BOOK: Verity by Colleen Hoover


Goodreads: Lowen Ashleigh is a struggling writer on the brink of financial ruin when she accepts the job offer of a lifetime. Jeremy Crawford, husband of bestselling author Verity Crawford, has hired Lowen to complete the remaining books in a successful series his injured wife is unable to finish. Lowen arrives at the Crawford home, ready to sort through years of Verity’s notes and outlines, hoping to find enough material to get her started. What Lowen doesn’t expect to uncover in the chaotic office is an unfinished autobiography Verity never intended for anyone to read. Page after page of bone-chilling admissions, including Verity’s recollection of what really happened the day her daughter died.

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Okay, I . DID . NOT . EXPECT . THAT.

This is no secret, I love Colleen Hoover’s books but this is mind blowingly different. It got me all confused — in an intellectual, magnificent way of writing. Verity is the ultimate manipulator!

Okay, before I spill some more details . . this is sick af but I kind of connected with the Verity from the manuscript. It’s creepy as hell and I’m not saying that I can kill a person or attempt to kill one, at the very least. But I honestly feel the same way about kids, and I don’t know if it’s ever going to change. All I can say is that the Verity in the manuscript is twisted but I do understand where she’s coming from, (not the sex addict part though).

  • Will Jeremy hate Lowen when he finds out that she hid the letter from him?
  • Will Crew grow up as twisted as Verity is?
  • Did Verity really just wrote the manuscript as a practice to be good at writing from an Antagonist point of view?
  • Is Jeremy the bad guy for lying when in fact he knows about the manuscript already?

You can never truly know a person inside and out. This book has so many plot twists I don’t even know where the truth is! I have no idea who the good person is. Verity is twisted and disturbing but YOU WILL NOT BE ABLE TO PUT IT DOWN. ❤

I completely recommend you read this book . . A S A P

BOOK: CARNAGE (Story of Me) by Lesley Jones


Goodreads: ‘When your world, your life and all of your hopes and dreams for the future are ripped out from under you, how do you go on? Death without dying is not only the most painful kind of death, it’s also the most painful kind of life and I don’t know if I’m strong enough to live it. I spend my lonely days and nights trying to make sense of what my life has become. Do I have the strength to move forward into the light, or should I just let the darkness take me? I’m Georgia Rae Layton McCarthy and this is the story of me, just me.
I’m no longer a part of an us, it’s just me.
Alone.
By myself.’

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Don’t get me wrong. I’m absolutely stunned by the first book and was really excited to read the sequel but sadly, my expectation did not live up to what the book has to offer.

Sure, the vagina- ripping – nine – inch cock wins the girl. But what irritates me about the book is how Georgia endlessly repeating that she was in love both with Maca and Cam at the same time. I feel like it negates all that she mourns, all that she feels and all the love confessions she had with Maca. Yes, I might be going overboard here but how can she expect people to empathize with her for grieving for her husband when she’s now saying that she is also in love with another man? Damn it, Georgia. You are looking like a whore to me. Maca definitely deserves someone so much better than you.

Hands down to Cam for being in love with the same girl for over 15 years and loyally, I might add. But sexual intercourse aside as his cock has its own mind. I think he might just be a sex addict to me.

But still happy for the both of them for finally getting their happy ending. And no, I don’t think I’ll be reading the third book with how disappointed I am with this. :/

BOOK: CARNAGE (Story of Us) by Lesley Jones


Goodreads: Carnage is an edgy coming of age love story that breaks all the rules and transcends the decades. Georgia and Sean’s story will stay with you long after you read the final word. An emotional, smoking hot, gut wrenching read.

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What have I done? What did I get myself into? This is complete bollocks! (Yes, british na din ako.) 😀 But seriously.. How can I subject myself into this heartbreaking ending? Lesley Jones will have you falling in love with Maca for all 300 pages of the book and rips your heart out in the last 10 pages or so.  My heart is still not with me, it’s still on the floor. 😦 I am with you, Georgia.

