BOOK: Never Eat Alone by Keith Ferrazzi


First of all, it’s so good to be back! I apologize for the sudden MIA. But I’ve been having an ‘everything block’. Like all of a sudden, I didn’t know what to do, what to read, what to write. It’s like I’ve lost all motivation. But anyway, here’s to hoping I can get back on track one post at a time. 😀

Okay! To be honest, I only stumbled upon this book on the IG Story of Martine, one of the influencers here. So I did a bit of research on what it was about. Anddddd, BAM!

The book intrigued me! Why? I need this is my life. It’s about Networking and Relationship Building that will help you succeed in life. (that’s the goal)

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Personally, I hate small talks. I am awkward during first meetings and I’m usually aloof on gatherings. I’m quiet when speaking to a new acquaintance but extremely playful and talkative towards people I trust and are close with.

BUT, I am aware that I do need to change. Or, probably, not change but to compromise enough to build a trusted network that will benefit both parties. – this is the reason why I decided to read the book.

Lo and behold, I did pick up a few strategies here and there. I know how much I needed to be more outgoing and that is also the reason why I decided to finish the book. However, I find the other chapters not helpful and a bit dragging. There’s so much stories that in my opinion, serves no purpose while some are a given already. Again, Don’t get me wrong. I learned a handful of tricks and strategies which I would like to share with you guys here. ❤

  • The individual who knows the right people for the right reasons and utilizes the power of these relationships can become a member of the club.
  • When you help others, they often help you. Success is any field is about working with people, not against them.
  • Connecting – sharing my knowledge and resources, time and energy, friends and associates, and empathy and compassion in a continual effort to provide value to others, while coincidentally increasing my own.
  • Real networking was about finding ways to make other people more successful. It was about working hard to give more than you get.
  • Don’t keep score: You’ve got to be more than willing to accept generosity. Until you become as willing to ask for help as you are to give it, you are only working half of the equation. The more people you help, the more help you’ll have. The currency of networking is not greed but generosity.
  • Find your Passion: Think of what you want to do without the constraints, without the doubts, fears and expectation of what you ‘should’ be doing. You have to be able to set aside the obstacles of time money and obligation.
  • Build it before you need it: You must reach out to others long before you need anything at all. The most important thing is to get to know people as friends, not as potential customers. Eventually, you’ll have a group of people who have seen your work and who believes in you. Friends and people around you are far more likely to help you if they already like you.
  • Genius of Audacity: People with a low tolerance for risk, whose behavior is guided by fear have a low propensity for success. When trying to befriend anyone or in anything, the worse anyone can say is no. The choice isn’t between success and failure. It’s between choosing risk and striving for greatness or risking nothing and being certain of mediocrity. Once you realize there’s no benefit to holding back, every situation and person – no matter how seemingly beyond your reach – becomes an opportunity to succeed.
  • Never eat alone: You should always be reaching out to others over breakfast, lunch, whatever. Never ever disappear. You must work hard to remain active and visible. Behind any successful person stands a long string of failure.
  • Seek ideas from people you don’t ordinarily talk to.

There are a number of valuable lessons in the book but I feel like I could have read them from an article, not a book instead. Did you like this book? 

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BOOK REVIEW: The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo by Taylor Reid


OMG YOU GUYS! I LOVE THIS BOOK!!! (Yes, I need that much exclamation point)

I am ABSOLUTELY INVESTED and DEFINITELY ATTACHED to the CHARACTERS and the STORY! ❤ ❤ ❤ 

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I don’t know how and where to begin! There’s so much I want to discuss! But if there’s anything that I picked up from the life of Evelyn Hugo? It’s this:

Life is Short. Don’t hide what and who you are and never be ashamed of telling the whole world how much a person means to you and if you want something, do everything it takes to get there. 

But if you will just base the book from what I have written above, I am falling short. The book offers SO MUCH MORE that I can ever explain in just words. Know that whatever Reid releases next, I promise to read them – that ‘s how much I love the book.

It tackles the darkest secrets of Hollywood, what happens behind closed doors, sexuality, race, talent, misogyny, motherhood, abusive relationships and romance.

It feels like entering the the very private and exclusive world of A-listers. The characters feels so real. The very first thing that pulled me in the the character of Evelyn and one of the first things that admired her character is how SHE DOES EVERYTHING IN HER POWER TO GET WHAT SHE WANTS and it was seen in several instances:

  • Learn to grab life by the balls, dear. Don’t be so tied up trying to do the right thing when the smart things is so painfully clear.
  • When you’re given an opportunity to change your life, be ready to do whatever it takes to make it happen. The world doesn’t give you things, you take things. If you learn one thing from me, it should probably be that.
  • You know what you want and you go after it.
  • Everything you have, you went out and got for yourself.
  • First, you have to push people’s boundaries and not feel bad about it. No one is going to give you anything if you don’t ask for it.

