EVERYDAY: Our Wedding (Bride’s Vows)


November 24, 2019, the most magical day of my life. ❤

Documenting this here so I can read it over and over and over again and be reminded of my commitment to my husband.

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”8 years ago, I walked into BOC looking to start my career. Instead, I met the man I was going to marry.

Bab, thank you for always braving the Saturday El Shaddai just to bring me home. Thank you for giving me your chicken skin, knowing I hate the white portion. Thank you for always giving me the last bite of our sizzling tofu.

Thank you for always supporting me & pushing me to be my best, especially when I don’t believe in myself. Thank you for trusting that I can do more. I promise I’ll always be here to support you whether you want to pursue law or try out your singing career. Thank you for never making me feel less for all my shortcomings & lastly, Thank you for enduring the boy – jojo tandem. (Everybody knows how strict my parents are).

I don’t know where life will take us but I promise that we’ll get through anything as long as we face them together. I promise not just to be your wife but to continue being your bestfriend. I promise to hear you out life a friend even in your ugliest & work it out as your wife.

I know marriage won’t always be a happy ending. There will be days we can’t bear to be with each other. I know that we will have to work on our relationship every single day, but it will be easy knowing it’s with you. I know that both of us will change but I promise to love not just the person that you are now but the person that you will become, no matter how different you may be. If I have to wake up 40 years from now and see a bald fat guy, I want it to be with you, double chin & all.

I promise not to give up on us & to do everything to make our marriage work. I promise not to run when things get hard. I promise I’ll stay even when you’re annoying as hell. I promise to love you when it’s easy & even more when it’s not. Most importantly, I promise to still hold you hand even when you wear crocs in public.

Baba, I’m not sure if you remember. But 5 years ago, I wrote a blog about you. It says,

Someday, I want to experience freaking out of wedding details. I want to argue with you what flowers should go inside the church, or what color of tux should you wear, who our ring bearer is, the color of our invitation, what our theme song is, what flavor our wedding cake will be or what band should we hire. I want to take hundreds of prenuptial pictures with you. I want to attend a wedding rehearsal and not be scared that you might flip out because I am aware of how much you love me. Someday, I want to have hundreds and thousands of butterflies in my stomach not because I’m nervous but because I am full of excitement to finally be called your wife. I want to wear a sparkling fantasy shoes because I’ve already met my prince charming. An intelligent-charming-handsome lawyer slash banker slash archaeologist prince charming. I want to feed you our cake and let you drink wine knowing that I will be doing it for the rest of our lives. Lastly, I want to walk down the aisle perfectly happy knowing that all of my dreams are waiting for me, ready to take my hand and exchange vows in front of god and in front of our families and friends. I want to walk down the aisle and say I do to the man of my dreams. 

Today, baba, I get to fulfill that dream, that blog I wrote 5 years ago. Today, I’ll be your wife. I love you baba. I can’t wait to take on life with you.

EVERYDAY: Our Wedding (Groom’s Vows)


November 24, 2019, the most magical day of my life. ❤

Documenting this here so I can read it over and over and over again.

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‘Babe, Our story is about unexpected love. We did not want each other at first. Me, thinking that you are the typical party girl who is not my type and your impression of me was that I am a grumpy nerd who hates everyone who cannot understand what is being discussed. 

I can’t remember exactly when but I started to fall for you. You have a very lovable attitude – very compassionate, caring and sympathetic. 

I fell so immensely I had to pursue you even if you were pushing me away. Parang may spell. And because of patience and perseverance, napasagot kita. I was very lucky and blessed to have you as my girlfriend. 

Sabi ko ikaw na yung gusto ko makasama habambuhay. Sabi nila, very rare yung ganun bu that’s how I saw it from the inital stages of our relationship – wife material. 

Wala tayong madramang story na nag-break tapos nagkabalikan or iniwan tapos narealize, mahal pala niya. OUR LOVE STORY IS VANILLA. But it is your favorite ice cream flavor. We were able to know each other and talk about things nang mahinahon. 

We handled our relationship with maturity kahit na minsan hilig mong mang-away. Iniitindi natin yung isa’t isa, yung feelings nang isa’t isa. Wala na akong mahihiling pa for a partner in life. Ikaw lang ang gusto ko makasama, babe. Ikaw lang yung gusto ko nandiyan sa successes & failures ko. Ikaw yung gusto ko makinig pag nagrant ako. Lagi ko sinasabi, I cannot see my future without you. 

THIS IS IT MAHAL. Wala na yung mahabang ma-traffic na bbyahe pag maghahatif and pag-antay mo na makauwi ako bago tayo matulog. Magkasama na tayo pag-uwi kapag may party or inuman, pwede na tayo mag-travel together, magluto nang baon for each other and maglinis at mag-ayos nang sarili nating bahay. 

I will do everything to make our marriage God-driven, meaningful and strong. Please remember na mahal na mahal kita. Whenever there are tough times, let us always choose to be with each other and love each other. 

I am so happy to be with you and I am excited to spend the rest of my life with you. 

I love you

NSG. ” 

EVERYDAY: Our Wedding (Groom: The Pre-Wedding)


November 24, 2019, the most magical day of my life. ❤

GROOM: When she was still my fiancée, my wife would (once-in-a-while) ask me “When did you know / decide that you will marry me?” and I would always answer that I already knew it when I started to woo her. And she would not believe that. But it is true. I did not pursue her just to fool around. I pursued her because I wanted to be committed to her.