My God! Sean, Maca, Rock God or whatever it is — definitely destined to be a songwriter with the way he has with words — any fuckin girl will fall for him. ❤ The way he commands and all alpha, the way he uses cuss words in everything is fuckin hot. The way he adores and praises Georgia is maddening. Why do men in books tend to be perfect all the freakin time? Maca, please write me a song, dedicate it to me too on stage, in front of millions of people, look at me and just me. ❤ ❤ ❤

I only have 3 issues in the book — One, it shows a double standard society. Why is Sean blamed for 4 years for going into the room for a threesome and Georgia gets away with having an affair? And all the while — they both are saying ‘IT WILL ONLY EVER BE YOU’? At least for Sean, he was under the influence of drugs. I’m not saying it’s okay but Georgia should have suffered, blamed and tortured just the same. Georgia had sex with her ex with her consent and a clear head. She knowingly opened her legs wide for Cam. Pshhh. Two, how can an 11 yo girl and a 13 yo girl be in love with the same person all their lives? I mean, be realistic at least? I love their story. Don’t get me wrong. But how can you? I just don’t believe it will happen in real life. If it did – then it’s a miracle at the very least. Three, boy is drugs so normal with teenagers! I know that it probably wants to showcase how the famous people are with fame and money and wealth. But this is a young adult genre and kids are also reading this story. And drugs is written all over it. The characters have been using since what? since they were 15?

I love how Sean and Georgia has this secret understanding on: Show us your tits, G. ❤ I’m also intrigued by how Georgia’s brothers takes care of her. I also like having to learn British words – if I understood them the right way? (knickers) for underwear, (bloke) for dude or guys, (cunt) for pussy or vagina and (spunk) for semen or cum.

  • I’ll love you forever, G. Wherever I am in the world, whatever I’m doing, it will always be you, I’m yours for as long as you want me, for as long as I’m good for you, I’m all yours.
  • There’s no one else. There never was, It’s still only ever you.
  • I’ve missed you, I’ve missed us, I’ve missed this so fuckin much, G. This is all I want, all I’ve ever wanted for so long, just you and me, it’s like coming home.
  • Na, you smell like Gia, you smell like home, you smell like exactly where I want to spend the rest of my life. Fuck, I love you Georgia Rae and I’m gonna spend the rest of my life proving it.
  • We will get through this somehow, because this, what we have got blows all the others our of the fuckin water. Romeo and Juliet, Bonnie and Clyde, Sandy and Danny, even Baby and Jonny, they can’t touch us. They couldn’t write our story, what we have, there aren’t even words invented yet to describe it.
  • I love you because I couldn’t not. I love you because it was what I was put on this earth to do.

BOOK: Barking up the Wrong Tree by Eric Barker: Chapter 6


The Surprising science behind why everything you know about success is mostly wrong

Chapter 6: Work, Work, Work or Work Life Balance? How to find harmony between home and the office, courtesy of spiderman, Buddhist-monks, Albert Einstein, professional wrestlers and Genghis khan.

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  • Ted Williams: ‘Hundreds of kids have the natural ability to become great ballplayers but nothing but practice, practice, practice will bring out that ability.’ It wasn’t mere hours that made Williams so great, It was how he spent those hours. He was a perfectionist, constantly trying to improve.
  • Does all hard work produce success? Yes. People who wish to do so must organize their lives around a single enterprise. They must be monomaniacs, even megalomaniacs about their pursuits. They must start early, labor continuously an never give up the cause.
  • Voluminous productivity is the rule and not the exception and individuals who have made some noteworthy contributions. To be the very best, you must be a little nuts in the effort department. Hours alone are not enough. Those hours need to be hard. You need to be pushing yourself to be better.
  • Hard Work creates talent and talent plus time creates success.
  • Libri aut liberi —- Books or Children. If you’re very serious about creating things, you sacrifice family.
  • The people who survive stress the best are the ones who actually increase their social investments in the middle of the stress, which is the opposite of what most of us do. We’re more likely to have faith in the people we joke around with.
  • Don’t do more work if you can do better work.
  • Ralph Waldo Emerson: We are always getting ready to live, but never living.

Four Metrics that matter most: 

  1. Happiness – having feelings of pleasure or contentment in and about your life. (Enjoying)
  2. Achievement – achieving accomplishments that compare favorably against similar goals others have strive for. (Winning)
  3. Significance – having a positive impact on people you care about. (Counting to others)
  4. Legacy – establishing your values or accomplishments in ways that help others find future success. (Extending)

 

Most of us don’t take the time. We’re reactive, like the tribes of the steppes. And the problem with work life balance is that the old limits are no longer in place for us. We can’t rely on the world to tell us when to power down or shift gears. It’s on you now. That means you need a plan, or you’re always going to feel like you’re not doing enough. Your war is first and last with yourself.