I also admire her for being so resilient. She has been hated and reputation and character has been tainted a couple of episodes in her life but that never wavered her. She does what she needs to, to be able to rise again.

Her relationship with Harry Cameron is one of the things I treasure most. ❤ I think it is highly difficult to actually find someone that you can trust in the world of Hollywood. I love how they grew to be each other’s best supporter, best friend, confidant, cheerer and critic. I love how they treated each other as family and actually lived a life as husband and wife and how until the very end of Harry’s life, Evelyn still protected the image of Harry, her soulmate and best friend. ❤

  • I have never doubted that you could do a single thing you put your mind to.
  • I think you’re brilliant and I think you’re tough.
  • I like the Evelyn Hugo who sees the world for what is is and then goes out there and wrestles what she wants out of it. Just don’t change. That would be the real tragedy.
  • You don’t know how fast you have been running, how hard you have been working, how truly exhausted you are, until someone stands behind you and says, ‘It’s okay, you can fall down now. I’ll catch you’. So I fell down and Harry caught me.
  • I am positive that I need you more than I ever needed another living soul.

And the LOVE OF HER LIFE, CECE! Cecilia St. James. ❤ The struggle to be in each other’s life, the banter, the difficulties that they had to face, the on and off relationship for years and finally ending up in each other’s arms. ❤ Ahhhh! I love them together. ❤ The challenge to let people understand your sexuality and not be put into just one box, a label.

  • I thought you were the most gorgeous woman who had ever been created and we should all stop trying.
  • You are intolerable, let me be the one to tolerate you.
  • You could be a nobody living in a cardboard box and I’d still love you.
  • I only wanted to celebrate with you. Nothing means anything without you. Everything that isn’t you is a pile of dog shit.
  • My Dearest Cece, please never forget that the sun rises and sets with your smile.
  • I’d give it all up, you know. All of it. The money and the jobs and the fame. I’d give it all up just to be with you, just to be normal with you. We’d have each other and that’s enough for me.
  • There was always something intoxicating about the way Celia looked at me. I felt like a rare steak in front of a tiger. She was as much of a fix o me as any drug.

And let me just talk about the sexual prowess that Evelyn is. 

  • Evelyn always leaves you hoping you’ll get just a little bit more. And she always denies you.
  • The world respects people who think they should be running it.
  • The very definition of power? Watching people kill themselves over something that means nothing to you.
  • I needed him. I needed to be seen. I come alive under his gaze.

I am telling you! There’s so much more to this book!!! ❤ ❤ ❤ 

  • People don’t find it very sympathetic or endearing, a woman who puts herself first.
  • People think intimacy is about sex. But intimacy is about truth.
  • I’m bisexual. Don’t ignore half of me so you can fit me into a box.
  • Never tell anyone anything more than you have to.
  • Never let anyone make you fell ordinary.
  • You don’t go throwing your weight around unless you’re sure you’ll win.
  • Sometimes divorce isn’t an earth shattering loss. Sometimes it’s just two people waking up out of a fog.
  • When you dig just the tiniest bit beneath the surface, everyone’s love life is original and interesting and nuanced and defies any easy definition.

If I have not said this enough, let me repeat it. I LOVE THIS BOOK!!! ❤ Comment below and let’s discuss her seven husbands! or any other part of the book! If you have not read this yet, Please do!

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MOVIE REVIEW: The Accused


RESPECT and SELF CONTROL.

No one ever asks for it and there is ABSOLUTELY NO EXCUSE to justify a rape. RAPE IS A VIOLENT ACT, A CRIMINAL ACT against a person’s will. 

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This is very timely with the recent HijaAko issue that is trending. I also just found out that this movie is based on an ACTUAL EVENT – the case of Cheryl Araujo!!

No matter how Sarah is dressed and how she behaved dancing in the bar, it does not justify the three men who raped her and it does not give the other men in the bar the right to encourage and cheer on the disrespectful act.

No one even fucking bothered to stop the fucking violence that is happening right before their eyes. It was so difficult to watch. I was cringing and felt disrespected too. I cannot even imagine how it is to be in Sarah’s position or Araujo! This factor of the movie is equally important. It’s a good way to educate other people. You are an accessory to the crime.

It is important to speak up, do something and act to protect those that are being abused and assaulted. You are equally responsible if you don’t do something.

What’s your stand on this issue? Will you recommend watching this movie? 

BOOK REVIEW: When breath becomes air by Paul Kalanithi


What makes life worth living in the face of death? What do you do when the future, no longer a ladder toward your goals in life, flattens out into a perpetual present? What does it mean to have a child, to nurture a new life as another fades away?