I proposed on October 27, 2018 in Coron, Palawan and we decided to get married (more or less) a year after the proposal. We planned our wedding date to coincide with our first date which was on November 18 but it would fall on a Monday so we decided to move it on the nearest Saturday which was on November 16. One of the mistakes that we did was to book a reception venue first before a Church. However, we already paid a non-refundable fifty thousand peso advance payment for the reception so there is really no choice but to just pick any Church for our wedding. I searched for every near church in the area but to no avail so I looked for farther Churches located in Batangas (Caleruega and Chapel on the Hill) for a weekend date. Caleruega’s 2PM schedule was fully booked until 2020. Luckily, I was able to find a free Sunday slot in Chapel on the Hill. I remember driving from my house in Sta. Ana, Manila to Chapel on the Hill in Batanagas just to reserve the available date (November 24, 2019). Consequently, we also had to change the date with our venue coordinator.

After those two major suppliers were booked, everything went by so fast. There were too many discussions and problems which came thru but my wife and I solved it by talking properly. We did not want to involve our parents so much since we wanted them to just attend the ceremony and not worry much about it.

One month before the wedding, we felt exhausted because of all the errands and the work that we should do. I just wanted everything to get done. I was already thinking of the days after the wedding (sana matapos na). 

We checked-in in our hotel on November 23, 2019 (a day before the wedding) so our families could still rest and chill before our busy day.  There was a forecasted bad weather on our wedding day so I could not relax. I was very anxious since I did not want our day to be ruined by a storm. We worked hard and sacrificed a lot just to have the BEST wedding.

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I woke up at 6am on November 24, 2019. The first thing I did was to look outside and thanked God for a blue sky. The weather was fair until the time that we had to go to the Church. It rained when my family and I were being transported to the Church. The rain was so hard. I was pissed and sad but I just prayed and I tried to be calm. Our coordinator was very helpful calming me. 

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My husband is wearing a really dark emerald suit, dark brown tie, shoes and belt. 

The room assigned to my husband is a lot bigger than mine. All of his entourage can fit inside the house. ❤ I’m pretty sure they are watching him and our PV team while they were shooting him here. 😀

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Yep! We pick GOOOOODD. ❤ It’s the watch I gave him for this 25th birthday! Our minimalist white marble invitation and the perfume I gave him too as a Christmas gift before. Since then, he’s been using the scent. ❤

It’s his siblings helping him straighten his tie and close his suit, dashing as ever. ❤

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WOAHHHHH. HANDSOME ALERT. ❤ 

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Our PV team had a fun time. Our hotel made it easy for them to shoot. ❤

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To officially introduce our groom squad. here’s the 3 of his siblings as his bestmen, 2 of the husbands of my close friends, his high school bestfriend and his cousin. My brother and his first cousins as our Secondary Sponsor.

Our groom squad is all wearing a black suit and black shoes. We all gave them neckties that will match with our bride squad. ❤

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We are surrounded with greenery and fresh air, complimenting and emphasizing the beautiful day of our union. ❤

Mr. Darcy in real life! I married this man. ❤

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And boys, being boys. They had to start the day with a shot of alcohol. Uhm hello? You’ll be marrying me.  What do you need the alcohol for? 😛

And with a shot of Jack Daniels, off they go to the church, while the groom stays to have a photo with his family. ❤

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Lastly, here’s my dashing groom opening my gift: A bunch of adventures and dates. ❤

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Bride to Groom: ‘My love, My life, My All – Baba we never have to miss another seat sale again! I love you so much. To more red eye flights, road trips, trying out hole in the wall restaurants, hopping to 1 hotel to the other. DATE DAY is all on! I can’t wait. I love love love you! ❤ ”

Groom to Bride: ‘Hi Mahal! I bought this property in 2016 para tirhan natin! Please receive the main keys for our condominium! Excited to spend our time together here. I-design and mag netflix and chill. I love you! See you sa altar! ”

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LEARN: Double Jeopardy


I was watching Fracture last night – and I liked it. I wanted Anthony Hopkins to get caught so bad. Anyway, the movie introduced me to Double Jeopardy.

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Double Jeopardy means a person cannot be tried twice for the same crime based on the same conduct. The defense of double jeopardy also prevents the state from retrying a person for the same crime after he has been acquitted. No person shall “be subject for the same offense to be twice put in jeopardy of life or limb.”

Reasons behind:

 

  • To preserve the finality of criminal proceedings, which would be compromised if the government were allowed to ignore verdicts it did not like;
  • To impose limits on prosecutors’ power; and
  • To protect individuals from the financial and emotional toll of repeated prosecutions.

Eligibility for Double Jeopardy protection: 

  • If a defendant was never previously in legal “jeopardy,” then subsequent prosecution is not prohibited.
  • Once an individual has been placed in legal jeopardy and the jeopardy has ended, the government cannot continue to pursue a prosecution against the person for the same crime, because this would violate the rule against double jeopardy.
  • The double jeopardy rule applies to re-prosecution for the same offense

What constitutes the same offense? 

  • the “actual evidence” has already been presented in court
  • whether all the alleged criminal acts were part of the “same transaction,”
  • whether the defendant is being prosecuted a second time for the “same conduct.”

 

 

EVERYDAY: Our Wedding (The Ceremony)


November 24, 2019, the most magical day of my life. ❤

It was a beautiful Sunday afternoon. Everyone is dressed, everyone is made up. All of our loved ones, may it be family or friends or friends that became family, are gathered to celebrate our union.

Our wedding was held in Chapel on the Hill, or Don Bosco Chapel in Tagaytay. It was only 10 – 15 minutes away from our hotel.

Our union or the official ceremony is set at 2:00 in the afternoon. It was cloudy. To be honest, it was raining that afternoon but God has his ways. It was raining when we left the hotel but it stopped when I arrived in the chapel.