For a WLB life, 

  • Track your time
  • Talk to your boss
  • Schedule everything
  • Control your context.
  • End the day right and on time

BOOK: Barking up the Wrong Tree by Eric Barker: Chapter 5


The Surprising science behind why everything you know about success is mostly wrong

Chapter 5: Believe in yourself.. sometimes. What can we learn about walking the tightrope between confidence and delusion from chess masters, secret military units, Kung Fu con artists and people who cannot feel fear.

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  • Sometimes the mere appearance of confidence can be the difference between wining and losing.
  • In ‘Self Esteem and Earnings’ showed that your level of confidence is at least as important as how smart you are when it comes to how much money you end up making.
  • More confidence provides more benefits. Studies show overconfidence increases productivity and causes you to choose challenging tasks, which make you shine in the workplace.
  • Why is confidence powerful? It gives us a feeling of control. People who believe they can succeed see opportunities, where others see threats. They are not afraid of uncertainty or ambiguity, they embrace it. They take more risks and achieve greater returns. Given the choice, they bet on themselves. They see their success as a function of their own motivation and ability – not luck, random chance or fate. They carry this belief even when luck does play a crucial role in the success.
  • Displaying overconfidence makes others feel you’re both competent and higher in status. The secret of leadership was the ability o play a role, to pretend, to be skilled in the theatrical arts .. to come across effectively, we need to master how to convey power. The perception is all that matters.
  • Confidence can improve performance and success. It can make others believe in you. But confidence can also be extremely dangerous. It can lead to delusion and hubris.
  • Dunning Kruger Effect is the odd phenomenon of people with the last experience being the most confident because they don’t have the experience to judge just how challenging something is.
  • When we’re less sure, we’re more open to new ideas and we’re actively and passively scanning the world for new ones. Listening to other people’s ideas increases brainpower. Social interactions can actually make us smarter. But there’s a catch: to get the cognitive boost, you need to take the other person’s perspective.
  • Two benefits of humility; it’s a reality check and it keeps us from being arrogant. Humility can actually drives self-improvement because we can see the gap between where we are and where we want to be.
  • We need optimism and confidence to keep gong and convince others to join our cause, but negativity and pessimism help us see problems so we can make them better.
  • Abraham Lincoln: ‘so with men, if you would win a man to your cause, first convince him that you are his sincere friend. I destroy my enemies when I make them my enemies.

How do you develop self – compassion?

  1. Talk to yourself. Don’t beat yourself up or be critical when things don’t go your way.
  2. Learn to accept your humanity. You are fallible.
  3. Recognize your failures and frustrations without either denying them or seeing them as the end of the world. Then do something about them.

 

  • Believing in yourself is nice but forgiving yourself is better.
  • Adjust for natural level of self-esteem.
  • Don’t be a faker. Be you on your best day and the people will see the real you.

BOOK: The year I met you by Cecilia Ahern


Goodreads:  ‘Jasmine know two things: one, she loves her vulnerable sister unconditionally, and will fight to the death to protect her from anyone who upsets her. Two, she’s only ever been good at one thing – her job helping business start-ups.So when she’s sacked and put on gardening leave, Jasmine realises that she has nothing else to fill her life. Insomnia keeps her staring out of her bedroom window, and she finds herself watching the antics of her neighbour, shock jock Matt, with more than a casual eye. Matt is also taking a forced leave of absence from work, after one of his controversial chat shows went too far…’
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Running for the book that I regret reading the most… I don’t know why but I’ve read other Cecilia Ahern books before and as far as I can remember, I enjoyed them and if not, it’s not as worse as this one is.
Let me tell you offhand that there’s 28 chapters in the book. I was already at Chapter 22 and to be honest – I had to consistently remind myself that I need to finish what I started but this is too disappointing. I’m already at the last pages of the book and I kept waiting for something that will pique my interest or make me fall in love with the story, the characters but N-O-T-H-I-N-G!!!!
But to give her credit, something in the last chapter was worth highlighting:
‘I lost something that I thought defined me and I felt like a shell of a person. Instead of trying to get it back, I had to figure out why I couldn’t be whole all by myself. The world is fascinated by instant transformations, human makeovers or magics. My shift wasn’t instant and often the slow pace of change can be painful, lonely and confusing but without us realizing it happening, it happens. We look back and think, ‘Who was that person? when during it all, we think, ‘Who am I becoming?’. And at what point was it that we crossed over that line. But it is thanks to that slowness that we remember the journey, we reserve the sense of where we were, where we are going and why. Destination completely unknown, we can value the crossing.’
The transformation from chrysalis can take weeks, months or even years. We are constantly evolving. I feared stopping and it is ironic that it was only when I finally stopped that I moved the most. I know now that we never truly stop, our journey is never complete, because we will continue to flourish – just as when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly. 