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This book is so heavy and profound in so many ways. Paul teaches us that in the face of death, one must choose what matters most in life. In his frail and weak state, Paul chooses to fight for his life.

It may have caused a lot of doubts but Paul enlightened each and everyone that the values and the important things continuously changes. I felt how painful it was for him to lose his identity. The once strong body that he has is now failing him to the point that the mere act of lifting his leg was too tiring for him. I think this is one of the hardest things to accept when you have a terminal or serious illness. — It’s the constant thought that you will never be able to go back to who you are, what you do and how others will perceive you. Your body will fail you, your mind will trick you. Everything will change.

He also mentioned how long and excruciating it is for doctors to deal with the fact that they hold responsibility for judgement calls. You know the famous spiderman line, With great power comes great responsibility? That is exactly the burden each doctor carries. Most of us are in awe of doctors. Some of us puts them in a pedestal. Why? because they have the power, skills and knowledge that can alter someone’s life. But that is also the burden that they carry everyday. It is the same power that saves lives, the same power that ends one, and never intentional.

With this revelation, I loved how he explained his personal commitment to treat each patient as individuals, not just charts. He made it to a point to know the patient, understand his life, his mind, his values and his identity. Why? So he knows how just how important it is for him to do the right thing, the right diagnosis, the right treatment, etc. — ‘In taking up another’s cross, one must sometimes be crushed by its weight’. It’s beautiful.

  • It’s very easy to be number one. Find the guy who is number one and score one point higher than he does.
  • Books became my closest confidants, finely ground lenses providing new views of the world.
  • Brains give rise to our ability to form relationships and make life meaningful.
  • Direct experience of life and death questions was essential to generating substantial moral opinions about them.
  • How could I ever learn to make and live with such judgement calls? I still had a lot of practical medicine to learn, but wold knowledge alone be enough? with life and death hanging in the balance? Surely intelligence wasn’t enough. Moral clarity is needed as well.
  • Some days, this is how it felt when I was in the hospital: trapped in an endless jungle summer, wet with sweat, the rain of tears of families of the dying pouring down.
  • Drowning, even in blood, one adapts, learns to float, to swim, even to enjoy life, bonding with the nurses and doctors who are clinging to the same raft, caught in the same tide.
  • A spoonful at a time. Openness to human relationality does not mean revealing grand truths from the apse, it means meeting patient’s where they are in the narthex or nave, and bringing them as far as you can.
  • The cost of my dedication to succeed is high, and the ineluctable failures brought me nearly unbearable guilt. Those burdens are what make medicine holy and wholly impossible, in taking up another’s cross, one must sometimes get crushed by the weight.
  • Good intentions were not enough, not when so much depended on my skills, when the difference between tragedy and triumph was defined by one or two millimetres.
  • Death comes for all of us. Most lives are lived with passivity toward death – it’s something that happens to you and those around you.
  • Even if you are perfect, the world isn’t. The secret is to know that the deck is stacked, that you will lose, that your hands or judgement will slip and yet still struggle to win for your patients. You can’t ever reach perfection, but you can believe in an asymptote toward which you are ceaselessly striving.
  • Severe illness wasn’t life-altering, it was life-shattering. It felt less like an epiphany – a piercing burst of light, illuminating what really matters – and more like someone had just firebombed the path forward. Now I would have to work around it.
  • The pain of knowing and not knowing the future, the difficulty in planning, the necessity of being there for each other.
  • If the weight of mortality does not grow lighter, does it at least get more familiar?
  •  The defining characteristic of the organism is striving.
  • The tricky part of illness is that, as you go through it, your values are constantly changing. You try to figure out what matters to you, and then you keep figuring it out. Death may be a one-time thing but living with a terminal illness is a process.
  • You can’t ever reach perfection, but you can believe in an asymptote toward which you are ceaselessly striving.

Overall, this book is a really good read. It’s scary and honest. 

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LEARN: Fountain of Youth


How far would you go to find the Fountain  of Youth? 

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Just a brief background, my curiosity about Ponce de Leon arise when I read the book Before Ever After. And the things I will be mentioning below may or may not be correct as I read just the tip of the iceberg regarding the myth.

In the simplest of terms, the Fountain of Youth restores the youth of anyone who drinks it. Ponce de Leon is greatly associated in his explorations and thought of exploring to find the said Fountain. A lot of people would argue that it is only a myth which is agreeable sine no one really claims to have found it but it would also make you think because it has been mentioned and studied quite often by other figures such as Herodotus, people of Carribean, Alexander Romance and Prester John.

