BOOK REVIEW: The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin


I don’t think I’ve ever highlighted a book as much as I did with this one. ❤

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I don’t care about the other reviews that I’ve seen. I honestly learned a lot about the book. More than the everyday solutions and scenarios inside their house, there’s a lot of behaviors or mentality aspect that I find amusing. ❤ When I tell you there’s a lot, I mean there’a huge vault of information!!

Let me break down the the monthly resolutions of Gretchen in the book.

JANUARY (Boost Energy)

  • Sleep earlier
  • Exercise better
  • Organize
  • Act more energetic

To be honest, the first chapter was more common, obvious and repetitive. BUT, just continue reading. Okay?

FEBRUARY (Remember Love)

  • Quit Nagging
  • Don’t expect appreciation
  • Fight Right
  • No Dumping
  • Give proofs of love

Marital satisfaction significantly drops after the first child arrives. Small frequent gestures of thoughtfulness were more important than flowers on Valentine’s. What you do everyday matters more than what you do once in a while. 

Gretchen suggested that to avoid nagging, she found it useful to limit reminders to ONE WORD such as ‘camera’ or like ‘door’ and that chores DIDN’T NEED TO BE DONE ACCORDING TO ONE’S SCHEDULE. To add to that, she also practiced DOING IT HERSELF and to BE APPRECIATIVE of the other person’s efforts.

To avoid expecting appreciation, she needed to remind herself that she didn’t need her husband’s approval and whatever it is that she’s doing, whether it’s washing the dishes or taking out the trash, it’s because SHE’S DOING IT FOR HERSELF. That way, if the other person didn’t notice or said thank you or appreciate the gesture, there’s no need to sulk. ‘If you do it for other people, you end up wanting them to acknowledge it and to be grateful and to give you credit. If you do it for yourself, you don’t expect other people to react in a particular way. 

To be able to fight right, it is important to make ‘repair attempts’ by using words or actions to keep ad feelings from escalating and that you ACKNOWLEDGE OTHER PRESSURES IMPOSED ON THE OTHER PERSON such as feeling overwhelmed by the demands of work and keeping the house clean, etc. and to AVOID GENERALIZING PHRASES such as ‘you never’, you always’. How a couple fights matters more than how much they fight.

Here’s a fun fact! Men and women both turn to women for counsel, advice and for talking. Why? MEN AND WOMEN HAVE DIFFERENT DEFINITIONS ON INTIMACY! For women, it’s heart to heart conversations while men feel close when they are sitting beside each other. Get it? You might crave for a long conversation after playing video games with your husband but for him, playing is already your bonding!

Give proofs of love by DOING SMALL TREATS FOR YOUR SPOUSE. Often since we are always with our spouse, we tend to neglect or just take them for granted and one way to do that is to SPEND TIME ALONE TOGETHER and should HAVE AN OUTDOOR AND INDOOR GAME THEY PLAY TOGETHER. 

Also, she shared a marriage mantra — ‘I love ___, just as he is’. When you give up expecting a spouse to change, you lessen anger and resentment and that creates a more loving atmosphere in a marriage.

SEE THAT! I’m still in February and there’s so much insight and advice. ❤ Let me move on to March. KEEP READING.

MARCH (Aim Higher)

  • Launch a blog
  • Enjoy the fun of failure
  • Ask for help
  • Work smart
  • Enjoy now

Enthusiasm is more important to mastery than innate ability because the single most important element in developing an expertise is your willingness to practice. 

We seek to control our lives but the unfamiliar and the unexpected are important sources of happiness. It’s because an unexpected situation gives a powerful sense of satisfaction. People don’t notice your mistakes as much as you think. 

LEARN NEW SKILLS. Challenges allows you to expand your self definition. The more elements make up your identity, the less threatening it is when any one element is threatened. — which is so true by the way! Right? Imagine if you are a financial banker with a side hustle of being a teacher and running a bakeshop. When one fails, you still have the other two! A new identity brings you new people and new experiences.