Inside the chapel where my husband waits, he waits impatiently and jittery. Why? Our officiant was late. HAHA. They were coming from Antipolo Cathedral and running late. Thus, the groom, my hubby and a friend of our officiant was personally contacting him as it was past 2:00 pm already. Our coordinator had to confiscate the groom’s phone to keep him from panicking. 😛

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For our entourage march, we chose an instrumental Thousand Years by Christina Perri. This is my nervous hubby with my second parents, walking down the aisle.

Our flower girls are also dressed in all white, mikado material with no beads or lace, to compliment my wedding gown. Here’s my hubby’s god daughter, maiara and my god daughter, elle carried by her father.

Here’s my handsome nephew – pio, my intelligent nephew – tyke and hubby’s cousin – matthew with a practiced showbiz smile. 😀

Meanwhile, I was feeling at ease. Still, I was not nervous AT ALL. I was even chatting with my driver and my bride assistant. UNTIL, I saw the people outside the chapel going inside! I then started to feel the NEED and URGE  to pee! Of all the times that I need to urinate — it was moments before I need to walk down the aisle. The nearest bathroom? on the other side of the chapel, where I will need to walk past all of our guest! Ergo, I need to hold it in! I was even asking my bride assistant if I can do it at the back of my bridal car. 😀 (I did it once, mind you! in college. :P)

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Like I said, it was cloudy and raining minutes before we started. While I was getting off the car and walking towards the entrance, I was focused on my walk because it was windy and my veil keeps getting caught in the branches of the trees.

15 to 20 steps from getting inside the church, it started drizzling! GAD. I was not panicky. I still maintained my composure.

I personally picked my Bridal March to be I get to love you by Ruelle. I listened to a couple of bridal songs, friends also suggested and I searched and search until I found the perfect song. This, this song is perfect for how I feel for my hubby. ❤

Every time I hear this song, before and after our marriage – it still makes my heart swell. You know how when you just get into a moment where you feel so so much love for that person, you heart feels like exploding? I’m not exaggerating. That’s how I feel for him and this song always reminds me of that. ❤

It’s true what they say, you will not hear anything! everything is blurry! When I finally turned right and face the altar – I could not see anything but my husband! I couldn’t even hear the perfect song that I chose! I just kept walking! I felt I was breezing through.

TIP: On how to walk, you’re supposed to kick your gown to the front then step. So you won’t step on your gown. And oh, don’t just go for aesthetic on your bouquet. It really is heavy.  

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And the rest of the ceremony follows. It kept pouring cats & dogs while everyone was safely inside the chapel.

Also, ask your parishes too what kind of offering they prefer. I really thought they would prefer food such as canned ones and instant noodles and the like. Apparently, they prefer cleaning materials which they can readily use for their chapel. So we offered Zonrox, Lysol, Tissues and Alcohol.

oh! Another TIP: Place your hands inside the veil and push them away from your face. I had a hard time opening my eyes the entire time! My lashes were bent down / pushed down rather by my veil.

Our song line up: for the Gospel – Alleluia, for the offertory – Lord I offer my life, for communion – Lead me Lord and Anima Christi.

Here we are, exchanging our vows. I don’t why I laughed but I did. ❤ This is the essence of our union: to commit in front of God and all our loved ones to love each other for the rest of our days.

This is our most awaited moment – the promise and our commitment. While our guests? they are actually waiting for this. 😀

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Our officiant, Fr. Nante and Fr. Peejay, the celebrators of our mass.

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For the contract signing, we chose the following songs: Thousand Miles by Vanessa Carlton, Everything by Michael Buble, I do cherish you by 98 degrees and In your eyes by Regine Velasquez.

The pictorial and recessional followed after. ❤

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For our recessional, we chose to have wands colored dark emerald and gold together with bubbles which I personally painted gold. ❤

TIP: Don’t dwell so much in the small details. During our preparation, I gave so much time and stress over the smallest of details such as the color and if the output of the bubble wands that I painted are okay. Turns out — the guests doesn’t really care about the details. But if you enjoy doing it, like I did – go ahead! No harm done as long as you are happy with it. 😀

I finally get to call the love of my life for 6 years, MY HUSBAND. ❤

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The happiest day of life, my dreams are now a reality. 

I love you so much, my baba! ❤ 

BOOK: The Sun is also a Star by Nicola Yoon


GOODREADS: Natasha: I’m a girl who believes in science and facts. Not fate. Not destiny. Or dreams that will never come true. My family is twelve hours away from being deported to Jamaica. Falling in love with him won’t be my story.

Daniel: I’ve always been the good son, the good student, living up to my parents’ high expectations. Never the poet. Something about Natasha makes me think that fate has something much more extraordinary in store—for both of us.

The Universe: Every moment in our lives has brought us to this single moment. A million futures lie before us. Which one will come true?

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Do not mistake me for being a realist or cold hearted. I’m not. I like reading love stories and happy endings. BUT christ, SPARE ME LOVE AT FIRST SIGHTS or INSTALOVE. Who believes in those shit? You meet a stalker and you let him hold you in the hand, not even an hour after bumping into the guy? Jeez. Call it attraction instead! Now that! – that’s possible! Lust too. You don’t just decide to spend the whole day and let that person tag a long.

But that’s not love! Love is knowing the person inside and out, loving all the flaws, all the horrible things and dark secrets the other person has – something you’ll discover, observe and experience through time. It’s not answering questions all day, having conversations with a stranger and trusting your whole life with that person so quickly!

We all have moments! The feeling of endorphins rising up, the feeling of excitement in getting to know someone, the jitters of ‘new’ love. but moments? moments pass. That’s not love.

How about the character of Natasha? Now her – she’s cold-hearted and so unattached with everything, every emotion and everyone else. She doesn’t believe in anything or anyone except Science. She relies on science to explain everything that’s been happening around her.

