Chapter 3: Build Confidence and Destroy Fear
- All confidence is developed. No one is born with confidence
- Action cures fear. Indecision, postponement fertilize fear. Hesitation only enlarges & magnifies fear. Take action promptly. Be decisive
- Don’t build mental monsters. When you remember situations of any kind, concentrate on the good part of the experience
- To think confidently, act confidently
- Managed motions can change emotions
- Think: People are alike in so many ways than they are different. So if the other person is basically like me, there’s no point in being afraid of them.
HOW TO BUILD CONFIDENCE:
- Deposit only positive thoughts in your memory bank. Recall your little victories and accomplishments
- Withdraw only positive thoughts from your memory bank.
HOW TO CONQUER FEAR OF PEOPLE:
- Get a balanced view of the other fellow.
- Every person is important. You are equally important as the people around you.
- Develop an understanding attitude
- Try to empathize with the person. If someone lashes out on you and make a scene, try to understand the life he has.
- Think: Underneath, he’s probably a nice person. Most folks are.
HOW TO MAKE EVERYTHING ABOUT YOU SAY ‘I’m confident’
- Be a front seater
- Make eye contact
- Walk 25% faster
- Speak Up
- Smile Big
Chapter 4: How to Think Big
- Everyday there are more signs of expanding opportunity
- How big we think determines the size of our accomplishments
- Probably the biggest human weakness is self-deprecation – selling oneself short.
- You’re bigger than you think. So fit your thinking to your true size. Never, never never sell yourself short
- To think big, we must use words and phrases that produce big, positive images
- Before complaining, ask yourself, ‘Is it really important?’
- Think big and none of the little things can hold you back
Four ways to develop the big thinker’s vocabulary
- Use big, positive cheerful words and phrases to describe how you feel
- Use bright, cheerful, favorable words and phrases to describe other people
- Use positive language to encourage others. Compliment people personally at every opportunity
- Use positive words to outline plans to others
See what can be, not just what is.
- Look at things not as they are, but as they can be. Visualization adds value to everything.
- It isn’t what one has that’s important. Rather, it’s how much one is planning to get that counts
- The price tag the world puts on us is just about identical to the one we put on ourselves.
- Practice adding value to thinks. Look for ideas to make things worth more.
- Practice adding value to people. Remember, to bring out the best in a person.
- Practice adding value to yourself.
Chapter 5: How to think and dream creatively
- Believe it can be done. When you believer something can be done, your mind find ways to do it.
- Don’t let tradition paralyze your mind
- Ask yourself, ‘How can I do better?
- Ask yourself, ‘How can I do more?
- Practice asking and listening
- Stretch your mind & get stimulated
- When you believe, your mind find ways to do
- Man belongs where man wants to go
- Make it a point to soak up all the good ideas that you can
- Be an experimental person. Break up fixed routines. Expose yourself to new things.
- Be progressive, not regressive
- There is an endless room for improvement
- It isn’t so much what you know when you start that matters. It’s what you learn and put to use after you open the door that counts the most
- Capacity is a state of mind. How much we can do depends on how much we think we can do
- Do what you do better and do more of what you do
- There is no limit to what we can learn by asking and listening
- Let yourself be exposed to ideas of other intelligent people
- Your mind will create a way, if you let it