In order to be successful, YOU NEED TO BE WILLING TO ACCEPT MORE FAILURE. And to be more accustomed to this mindset, she kept telling herself ‘It’s fun to fail. It’s part of being ambitious. It’s part of being creative. IF SOMETHING IS WORTH DOING, IT’S WORTH DOING BADLY.  And in working smart, Gretchen noted that SMALL EFFORTS, MADE CONSISTENTLY, BROUGHT SIGNIFICANT RESULTS. 

APRIL  (Lighten Up)

  • Sing in the morning
  • Acknowledge the reality of people’s feelings
  • Be a treasure house of happy memories
  • Take time for projects

Lighten up by simply REFRAMING YOUR MIND and DECIDING that YOU ENJOY DOING IT, whatever it may be. Gretchen also dropped this phrase that really struck me and that is THE DAYS ARE LONG, BUT THE YEARS ARE SHORT. Such a powerful phrase to remind us what matters.

To be a treasure house of happy memories, she practiced KEEPING PHOTOS and KEEPING FAMILY TRADITIONS. Traditions make occasions feel special and exciting. MAKE TIME FOR LITTLE PROJECTS as they reconnect us with sources of ‘feeling good’ that we’ve outgrown.

MAY (Be serious about Play)

  • Find more fun
  • Take time to be silly
  • Go off the path
  • Start a collection

I think the key work of her first resolution is ACTIVELY FIND MORE FUN. Why? because the absence of feeling bad isn’t enough to make you happy. Also, she stumbled upon this realization which I believe we should all contemplate on and that is just because something was fun for someone else doesn’t mean it’s fun for me. I think it’s more important to stop thinking what other people might think and to start being true to yourself. Gretchen suggested that when you do figure out what you find fun, FIND A GROUP OR A CLUB WHO LIKES THE SAME THINGS AS YOU DO. Why? because it makes people feel closer and brings a significant boost in personal confidence and happiness.

Look at those things that do have a beauty in your life and look at them more and more. 

TAKE TIME TO BE SILLY because there’s this emotional contagion where we unconsciously catch emotions from other people. GO OFF THE PATH by EXPANDING YOUR INTERESTS. Gretchen included a quote from Matthew Arnold, ‘All knowledge is interesting to a wise man’.

JUNE (Make time for Friends)

  • Remember birthdays
  • Be Generous
  • Show up
  • Don’t gossip
  • Make three new friends

The first part of the chapter, GR established that make time for friends is sometimes not literally just time. She imparted resolutions such as BE GENEROUS because according to studies, happiness is often boosted by providing support to other people than receiving one. And to be generous, she further broke it down to HELPING PEOPLE THINK BIG, BRINGING PEOPLE TOGETHER AND CUTTING PEOPLE SLACK. Words of enthusiasm and confidence from a friend can inspire one to tackle an ambitious goal. In bringing people together, some suggested to have a ‘Bring another friend’ dinner or in parties. To cut people some slack, we need to REMIND OURSELVES THAT PEOPLE’S LIVES ARE FAR MORE COMPLICATED THAN THEY APPEAR FROM THE OUTSIDE. A big part of friendship is  SHOWING UP. Based from her experience, she immediately set up dates to see her friends.

MAKING NEW FRIENDS will expand one’s world by providing an entrance to new interests, opportunities and experiences.  If you are not friendly, GH suggested some resolutions to make it easier such as ACT FRIENDLIER, act the way you want to feel. SMILE FREQUENTLY. A study showed that people tend to like people who they think likes them. This makes sense as I find it true for me. 😛 ACTIVELY INVITE OTHERS TO JOIN THE CONVERSATION, CREATE A POSITIVE MOOD and OPEN A CONVERSATION. How? one suggested to learn something newsworthy on Google so you have something to talk about. LEARN TO SHOW INTEREST and ASK QUESTIONS about the other person.