And Daniel? Gad. Sure, he is sweet and says all the right things a guy can say at the right time. But don’t you think he’s too much? He’s too emotional and passionate and he practically associates everything with fate and heart and feelings. HAHA. probably exactly how a poet should be characterized. But I wouldn’t want to date someone like him.

And let me just mention the Atty. He actually thinks he met Hannah too late? WHO DOES THAT? If you fuckin love your wife and kids, where would you even find the time to fall in love with someone else? What does he mean by he met hannah too late? Does it mean he regrets his life with his family? WHY? WHY? Stupid men who thinks they have multiple hearts, thinking they can love several women at the same time. just, assholes. Why don’t you just spend the time nurturing your relationship with your family? Make yourself deserving of your family!

What I do liked about this book is that there are snippets of chapters where you learn about trivial things such as Why Korean – American families typically own Black Hair Care stores in New York, Dark Matter, the grandfather paradox, the theory of multiverses and Scientific experiments too.

PLUS, Daniel’s monologue when he finally told Natasha that the Atty couldn’t do anything? It’s the best!

The book also tackles the struggles and the issues of undocumented immigrants, broken dreams, cultural diversions, parent’s expectations, hope, fate and relationships between family members.

  • COPACETIC – in excellent order
  • MUTABLE – liable to change
  • ERUDITE – showing great knowledge
  • Where did all those feelings go? People spend their whole lives looking for love. But how can you trust somethings that can end as suddenly as it begins?
  • All your future histories can be destroyed in a single moment.
  • Are we really supposed to know what we want to do for the rest of our lives?
  • Sometimes the truth can hurt more than you expect.
  • She smiles so big that I know that whatever happens will be worth it.
  • Who are we if not a product of our parents and their histories?
  • It’s not up to you to help other people fit you into a box.
  • Growing up and seeing your parent’s flaws is like losing your religion.
  • You are never out of options.
  • We think we want all the time in the world with the people we love, but maybe what we need is the opposite. Just a finite amount of time, so we still think the other person is interesting.
  • Some people exist in your life to make it better. Some people exist to make it worse.
  • They have a sense that the length of a day is mutable, and you can never see the end from the beginning. They have a sense that love changes all things all the time.

Overall, story narration is ‘kay. I like reading short chapters too. I just didn’t like the wholeness of the story. I would not recommend reading this book but I’d give Nicola Yoon another chance. I’m open to reading Everything, Everything. ❤

LEARN: Wine and Cheese Pairing


Ever since the quarantine, we’ve been entertaining ourselves at the comfort of our own home. Thus, we’ve been drinking wine 2 to 3 times a week with a whole side of junk food!

So I decided to learn a little bit more and I wanted to leave this here so I can keep coming back to my page whenever I need to:

Who else loves a good wine? ❤ 

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Personally, I like Semi-sweet, Sweet and Rose.

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TYPES OF CHEESE

Fresh Cheese – unaged, unripened, rindless, and has the same bright, white color on the inside, out. It has the highest moisture.

  • Mozarella – Soave, or any red or white
  • Feta – Rose
  • Ricotta – Prosecco or Fume Blanc
  • Cream Cheese – None
  • Mascarpone – None
  • Cottage Cheese – None

Soft Cheese – Ripened anywhere between 0-30 days, soft cheeses contain a high moisture content, a usually higher fat content, and therefore has a more pudding-like paste. Best served at room temperature.

  • Brie – California Merlot or Chardonnay
  • Camembert – Cotes du Rhones
  • Chaource – Chablis, Sancerre, or Champagne
  • Chevre – Sauvignon Blanc or Spanish Albarino

Semi-Soft Cheese – Treading into the denser, earthier, and the tiniest bit more pungent-tasting, semi-soft cheeses are lightly pressed into molds to create a more rubbery outer texture, but leaving a delicate, custardy, soft center.

  • Havarti – Chardonnay, Sauvignon Blanc, Pinot Noir
  • Muenster – Gewurztraminer, Riesling, Belgian ales, lagers, porters, stouts
  • Provolone – Chianti, Pinot Grigio, Lagers
  • American Cheese –  American-style IPAs
  • Taleggio – Saison, Pinot Noir, Rose

Semi-Firm Cheese – start to take on more developed notes, ranging anywhere between more floral, more fruity, and even developing an aroma of freshly browned butter. Semi-firm is not meant for grating or spreading, but rather shredding or slicing.

  • Cascaval – Light red wine or brown beer, such as a pilsner
  • Cheddar – Zinfandel, Pinot Noir, Cabernet, porter, mead, or amber ale
  • Edam – Pinot Grigio, Riesling, Chardonnay, Shiraz
  • Emmental – Merlot, Riesling, Champagne, Beaujolais, light lager, or stout
  • Gouda – Cabernet or Shiraz
  • Gruyere – Spanish Sherries or southern France reds

Firm Cheese – Best for grating or thinly slicing, this dry-textured cheese takes away the thick-cut meltability you’d get from fresh to semi-firm varietals, but gives back a potent, deeply savory flavor

  • Asiago D’Allevo – Orvieto or Soave
  • Grana Padano – Gavi, Chianti, Barbaresco, Barolo, Lambrusco, Amarone
  • Manchego – Stout, Porter, Sherry, Riesling, Whiskey
  • Parmesan – Cabernet Sauvignon, Sauvignon Blanc, Shiraz, Chardonnay, Merlot, or Sangiovese
  • Pecorino – White Burgundy, Nebbiolo, Pinot Noir, Rioja

Blue-Veined Cheese – the best of both worlds: rich and creamy like a soft cheese, yet pungent and perfumed like a firm.

