bouquet but when I tried carrying one, it was too heavy for me. I changed it back to round ones. Also, check my Champagne colored heels.

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Some of our wedding details: an All White wedding invitation made by Paper Thread Studio with an illustration of us from our engagement shoot. ❤ Our rings were made by Marry Me and obviously, my perfume known to be Janna’s scent – Gucci.

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The kind of gown all small girls dream of. The Wedding Gown of my dreams. ❤ It’s an A-Line in Gazar – Mikado Material, a deep V, neck line with sheer V deep armholes, a deep V Back with floral appliques on the side and some pearls to cover my chest. The amazing thing? it has pockets! P.S. I didn’t want any diamonds or lace or sheer or sequins.

The Gown of my dreams was created by Rose Lagdameo, the official couturier of Pronovias, Mi Sueno here in the Philippines.

Uhuh! Isn’t it perfect? ❤

I swear I wasn’t feeling any nervousness. I was at peace and calm and you know, just following wherever they needed me to be. And here comes our Photographer and Videographer, Timoteo Photo and Stories by Supermac, asking me to read my vows.

Two months before our wedding, there was a memo released for all the churches in Tagaytay – we are no longer allowed to read our personal vows during the ceremony. :/ I’d like to share my Wedding Vows on a separate post.

Check out the details of my white robe from Embellish Dress Shop. ❤

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Before the shenanigans with my bridemaids, here I am being followed by a couple of photographers, shooting everywhere, all around the property of Abagatan!

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My hair was carefully done by David’s Salon! Check out my beautiful highlights! ❤ Let me take this time to introduce my bride squad: I have 2 Maids of Honor, my older sister, Jillian and my best friend, Alex. My Bridesmaids are Bianca and Atria, my 2 best friends from High School and Nicole and Jaja from my college group. My Secondary Sponsors are Katrina, one of my HS Bestfriends, my cousin Ivy and groom’s cousin, Yza.

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We got our bride squad champagne robes from SMGM Bridal Shop. It’s nice right? It’s the perfect classy color and size is right.

TIP: Get your closest friends! It will be more fun and it will be an opportunity for them to get to know each other and become close friends as well.

As our gift to our bride squad, my Maid of Honor Alex gave me 9 sets of Make-Up from Barebug, her business. And as our gift for her, I purchased a wallet from Mango.

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The beautiful gown of our bride squad was created by Christlee Marcelino. As part of our theme, our Bridesmaids wore a dark emerald gown, our Secondary Sponsors wore a sage green and our Maids of Honor wore a champagne gown. All of their gowns are plain, mikado gown with a high slit infront. ❤

Before we head to the church, we each had a toast of a fruity wine! And zero ounce of doubt or nervousness, STILL!

Of course we have to have a series of shots withe most important group – my family! A couple with my mom, my dad, my siblings and one with that yaya I grew up with.

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I love my family and I’m glad we are complete on this beautiful day. ❤

About to see the love of my life, say I do and promise to stay committed for the rest of our lives. I can’t wait. ❤ Look how happy I am!

BOOK REVIEW : Take the Lead by Betsy Myers


GOODREADS: “Why is it that some people challenge us and motivate us to rise to our best abilities, while others seem to drain our energy and spirit? What is that particular quality certain people have that causes those around them to engage fully and feel connected?”

SEVEN CORE IDEAS

  • We all skin our knees. What count is how we pick ourselves up, learn from our mistakes and move forward.

  1. AUTHENTICITY
  • People who are authentic don’t feel the need to exaggerate their story to make themselves look better, or treat others poorly so they come out in top. People begin to be leaders at that moment when decide for themselves how to be.
  • Genuine leadership is what emerges when we are fully and freely ourselves.
  • People trust us when we are genuine – when we show up, not as who we think we should be, not who our parents and teachers, colleagues and bosses say we should be, but as who we really are.
  • We are each born with our own internal compass, an innate sense that tells us if the direction we’re heading feels right. The most important feedback is that which comes from ourselves. Part of living an authentic life is learning to trust that internal compass.
  • It is the duty of a leader to ensure that people are in the right seats – and on the right bus.
  • We continue discovering new things about ourselves throughout our lives and careers, and sometimes a situation that felt right for us at one point starts feeling like it’s no longer a fit. Sometimes we need to be open to a change in plans and give ourselves permission to change direction.
  • We each have the power to determine or change our roles in both our personal and professional lives.