JULY (Buy some Happiness)

  • Indulge in modest splurge
  • Buy needful things
  • Spend out
  • Give something up

Money, spent wisely, can support happiness goals of strengthening relationships, promoting health, having fun and all the rest. SPEND MONEY WHERE IT MATTERS TO YOU. Some examples of modest splurge are good knives, quality pillows or remodeling a certain part of the house or if you’re really into children lit, a complete set of Wizard of Oz. Also, she expounded that the MORE YOU HAVE, THE HAPPIER YOU’LL BE IS WRONG. Why? because according to GH, a constant stream of luxuries can take away the savor.

In Buying needful things, I learned that there are an underbuyer and overbuyer. I’m always the overbuyer. 😛 in some aspects I think. A research also proved what I thought and that is people think they like variety more than they do but if there are options and asked what they would choose, one always picks the same thing every time. 😛 Exactly me with clothes. 😛 In Spending out, USE WHAT YOU HAVE. Don’t wait for a special occasion to use something.

AUGUST (Contemplate the Heavens)

  • Read memoirs of catastrophe
  • Keep a gratitude notebook
  • Imitate a spiritual master

GH started with Philosopher Boethius saying ‘Contemplate the extent and stability of the heavens, and then at last cease to admire worthless things. THINK ABOUT DEATH, LIVE FULLY AND THANKFULLY IN THE PRESENT. As William Edward Lecky said, ‘There’s a time in the lives of most of us when we would have given all the world to be as we were but yesterday, though that yesterday had passed over us unappreciated and unenjoyed”. This hits home!! GAHH.

SEPTEMBER (Pursue a passion)

  • Write a blog
  • Make time
  • Forget about results
  • Master a new technology

DO WHAT YOU DO. Whatever you enjoyed doing as a ten year old or something you choose to do on a Saturday Afternoon and MAKE TIME FOR IT and TREAT IT AS A PRIORITY. 

In forgetting about results, GH mentioned that what makes a passion enjoyable is that you don’t have to worry about the results. An atmosphere of growth brings great happiness but it sometimes comes when you’re free from the pressure to see much growth. ENJOY WHATEVER IT IS YOU WANT TO DO.

OCTOBER (Pay Attention)

  • Meditate on koans
  • Examine True Rules
  • Stimulate mind in new ways
  • Keep a food diary

I was AMAZED by the KOANS! I didn’t know such existed!! Okay, to further elaborate, a Koan is a question or statement that can’t be understood logically. Aside from the koan, HEURISTICS! and GH actually shared some very valuable TRUE RULES that she has been observing such as My husband is my priority at all times, Get some work done every day, I know as much as most people, Try to attend a part that I’m invited to. Some people also shared, Always say hello. What would my mother do?, Things have a way of turning out for the best and People succeed in groups.

NOVEMBER (Keep a Contented Heart)

  • Laugh out loud
  • Use good manners
  • Give positive reviews
  • Find an area of refuge

FIND REASONS TO FIND THINGS FUNNY, LAUGH OUT LOUD AND APPRECIATE OTHER PEOPLE’S HUMOR. According to Tolstoy, ‘Nothing can make our life more beautiful than perpetual kindness’. 

DECEMBER (Boot Camp Perfect)

Even when a day was bad, it had bright spots. 

 

 

Who here has read the book? and for those who haven’t Have I convinced you enough? Honestly, we all have the time now and with what is happening in the world, we all need to ACTIVELY FIND AND OR DO WHAT MAKES US HAPPY. Right? So read this book. ❤ 

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BOOK REVIEW: Dear Heart, I Hate you by J. Sterling


You could meet a thousand people and they’d all mean nothing to you. But then you’d meet that one and they suddenly meant everything.

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GOODREADS: I didn’t plan on him. Or for him. Or anything that had to do with Cal Donovan from Boston. Meeting him had been a complete and utter surprise, taking me one hundred percent off guard. I met new people every single day in my line of work and none of them affected me.