BOOK: Barking up the Wrong Tree by Eric Barker: Chapter 4


The Surprising science behind why everything you know about success is mostly wrong.

Chapter 4: It’s not what you know, It’s who you know (unless it really is what you know) What can we learn about the power of networks from hostage negotiators, top comedians and smartest person who ever lived

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  • Paul Erdos loved to collaborate. He lived out of a suitcase and routinely traveled to 25 countries, eventually working with 500 other mathematicians. ‘Erdos Number’ – a measure of how close you are to working with Paul.
  • Research shows that you don’t actually need to know more to be seen as a leader. Merely by speaking first and speaking often – people come to be seen as El Jefe and those who initially act shy in groups are perceived as less intelligent.
  • To get ahead, you need to self-promote. This comes naturally to extroverts and is actually more important than competence when it comes to being seen as a leader.
  • Having a large network opens you up to more opportunities, it exposes you to all kinds of other new possibilities.
  • Introversion predicts academic performance better than cognitive ability.
  • If you can’t stand a moment aloe, get that MBA and chase that leadership position over a passive workforce. But if people drive you crazy, dive deep into your passion, earn those ten thousand hours and be renowned as the best in your field.
  • Adam Grant: Read each situation carefully and ask yourself: What do I need to do right now to be most happy or successful?
  • When we collaborate – the gains can be exponential. But when we don’t communicate, we can end up not only missing those benefits but also getting our efforts jammed.
  • Adam Rifkin: Be a friend. It is better to give than to receive. Look for opportunities to do something for the other person, such as haring knowledge or offering an introduction to someone that person might not know but would be interested in knowing. Do not be transactional. Do not offer something because you want something in return. Instead, show a genuine interest in something you and other person have in common.
  • The Rule of Thumb in friendship: Be socially optimistic. Assume other people will like you and they probably will.
  • The groups you associate with often determine the type of person you become.
  • Thank the people around you. Relationships are the key to happiness and taking time to say ‘thanks’ renews that feeling of being blessed.

 

Fundamentals of Friendship

  1. You like Ironman? I like Ironman too. – Introduce yourself. We all choose to be friends with people who are like us.
  2. Listen and Encourage other toddlers. – Ask them questions and listen. You’re likely to hear something you can connect over. Asking people questions about themselves can create a bod as strong as lifelong friendship in a surprisingly short amount of time. Stop thinking about what you’re going to say next and focus on what they’re saying now. Don’t be afraid to pay the person a sincere compliment. Asking for advise can really help others warm up to you. Ask what challenges people face. Everyone loves to complain a little about the things that stress them out.
  3. Be a giver. Share yout twinkies. – Offer to help people. When people say they’re having a trouble about something, find a way to help.

How to get an Amazing Mentor right for you? 

  1. Be a worthy pupil – When the student is ready, the teacher appears.
  2. Study them, really study them – Spend time and be intimately familiar with someone’s work and you want someone who scares you a bit.
  3. Wasting a mentor’s time is a mortal sin – Asking great questions is a perfect way to build a relationship. Never ask a mentor a question Google can easily answer for you.
  4. Follow up – The key is to stay relevant. You need to consistently hit them with a conversation to keep the relationship alive but without being a nuisance. Do what they said, get results and let them know they made a difference.

 

We all have stuff we can learn from someone else. 

BOOK: Barking up the Wrong Tree by Eric Barker: Chapter 3


The Surprising science behind why everything you know about success is mostly wrong.

Chapter 3: Do Quitters never win and Winners never quit? 

