Ala Kachuu – to take and flee
I just learned about this custom / practice in my Ethics Class. This disturbing.
Bride kidnapping, also known as marriage by abduction or marriage by capture, is a practice in which a man abducts the woman he wishes to marry. Bride kidnapping has been practiced throughout history around the world and continues to occur.
In many cases, society encourages the family of the bride to accept the marriage.
In Kyrgyztan, as rural migrants flood into the city, young men too poor to afford the pageantry of a traditional wedding opt instead to kidnap a bride.
Bowing to social pressure, parents of a kidnapping victim often do not take their daughter back because, the thinking goes, a kidnapping suggests the woman has somehow been sullied. Many kidnapping victims are raped and a daughter’s virginity is prized in conservative Kyrgyz households.
This should be stopped. Every person has hisher own rights and that includes a woman’s freedom to choose who to marry. It’s as if the government allows the men in their society to objectify women.