  • Fourme d’Ambert – Merlot, Port, Riesling
  • Gorgonzola –  Zinfandel and Sauternes
  • Roquefort – Riesling, Port, Sherry, or ice wines
  • Stilton –  Porter, Stout, Sherry, Elderberry, Cabernet Sauvignon

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GENERAL TIPS:

1. Pair with equal intensity. 

  • Wines over 14.5% ABV are more intense and taste better with more intensely flavored cheeses.
  • Wines under 12% ABV are less intense and match nicely with more delicately flavored cheeses.

2. Bold wines best pairs with aged cheeses.  

As cheese ages and loses water-content, it becomes richer in flavor with its increased fat content. These two attributes are ideal for matching bold red wines because the fat content in the cheese counteracts the high-tannins in the wine

3. Match super funky cheese with sweet wines

The sweetness in the wine helps balance the “funk” in the cheese and makes it taste creamier. Also, the “stink” of the cheese will help balance the sweet taste of the wine.

4. Sparkling wines are incredible with soft, creamy cheeses

Sparkling wines have high acidity and carbonation, which offer a palate-cleansing effect to creamy, sticky cheeses

5. Wines and cheeses that comes from the same place pairs well. 

You’ll do well to trust the local traditions and match wines and cheeses from the same region together.

6. When in doubt, get a firm, nutty cheese. 

One of the safest bets and most popular choices with all styles of wines is a firm, nutty cheese. The cheese will have enough fat to counterbalance tannin in red wine, but enough delicacy to compliment delicate whites.

Excited to host a dinner in our new home. ❤

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EVERYDAY: Our Wedding (Bride: The Pre-Wedding)


November 24, 2019, the most magical day of my life. ❤

We drove up to Tagaytay a day before our wedding so we can get all settled before our big day. Our family stayed in Abagatan Ti Manila. I stayed in the Heritage Room while my family were in different deluxe rooms. We actually had lunch with my relatives and had dinner with my immediate family. I even had time to do some girl talk with some of my entourage who were staying in the same hotel.

It was a perfect, sunny morning. My day started at 5:00 in the morning. My coordinator and I agreed to meet at 6:00 am so we can still do the turnover for an hour. My Hair & Make-Up team will be arriving at 7:00.

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My HMUA Team, led by Elaine Celestino arrived at 6:00 but stayed in the parking. Elaine, together with her assistant did mine, my maid of honor, the groom’s mother and our flower girl. The white robe I’m wearing while I’m doing my make-up is a gift from my cousin. Thank you, Maves!

TIP: Play your favorite songs in the background. That will help lighten everyone’s mood! Since I’m a 90s baby, I was playing RNB 90s and singing to the tunes of Shawty it’s your Booty, Buy you a drank, Confessions, Mad, My Boo, So sick, Miss Independent and the likes.

This, my final look for the church ceremony. ❤ This time, I’m wearing the dress I designed from scratch, made a reality by Embellish Dress Shop.

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My beautiful bouquet was prepared by Dangwa Florist. I wanted an all white roses. At first, I wanted a cascading bouquet but when I tried carrying one, it was too heavy for me. I changed it back to round ones. Also, check my Champagne colored heels.

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Some of our wedding details: an All White wedding invitation made by Paper Thread Studio with an illustration of us from our engagement shoot. ❤ Our rings were made by Marry Me and obviously, my perfume known to be Janna’s scent – Gucci.

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The kind of gown all small girls dream of. The Wedding Gown of my dreams. ❤ It’s an A-Line in Gazar – Mikado Material, a deep V, neck line with sheer V deep armholes, a deep V Back with floral appliques on the side and some pearls to cover my chest. The amazing thing? it has pockets! P.S. I didn’t want any diamonds or lace or sheer or sequins.

The Gown of my dreams was created by Rose Lagdameo, the official couturier of Pronovias, Mi Sueno here in the Philippines.

Uhuh! Isn’t it perfect? ❤

I swear I wasn’t feeling any nervousness. I was at peace and calm and you know, just following wherever they needed me to be. And here comes our Photographer and Videographer, Timoteo Photo and Stories by Supermac, asking me to read my vows.

Two months before our wedding, there was a memo released for all the churches in Tagaytay – we are no longer allowed to read our personal vows during the ceremony. :/ I’d like to share my Wedding Vows on a separate post.

Check out the details of my white robe from Embellish Dress Shop. ❤

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Before the shenanigans with my bridemaids, here I am being followed by a couple of photographers, shooting everywhere, all around the property of Abagatan!

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My hair was carefully done by David’s Salon! Check out my beautiful highlights! ❤ Let me take this time to introduce my bride squad: I have 2 Maids of Honor, my older sister, Jillian and my best friend, Alex. My Bridesmaids are Bianca and Atria, my 2 best friends from High School and Nicole and Jaja from my college group. My Secondary Sponsors are Katrina, one of my HS Bestfriends, my cousin Ivy and groom’s cousin, Yza.

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We got our bride squad champagne robes from SMGM Bridal Shop. It’s nice right? It’s the perfect classy color and size is right.

TIP: Get your closest friends! It will be more fun and it will be an opportunity for them to get to know each other and become close friends as well.

As our gift to our bride squad, my Maid of Honor Alex gave me 9 sets of Make-Up from Barebug, her business. And as our gift for her, I purchased a wallet from Mango.

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The beautiful gown of our bride squad was created by Christlee Marcelino. As part of our theme, our Bridesmaids wore a dark emerald gown, our Secondary Sponsors wore a sage green and our Maids of Honor wore a champagne gown. All of their gowns are plain, mikado gown with a high slit infront. ❤

Before we head to the church, we each had a toast of a fruity wine! And zero ounce of doubt or nervousness, STILL!