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  • Creative individuals frame their experiences. They regard failure as a learning experience. They try to build upon its lessons in their future endeavors.
  • The capacity to continue trying despite repeated setbacks was associated with a more optimistic outlook in life.
  • Sometimes quitting is the smartest choice and giving up, when done right can make you a huge success too.
  • ‘Self Talk’ – It turns out when these words are positive, they have a huge effect on your mental toughness, your ability to keep going.
  • We’re not always right that we ‘can’t do it’. Sometimes there’s a way out that we didn’t see because we gave up.
  • ‘Depressive Realism’ – optimists lie to themselves. But if we all stop believing anything can change, nothing ever will. We need a bit of fantasy to keep us going.
  • It all comes down from the stories you tell yourself about the world. And that’s something you can change.
  • Optimists shape their stories according to 3 Ps: permanence, pervasiveness and personalization.
  • If life is all about pleasure, then when it ceases to be fun or immediately beneficial, we quit. When we step outside the wish for comfort, when we live for something greater than ourselves, we no longer have to fight the pain, we accept the pain as a sacrifice. And we don’t give up. It’s the stories we tell ourselves that keep us going. They can be a higher truth. Or in many cases, they don’t need to be true at all.
  • Frankl: What is to give light must endure burning.
  • Stories are the invisible undercurrent that promotes success in a shocking number of the most important areas of life. Stories are a filter, imposing order on an often chaotic world. Stories remove information. They make recollections less accurate. They are deliberately constructed, but life often isn’t. Stories can keep us going because of their inaccuracy. Stories aren’t perfect pictures of the world, but they allow us to succeed for this very reason. You weren’t ‘born to do anything in particular but when your ‘story’ says you were ‘born’ to do something, you perform better and persist.
  • A healthy minds tells itself flattering lies.
  • ‘Scrooge Effect’ – when you take a little time to think about death, you become more kind and generous to others. You put aside short-term goals for a moment and consider who you really want to be.
  • Fate is that thing we cannot avoid. It comes for us despite how we try to dun from it. Destiny is the thing we must chase, what we must bring to fruition. It’s what we strive toward and make true.
  • We are what we pretend to be. If you want to be a knight, act like a knight.
  • ‘Cognitive reappraisal’ – telling yourself a different story about what is happening. By engaging in cognitive reappraisal and telling ourselves a different story about what is happening, we an subvert the entire willpower paradigm.

Make it a game. Make your problems, struggles or goals a game and make it WNGF – Winnable, Novel Challenges, Goals and Feedback

  1. Winnable – Each game has clear rules. We intuitively know that and it makes us very positive about our chances if we persist.
  2. Novel Challenges – Good games make sure we’re always stimulates by something just a little different, honing our attention.
  3. Goals – Good games are very clear what you need to do to win. They serve to focus you and guide decision making.
  4. Feedback – the best way to motivate people is by facilitating small wins. Once a small win has been accomplished, forces are set in motion that favor another small win.

 

The Upside of Quitting

  • Everything we do in life is a trade – off. Choosing to do one thing means not doing something else.
  • Opportunity Cost – the price of anything is the amount of life you exchange for it.
  • Quit doesn’t have to be the opposite of grit. It has to be Strategic Quitting.
  • Once you’ve found something you’re passionate about, quitting secondary things can be an advantage, because it frees up time to do that number one thing.
  • Peter Drucker: time is the most important resource. Getting rid of everything that wasn’t moving the needle when it came to achieving your goals.
  • Know your number one priority. Then start quitting stuff that isn’t as important and see what happens.
  • You can do anything once you stop trying to do everything.
  • Try things. Quit what fails. Then apply grit.
  • The more experiments you make, the better. Fail fast, fail cheap.
  • Moving on from dead end pursuits is essential to the discovery of more promising paths.

So don’t be afraid to do some experiments and quit the ones that don’t work. It can lead to great things. You need to quit some things to find out what to be gritty at. And you need to try stuff knowing you might quit some of it to open yourself up to the luck and opportunities that can make you successful. 

BOOK: Barking up the Wrong Tree by Eric Barker: Chapter 2


The Surprising science behind why everything you know about success is mostly wrong.

Chapter 2: Do Nice Guys finish last? What can you learn about trust, cooperation and kindness.. from Gang members, pirates and serial killers

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  • According to Jeffrey Pfeffer, managing what your boss thinks of you is far more important than actual hard work.
  • Brilliant but Cruel: If someone is too nice, we figure they must be less competent. In fact, being a jerk makes others see you as more powerful.
  • Why do jerks succeed? they’re assertive about what they want, and they’re not afraid to let others know about what they’ve achieved.
  • Ruut Veenhoven: The quality of society is more important than your place in the society.
  • Discipline of continuous dealings: When you know and trust someone, it makes a transaction smoother and faster. That means more transactions happen, producing a better market and more value for everyone involve.