A lot of people sought the great gift of eternal youth as can also be seen in the popular movie, Harry Potter and the Philosopher Stone or the Elixir of Life among others.

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MOVIE REVIEW: The Negotiator


DO YOU REALLY KNOW WHO YOUR FRIENDS ARE? 

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A crime negotiator, considered the best in his field was framed of corruption and murder of his partner. Now he, planned for a hostage environment in order to find out the truth.

All throughout the hostage, I thought it was really Niebaum! The movie has a way of sticking out a certain character to mislead you and there were a lot. The chief was being unsupportive, so I also thought he was involved among others.

Overall, I liked the movie and it’s recommendable. ❤ 

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BOOK REVIEW: The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin


I don’t think I’ve ever highlighted a book as much as I did with this one. ❤

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I don’t care about the other reviews that I’ve seen. I honestly learned a lot about the book. More than the everyday solutions and scenarios inside their house, there’s a lot of behaviors or mentality aspect that I find amusing. ❤ When I tell you there’s a lot, I mean there’a huge vault of information!!

Let me break down the the monthly resolutions of Gretchen in the book.

JANUARY (Boost Energy)

  • Sleep earlier
  • Exercise better
  • Organize
  • Act more energetic

To be honest, the first chapter was more common, obvious and repetitive. BUT, just continue reading. Okay?

FEBRUARY (Remember Love)

  • Quit Nagging
  • Don’t expect appreciation
  • Fight Right
  • No Dumping
  • Give proofs of love

Marital satisfaction significantly drops after the first child arrives. Small frequent gestures of thoughtfulness were more important than flowers on Valentine’s. What you do everyday matters more than what you do once in a while. 

Gretchen suggested that to avoid nagging, she found it useful to limit reminders to ONE WORD such as ‘camera’ or like ‘door’ and that chores DIDN’T NEED TO BE DONE ACCORDING TO ONE’S SCHEDULE. To add to that, she also practiced DOING IT HERSELF and to BE APPRECIATIVE of the other person’s efforts.

To avoid expecting appreciation, she needed to remind herself that she didn’t need her husband’s approval and whatever it is that she’s doing, whether it’s washing the dishes or taking out the trash, it’s because SHE’S DOING IT FOR HERSELF. That way, if the other person didn’t notice or said thank you or appreciate the gesture, there’s no need to sulk. ‘If you do it for other people, you end up wanting them to acknowledge it and to be grateful and to give you credit. If you do it for yourself, you don’t expect other people to react in a particular way. 

To be able to fight right, it is important to make ‘repair attempts’ by using words or actions to keep ad feelings from escalating and that you ACKNOWLEDGE OTHER PRESSURES IMPOSED ON THE OTHER PERSON such as feeling overwhelmed by the demands of work and keeping the house clean, etc. and to AVOID GENERALIZING PHRASES such as ‘you never’, you always’. How a couple fights matters more than how much they fight.

Here’s a fun fact! Men and women both turn to women for counsel, advice and for talking. Why? MEN AND WOMEN HAVE DIFFERENT DEFINITIONS ON INTIMACY! For women, it’s heart to heart conversations while men feel close when they are sitting beside each other. Get it? You might crave for a long conversation after playing video games with your husband but for him, playing is already your bonding!

Give proofs of love by DOING SMALL TREATS FOR YOUR SPOUSE. Often since we are always with our spouse, we tend to neglect or just take them for granted and one way to do that is to SPEND TIME ALONE TOGETHER and should HAVE AN OUTDOOR AND INDOOR GAME THEY PLAY TOGETHER. 

Also, she shared a marriage mantra — ‘I love ___, just as he is’. When you give up expecting a spouse to change, you lessen anger and resentment and that creates a more loving atmosphere in a marriage.

SEE THAT! I’m still in February and there’s so much insight and advice. ❤ Let me move on to March. KEEP READING.

MARCH (Aim Higher)

  • Launch a blog
  • Enjoy the fun of failure
  • Ask for help
  • Work smart
  • Enjoy now

Enthusiasm is more important to mastery than innate ability because the single most important element in developing an expertise is your willingness to practice. 

We seek to control our lives but the unfamiliar and the unexpected are important sources of happiness. It’s because an unexpected situation gives a powerful sense of satisfaction. People don’t notice your mistakes as much as you think. 

LEARN NEW SKILLS. Challenges allows you to expand your self definition. The more elements make up your identity, the less threatening it is when any one element is threatened. — which is so true by the way! Right? Imagine if you are a financial banker with a side hustle of being a teacher and running a bakeshop. When one fails, you still have the other two! A new identity brings you new people and new experiences.