Of course we have to have a series of shots withe most important group – my family! A couple with my mom, my dad, my siblings and one with that yaya I grew up with.

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I love my family and I’m glad we are complete on this beautiful day. ❤

About to see the love of my life, say I do and promise to stay committed for the rest of our lives. I can’t wait. ❤ Look how happy I am!

BOOK: Take the Lead by Betsy Myers


GOODREADS: “Why is it that some people challenge us and motivate us to rise to our best abilities, while others seem to drain our energy and spirit? What is that particular quality certain people have that causes those around them to engage fully and feel connected?”

SEVEN CORE IDEAS

  • We all skin our knees. What count is how we pick ourselves up, learn from our mistakes and move forward.

  1. AUTHENTICITY
  • People who are authentic don’t feel the need to exaggerate their story to make themselves look better, or treat others poorly so they come out in top. People begin to be leaders at that moment when decide for themselves how to be.
  • Genuine leadership is what emerges when we are fully and freely ourselves.
  • People trust us when we are genuine – when we show up, not as who we think we should be, not who our parents and teachers, colleagues and bosses say we should be, but as who we really are.
  • We are each born with our own internal compass, an innate sense that tells us if the direction we’re heading feels right. The most important feedback is that which comes from ourselves. Part of living an authentic life is learning to trust that internal compass.
  • It is the duty of a leader to ensure that people are in the right seats – and on the right bus.
  • We continue discovering new things about ourselves throughout our lives and careers, and sometimes a situation that felt right for us at one point starts feeling like it’s no longer a fit. Sometimes we need to be open to a change in plans and give ourselves permission to change direction.
  • We each have the power to determine or change our roles in both our personal and professional lives.

2. CONNECTION

  • Sometimes when people are unhappy at work, it’s because they are in an environment where they don’t feel connected. They don’t feel they belong there, that their contribution matters or that they are valued as part of the team.
  • No matter how good you are at your work, if you don’t have good relationships with your colleagues, it may not have the impact or support it should.
  • Conversations are opportunities to learn more about the person, share something about yourselves and discover things we may have in common.
  • A shared sense of story brings about a shared sense of purpose, and it is from there that the force for a true movement is born.
  • We walk through so many other people’s lives and often don’t know the lasting impact we have.
  • The two keys for genuine conversation are the curiosity to ask questions about the other person and the generosity to share something about yourself.
  • Look for opportunities for people to meet informally, share personal stories and build relationships.

3. RESPECT

  • Making the effort to notice – opening your eyes and seeing the people around you, taking the time to talk with them and become conscious of what’s going on in their lives.
  • People want to feel that their voice matters. Effective leadership takes the time and care to listen and make sure people feel truly heard.
  • Respect means being willing to listen and let others have their voice, even when it might be inconvenient, difficult or painful to do so. This doesn’t mean we have to agree with another’s decision. It simply means being willing to listen & appreciate people for their unique perspective.
  • You have to listen and gain their trust before you can even have a conversation. You can disagree honorably once you have trust in the relationship.
  • Sometimes sharing an observation or a bit of feedback can be tremendously helpful.
  • The way we communicate and frame an issue and our awareness of the timing and context, can make all the difference in how we are heard and what results we get.
  • It’s not about ego and it’s not about who had the idea in the first place, it’s thinking strategically about who is the best person to get the job done.

4. CLARITY

  • Every organization must have a larger purpose and part of any leader’s success is the ability to communicate that purpose with vivid clarity so that it can be passed from person to person within the organization.
  • As important as what we did were the things we chose not to do
  • Less is more: instead of trying to do a bunch of different things everyday, do one thing at a time.
  • What makes a leader effective is the ability to help people become clear about which tasks are essential to the goal.
  • Informed people feel secure. People will pull together, if they all understand what’s going on and what’s at stake.
  • The key to developing people is to catch them doing something right.
  • It is easy to make assumptions about other people’s expectations, about what matters to them or what makes them feel appreciated. The only reliable way to gain that clarity is to ask.
  • Leadership is not about having all the answers, it is about asking the questions. The clarity comes from listening to the people in the field.

5. COLLABORATION

  • Effective leadership is about inclusion. People feel they are integral part of the larger process.
  • An effective leader then clearly communicates that decision is out to the troops, including what the decision is, why it was made, and what it means to the organization and to each individual involved.
  • A key ingredient in creating true collaboration is becoming aware of our assumptions and learning to challenge them.
  • If you aren’t willing to hear another point of view, how do you grow?

6. LEARNING

  • My curiosity fueled my life long learning.
  • The capacity to engage others – which is all about listening. Second, hard work and discipline and determination to keep at it and keep showing up.
  • Leaders learn is to get outside the bubble of their own experience or comfort zone and discover what is happening in the lives of people around them.
  • Effective leaders believe that their people have valuable perspective, insights and information.
  • Every leader should be willing to sit down with his team and ask them, what are we doing right? what are we doing wrong? what behaviors need to change?

7. COURAGE

  • Leaders are not necessarily fearless, but they are people who have learned how to confront and push through their fears.
  • Courage is about pushing through our fears.
  • We gain strength, and courage and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face. We must do that which we think we cannot.
  • It is when we push through our fear t stretch and grow that we gain confidence.
  • The greatest act of courage is to follow your heart and do the right thing even if it isn’t popular.
  • Sometimes you have to make decisions not everyone is going to be comfortable with. You have to focus on what you are trying to accomplish, with as much respect and care as you can for everyone involve. But you can’t let that stop you from what needs to be done. Leadership takes courage – but courage without being reckless.
  • Courage is a matter of speaking up and giving voice to an uncomfortable truth.
  • Often, once you summon the courage to take this step, it turns out to open up wonderful new possibilities that otherwise might have remained closed or hidden.