 

Axelrod’s Four Lessons from TFT’s success: (tit for tat)

  1. Don’t be envious – Just because someone else wins, that doesn’t mean you lose. Sometimes that person needs the fruit and you need the peel. And sometimes the strategy that makes you lose small on this round makes you win big on the next. Don’t worry how well the other side is doing, worry about how well you’re doing. 
  2. Don’t be the first to defect – Not only in reciprocity one of the key elements of being influential and winning favor with others but it’s also essential that you go first. All the big winners are nice and all the big losers started off betraying.
  3. Reciprocate both cooperation and defection – Never betray anyone initially. But if a person cheats you, don’t be a martyr.
  4. Don’t be too clever :

 

SIX FAST RULES

  • Pick the right pond – the people who surround us often determine who we become.
  • Cooperate first – Go ahead and send that new inmate a gift basket. When the knives come out in prison yard, you’ll have a lot more people watching your back.
  • Being selfless isn’t saintly, it’s silly
  • Work hard but make sure it gets noticed – Jerks are not afraid to push a little. They self-promote. They negotiate. They make themselves visible.
  • Think long term and make others think long term – a person always discern on two things; whether a potential partner can be trusted and whether he is likely to be encountered again.
  • Forgive

BOOK: Sea of Strangers by Lang Leav


So I only started reading this book about 3 hours ago. But as you all know, this is a poetry book so I had time on my side. Compared to Atticus, Lang Leav’s has titles.
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These are the pages that had an impact on me:
  • New Beginnings
  • Contentment
  • Moving on
  • We Never Broke Up
  • Writing
  • My Life
  • When it’s Over
  • The one thing
  • Smoke & Mirrors
  • Thoughts on Letting Go
  • Over
  • Back to Life
  • Too Far In
  • Borrowed Love
  • Crazy Love
  • Who you Love
  • Transcript of your Heart
  • To Love you
  • Be the One
  • For yours
  • The Girl you once had
  • How it Ends
Although there seems to be a lot pages marked, I also think there’s a lot of poems in the book that had no absolute effect on me. It felt like they were just there to make the book longer and make it seem full.

BOOK: Love her wild by Atticus


Fear of not being able to finish a book for the month of Feb, I immediately resorted to having to read a poetry book – which I know would only require me less time. I know, I know.. I’m taking the easy road here. But forgive me, as I’m busy with planning you-know-what.
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Basically, I finished this book in two days. ❤ I’m not going to share all of the poems in the books but here are just (5) of what I bookmarked. Not my top and not in any particular order.
  • Don’t fear, her father said. Sometimes the scary things are beautiful as well and the more beauty you find in them the less scary they’ll become.
  • Dont give up now. Chances are your best kiss, your hardest laugh and your greatest day are still yet to come.
  • What a strange world. We trade our days for things.
  • Find something that makes you forget to eat and sleep and drink then do it until you die of thirst
  • Chase your stars, fool. Life is short.
I love how I find something that doesn’t really pertain to someone or being in love in general.

BOOK: Barking up the Wrong Tree by Eric Barker; Chapter 1


The Surprising science behind why everything you know about success is mostly wrong. 

Chapter 1: Should we play it safe and do what we’re told if we want to succeed? Does playing by the rules pay off?