2. CONNECTION

  • Sometimes when people are unhappy at work, it’s because they are in an environment where they don’t feel connected. They don’t feel they belong there, that their contribution matters or that they are valued as part of the team.
  • No matter how good you are at your work, if you don’t have good relationships with your colleagues, it may not have the impact or support it should.
  • Conversations are opportunities to learn more about the person, share something about yourselves and discover things we may have in common.
  • A shared sense of story brings about a shared sense of purpose, and it is from there that the force for a true movement is born.
  • We walk through so many other people’s lives and often don’t know the lasting impact we have.
  • The two keys for genuine conversation are the curiosity to ask questions about the other person and the generosity to share something about yourself.
  • Look for opportunities for people to meet informally, share personal stories and build relationships.

3. RESPECT

  • Making the effort to notice – opening your eyes and seeing the people around you, taking the time to talk with them and become conscious of what’s going on in their lives.
  • People want to feel that their voice matters. Effective leadership takes the time and care to listen and make sure people feel truly heard.
  • Respect means being willing to listen and let others have their voice, even when it might be inconvenient, difficult or painful to do so. This doesn’t mean we have to agree with another’s decision. It simply means being willing to listen & appreciate people for their unique perspective.
  • You have to listen and gain their trust before you can even have a conversation. You can disagree honorably once you have trust in the relationship.
  • Sometimes sharing an observation or a bit of feedback can be tremendously helpful.
  • The way we communicate and frame an issue and our awareness of the timing and context, can make all the difference in how we are heard and what results we get.
  • It’s not about ego and it’s not about who had the idea in the first place, it’s thinking strategically about who is the best person to get the job done.

4. CLARITY

  • Every organization must have a larger purpose and part of any leader’s success is the ability to communicate that purpose with vivid clarity so that it can be passed from person to person within the organization.
  • As important as what we did were the things we chose not to do
  • Less is more: instead of trying to do a bunch of different things everyday, do one thing at a time.
  • What makes a leader effective is the ability to help people become clear about which tasks are essential to the goal.
  • Informed people feel secure. People will pull together, if they all understand what’s going on and what’s at stake.
  • The key to developing people is to catch them doing something right.
  • It is easy to make assumptions about other people’s expectations, about what matters to them or what makes them feel appreciated. The only reliable way to gain that clarity is to ask.
  • Leadership is not about having all the answers, it is about asking the questions. The clarity comes from listening to the people in the field.

5. COLLABORATION

  • Effective leadership is about inclusion. People feel they are integral part of the larger process.
  • An effective leader then clearly communicates that decision is out to the troops, including what the decision is, why it was made, and what it means to the organization and to each individual involved.
  • A key ingredient in creating true collaboration is becoming aware of our assumptions and learning to challenge them.
  • If you aren’t willing to hear another point of view, how do you grow?

6. LEARNING

  • My curiosity fueled my life long learning.
  • The capacity to engage others – which is all about listening. Second, hard work and discipline and determination to keep at it and keep showing up.
  • Leaders learn is to get outside the bubble of their own experience or comfort zone and discover what is happening in the lives of people around them.
  • Effective leaders believe that their people have valuable perspective, insights and information.
  • Every leader should be willing to sit down with his team and ask them, what are we doing right? what are we doing wrong? what behaviors need to change?

7. COURAGE

  • Leaders are not necessarily fearless, but they are people who have learned how to confront and push through their fears.
  • Courage is about pushing through our fears.
  • We gain strength, and courage and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face. We must do that which we think we cannot.
  • It is when we push through our fear t stretch and grow that we gain confidence.
  • The greatest act of courage is to follow your heart and do the right thing even if it isn’t popular.
  • Sometimes you have to make decisions not everyone is going to be comfortable with. You have to focus on what you are trying to accomplish, with as much respect and care as you can for everyone involve. But you can’t let that stop you from what needs to be done. Leadership takes courage – but courage without being reckless.
  • Courage is a matter of speaking up and giving voice to an uncomfortable truth.
  • Often, once you summon the courage to take this step, it turns out to open up wonderful new possibilities that otherwise might have remained closed or hidden.

LEARN: Sharon Chuter (Founder of Uoma)


I’d really like to use my time wisely. Everyday, I waste about 2 hours waiting for my mom to pick me up from work and just scrolling my way through my social media. For the past week, I’ve been walking for a good 30 minutes to get to my husband’s office — and all this is are wasted time. So I thought of PODCASTS! – something I can listen to while I walk instead of music!