This is going to be brutally honest. – I absolutely did not like the book! There was no depth. I am definitely not a fan of Insta-love and I obviously do not believe in such. Maybe that’s why I hated this. If you’re looking for a growth in character then maybe this one is for you, how two workaholics who did not believe in love suddenly fell in love.

But no. I don’t get it. There’s no build up. No twists. No major setback. It was just an on-going and continuous LDR where the plot is fairly predictable. I did not fell in love with ANY of the characters. I did not feel the love or longing from both Cal and Jules.

Nothing. No emotion.

  • When did making yourself a priority become such a horrible thing?
  • Those lips. They’ll be my ruin.
  • It was heartbreaking when you recognize that moment when pieces of your reality turned into memories.
  • I’m not even all the way in and you already feel like home.
  • Her beauty rivaled her brain. She was a double threat.
  • Who we loved wasn’t always a choice. Sometimes it was an irresistible pull, a gravitational force, something we couldn’t see or control that drew us toward one another.

I’m utterly disappointed. I saw how one of my favorite authors, Coho praised this book. And that is exactly the reason why I gave this book a chance but my oh my… I was wrong.

BOOK REVIEW: Before Ever After by Samantha Sotto


What would you do if you married an immortal? 

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GOODREADS: Three years after her husband Max’s death, Shelley feels no more adjusted to being a widow than she did that first terrible day. That is, until the doorbell rings. Standing on her front step is a young man who looks so much like Max, named Paolo. As outrageous as Paolo’s claims seem; how could her husband be alive? And if he is, why hasn’t he looked her up? Shelley desperately wants to know the truth.

I will not go into details because this book has so much surprises in the beginning, in the middle and a lot in the end. This book is out of this world and I’m not even exaggerating here. What I love about this book is that it has a lot of pocket of information about history and all sorts of everything! And when I mean history, it’s not even boring because it was recounted in a story telling way and that is the absolute secret. ❤ I love how the history is conveyed. Well that, and that Samantha Sotto transports you to Europe.

  • Nothing was lonelier than the limping beat of half a heart
  • It was exactly what she needed – a chance to postpone reality.
  • No one is inconsequential. We change at least one person’s life just by being born.
  • That scene: Whatever you see, Whatever you hear, do not move. You will grow up. You will grow old. And when you do, Remember me.
  • If we accept time for what it is, how it flows and how we flow with it, I doubt very much we would continue wasting loads of it by constantly checking our watches. Where we are now is a lifetime’s worth of steps have taken us.
  • How could coming home make things worse? You can’t return to a place that no longer exists.
  • Jonathan: When you get to be my age, you would hope that there wouldn’t be much left to cross off. Now, Afternoon tea, quiet walks, rainy mornings – nothing I haven’t done before, but everything I need to do now with my Rose as many times as I can, while I can. ❤ ❤ ❤
  • Life is a strong drink served in an extremely short and fragile shot glass.
  • Ghosts are the people who left invisible bruises on you – faces you tried your best to forget and believed you had. But it wasn’t the ghosts themselves that were scary. It was how they haunted you with old secrets.
  • Most mornings bring small miracles. They wash away shadows and chase away ghosts.

Definitely recommending this one. ❤

BOOK REVIEW: Maybe Now by Colleen Hoover


GOODREADS: What is more important? Friendship, loyalty or love?
Colleen Hoover and Griffin Peterson collaborate once again to bring fans of Maybe Someday back into the musical world of Ridge and Sydney.
And Maggie.
And Warren and Bridgette.

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This should be read after Maybe Someday and Maybe Not. I loved love love Maybe Someday although I did not particularly like Maybe Not.

Now, this book Maybe Now did not resonate to me so much. Maybe because I expected more romance (just like Maybe Someday) and other might argue that this book is very cheesy. But in my opinion, the book focuses more on the importance of loyalty, kindness, understanding and friendships.