EVERYDAY: Drawing through the years


If you’ve known me when I was young, you’d see me spending my summer imitating drawing books, illustrations on the newspaper & tracing cartoons on books. My Christmas Wish list would include Science Books and Drawing Books. My favorite place to roam inside the mall? National Bookstore. And I’d always go home with another book in hand or an art material.

During this quarantine, I had the luxury of doing a spring cleaning — which includes my old notebooks and books. And I found a total of 7 drawing notebooks since I was younger.

And the most recent one, during this quarantine. . .

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I’d say, I was better when I was younger. Correct? Hahaha. Alright, no need to compliments. I just wanted to put these out there. ❤

BOOK: The Wives by Tarryn Fisher


GOODREADS: Thursday’s husband, Seth, has two other wives. She’s never met them, and she doesn’t know anything about them. She agreed to this unusual arrangement because she’s so crazy about him. But one day, she finds something. Something that tells a very different—and horrifying—story about the man she married.

What follows is one of the most twisted, shocking thrillers you’ll ever read.

HOLY SHIT. If you are looking for something like Gone Girl, this is it. It’s on some next level shit. I couldn’t put it down. Once I’ve decided to take a rest from reading, the end of the chapter just reels you back in.

The plot twists is mind blowing! like, HOW? I started this book with pity for Thursday for being stuck in a polygamist marriage then I moved on to annoyance of how she ever willingly said yes to this agreement and somehow understanding of how it turned her to be a stalker and quite obsessed with the other wives.

But then, here comes Seth with his charming antics and very sweet gestures only to be lured to his other personality as what Thursday believed him to be, – a man living with so much lies with a temper. Throw in a bitter ex-wife with her four inch heels, a successful job and a poise and class to match, a practiced liar and an opportunist, who finds herself in a situation to take revenge on the slut that ruined her marriage.

  • That’s how women are, right? Always wondering about each other – curiosity and spite curdling together in little emotional puddles. If you wonder too hard, you’ll get everything wrong.
  • No one tries that hard to keep their husband unless they’ve already lost him.
  • The truth is that the heart’s desire is a mere current against the tide of nurture and nature. You can spend your whole life swimming against it and eventually you’ll get tired and the current of genes and upbringing will put you under.
  • You don’t have to give up something you love just because other people disapprove.
  • That’s what love is about right? Working with what your partner came with.
  • A relationship can withstand almost any trial if the sex was good.
  • It’s amazing how once you open a door for something, there’s o going back. All you can do is brace yourself as you get sucked in.
  • We’re all just waiting for someone to stand behind us, aren’t we? Even if it’s just one person, it gives you strength.
  • I was overcame with love – pressing, pressing, pressing my feelings down to accommodate him. Isn’t that what we do as women?
  • Women are stuck in a cycle of insecurity perpetuated by the way men treat them and we are constantly fighting to prove to them our value.
  • We see each other often, but no one really knows what’s happening behind everyone’s eyes.
  • We busy ourselves trying not to be lonely, trying to find purpose in careers, and lovers and children, but any moment, those feelings we work so hard to possess could easily be taken from us.

This is all so confusing! There’s way too many plot twist and mind games! I LOVE THE BOOK. This reminds me of Verity by CHoover. ❤ ❤

EAT SAN JUAN: CO/OP


2015! 2015 when I first learned about this place and I have been meaning to go since then. The boyfriend always says yes, but never really remembers most of the time. :/ so I was extra happy when we tried this as a surprise.

After visiting our place to check for renovations, we ate lunch. ❤

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Love the exteriors and how it is so well-lit inside. It’s a lifestyle store with a cafe inside. (Although the cafe has the bigger area. 😛 ) You can find some unique pieces, books, stationary, figurines and some decor.

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It’s a self service cafe. You’ll see the counter when you enter the store. It has this chalk board counter menu that makes it look friendlier than usual. But the servers are quite nice actually.

We ordered the Shrimp Diablo for Php 390

The dish is okay but nothing special. It’s a tomato based pasta, that’s it. Although, volume was shrimp was generous enough. You have to add a bit of salt, pepper and parmesan too.

I ordered the Aglio Olio for Php 340

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I thought the dish is a no brainer, meaning it would be safe – a good taste no matter what. I was wrong. It lacks something. :/ We had to ask for additional oil and parmesan too. But it’s still missing something.

Jude insisted we order Onion Stack for Php 240

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This dish saved the reputation. The Aioli Dip is THE BOMB. ❤ The onion rings are good! No matter how big it looked, I swear it’s not all flour!

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I’m disappointed. I have been waiting to eat here and had really high expectations especially when I saw their price range. They are a bit expensive. The pasta serving is huge but sadly, the taste did not justify their price.

No. I won’t be eating here again. :/ On second thought — a quick meeting will do. A coffee and an onion stack would be nice. ❤

TRAVEL: Japan Day 5


It’s our last day in Osaka and it makes me really sad to be leaving this place. But since we have an afternoon flight, we decided to have a free day. We didn’t really have any concrete plan.

First official business: Leave our hotel and drop our baggage so we can still roam around. It’s our first time to ride their cab! We never really did during our stay. We hopped from one place to another by using their trains.

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And we dropped our bags off. It’s a good thing Jude read this somewhere. We also saw this in Namba, in the underpass in the ‘malls’ / stores that you pass by going to the train but we felt it wasn’t that secured so we did some research. And we ended up here, just outside one of the train stations. (so it’s a plus)

Then we head to Dotonbori for Lunch. ❤ We decided to try some maki and sushi to fully experience authentic Japan. We picked Nigiri Chojiro, Conveyor Belt Sushi. It’s also one of the top restaurants in Yelp.