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  • When are our weakness actually strengths? Is it better to be an outlier with both handicaps and superpowers? Or do we live better lives at the middle of the bell curve?
  • Differential susceptibility hypothesis: The same genes that lead to bad stuff can actually lead to great stuff in a different situation.
  • David Dobbs in The Atlantic: the very genes that gives us the most trouble as species causing behaviors that are self-destructive and antisocial, also underlie humankind’s phenomenal adaptability and evolutionary success.
  • Hopeful Monster: an individual that deviates radically from the norm in a population because of a genetic mutation that confers a potentially adaptive advantage.
  • Pixar Experience: pixar is thinking that they are starting to lose their edge after ‘Finding Nemo’. They hired a new CEO so that they will have a new strategy. This new CEO’s tactic was to hire the BLACKSHEEP of the company and give them absolute liberty to be creative. Result? a blockbuster The Incredibles”. ‘The same traits that make people a nightmare to deal with can also make them the people who change the world.
  • Idea of Intensifiers: qualities that are universally awful have their own uses in specific contexts. Example, Formula 1 cars are undrivable on city streets but break records on a track. When it comes to the extremes of performance, averages doesn’t matter. What matters is variance, those deviations from the norm. Almost universally, we humans try to filter out the worst to increase the average, but by doing so, we also decrease variance.
  • Mad Genius Paradox: mildly creative people are mentally healthier than average – but extremely creative people have a far higher incidence of mental disorders.
  • Venture Capital Business Mindset: Invest in strength versus lack of weakness. The companies that have the really extreme strengths often have serious flaws. But if you don’t invest on the basis of serious flaws, you don’t invest in most of the big winners.
  • Leadership Filtration Theory: reaching the heights of success requires a dip into qualities that are otherwise problematic.
  1. Know Thyself – In terms of achieving what you want in life, means being aware of your strengths. What are you good at that consistently produces desired results?
  2. Pick the right pond – You’ve got to pick the right environment  that work for you. When you choose your pond wisely, you can best leverage your type, your strengths, and your context to create tremendous value.

 

Too often we label things good or bad when the right designation might merely be different. We spend too much time trying to be ‘good’ when good is merely average. To be great, we must be different. And that doesn’t come from trying to follow society’s vision of what is best, because society doesn’t always know what it needs. More often being best means just being the best version of you. In the right environment, bad can be good and odd can be beautiful. 

BOOK: The Four by Scott Gallaway


Goodreads: Amazon, Apple, Facebook, and Google are the four most influential companies on the planet. Just about everyone thinks they know how they got there. Just about everyone is wrong. Whether you want to compete with them, do business with them, or simply live in the world they dominate, you need to understand the Four.

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So let’s not be a hypocrite. I am a fan of the four, just like everybody else. You have to admit, at some point in your life, you wanted to work for them. I want to pick their brains out, have breakfast with them and find out what they talk about on a daily basis.

Let me list down what Scott Gallaway has to say about the Four Horsemen..

  1. Amazon (Earth’s Biggest Store) lower cost, greater selection and faster delivery.

Amazon’s rise rests on its appeal to our instincts. Bezos realized reviews could do the hard work of retailing for him. Customers do the marketing. By acting quickly and decisively – you force competitors to respond to your last maneuver as you’re entering the next one. It”s core competence is storytelling. They are replacing profits with vision and growth.

2. Google (Modern Man’s God)

Who else inspires so many queries about the unknown from all corners of the world? The insights into consumer behavior Google gleans from a billion queries each day make this horseman the executioner of traditional brands and media.

3. Facebook (Most Successful Thing in Human History)

It’s gaining influence faster than any enterprise in history. It’s algorithm can be used to microtarget distinct populations in specific geographic areas. It offers unparalleled granularity, assuring that advertisers only spend money on people who are already in-market. It decides which content is best suited to convey advertising and who will see it.

4. Apple (Most Profitable Company in History)

The global badge of wealth, education and western values. It counts among its congregation the most important people in the world: The Innovators. Apple decided to pursue scarcity to achieve out sized irrational profits. Apple is the first company to have a shot at multi generational success.

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  • The key to success in e-commerce wasn’t execution but creating the hype around a company’s potential, and then selling it to some rich sucker before the house of cards caved in.
  • The key to success in a multi channel era is knowing which channel to optimize and how to cater to our hunter-gatherer instincts.
  • What can you do that gives you an advantage that’s hugely expensive and that no one else can afford?

TROUBLE

  • All do more with less, all put people out of work.
  • When we allow an enterprise to run unchecked and lawless, we’ve lost respect for the proper standards they, versus other firms get to play by. It only adds further fuel to the flames of inequality.

Five Key Attributes to Success

  1. Iconic Founder
  2. Artisanship
  3. Vertical Integration
  4. Global
  5. Price Premium

The society trusts the four horsemen so much that we allow them to listen to our conversation, monitor our transactions, keep track of what we’re doing and harvest our consumption data. We give them so much power in to our private lives. The four is leveraging big data and has an unrivaled knowledge of consumer purchasing patterns. We have voluntarily handed over all information.