In order to be successful, YOU NEED TO BE WILLING TO ACCEPT MORE FAILURE. And to be more accustomed to this mindset, she kept telling herself ‘It’s fun to fail. It’s part of being ambitious. It’s part of being creative. IF SOMETHING IS WORTH DOING, IT’S WORTH DOING BADLY.  And in working smart, Gretchen noted that SMALL EFFORTS, MADE CONSISTENTLY, BROUGHT SIGNIFICANT RESULTS. 

APRIL  (Lighten Up)

  • Sing in the morning
  • Acknowledge the reality of people’s feelings
  • Be a treasure house of happy memories
  • Take time for projects

Lighten up by simply REFRAMING YOUR MIND and DECIDING that YOU ENJOY DOING IT, whatever it may be. Gretchen also dropped this phrase that really struck me and that is THE DAYS ARE LONG, BUT THE YEARS ARE SHORT. Such a powerful phrase to remind us what matters.

To be a treasure house of happy memories, she practiced KEEPING PHOTOS and KEEPING FAMILY TRADITIONS. Traditions make occasions feel special and exciting. MAKE TIME FOR LITTLE PROJECTS as they reconnect us with sources of ‘feeling good’ that we’ve outgrown.

MAY (Be serious about Play)

  • Find more fun
  • Take time to be silly
  • Go off the path
  • Start a collection

I think the key work of her first resolution is ACTIVELY FIND MORE FUN. Why? because the absence of feeling bad isn’t enough to make you happy. Also, she stumbled upon this realization which I believe we should all contemplate on and that is just because something was fun for someone else doesn’t mean it’s fun for me. I think it’s more important to stop thinking what other people might think and to start being true to yourself. Gretchen suggested that when you do figure out what you find fun, FIND A GROUP OR A CLUB WHO LIKES THE SAME THINGS AS YOU DO. Why? because it makes people feel closer and brings a significant boost in personal confidence and happiness.

Look at those things that do have a beauty in your life and look at them more and more. 

TAKE TIME TO BE SILLY because there’s this emotional contagion where we unconsciously catch emotions from other people. GO OFF THE PATH by EXPANDING YOUR INTERESTS. Gretchen included a quote from Matthew Arnold, ‘All knowledge is interesting to a wise man’.

JUNE (Make time for Friends)

  • Remember birthdays
  • Be Generous
  • Show up
  • Don’t gossip
  • Make three new friends

The first part of the chapter, GR established that make time for friends is sometimes not literally just time. She imparted resolutions such as BE GENEROUS because according to studies, happiness is often boosted by providing support to other people than receiving one. And to be generous, she further broke it down to HELPING PEOPLE THINK BIG, BRINGING PEOPLE TOGETHER AND CUTTING PEOPLE SLACK. Words of enthusiasm and confidence from a friend can inspire one to tackle an ambitious goal. In bringing people together, some suggested to have a ‘Bring another friend’ dinner or in parties. To cut people some slack, we need to REMIND OURSELVES THAT PEOPLE’S LIVES ARE FAR MORE COMPLICATED THAN THEY APPEAR FROM THE OUTSIDE. A big part of friendship is  SHOWING UP. Based from her experience, she immediately set up dates to see her friends.

MAKING NEW FRIENDS will expand one’s world by providing an entrance to new interests, opportunities and experiences.  If you are not friendly, GH suggested some resolutions to make it easier such as ACT FRIENDLIER, act the way you want to feel. SMILE FREQUENTLY. A study showed that people tend to like people who they think likes them. This makes sense as I find it true for me. 😛 ACTIVELY INVITE OTHERS TO JOIN THE CONVERSATION, CREATE A POSITIVE MOOD and OPEN A CONVERSATION. How? one suggested to learn something newsworthy on Google so you have something to talk about. LEARN TO SHOW INTEREST and ASK QUESTIONS about the other person.

JULY (Buy some Happiness)

  • Indulge in modest splurge
  • Buy needful things
  • Spend out
  • Give something up

Money, spent wisely, can support happiness goals of strengthening relationships, promoting health, having fun and all the rest. SPEND MONEY WHERE IT MATTERS TO YOU. Some examples of modest splurge are good knives, quality pillows or remodeling a certain part of the house or if you’re really into children lit, a complete set of Wizard of Oz. Also, she expounded that the MORE YOU HAVE, THE HAPPIER YOU’LL BE IS WRONG. Why? because according to GH, a constant stream of luxuries can take away the savor.

In Buying needful things, I learned that there are an underbuyer and overbuyer. I’m always the overbuyer. 😛 in some aspects I think. A research also proved what I thought and that is people think they like variety more than they do but if there are options and asked what they would choose, one always picks the same thing every time. 😛 Exactly me with clothes. 😛 In Spending out, USE WHAT YOU HAVE. Don’t wait for a special occasion to use something.

