Goodreads: Quinn and Graham’s perfect love is threatened by their imperfect marriage. The memories, mistakes, and secrets that they have built up over the years are now tearing them apart. The one thing that could save them might also be the very thing that pushes their marriage beyond the point of repair.
This is what scares me in a marriage. How can two perfectly in love couple just fall out of love? Can a relationship stay the same if both work on it hard enough? Infidelity is one but how can a person who used to give you so much contentment and happiness be the person you don’t want to see next to you in the morning? Two, children is not the sole goal to a marriage. Why can’t it be two people who wants to commit to each other for the rest of their lives call it a happy marriage whether or not they have kids? Children are an amazing gift of god, but I think it is only a by-product of the love the couple has for each other. It’s not only kids that keeps a marriage alive.
Anyway, despite the whirlwind of emotions this book cost me, I was able to finish it in one night and one day. That’s just how much I want to keep reading and rooting for their marriage to work out. I won’t spoil but Graham less the infidelity is just amazing, how much he loves his wife. And his tear jerking letters. I promise to love you more when…
With my marriage? I also hope to weather Category 5 moments or even the stronger ones. Fingers crossed. ❤ Colleen, you did it again! You really are one of my favorite authors! ❤
The SAD Parts:
- He used to look at me with amusement and awe. Now his eyes just flood me with pity.
- It’s strange how I can miss a person who is still here. It’s strange that I can miss making love to a person I still have sex with
- Should he be punished by my infertility? He says kids don’t matter to him as much as I matter to him, but I know he says that because he doesn’t want to hurt me. But ten or twenty years from now, he’ll resent me.
- Just because we used to be perfect for each other doesn’t mean we’re perfect together now.
The GRAHAM Parts:
- Graham: Nothing about you is unimpressive.
- Graham: You are so fucking beautiful.
- Graham: Be my wife, Quinn. Weather the category 5 moments with me.
- Graham: I didn’t marry you just for the good years. I didn’t marry you just for the amazing chemistry we have. And I’d be foolish to think our marriage could last an eternity without a few tough moments. I know one thing with complete certainty, I love you more this year than any year that came before it. And as much as I promise to be your pillar of strength for as long as you need one. I’m sure I will sometimes fail you. My whole purpose in life is to make you happy and sometimes I feel like I’m unable to do that anymore. Sometimes I give up on myself. But I just pray that you don’t give up on me.
- Graham: I promise to love you more when you’re hurting than when you’re happy. I promise to love you more when we’re poor than when we’re swimming in riches. I promise to love you more when you’re crying than when you’re laughing. I promise to love you more when you’re sick than when you’re healthy. I promise to love you more when you hate me than when you love me.
Some lines from the book:
- Sometimes when people change, it’s not always noticeable in a marriage, because the couple changes together, in the same direction. But sometimes people change in opposite direction.
- The problem is, love and happiness are not concordant. One can exist without the other.
- It’s hard to hold one to someone who has long since slipped away.
- When you associate yourself with another person for so long, it’s difficult becoming your own person again.
- Ten years from now on August eight, I’m going to roll over in our bed at midnight and whisper, ‘I told you so’ in your ear.
- Smiling like he just conquered he world.
- My husband’s heart is my saving grace.
- He’s just the right amount of confident and cocky. But he balances that out with his reverent side. He’s funny and smart and he comes on way too strong, but it all feels so genuine.
- Sadness is like a spiderweb. You don’t see it until you’re caught up in it, and then you have to claw at yourself to try to break free.
- We’re all full of flaws. Hundreds of them. They’re like tiny holes all over our skin. Sometimes we shine too much light on our own flaws. But there are some people who try to ignore their own flaws by shining light on other people’s to the point that the other person’s flaws become their only focus. They pick at them, little by little, until they rip wide open and that’s all we become to them. One giant, gaping flaw.
- When you meet someone who is good for you, they won’t fill you with insecurities by focusing on your flaws. They’ll fill you with inspiration, because they’ll focus on all the best parts of you.
- Sometimes people meet and none of the surface-level-stuff matters because they see past all that.
- It’s weird. I used to be fine when I was alone. But now that I have you, I’m lonely when I’m alone.
- It wouldn’t matter if that consisted of a conversation, a kiss or a three day fuck-a-thon. Betrayal hurts the same on any level when it’s your husband doing the betraying.
- A good husband stands at his wife’s side through sickness and health. A good husband – a husband who truly loves his wife – wouldn’t cheat on her and then blame his infidelity on the act that he’s lonely.
- It’s funny how you can be so happy with someone and love them so much it creates an underlying sense of fear in you that you never knew before them. The fear of losing them. The fear of them getting hurt.
- Be whatever you want to be. Be a soldier, if you want. Or a lawyer or a CEO or a housewife. The only thing you shouldn’t be is embarrassed.
- No matter how much you love someone – the capacity of that love is meaningless if it outweighs your capacity to forgive.
- What’s the secret to such a perfect marriage? Our marriage hasn’t been perfect. No marriage is perfect. There were times when she gave up on us. There were even more times when I gave up on us. The secret to our longevity is that we never gave up at the same time.
- The sight of him alone instantly calms me.
- The longer it takes, we might even appreciate it a little more. Gratitude is born in the struggle.
- But I promise you I am loving you harder this year than any year that came before it.