Although it lacked romance for me, I still applaud the character of Sydney. To be honest, I don’t think I will ever have the decency and maturity to allow my boyfriend take care of his ex girlfriend – in ANY scenario. I don’t care if it seems immature, but no – I won’t allow it.

But I do liked that I get to follow through the story of Ridge and Sydney and how they overcome their history of emotional cheating and communication barrier. And just like Warren and Bridgette, we also see them in this book, following Maybe Not and how their very sexual relationship progress to something more meaningful and ending up in marriage. ❤

This book is more focused on Maggie and her story revolving on her bucket list, her sickness and her new love interest – Jake. And by the way? I love Justice! What a witty, straight forward kid. Haha.

  • People need to put themselves first sometimes. If you aren’t living your best life for yourself, you can’t be your best self for those in your life.
  • Even if the rest of our lives were predictable, I’d never get tired of you. You make routine something I look forward too.
  • But sometimes the wrong thing is the right thing.
  • I forgot how stupefying attraction can be.
  • Sometimes caring about someone means saying things you don’t want to say, but that need to be said.
  • We shouldn’t revolve our lives around their possible endings. We should revolve our lives around the experiences that lead to the endings.
  • No one is the best version of themselves all the time.
  • The Brain and Heart Theory – how they are both detrimental to each other.
  • As a father, I’ve learned to take what I can get while I an get it, because none of the phases a child goes through last forever.
  • It’s the small things people do for others that define the largest parts of them.
  • PROPOSAL: just say WHEN. — When.
  • Our Maybe Someday just became our Absolutely Forever.

BOOK REVIEW: Unwritten Letters to You by T.B Laberge


GOODREADS: Unwritten Letters to You is a collection of writings ranging from heartbreak to longing for love. Within each page comes the words that are often so hard to speak, and with each chapter you will find that blood can be turned to ink.

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WOW. JUST WOW. Everything you may have been feeling? It’s in here. I am happily married but I can also easily relate to the words of a person who has been left behind, cheated on or in the personality of someone who is searching for a person to love.

  • I’m still looking for that smile, that wink, or maybe it’ll just be a sigh that will set my world on fire. Whatever it is, I’m still looking for it.
  • I fear that I will love someone that will always be the wind to my sails, pushing me on but never staying.
  • What if? What if my love and desire for you broke through the doubts that cling to me? What if I chose to love you even in the prospect of the unknown?
  • I wanted to be a forever, but I was only a moment.
  • You were alive before they came around, so don’t let them stop you from living again. Just because they didn’t want you doesn’t mean you are unwanted. Just because they didn’t want forever with you, doesn’t mean you don’t deserve a forever. Just because love wasn’t written for you both doesn’t mean your life is written with any less love.
  • You are more than the marks left on your soul, more than the tears of a broken heart, you are a soul that is eternal.
  • You must not reduce yourself to a puddle just because the person you like is afraid to swim and you are a fierce sea to them. Because there will be someone who was born with love of the waves within their blood, and they will look at you with fear and respect.
  • Love is saying I do, even when you feel like you don’t.
  • If you are happy, then I’m happy. If you’re sad, then I’m sad. Because it’s not about whether or not I fix you. It’s about me, being here and sharing the weight of these moments with you. I fight beside you, because that is love. It’s sharing the struggles, the joys and love we have. It’s about walking this life together and I want you there for as long as possible.

Damn, is he good with words! You can feel the passion, love, longing and sadness with every word he’s written. A must read!

BOOK REVIEW: Girl in Pieces by Kathleen Glasgow


GOODREADS: Charlotte Davis is in pieces. At seventeen she’s already lost more than most people lose in a lifetime. But she’s learned how to forget. The broken glass washes away the sorrow until there is nothing but calm. Every new scar hardens Charlie’s heart just a little more, yet it still hurts so much. It hurts enough to not care anymore, which is sometimes what has to happen before you can find your way back from the edge.