And I researched and researched on something that I can listen to and learn from. There, I stumbled upon Who What Wear. It’s a podcasts that invites successful women who’ve made an impact.

Anyway, SHARON! I learned so much during the 50 minute interview. She was so inspiring and so drawn by the impact she envisioned.

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  • “It’s easy to drop a million shades of foundation, but we wanted to come in and drop some truth. You can have a wide range of products, but do you understand the person behind the foundation?”
  • “I have a responsibility to be firm and strong, to make sure that the next woman who comes after me doesn’t feel left out of the conversation. It’s tough, but I don’t let it discourage me.”
  • “We shouldn’t ignore what makes us different for the sake of looking cool.”
  • We are trying to redefine inclusivity. Being inclusive is about being true to yourself and respecting what’s different about others — not about shoving your hands in their pockets.”
  • ”We are first and foremost a tribe of misfits and dreamers, and beauty is what comes next. ”
  • “Every business has an obligation to be in touch with the time that you’re living in and contribute to making the world better as you make money. And if you can’t do that, then you have to challenge why you exist.”
  • ”Learn from the ground up”
  • Pepsi: They think I’m too pretty for the job.
  • I learned how men see themselves.
  • We should not be so afraid of rejection. Women are crippled with rejection.
  • How does beauty have anything to do with size?
  • Raise capital early.
  • Start with your purpose. Your north should be what you want in life. Find your north that will guide you in everything that you do in life.
  • Trust the process. The best gift you can give yourself is to love yourself. If you don’t love yourself, you can’t operate at your best.

A woman of color, a woman from nigeria started this whole journey at a very young age. She jumped from one industry to another, one country to another. Her gut, courage and vision is inspiring. ❤

 

 

 

BOOK REVIEW : Regretting you by Colleen Hoover


Goodreads: Morgan Grant and her sixteen-year-old daughter, Clara, would like nothing more than to be nothing alike.Morgan is determined to prevent her daughter from making the same mistakes she did. By getting pregnant and married way too young, Morgan put her own dreams on hold. Clara doesn’t want to follow in her mother’s footsteps. Her predictable mother doesn’t have a spontaneous bone in her body.
The only person who can bring peace to the household is Chris—Morgan’s husband, Clara’s father, and the family anchor. But that peace is shattered when Chris is involved in a tragic and questionable accident. Morgan finds comfort in the last person she expects to, and Clara turns to the one boy she’s been forbidden to see.

I don’t think I’ll ever get tired of reading Coho books. ❤ ever since I saw her post about working on this book, I’ve been reeling to get my hands on this!

The story of Morgan and Clara blends together so well. Two different individuals with two different personalities going through the same loss paired with confusion and lots of heartache. It’s like Coho gave us all three books in one. You’ll see a grieving wife and a sister who’s experiencing the worst betrayal but continues to fall in love and learns to put down her walls. You’ll see a teenage girl who’s grieving for her hero yet finds out one of the most painful secrets. You’ll see how the relationship of a mother and her daughter grows through life experiences.

”Everyone around me seems to have a purpose, yet I feel like I’ve reached the age of thirty four and have absolutely no life outside of Clara and Chris”. From this book, I think I appreciated my mother better. Morgan’s pent up feelings and issues of self doubt felt so painfully real. You’ll see how much mothers sacrifice for their children, putting their dreams and life to a pause or to a complete stop. I wonder if all mothers go through that? feeling like you have no life other than being a mother to your children and a wife to your husband. I’m not saying there’s anything wrong. But like Morgan, that’s one of my fears too. Coho illustrated it so well. I wish every mother knows how important they are and how respected, appreciated and loved they are.

It makes me wonder how a seemingly good husband seems to be perfect one time and hurts you so much without knowing it? How can anyone be perfectly good liars in front of your face? I hate that I liked Chris at first. ‘What if your future wife doesn’t like it?’ ‘ You won’t’.