AUGUST (Contemplate the Heavens)

  • Read memoirs of catastrophe
  • Keep a gratitude notebook
  • Imitate a spiritual master

GH started with Philosopher Boethius saying ‘Contemplate the extent and stability of the heavens, and then at last cease to admire worthless things. THINK ABOUT DEATH, LIVE FULLY AND THANKFULLY IN THE PRESENT. As William Edward Lecky said, ‘There’s a time in the lives of most of us when we would have given all the world to be as we were but yesterday, though that yesterday had passed over us unappreciated and unenjoyed”. This hits home!! GAHH.

SEPTEMBER (Pursue a passion)

  • Write a blog
  • Make time
  • Forget about results
  • Master a new technology

DO WHAT YOU DO. Whatever you enjoyed doing as a ten year old or something you choose to do on a Saturday Afternoon and MAKE TIME FOR IT and TREAT IT AS A PRIORITY. 

In forgetting about results, GH mentioned that what makes a passion enjoyable is that you don’t have to worry about the results. An atmosphere of growth brings great happiness but it sometimes comes when you’re free from the pressure to see much growth. ENJOY WHATEVER IT IS YOU WANT TO DO.

OCTOBER (Pay Attention)

  • Meditate on koans
  • Examine True Rules
  • Stimulate mind in new ways
  • Keep a food diary

I was AMAZED by the KOANS! I didn’t know such existed!! Okay, to further elaborate, a Koan is a question or statement that can’t be understood logically. Aside from the koan, HEURISTICS! and GH actually shared some very valuable TRUE RULES that she has been observing such as My husband is my priority at all times, Get some work done every day, I know as much as most people, Try to attend a part that I’m invited to. Some people also shared, Always say hello. What would my mother do?, Things have a way of turning out for the best and People succeed in groups.

NOVEMBER (Keep a Contented Heart)

  • Laugh out loud
  • Use good manners
  • Give positive reviews
  • Find an area of refuge

FIND REASONS TO FIND THINGS FUNNY, LAUGH OUT LOUD AND APPRECIATE OTHER PEOPLE’S HUMOR. According to Tolstoy, ‘Nothing can make our life more beautiful than perpetual kindness’. 

DECEMBER (Boot Camp Perfect)

Even when a day was bad, it had bright spots. 

 

 

Who here has read the book? and for those who haven’t Have I convinced you enough? Honestly, we all have the time now and with what is happening in the world, we all need to ACTIVELY FIND AND OR DO WHAT MAKES US HAPPY. Right? So read this book. ❤ 

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THOUGHTS: The A – Z of Skincare


Buying the perfect skincare for your skin is such a daunting task. I’m not a skin care expert nor do I claim myself to be. I don’t even have a solid miracle stash until today. I have been using serums in less than a year and I still have a lot to learn.

The market is plagued with so much skin care products and I took the liberty to sum up all the common ingredients in a skin care to help me decide on the best product to buy and combine.

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AZELAIC ACID

BEST FOR: Anti-Inflammatory and Anti-Microbial.

ALSO: Cell turnover so scarring is minimized and fades marks

AHA (Alpha Hydrooxy Acids)

BEST FOR: Exfoliation, Cell Turnover for Brighter Skin

ALSO: Promotes Collagen and Blood flow, Corrects discoloration & age spots

BHA (Beta Hydroxy Acids)

BEST FOR: Exfoliation

ALSO: Diminishes the look of fine lines and wrinkles,, improves dull skin tone.

DIFFERENCE WITH AHA: It is oil-soluble.

BAKUCHIOL

BEST FOR: Anti Aging (Retinol Alternative)

ALSO: Anti-Inflammatory and Antioxidant, Stimulates collagen and Increases cell turnover

BENTONITE CLAY

BEST FOR: Healing and Regeneration Process

ALSO: Shrinks, unclogs and tighten pores, promotes blood circulation and eases irritation

KAOLIN CLAY

BEST FOR: Blood Circulation

ALSO: Softens skin & draws out oil

RHASSOUL CLAY

BEST FOR: Removing impurities

ALSO: Evens out skin tone, stimulates blood circulation, redues flakiness

EMOLIENTS (Squalene, Lanolin, Paraffin)

BEST FOR: Softening the skin

ALSO: Improves dry and flaky skin

GLUTATHIONE

BEST FOR: Antioxidant

ALSO: Reduces pigmentation, brightens the skin, detoxifies the body

GLYCERIN

BEST FOR: Softens the skin

ALSO: Reduces appearance of wrinkles and slows down aging

HYALURONIC ACID

BEST FOR: Moisturizes skin

ALSO: Slows down aging and speeds up healing process

NIACINAMIDE

BEST FOR: Antioxidant

ALSO: Brightens skin, reduces pigmentation and minimizes pores

PEPTIDES

BEST FOR: Anti-aging

ALSO: Stimulates production of collagen, promotes skin firmness and seals mositure