Honestly, it took me longer than I expected. It’s not a light read and to put it out there, this book and the story can be a trigger for those with history of self harm, depressed or any suicidal thoughts.

Spoiler Alert? At seventeen years old, Charlie wakes up in Creeley, a rehab center for women who self-harm. Her father committed suicide by drowning himself, her mother gave up on her, her best friend, a fellow cutter is brain dead, she lived on the street, got sold for sex and her only friend who she likes only wanted to be friends.

I learned that talking really helps and it goes both ways. It’s important to talk to someone. Don’t keep whatever hatred or tension or sadness pent up. Lend an ear. Offer to listen to. People around you may be struggling too. Always be kind, a little kindness goes a long way. We never really know what battles other people are fighting everyday.

This is also the reason why I feel like I need to highlight Michael, Ariel, Linus and Felix. They are such a ray of sunshine in Charlie’s recovery. It’s nice how Mikey offered to help right off the bat, after not being in touch for so long. The lives of Michael and Linus also showed hope that things do get better and people get better. Michael has been sober and is living his best life. He realized he was tired of all the nonsense. Ariel! She’s what everyone needs! A mother figure to knock some sense in all of us. Don’t you think? Linus also told Charlie that she still struggles all the time and that sometimes, she just needs to wait it out. Felix, on the other hand has been helping Charlie on keeping busy and helping her translate all her feelings into paper.

Just one bit about Riley though – I loved his gift. You know how you need not tell the person what you like because he sees you? He watches you and knows what you want, what’s important to you and all? Like how Riley gave her this art book because he saw how her eyes sparkled when she was looking at this particular book.

I’m also happy with the way things ended. It should not always be a happy love story. It’s nice that Charlie is getting her shit together and that she did not llet Riley’s on stage performance affect her progress. And Oh! I also need to discuss Blue’s significant part on Charlie’s recovery. She was consistently there for her, making her feel at home, having someone to come home to, to talk to after work, someone who actually wants to be with you and appreciates your company – and I must say, it’s such a huge impact on Charlie’s confidence and mental health.

It’s not an easy read because it was so raw and honest. The author clearly depicts how the mind of a cutter runs. It’s so sad and I felt so lonely in some parts of the book. It tackles about hope, loneliness, self-harm and belonging – which everyone can relate to. This book opens you to a whole new world of understanding.

It’s such a help. Reading this book tells you that you are not alone and it’s so good to know that other people are experiencing this too, and maybe, just sometimes – that is enough, to know that someone else is feeling those too.

  • I’m so lonely in the world I want to peel all of my flesh off and walk, just bone and gristle.
  • I cut because I cut. It’s as simple as that. I need release. I need to hurt myself more than the world can hurt me, and then I can comfort myself. Hurting yourself makes you feel better. That somehow you can rid yourself of pain by causing yourself pain.
  • You don’t know what it feels like to every day, every fucking day, be so lonely that this black hole inside is going to swallow you down.
  • The moral of the story Charlie is this, don’t let the cereal eat you. It’s only a fucking box of cereal, but it will eat you alive if you let it.
  • You own all of yourself, Charlie. Every last bit.
  • Everything and everybody that’s busted can be fixed.
  • The world hurts enough. Why fucking chase it down?
  • Sometimes you have to let stuff go if you want to move forward, you know?
  • How can you live in fear of your very self?
  • Stuff happens. You just gotta keep on truckin.
  • Everybody you meet is like a little mirror of you.
  • Cutting is a fence you build upon your own body to keep people out but then you cry to be touched. But the fence is barbed. What then?
  • You be you, Charlie. You be you.
  • We have to choose who we want to be, not let the situation choose us.