I love the adoring banter between Miller and his gramps. Gramps is pretty witty himself. ❤ And the way Jonah freakin saves all the watermelon jolly ranchers ever since they were kids? GAH. And the way Miller has been stalking Clara for three years!! I want a promposal, just like that. ❤ ‘One of these days, that girl is gonna notice me. You just wait’. 😀 Plus miller named his truck Nora!!! The character Clara played in the theater. ❤

  • I wonder if humans are the only living creatures who feel hollow inside.
  • Sometimes when we’re alone, he looks at me in a way that makes me feel empty when he looks away.
  • His words jar me.
  • I love it when he smiles, even after all these years of marriage.
  • Sometimes you have to walk away from the fight in order to win it.
  • I guess that happends when you become a mother, though. Your focus is no longer on yourself.
  • Heartbreak builds character.
  • For some reason, sadness in music eases music eases the sadness in my soul. It’s like the worse the heartache in a song is, the better I feel.
  • I’ve believed in you the moment I met you. I believe in myself now that I’ve finally left you.
  • I think it’s time I figure out who I was meant to become before I started living my life for everyone else.
  • Everything you do is epic, Clara.
  • Grown ups might not have their shit figured out nay more than we do. They just wear more convincing masks.
  • I just love you because I can’t help it, and it feels good to love you.
  • Attraction isn’t something that only happens once, with one person. It’s part of what drives humans. Our attraction to each other, to art, to food, to entertainment. Attraction is fun. So when you decide to commit to someone, you aren’t saying, ‘I promise I’ll never be attracted to anyone else’. You’re saying, ‘I promise to commit to you, despite my potential future attraction to other people’.
  • Relationships are hard for that very reason. Your body and your heart don’t stop finding the beauty and the attraction in other people simply because you’ve made a commitment to one person. If you ever find yourself in a situation where you’re drawn to someone else, it’s up to you to remove yourself from that situation before it becomes too hard to fight.

I ache, I smiled, I teared up, I hurt. One morning when I was with my colleague buying breakfast, she looked at me worried asking if I’m okay because I was tearing up, and I only said, I’m reading. ❤ This is what Colleen does to me.

THOUGHTS: Things I learned from my Ex


It’s 15 days before Heart’s Day and what better time to reflect on this. Don’t get me wrong. I’m still working on several of the points below but every person that you meet, every bond you’ve created, every memory that you treasure speaks volume and if you look at it hard enough, you’ll see that these experiences are bound to teach you something.

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  • There’s a life outside the relationship.

My friends used to tell me that when I first had a relationship, I forgot about them and that I was completely imprisoned by the relationship. It’s important to spend time with your partner but it’s also as important to spend time outside of your relationship, whether it is to set aside time for your hobby, spend a quiet time with your family, see your friends or whatever it is you like to do. Do it. Your partner is not your entire world. 

  • Learn to trust.

It may be difficult for someone who had an experience before, but your past is not your partner’s fault. If you love the person, trust that he will never hurt you intentionally just as you would not with him.

  • If you are truly important, he’ll wait.

Okay, this one. . . It’s a given. I was in High School. I was known for having the strictest parents alive. I had a school bus service in the morning and in the afternoon. Unlike the other students, I don’t get to socialize and go home whenever I want to. I can only socialize until a given time but I still had to ride with my bus. This certain suitor told me bluntly that the reason he stopped courting me was because I couldn’t get out of the house whenever he pleases. If he cares, if you’re important to him, he’ll spend time wherever you are, even if it’s just inside your house. 

  • Endings can mean a start something great.

It has to be. And that’s the only feasible explanation. God takes away a person because he has someone better for us. ❤ My marriage proves it. ❤ I am in a way, WAY better relationship now.

  • Appreciate the small things

You know how before it was taught to us that God appreciates the Php 10 from a beggar than a Php 1,000,000 from a Billionaire? It’s because the beggar gave everything he has. I was in a relationship before where my someone had to literally skip lunch and drink water from the cafeteria instead for a month to save Php 400 pesos to buy me a dozen Krispy Kreme donuts because she couldn’t save enough money to buy me cake? And honestly, it melted my heart. It’s really the small things that matter, the effort the other person gives. 

  • When you love someone, tell it to them. 

Life is short! If you feel it, tell it to them. If they don’t feel the same way, it’s okay. If they do, then great! Never miss a chance just because you fear rejection. 

From one of my most loved series and characters, ”If you love someone, you tell them. Even if you’re scared that it’s not the right thing. Even if you’re scared that it’ll cause problems. Even if you’re scared that it will burn your life to the ground, you say it, and you say it loud and you go from there”. – Mark Sloan

  • Never tolerate infidelity

Infidelity is breaking that sacred bond you have with your partner. A commitment is a commitment for a reason. I used to be in a semi-relationship with a guy that started when he had a girlfriend. He broke it off with her to be with me. But I realized, how will I be able to trust him to be completely faithful when I know for a fact what he’s capable of? Second Chances for infidelity is still a no for me. But it depends on your values in life.