RETINOL

BEST FOR: Anti-aging

ALSO: Promotes collagen and fades pigmentation

SALICYLIC ACID

BEST FOR: Removes impurities

ALSO: Removes excess oil, softens the skin and helps shed off dead skin cells

SQUALENE

BEST FOR: Hydration

ALSO: Reduces wrinkles and eliminate scars

VITAMIN C

BEST FOR: Skin Brightening

ALSO: Promotes collagen production, Boosts immunity & repairs body tissues

VITAMIN E

BEST FOR: Hydration

ALSO: Reduces UV Damages on skin and Anti Aging

I hope this helped you somehow. I know it cleared up some questions I have. Did I miss something? Please feel free to add in the comments below. I’d like to learn some more. ❤ 

MOVIE REVIEW: Crawl


Did you ever imagine your house full of Alligators? 

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I don’t know how to swim! How will I ever survive? Haha. BUT! BUT, I learned a new trick which I have yet to confirm! and that is, DON’T MOVE. As long as there are no vibrations or no movements, then they will swim past you. Is that true?

Anyway, there were a handful of DO NOT EVEN BREATHE moments and I may have screamed out of shock three times  but the movie was not really gut wrenching the whole time. It’s the type of family movie on a Friday Night gathered in one room eating popcorn or chips. ❤ But it’s also something I would play in the background while I’m doing something else. Overall, okay but not outstanding.

Have you seen this movie? How many times did you scream? 😛 

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MOVIE REVIEW: Runaway Jury


Trials are too important to be left up to juries

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First of all, I didn’t know that there’s a business operation based solely on the careful selection of a jury! Two opposing lawyers will battle it out in court proving that the defendant is innocent or that the defendant is guilty. But the mere study and cautious selection of the right type of jury can sway, make or break your case.

Two, have you seen Meet the Fockers? I cannot really picture him as a serious lawyer. 😛 Three, I salute Easter in the movie of how he can silently influence the other jurors. Four, the real action I think is not really inside the court room (as I would have wanted) but rather the silent manipulation happens outside.

Overall, the novel turned movie is okay.  Though it’s not something I would recommend or watch again.

Who of you has seen the movie? Did you like it?

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THOUGHTS: The 6 Phones I’ve had in my life


Phones have a special place in our lives. Do you agree? It’s the first thing you look for when you wake up in the morning and the last thing you hold when you go to sleep. Don’t deny it! You can’t even leave the house without it. Sure, we can offer the excuse of for emergencies and the importance of communication these days.

But there’s an obsession already. Right? And I’m not being a hypocrite. I am also guilty of such. And since we have all the time in the world now, I decided to clean a particular drawer where all of my gadgets are. And here it is, A collection of all the phones that I’ve used and own throughout these years. 😛

I did not include the Siemens Phone that I used when I was in grade school. My dad usually lets me bring it to school for Emergency but it was never really mine. 😛

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NOKIA 3530

My first ever phone. 😛 It was a semi gift during my grade school graduation. I can still remember how excited I was since it was one of the first few phones to have a color display. ❤ There was no camera but one of the things I loved most about this is how I can download different wallpapers to customize it. (Yes, as early as that, I knew I loved black – Thus my black casing.) This served me all throughout my 4 years in HS. Haha.

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Nokia 1616-2

This was especially helpful when I was living a double life. 😛 A call and text function just to cater my confused lifestyle. Haha. I used this for a brief time when I was in college.

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Sony Ericsson K800i

This is my College Phone. ❤ I love that it has a scroll in the middle. It’s what makes it unique and the flash saved me a couple of times when we were clubbing back then. 😛 Since this has a Photo Vid feature already, it’s small screen is a disadvantage.  And though it has a VGA Video Call already, I don’t think I ever used it. I was using this phone from College up until when I was working.

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Blackberry 9700

The hype when I started working! Everyone was talking about BB Messenger. I think the advantage of Blackberry is it’s BB Hub where all of your emails, instant message and SMS are all in one push notification. I loved how there’s a certain professionalism status or symbol it gives by using a Blackberry.