BOOK REVIEW: The Sun is also a Star by Nicola Yoon


GOODREADS: Natasha: I’m a girl who believes in science and facts. Not fate. Not destiny. Or dreams that will never come true. My family is twelve hours away from being deported to Jamaica. Falling in love with him won’t be my story.

Daniel: I’ve always been the good son, the good student, living up to my parents’ high expectations. Never the poet. Something about Natasha makes me think that fate has something much more extraordinary in store—for both of us.

The Universe: Every moment in our lives has brought us to this single moment. A million futures lie before us. Which one will come true?

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Do not mistake me for being a realist or cold hearted. I’m not. I like reading love stories and happy endings. BUT christ, SPARE ME LOVE AT FIRST SIGHTS or INSTALOVE. Who believes in those shit? You meet a stalker and you let him hold you in the hand, not even an hour after bumping into the guy? Jeez. Call it attraction instead! Now that! – that’s possible! Lust too. You don’t just decide to spend the whole day and let that person tag a long.

But that’s not love! Love is knowing the person inside and out, loving all the flaws, all the horrible things and dark secrets the other person has – something you’ll discover, observe and experience through time. It’s not answering questions all day, having conversations with a stranger and trusting your whole life with that person so quickly!

We all have moments! The feeling of endorphins rising up, the feeling of excitement in getting to know someone, the jitters of ‘new’ love. but moments? moments pass. That’s not love.

How about the character of Natasha? Now her – she’s cold-hearted and so unattached with everything, every emotion and everyone else. She doesn’t believe in anything or anyone except Science. She relies on science to explain everything that’s been happening around her.

And Daniel? Gad. Sure, he is sweet and says all the right things a guy can say at the right time. But don’t you think he’s too much? He’s too emotional and passionate and he practically associates everything with fate and heart and feelings. HAHA. probably exactly how a poet should be characterized. But I wouldn’t want to date someone like him.

And let me just mention the Atty. He actually thinks he met Hannah too late? WHO DOES THAT? If you fuckin love your wife and kids, where would you even find the time to fall in love with someone else? What does he mean by he met hannah too late? Does it mean he regrets his life with his family? WHY? WHY? Stupid men who thinks they have multiple hearts, thinking they can love several women at the same time. just, assholes. Why don’t you just spend the time nurturing your relationship with your family? Make yourself deserving of your family!

What I do liked about this book is that there are snippets of chapters where you learn about trivial things such as Why Korean – American families typically own Black Hair Care stores in New York, Dark Matter, the grandfather paradox, the theory of multiverses and Scientific experiments too.

PLUS, Daniel’s monologue when he finally told Natasha that the Atty couldn’t do anything? It’s the best!

The book also tackles the struggles and the issues of undocumented immigrants, broken dreams, cultural diversions, parent’s expectations, hope, fate and relationships between family members.

  • COPACETIC – in excellent order
  • MUTABLE – liable to change
  • ERUDITE – showing great knowledge
  • Where did all those feelings go? People spend their whole lives looking for love. But how can you trust somethings that can end as suddenly as it begins?
  • All your future histories can be destroyed in a single moment.
  • Are we really supposed to know what we want to do for the rest of our lives?
  • Sometimes the truth can hurt more than you expect.
  • She smiles so big that I know that whatever happens will be worth it.
  • Who are we if not a product of our parents and their histories?
  • It’s not up to you to help other people fit you into a box.
  • Growing up and seeing your parent’s flaws is like losing your religion.
  • You are never out of options.
  • We think we want all the time in the world with the people we love, but maybe what we need is the opposite. Just a finite amount of time, so we still think the other person is interesting.
  • Some people exist in your life to make it better. Some people exist to make it worse.
  • They have a sense that the length of a day is mutable, and you can never see the end from the beginning. They have a sense that love changes all things all the time.

Overall, story narration is ‘kay. I like reading short chapters too. I just didn’t like the wholeness of the story. I would not recommend reading this book but I’d give Nicola Yoon another chance. I’m open to reading Everything, Everything. ❤