The four have so much power over our lives that most of us would be rocked to the core if one or more of them were to disappear.

P.S. The book’s really good. It will give you insights that you never thought or ever looked into. I suggest you pick up the book, head over to the counter, pay for it and lock yourself in a room until you finish it. ❤

BOOK: What if it’s us by Becky Albertalli and Adam Silvera


Okay, so you’ve probably guessed that I’m into books that talks or exposes LGBT. Right? It’s just that there are countless, hundreds or thousands of books about homosexual love but not enough LGBT love to spread. So when I usually see one, I grab the opportunity and read something fun and fresh.
This is definitely a light read. I have to admit, I have not read a single book from the two authors (but they are definitely on my list). It’s not a stunningly oozing with love but I enjoyed the book. 😀
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Some noteworthy lines from the book:
  • I guess that is every relationship. You start with nothing and maybe end with everything.
  • I believe in love at first sight. Fate, the universe, all of it. But not how you’re thinking. I don’t mean it in the our souls were split and you’re my other half forever and ever sort of way. I just think you’re meant to meet some people. I think the universe nudges them into your path.
  • But what if the story should quit while it’s ahead?” “How do you know unless you give the story another chance?
  • I just need more time with me, I think. To really believe in my worth without anyone’s help.
  • Arthur, the universe just got the ball rolling,’ he says. ‘We made us happen.
  • ‘I’m just going to live in the moment. That’s the only way to see where we end up.
  • But maybe this isn’t how life works. Maybe it’s all about people coming into your life for a little while and you take what they give you and use it on your next friendship or relationship. And if you’re lucky, maybe some people pop back in after you thought they were gone for good.
  • You’re never a bad idea.
  • Being with you already is perfect.
  • I like disasters.
  • You’re going to have a lifetime of moments
  • We’re home to each other.
  • Everything means so much more because of all the hoops we jumped through, right?

 

I love the relationship of ben and dylan! AND, I love Dylan — he’s extremely funny and witty and just overall best companion – where you won’t actually get bored, and may probably be the top best friend there is. I adore and envy the relationship of Ben with his parents. His parents are so chill they can talk about their dates and relationships and just joke around about anything and likely everything. PLUS, I want a boy whose face lights up when they see me. I want someone who gets nervous going on a date with me because they simply don’t want to mess things up, who plans for the date and are just extremely happy just to be with me.

BOOK: EXTRAORDINARY MEANS by ROBYN SCHNEIDER


GOODREADS:When he’s sent to Latham House, a boarding school for sick teens, Lane thinks his life may as well be over. But when he meets Sadie and her friends – a group of eccentric troublemakers – he realizes that maybe getting sick is just the beginning. That illness doesn’t have to define you, and that falling in love is its own cure.

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Highlights:

  • There’s a difference between dead and dying. Some of us die for ninety years, and some of us die at nineteen. But each morning everyone on this planet wakes up one day closer to their death. So living and dying are actually different words for the same thing.
  • The life you plan isn’t the life that happens to you.
  • The thing about being erased is that first you have to leave a mark.
  • ‘But none of them are sadie’.
  • We mourn the future because it’s easier than admitting we’re miserable in the present.
  • Haven’t you ever thought about it? What you want to leave behind?
  • It’s strange how we can lose things that are still right there. How a barrier can go up at any moment, trapping you on the other side, keeping you from what you want. How things that hurt the most are things you once had.
  • We reach for whatever we think is going to dull the pain, and sometimes we don’t even want whatever it is, we just want to not be miserable.
  • Being temporary doesn’t make something matter any less, because the point isn’t for how long, the point is that it happened.
  • Life is getting the raw materials and when we die, we get to make patterns out of our lives and relive them in whatever order we ant. So that’s how you live a really great life. You make sure you have enough good days that you want to go back to.
  • Because that’s all you can do in this world, no matter how strong the current beats against you, or how heavy a burden, or how tragic your love story. You keep going.

 

No matter how obvious it may be for other people, I did not see it coming! Man! Am I slow or have I not read enough books to have a smart guess? Haha. I thought it was lane who’ll die! Nonetheless, Sadie makes me reminisce ​and miss my HS friends when the most of are days are intended for breaking the rules. ❤ And If someone were to ask me, no. I have no clue what I’d want to leave behind. 

How about you? What do you want to leave behind?