  • Never pretend someone you’re not

This is pretty simple. If I pretend to obsess over football just because the guy I like loves football — Can I imagine myself pretending to watch football for the years to come? No. just be yourself. If you eat a LOT, eat a mouthful on your first date! Don’t starve yourself. Guys likes girls who are not as skinny as a skeleton! The relationship will lasts longer if you both feel comfortable with each other. 

  • Communication is key

I used to be one of those girls who would throw a tantrum out of nowhere. (I AM, rather) I have not been able to remedy this yet. HAHA. but most often than not, your significant others are not a mind reader. Sometimes, they have absolutely no idea what they did wrong so they will continue to do exactly that. For example, If I was scrolling my feed and I saw my husband liked his ex’s or his crush’s picture — I will  not mind him and I will intentionally be difficult. I won’t say anything. But, for him not to do that again, I will have to tell him how it made me feel so that he understands. (but this is me, still a work in progress though). Tell your someone how you feel. It’s better to express it than to hide it in the long run. 

  • Not one of my past is a mistake. 

People will come and go, whether it may be your partner or your friend. If a relationship failed, it may be that someone better will come along or that person or the relationship is meant to teach you something. Maybe your ex brought you back to your passion, maybe your ex helped you bloom, maybe your ex taught you to dance, maybe your ex opened you to a new world, etc. Maybe your past made you realize that everything has its reason and should be seen as an experience to learn from. 

THOUGHTS: Birthday Q&A


I have been searching on our very friendly and reliable Pinterest on what I can write about for my birthday. And I have been clicking non-stop and there’s way too many ideas there. 😛 Haha.

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One of it was answering questions by spelling out your name. Here goes:

V E N I C E D E L A C R U Z

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V – Last time I cried

January 16, 2020. Work is a sensitive issue for me. I cried because of something my mom said. She was trying to make me feel better about ‘it’ – SG

E – My Best Friend

My Mom. She may not be the usual type of best friend whom I tell every single thing to but she has the most effect in me. She may be the only person who can make me okay (about the stated issue above). She’s my rock. She’s the person that I look up to. I know every child must think that his/her parents knows a lot about everything. But truly my Mom does. She has a way for anything and everything. ❤

N – Favorite place to shop at

I’m not sure if it’s the age of E-commerce or old age, making me lazy to shop around in actual stores or if it’s my husband who I feel is impatient with me when looking around — but honestly. I cannot remember the last time I intentionally shop in the mall. I’m rambling. My answer is Zalora. ❤ Brands: Zalora, Zalora Basics and Something Borrowed

I – Have any tattoos or piercings? 

Yes, two. Just in my ears. I would love a tatt. I don’t know how I’ll handle the pain given I have a low tolerance for it. Last year, I was pitching the idea of tatt rings to my husband, he agreed. But now, he’s lying and telling me that he did not agree. GRR. So yeah. But I still have to do some research. I’d like a symbolic one with a very deep meaning behind it.

C – Who I like and why I like them

Let me just make it fair by mentioning someone public figure. I will not be able to do justice if I tell you it’s a friend of mine since you will not have an idea of who that person is. So, at the top of my head? Colleen Hoover. I’m planning to read my Nth book of Coho. and I honestly have not read any of her books that I hated. There. ❤ I love her simply because her works are not a waste of time. ❤ and definitely deserves to be on the reread list.

E – My Best Friend

My ultimate best friend and my everything all rolled into one. You know how you have best friends who you don’t talk to everyday, you have your eating buddy, movie buddy, kalokohan buddy, singing buddy and all? He is it. He’s my everything. He’s the one I tell every single thing to, he’s the one I tell all the new jokes to, he’s the one I tag in all the memes, he’s the one I forward quotes on facebook to, he’s the one I talk to in viber, messenger, text and comment section all at once. My husband and my everything. ❤

D – Hardest thing I’ve ever been through

I’d like to say that I’m one of the lucky ones who have not experienced any traumatizing death or calamity in life. For me, it’s the everyday battle of loving one’s self entirely, being content and happy.

E – My Best Friend

This is the third spot for best friends and I wouldn’t want to single out just one person when several of them deserve a spot. I’d like to mention most of my closest and consistent best friends are from High School. You know who you are. They are all so dear to me yet different altogether. (One very brand conscious and classy who laughs so loud, One who swears way too loud and punches way too much, One who doesn’t seem to have any bad attitude and loves to say truelaloo, One who remembers every single detail and advises like a licensed Psych)

L – One of my Insecurities

Easy. It all comes down to this. – Not being good enough. I didn’t pass the interview, because I’m not good enough. I didn’t get the promotion, because I’m not good enough. He has a crush on someone else, because I’m not good enough. I didn’t win, because I’m not good enough. I wasn’t chosen, because I’m not good enough. My skills is not good enough, my experiences is not good enough. I’m not good enough. I really have to work on this.