Ofcourse he had to order the set / sampler one. He says it’s really good and tasted fresh.

Me, on the otherhand ordered a which is also good. Nothing fancy, nothing special either. And we were also amazed how the order process go, since you order it from a computer. What’s more amazing is how much they trust their customers.

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Because we had Japanese for Lunch, of course I was not full. 😛 Who would be? I only ordered Tuna Yakiniku! :/ Ergo, I was eager for some dessert!

We asked our friend, Yelp for some best desserts in Dotonbori and was glad we were just a block away and to our surprise, there was a LONG line for takeout. We went inside and they still had a sit down area on the second floor.

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We had to wait for 10 minutes to be seated. The wait was okay. It was nice to wait in the stairway rather than on the streets because of the weather. 😛

When we were finally seated, we ordered their set which comes with 1 pastry and a coffee. (I forgot how much). We ordered one each since they have a minimum amount for you to be seated and dine.

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I don’t normally eat cheesecake but it was fine. Hubby liked it and I was able to finish my chocolate slice. We both had some coffee to go with our pastries.

Next Stop: Shisekai Area

On the way to Tsutenkaku Tower, we passed by a certain area similar to Dotonbori. I wanted to stroll and try different food stalls but he reminded me that we had limited time. :/

Tsutenkaku, a symbol of Osaka is 64 meters in height. It reminded citizens of the famous Eiffel Tower in Paris.

There’s a lot to see inside the tower. There’s no point going in one of the tallest buuilding if you won’t, at the very least look at the view from the highest point, right? So here we are, admiring the view from the top.

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They have a separate floor for a dining area and for souvenirs too.

But most importantly, we lined up to have a glimpse and touch Mr. Biliken. 

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We were told that Mr. Biliken bring luck and happiness to those who touches his legs! ❤ After a short trip to Shinsekai, we had to rush back to the airport to have some dinner before our flight.

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We had five days of Japanese food so by this time, I was craving for some Chinese, and Chinese it is! I absolutely love YANGCHOW rice. ❤ I can eat it everyday! We also had some hot shrimp salad. ❤

This is our last train ride back to the airport. Thank you so much, Japan! I fell in love. Now I know why everyone wants to keep coming back. ❤ ❤

EAT MAKATI: NONO’s


We were expecting heavy traffic on the way home since the government will be announcing a Lockdown. So before we starve to death, we decided to kill time in Nono’s in one of the buildings in Valero Street.

Everybody was a tad more cautious. It was 7 in the evening, and I was the second to arrive.

We ordered what I thought was delicious the last time I ate here. Penne Pasta with Mixed Vegetables

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I don’t know if it’s the power of having to eat someone else’s food, food being free or if branches cook differently but the last one was more pleasant. :/ It’s good nonetheless.

We ordered Nono’s Homestyle Fried Chicken for Php 565 – Two pieces of crispy boneless fried chicken fillet with country style gravy and honey served with dinner rolls, corn on the cob and a choice of fries or rice.

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Fries is okay but what surprised me how good HONEY is paired to chicken. HONEY. I never thought of that! But it blends perfectly! Chicken was crispy, fried at the best temperature, fries were seasoned well but the  corn for me was bland!

For Dessert, we ordered Nono’s Chocolate Oblivion

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Are you familiar with dream cakes? It tasted as such. ❤ But a little more moist. I love the powdered cocoa on top. Unfortunately, I didn’t like the one — on the crust area.

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Glad to be able to spend time alone with the husband before the community quarantine. How are you holding up so far?

LEARN: Sharon Chuter (Founder of Uoma)


I’d really like to use my time wisely. Everyday, I waste about 2 hours waiting for my mom to pick me up from work and just scrolling my way through my social media. For the past week, I’ve been walking for a good 30 minutes to get to my husband’s office — and all this is are wasted time. So I thought of PODCASTS! – something I can listen to while I walk instead of music!

And I researched and researched on something that I can listen to and learn from. There, I stumbled upon Who What Wear. It’s a podcasts that invites successful women who’ve made an impact.

Anyway, SHARON! I learned so much during the 50 minute interview. She was so inspiring and so drawn by the impact she envisioned.

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  • “It’s easy to drop a million shades of foundation, but we wanted to come in and drop some truth. You can have a wide range of products, but do you understand the person behind the foundation?”
  • “I have a responsibility to be firm and strong, to make sure that the next woman who comes after me doesn’t feel left out of the conversation. It’s tough, but I don’t let it discourage me.”
  • “We shouldn’t ignore what makes us different for the sake of looking cool.”
  • We are trying to redefine inclusivity. Being inclusive is about being true to yourself and respecting what’s different about others — not about shoving your hands in their pockets.”
  • ”We are first and foremost a tribe of misfits and dreamers, and beauty is what comes next. ”
  • “Every business has an obligation to be in touch with the time that you’re living in and contribute to making the world better as you make money. And if you can’t do that, then you have to challenge why you exist.”
  • ”Learn from the ground up”
  • Pepsi: They think I’m too pretty for the job.
  • I learned how men see themselves.
  • We should not be so afraid of rejection. Women are crippled with rejection.
  • How does beauty have anything to do with size?
  • Raise capital early.
  • Start with your purpose. Your north should be what you want in life. Find your north that will guide you in everything that you do in life.
  • Trust the process. The best gift you can give yourself is to love yourself. If you don’t love yourself, you can’t operate at your best.

A woman of color, a woman from nigeria started this whole journey at a very young age. She jumped from one industry to another, one country to another. Her gut, courage and vision is inspiring. ❤