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Iphone 4S

The first phone I ever bought from my own pocket. ❤ and my second apple product next to my Itouch. I think this used to be my favorite phone. ❤ You all know how apple works. I love that it has so much storage, the quality of the image is great. I liked how compact and it easily fits in the palm of my hand. I used this when I was working already and the reason why I had to let this one go is because of the battery. :/

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Samsung Note 5

The phone that made the switch worth it. ❤ I still like Apple of course. But the ease of use of Samsung especially that I am studying and working, is such a gem. I usually have to transfer downloaded files, edit power point and documents for school and with this phone, everything was seamless. I can edit right away and with the help of an OTG, everything was easy! Aside from that, the quality of the image under a Natural Light is perfect and doesn’t need any edits. ❤ I love love love this phone. Unfortunately, after 4 years of using it, I think the problem was battery too. :/

 

Currently, I am using a Samsung Galaxy A70. So far, I am loving my new phone. It may not be the latest model, but its features is also high quality. As you can see from the history of my phones, I don’t normally buy the latest or the highest model, I like to maximize the life of each one, or maybe just an excuse because I’m somehow (kuripot). 😛

 

What’s the best phone you’ve had so far? Are you an Apple fan or Samsung User? What was your first ever phone? Let me know! Leave some comments below. ❤ Hope you can like this post and Subscribe. ❤  

MOVIE REVIEW: Taking Lives


I’m carrying a baby whose father is a serial killer.

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IMDB: An FBI profiler is called in by French Canadian police to catch a serial killer who takes on the identity of each new victim.

In my opinion, both Jolie and Ethan did an amazing job in this movie. I am now picturing Ethan as this psycho gruesome killer every time I see his face or maybe until after I see another movie where he isn’t the bad guy. 😛 There’s this part which I wish to unsee – the one in the elevator. Eeekk. Now I know what every man sees in Angelina. She was definitely hot in this movie. ❤

And, BTW, hats off to that ending! I’m not going to spoil any further but I was stringed along. Must watch. ❤

BOOK REVIEW: Dear Heart, I Hate you by J. Sterling


You could meet a thousand people and they’d all mean nothing to you. But then you’d meet that one and they suddenly meant everything.

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GOODREADS: I didn’t plan on him. Or for him. Or anything that had to do with Cal Donovan from Boston. Meeting him had been a complete and utter surprise, taking me one hundred percent off guard. I met new people every single day in my line of work and none of them affected me.

This is going to be brutally honest. – I absolutely did not like the book! There was no depth. I am definitely not a fan of Insta-love and I obviously do not believe in such. Maybe that’s why I hated this. If you’re looking for a growth in character then maybe this one is for you, how two workaholics who did not believe in love suddenly fell in love.

But no. I don’t get it. There’s no build up. No twists. No major setback. It was just an on-going and continuous LDR where the plot is fairly predictable. I did not fell in love with ANY of the characters. I did not feel the love or longing from both Cal and Jules.

Nothing. No emotion.

  • When did making yourself a priority become such a horrible thing?
  • Those lips. They’ll be my ruin.
  • It was heartbreaking when you recognize that moment when pieces of your reality turned into memories.
  • I’m not even all the way in and you already feel like home.
  • Her beauty rivaled her brain. She was a double threat.
  • Who we loved wasn’t always a choice. Sometimes it was an irresistible pull, a gravitational force, something we couldn’t see or control that drew us toward one another.

I’m utterly disappointed. I saw how one of my favorite authors, Coho praised this book. And that is exactly the reason why I gave this book a chance but my oh my… I was wrong.

EVERYDAY: Quarantine Uniform


Good Morning, Everyone! ❤

We are all being asked to stay indoors and we are being wedged to a new normal. I’m not immune to anxiety because of the doubts and uncertainty, but if there’s one thing that makes me feel good? It’s putting on make-up! ❤

You may not actually it from the pictures, but I do. 😛 I have nowhere to go but in front of my laptop but it makes such a difference to how I feel.

As much as I want to wear what the hot girls are wearing in tiktok? Nah. The heat, the humidity and just the pure living hell weather that it is here in Manila justifies my quarantine uniform of super short shorts.

Try it! You’ll feel so much better. ❤

LEARN: Significance of Flower Colors


We just celebrated Mother’s Day and it got me thinking about bouquets and their meanings. Right? The staple bouquets for romantic partners are usually Red Roses. But Why?

Do you know what the colors mean? 

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RED – Romantic love, passion, respect, desire and courage

YELLOW – Friendship, success, pride, happiness, joy and energy

PINK – Love, happiness, gentleness and femininity

ORANGE – Excitement and enthusiasm

WHITE – Purity, humility, innocence and sympathy

BLUE – Relaxation, calmness serenity, openness and peace

PURPLE – Success, dignity, tradition, royalty and admiration

LAVENDER – Grace, refinement, elegance and youth

GREEN – Good Fortune, hope and rebirth

Reading above, did you give the right type of flower? :p Will you be considering the color of the flowers? regardless of who you’ll be giving it to?