A – Why my last relationship ended

I wouldn’t say it was toxic. For me, at least. To put it bluntly, the relationship ended because that person blames the relationship for every single bad thing that’s happening in her life. Talk about Buddhism and karma.

C – Who I like and why I like them

Again, a public figure although I’m not sure if you know her. It’s Steph Claire Smith. She has the most amazing body without being bonesy, the most angelic smile and she sounds so genuine and true in her IG Videos. ❤ (P.S. Love her wedding gown)

R – Favorite Song at the moment

Best Days by Matt White is currently on replay since I used the same song in the SDE that I was editing. ❤ I’ll share it here within the week. 🙂

U – Where I want to be right now

I always want a getaway during my birthday. Unfortunately, there’s way too many things happening in the world right now – Taal’s pending explosion, Corona Virus and the like. So if you’re sincerely asking me where I want to be right now? I want to be in one the pretty Airbnbs in Bali with the floating fruit breakfast with my hubby. ❤

Z – How are you

If I’m being honest, I’m not at my best.  I feel so defeated. It’s been another year and I feel like I have not accomplished anything in one year. But physically, I have no ailments so I’m still grateful. 😀

THOUGHTS: Run at your own pace


We are not required to explain everything that’s happening in our lives to other people.

failed marriage, not passing the board exam, leaving a toxic relationship, finishing school at age 25, not having savings at 30.

We live this life differently. Run at your own speed

Charity Delmo

Such a helpful reminder. ❤

 

 

BOOK REVIEW : It ends with us by Colleen Hoover


GOODREADS: Sometimes it is the one who loves you who hurts you the most.

Lily hasn’t always had it easy, but that’s never stopped her from working hard for the life she wants. So when she feels a spark with a gorgeous neurosurgeon named Ryle Kincaid, everything in Lily’s life suddenly seems almost too good to be true. As questions about her new relationship overwhelm her, so do thoughts of Atlas Corrigan — her first love and a link to the past she left behind. He was her kindred spirit, her protector. When Atlas suddenly reappears, everything Lily has built with Ryle is threatened.

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When you love a person, you believe them. You believe their promises, their lies and just about anything. You believe in the goodness of their hearts. You believe in their intentions and you believe and hope that they will change.

As the story progressed, I am in awe of lily’s character. As vulnerable as she is, it took a lot of strength to take control of her life, even if there was a child on the way.

  • I feel like everyone fakes who they really are, when deep down we’re all equal amounts of screwed up. Some of us are just better at hiding it than others.
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  • There is no such thing as bad people. We’re all just people who sometimes do bad things.
  • You’re already my favorite person but now you’re making it really unfair to all the other humans because no one will ever be able to catch up to you.
  •  I like you. Everything about you. Being inside you, being outside of you, being near you. I like it all.
  • All humans make mistakes. What determines a person’s character aren’t mistakes we make, it’s how we take those mistakes and turn them into lessons rather than excuses.
  • Life is a funny thing. We only get so many years to live it, so we have to do everything we can to make sure those years are full as they can be. We shouldn’t waster time on things that might happen someday or maybe even never.
  • Maybe love isn’t something that comes full circle. It just ebbs and flows, in and out, just like the people in our lives.
  • Just because we didn’t end up on the same wave, doesn’t mean we aren’t still a part of the same ocean.
  • In the future, if by some miracle you ever find yourself in the position to fall in love again, fall in love with me.
  • Just because someone hurts you doesn’t mean you can simply stop loving them. It’s not the person’s actions that hurt the most. It’s the love. If there was no love attached to the action, the pain would be a little easier to bear.
  • She left someone she loved so that her daughters would never think that kind of relationship is okay.

My heart simply breaks for both Lily and Ryle. :/  How can you ever willingly give up someone you love and choose yourself? I think Domestic Violence happens to a lot of relationships, not just to women. But only a few brave souls can have the courage and strength to do what lily chose.

I think it makes it even harder if you love the person. It is never easy to just leave and end things. Coho taught me that right choice will always be the hardest ones. I hope I never get the chance to ever be in the same position.